Ingabe ukugqugquzelwa kobulili okunamandla kuhlanganiswe nezimo zanamuhla ezingavamile?
Izilwane eziningi zishaya indlwabu, kodwa azikho ubuningi bokuvama nokujula kwabantu besilisa-ngaphandle uma ekuthunjweni (ngokuvumelana ne ULeonard Shlain, MD).
Umbono wamanje ukuthi thina bantu sishaya indlwabu kakhulu ngoba singakwazi ukucabanga. Ukucabanga okuhlobene nalokho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kunalokho okwenziwe ngamadoda kuqhubekile isikhathi eside njengoba singumuntu-ngaphandle uma kuqhathaniswa okwesikhashana ngamandla angavamile, njengezinkinga ezingokwenkolo noma zenhlalo. Kusukela kulezi zizindlo ezimbili kulandela okwesithathu: leyo fantasy iyinhlangano engokwemvelo, isondelene kahle, noma ngisho sine qua non of, impilo egculisayo yobulili.
Ngokuqinisekile imfashini yenza i-orgasm ejwayelekile, njengoba nje amathoyizi wezocansi kanye nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zenza. Noma kunjalo amandla ethu okucabanga (okungenzeka, noma kungenzeka ukuthi azifani nabantu) ngokugcwele ngokulandisa kwethu ngokushaya indlwabu kanye nemifashane emnandi?
Ngisanda kugxila ekushintshaneni nge-cyber phakathi kwamadoda athile acabangayo anolwazi oluningi lokushaya indlwabu nokucabanga. Amaphuzu abawaphakamisile angiholele ekutheni ngenze ukubulawa komlando okuncane, engizokwabelana ngakho ngezansi kwezinkulumo zabo.
Umfana wokuqala
Iqiniso ukuthi, asinayo indlela yokwazi ukuthi bangakanani abantu abashaya indlwabu esikhathini esedlule, yize kuqinisekile ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi bebekwenza. Ochwepheshe banamuhla benza iphutha ngezimo zesimanje ngokuthi "izimo zemvelo." Babona abantu abaningi (ikakhulukazi abesilisa) beshaya indlwabu kakhulu, futhi babheke izincazelo ezingaphandle kwesakhiwo senhlalo esikhulele kuso. Ukuhlaziya lesi sakhiwo ngokunembile, kuzodingeka babeke eceleni ezinye zezinkolelo zabo mayelana nokufisa ukuphila endaweni yonke engu-24/7 yezocansi. Njengezinhlanzi ezise-fishbowl ezingalokothi zingabaze iqiniso lokuthi ziyabhukuda emanzini, azingabazi imicabango yazo yokuthi i-porn "iyathuthuka", njalonjalo. Bahlaziya ngokususelwa ezinkolelweni zemibono ezinzuzweni zokushaya indlwabu okungenamkhawulo (okuphambene nalezo zengqondo ezindala ezazinombono wokuthi kuhlale kukubi).
Abanye abacwaningi baye bamangala lapho bethola i-masturbation encane phakathi kwezinye izilwane. Omunye umcwaningi wesilwane esinjalo, uGilbert Van Tassel Hamilton,
Kuzo zonke izinkabi zami zesilisa kuphela uJocko uye waqaphela ukuthi unecala lokushaya indlwabu. Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ukuvalelwa wayezoshaya indlwabu futhi adle ingxenye yesithombo sakhe. Nginezizathu zokukholelwa ukuthi wayephila ngaphansi kwezimo ezingokwemvelo iminyaka eminingi ngaphambi kokuba ngimthole.
Phawula indlela ukuvalelwa yisimo sokuziphatha kukaJocko. Ngiyavuma ukuthi namuhla siphila ngaphansi kwezimo "ezingezona ezemvelo" ezibucayi. Kungenzeka yini ukuthi banomthelela kuyo yonke le "fantasy engokwemvelo" kanye nokwamukelwa ngamaphesenti ayisishiyagalolunye wabantu ukuthi bashaya indlwabu? Lapho wonke umuntu enqekuzisa ikhanda evuma ukuthi “abafana bazoba ngabafana” futhi ukushaya indlwabu kuyinto “engokwemvelo” ngokuphelele, efana no-apula pie, kwenza ithonya lokuthunjwa kwethu ekuziphatheni kwethu lingabonakali.
Ngibala phakathi kwabangane bami ezinye zezinkawu ezivalelwe ezihlalweni ezibuhlungu, njengokuntuleka kwemisebenzi okuphezulu ngokweqile, ukungatholi usizo lwezempilo oluyisisekelo, ukuhlaselwa kwezinga labo lempilo, inqwaba yenkulumo-ze ephakeme enengcindezi echaza ukonakaliswa kwemvelo nempi, ishiya abantu bezizwa bengenakuzisiza, uhlelo lokubandlululwa ngokwehlukana kwezomnotho, ukwehlisa isithunzi kwabantu besifazane nokuxhashazwa kwezingane ngokocansi… Ngiswele yini? Akumangalisi ukuthi wonke umuntu ungumlutha wento ethile!
Sonke sifana ngandlela thile "nalezizimbongolo ezithunjiwe," futhi lokho akubashiyi ngaphandle abantu abayizigidi ezi-2.5 empeleni abayizithunjwa ohlelweni olukhulu lwasejele laseMelika. Lezi "zimo zemvelo" zihlala zingabuzwa ngokuphelele. Noma kunjalo lezi nezinye izinto kufanele zibhekwe njengezifanele ikakhulukazi engxoxweni yabantu abavuma ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi okunzima kuyinkinga kubo.
Umfana wesibili
Umonakalo omkhulu emshadweni wami wenzeka ngqo lapho 'ukuqeqeshwa kwami okushaya indlwabu' kwakukubi kakhulu. Empeleni ngonakalise ikhono lami lokuzibandakanya neqiniso lokuvumelana (kufaka phakathi unkosikazi wami onqunu phambi kwami). Ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, ngangimbona ngeso lengqondo enza izinto engangizifisa. Okuwukuphela kwesici sefantasy esivimbele ukuthi singahlangani ngokuphelele neqiniso kwakungumzimba wakhe. Ngokuphikisana ngokuphelele nombono wokuthi imicabango yobulili ithuthukisa ucansi, kuphela lapho ngiqeda iphupho kwezocansi lapho ngingafisa khona umkami njengoba enjalo. Ezinsukwini ezindala ezimbi zobuwula bami obumnandi, njengoba ngangimsebenzisa kakhulu ukuthola usizo lokushaya indlwabu, wayevame ukungibuza, “Ucabangani?” Futhi ngiqamba amanga ngithi, "O, akukho lutho ngempela."
Eminyakeni emibili edlule, lapho ngisaqeda ngokungazelelwe imicabango yami yezocansi, kube nokushintsha okukhulu. Ngivuswa kakhulu ngokuthinta. Umkami usangibuza ukuthi ngicabanga ini ngesikhathi socansi, kepha manje lapho ngiphendula ukuthi angicabangi, ngithi iqiniso kuphela. Njengoba ngithuthukisa ikhono lami lokugcina amaphupho engingazi, umshado wami uphumelela kancane kancane. Uma okwenziwayo emqondweni kunikezwe ilungelo lokugcina, khona-ke akunakwenzeka ukuthi izimo zomzimba zivumelane nesithombe sengqondo. Umphumela uba ukunganeliseki okuyisisekelo ngesimo somuntu.
Ngokuya kwemikhuba yethu yezocansi, isikhundla sokuthi isimilo sabantu besimanje ukuphela kwendlela yokuziphatha yomuntu esinamaphutha amabi kakhulu. Cishe sonke siphila ekuthunjweni, imvamisa ngokuzithandela, kepha ekuthunjweni nokho. Siyazivalela ngaphakathi ebusuku. Singahle singakhiywa ngaphakathi emini, kepha iminyango ayidingi ngisho ukukhiya ngoba sikulungele kahle ukuhlala sivalelwe emsebenzini size sikhululwe ku-thrall.
Ngemuva komsebenzi, singenza okungaphezulu noma okuncane njengoba sithanda (isikhathi samagumbi okuhlala kabusha), kepha uhlu lwemisebenzi eyamukelekayo lukhawulelwe kakhulu kubantu abaningi: ithelevishini, ukudla, ukuzilungisa, ukuxhumana komndeni, ukuphunyuka okungekho kwe-elekthronikhi (ubuciko, imigoqo, ukuzivocavoca kwamagundane, ukuzama ukuxhuma), ukweqa nge-elekthronikhi, kanye nezocansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sinamahora angama-8 kuphela lapho singabheka khona 'inkululeko.' Siyazondla, sikhulume sodwa, sizijabulise, bese kuba yisikhathi sokuphinda umjikelezo wokudlala-wokudlala.
Izikhathi ezingaba yisithupha kule minyaka embalwa edlule, ngibe nokunethezeka kokuhlala ngaphandle kwalo mjikelezo amasonto ama- ~ 2 ngasikhathi. Ngokwazi kwami, lolu hlobo lomsebenzi luzohambisana namaphethini wangaphambi komlando: amashejuli azinqumele wona, izindawo zokuhlala ezisondelene ezihlala nomndeni nabantu obajwayele, ubumfihlo obuncane. Kwakunomsebenzi onzima omningi owawubandakanyekile nawo, engisola ukuthi wawuzolinganisa imisebenzi yokuziphilisa. Ukuziphatha kwami kobulili njalo kucishe kwaphela. Esikhundleni se-4 orgasms ngeviki, ngine-0 to 2 orgasms emasontweni amabili, futhi angisebenzisanga i-porn.
Ngokusobala 'kudingeka kwenziwe izifundo eziningi' futhi 'usayizi wami wesampula mncane kakhulu ukuba ungafinyelela iziphetho zangempela,' kepha noma kunjalo, manje ngifuna isu lokukhulisa inkululeko yami kunama-orgasms ami.
Umfana wesithathu
Ukucabanga kweqiniso kuyimpahla enhle, kepha njengamanye amathuluzi, angasetshenziselwa okuhle noma okubi. Izinganekwane ezisekelwe ezithombeni ezingcolile zimbi impilo yengqondo, ngokomoya nangokwenyama ngenxa yokucindezeleka okusibeka ngaphansi kwesikhathi. Ukufuna lokho okungenakutholakala kuyinto engacacile, okucindezelayo futhi enganelisi.
Ingabe umashi wezentuthuko wawushintsha imikhuba yobulili?
Ngifuna ukwazi ngemikhuba yesintu yomlando, ngacubungula ekaThomas W. Laqueur Ubulili Bodwa: Umlando Wenkambiso Yokushaya Indlwabu. Lapho ngafunda ukuthi izingqapheli zekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalombili zazibhekisela ekuphoqelelweni, kuhlanganise nokushaya indlwabu ngokweqile, ngokuthi “izifo zempucuko.” Ngokusobala zazingavamile kuze kube yilapho abaseYurophu besuka emindenini eyandisiwe baya emadolobheni anamazinga angavamile okuvalelwa nokuhlukaniswa.
Ngokokuqala ngqa emlandweni, izikhuthazi (nezishukumisayo), ezindala nezintsha, nazo zatholakala kabanzi: ugwayi, ushokoledi, iramu, ukugembula, ukuyothenga, ukuqagela kwezezimali, izithombe zocansi kanye namanoveli aphathelene nothando olunothando. Igama elithi "umlutha" manje selivele ngolimi lwesiNgisi. Futhi ukushaya indlwabu okuphoqelela kwathola ukudonsa.
Ngokusobala, ukushaya indlwabu kwakungewona umqondo omusha, kepha, ngaphambi kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalombili, akekho noyedwa owabona ukuzijabulisa okuncane njengokuqhakaza kube umkhuba ophazamisayo, ngaphandle kukamfundisi ohlukaniswe ngokocansi ngezikhathi ezithile. Manje, kepha-ke, abantu babebambeke kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuziphatha ezazingazisebenzisi, kufakwa ukuphishekela okukodwa kwe-orgasm. Ukuphoqwa okunjalo kwakungajwayelekile futhi kwakwesabisa ngoba kwakungelula ukunqoba.
Ababukeli bekhulu le-XNUMX babonisa umehluko phakathi kocansi nomuntu, nobulili nomcabango womuntu. Ukubamba iqhaza kozakwethu ngokwemvelo kusetha ukubhuleka ekuziphatheni ngokocansi ngendlela yokutholakala kozakwethu, izidingo zomndeni, izingqinamba zezezimali, noma umthwalo wokuhlela ama-tryst. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukwenza ucansi ngokwakho, bekungekho mkhawulo wemvelo, futhi kungaba lula ukuba yi- umkhuba onzima. Ukuya ocansini ngesisekelo "sezidingo zemvelo" (nokuvumelana ngokuvumelana) kwakucatshangwa ukuthi kuzuzisa kakhulu kune-orgasm ekhiqizwa ngefantasy noma okunye ukuzivuselela. (Ngokusobala, umsebenzi wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uStuart Brody ubonakala ekuqinisekisa lokho ukulala kungcono kakhulu futhi inenzuzo kune-solo sex.)
Ukushaya indlwabu ngokweqile kwakungekho nje ukulingwa okwenza umkhuba okwenza amazinga amasha okucindezeleka, kodwa kwakungelula ukuthi izingane zikhubeke. Akumangalisi ukuthi ukwesaba ngokushaya indlwabu ngokweqile kwabikwa kuqala mayelana nezingane ezikoleni zokugibela. Lezi zingangabazeki ukuthi sezivele sezikhathazekile ngenxa yokuboshwa okungokwemvelo nokunciphisa ukuxhumana nomndeni nabangane bobulili obuhlukile.
Kodwa kanjani ukuchaza ingozi ye-a umkhuba okhuphukela izingane? Kwakungekho ukukhulelwa kwesayensi yobuchopho yokulutha. Esikhundleni salokho, izingane zanxuswa ukuba zigweme “ukungcolisa umoya.” Ngeshwa, izizukulwane zezingane zakhuliswa ukuze zibheke ukufunwa kokukhululeka ezifisweni zocansi ngokushaya indlwabu njenge zokuziphatha ukwehluleka, kunokuba kube ukuthambekela okuvamile (ikakhulukazi kunikezwe izimo zabo ezicindezelayo), okuyinto kufanelekile ukuphathwa kwangaphambili.
Ukubandakanywa kokushaya indlwabu ngokuziphatha kwakungalungile; amahloni ayalimaza. Kodwa-ke, zombili lezi zindlela zomlando nokuhlukumezeka kwanamuhla kuphazamisa isimo sokukhululeka, sokubuza mayelana nokushaya indlwabu — okungasivumela ukuthi silinganise kahle ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuthi sizobeka engcupheni ingcindezelo yocansi engenampilo.
Ingabe sidinga isu elihlukile?
Njengoba kunikezwe umlando wamasiko wokushaya indlwabu, kubonakala sengathi abantu ayizange ngokuvamile kuxhomeke ekuvuthweni okuvame ukuphindaphindiwe kanye nenganekwane yezocansi yokukhululeka kwemizwelo-baze bazithole besezimweni eziphazamisayo. Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukuphishekela i-orgasm kwanamuhla kube yimizamo yokuzelapha ngokwakho lapho ubhekene nezimo ezicindezelayo ubuchopho bethu obungazange buguquke ukuze busebenze kahle? Eyodwa Isazi somlutha waseCanada akacabangi ukuthi siyoke sithinte inkinga yokulutha kuze kube yilapho sihlakulela (buyela ku?) isiko elisebenzayo.
I-Neurohistorian UDaniel Nkosi Smail uveza ukuthi umuntu angabuka yonke imiphakathi yentuthuko njengendlela yokusheshisa okusheshayo ekusetshenzisweni okukhulu kwezinto (psychotropic) izinto nemisebenzi, kufaka phakathi ama-shopping spree kanye nokugaya amakhalori angenalutho. Ukuphishekela isikhathi eside, i-orgasm yokuxhaswa ngezocansi kungomunye wabaningi-nakuba iphoqa ngokukhethekile.
Kokubili ukuthambekela kwethu ekuzelapheni nasekucindezelekeni kwezimo zanamuhla kubonakala kushesha kunokusiholela ekwanelisekeni. Uma kunjalo, ingabe kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthi sithathe ukuthula kwengqondo kulele emvuthwandaba ovame kakhulu ukuthola izikhuthazo ezinamandla ngokwengeziwe? Ucwaningo lwamuva lubonisa ukuthi le nkambo ingahle ibe yize. Isikhuthazi esibi kakhulu singenza ukwaneliseka kube nzima kakhulu ngenxa yamandla abo sindisa impendulo yenjabulo yobuchopho.
Kungenzeka ukwaneliseka okukhulu ekufundeni ukuhamba nge-neurochemical (futhi ngenxa yalokho ngokomzwelo) ibhalansi-ngisho ngaphansi kwezimo ezinzima zanamuhla? Umfutho wokwenza imithi ubonakala ungadluli kangako uma sithola izindlela zokuhlangabezana nezidingo eziyisisekelo zobuchopho bethu, okwakusungula ukusigcina silinganiselwe lapho kwakungekho ekuthunjweni. Isibonelo, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi Ukuvivinya, ukusebenzisana nobungane, uthinte, izibopho zombili, futhi nsuku zonke ukuzindla kuyamangalisa ukusebenza njengabalawuli be-mood kanye nezinyathelo zokulwa nokucindezeleka. Futhi kuthiwani ngamasu wasendulo ukuphathwa ngokucophelela isifiso sobulili ngokwazo?
THREAD REDDIT - "Uyazi ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuhlobene kanjani nokuthunjwa?"
Sonke sizwile ukuthi izilwane ZIKWENZA kanjani ukushaya indlwabu emvelweni, kepha akukho ndawo eseduze nemvamisa ezenza ngayo lapho zithunjiwe. Kunengqondo ngokuphelele, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi umphumela 'wokuthunjwa' wenza i-NoFap ibonakale inzima kakhulu kunalokho obekuzoba khona emvelweni.
Ngibe nezikhathi ezimbili ezihlukile kuNoFap yami- ngaphambi kokuba isikole siqale (ngingumfundi ophakeme esikoleni esiphakeme), nangemva kwalokho. Ngesikhathi sehlobo, ngaya ezinsukwini ezingama-31 futhi angizwanga SIKHATHI sangempela sokufafaza. Cishe kunzima ukuyichaza- kufana nokuthi besingekho nje isidingo sayo.
Lapho nje isikole sesiqalile, ingcindezi nokukhathazeka okukhulu kwezocansi kwangiletha emadolweni ngaze ngathola izikhathi ezi-4 emasontweni amabili edlule. Kuyakhathaza ngempela ukuthi imvelo yesikole samabanga aphakeme (indawo yokusebenza nayo ayiyona eyemvelo kakhulu) - kukhona zonke izinhlobo zamantombazane akhangayo nxazonke, kepha umphakathi ungitshela ukuthi angikwazi ukwenza noma yini okushiwo yimizwa yami mina. Ngokwemvelo (njenge-pre-hunter gatherer nature), ngingaqonda ngqo ngibuze amantombazane ahlukahlukene ukuthi ayafuna yini ukuya ocansini, futhi uma ethi cha, ngizoqhubeka ngaphandle kwenkinga futhi angisophinde ngimbone. Akudingeki ukuthi, isikole esiphakeme asisebenzi kanjalo. Faka kukho konke okuyinqaba, i-borderline surreal uma ucabanga ngempela ngezimo zasesikoleni esiphakeme (ukuphoqelelwa ukufunda izinto ongenantshisekelo kuzo [STEM person, amagama awachazi ukuthi angiwathandi kangakanani amakilasi akhanyiswe amaNgisi], okumele ukwenze amaphrojekthi angenangqondo ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukuhlala uzolile futhi ungathinteki eduze kwamantombazane lapho YONKE imvelo ikutshela ukuthi wenze okuphambene, ukuba nabantu ongabathandi ngaphandle kwesizathu sangempela, njll), futhi kulula ukubona ukuthi kungani into efana nokushaya indlwabu ingaba yindlela enamandla kangaka yokubhekana nabantu abakulezo zimo eziyinqaba, ezingezona ezemvelo eziboshwe ngokoqobo kuzo zonke izinhloso nezinhloso.
Qhathanisa indawo yesikole / yomsebenzi nendlela engangiphila ngayo ehlobo lami: Ngasebenza ohlelweni lwami, ngafunda engangikuthanda, ngafunda lokho engangikhuthazwa ukukufunda, angizange ngicindezelwe ekwenzeni amaphrojekthi nezethulo ezingadingekile, njll. Ngangihlala lokho okwakungachazwa ngokuthi (uhlobo olumangazayo lwendlela yokuphila) 'yemvelo' - ukungavinjelwa emadeskini, ukubhujiswa ukukhungatheka ngokocansi, noma ukubhekana nokungabi namqondo kohlelo lwezikole zomphakathi. Futhi uqagele ini? Angizwanga nesifiso sokuya ocansini nami nhlobo ngize ngibuyele embukisweni wami wezilwane.
Konke lokhu kungenza ngibuze umbuzo odumile wokuthi ukushaya indlwabu 'kungokwemvelo'. Kakhulu, kungokwemvelo kuphela ku okungokwemvelo izimo.
Kusuka ngentambo efanayo
Lokhu okuthunyelwe okuphawuleka ngokumangazayo, futhi mhlawumbe okubaluleke kakhulu engikubonile. Isipiliyoni sami njengomfundi wasesikoleni esiphakeme sifana ngokuxakile. Nami ngizizwa sengathi isikole samabanga aphezulu siyindawo engeyona eyemvelo kakhulu. Ngandlela thile, sifakwe esikhungweni sezikole zomphakathi. Iziboshwa zasejele ziba nezikhungo ngendlela efanayo, kepha imiphumela iba mibi ngokwedlulele (buka iShawshank Redemption.) Amakhono ami kwezenhlalo athikamezeka kakhulu phakathi nonyaka wesikole (ngiyaqala futhi ngibe nomqondo ophelele ngoba yiyona ndlela nje engiqeqeshelwe ngayo ukuziphatha Ngihlala ngisesimweni esithile sokucindezeleka noma ukwethuka. Ngivila kakhulu futhi angikhuthazwa. Isikole singena emzimbeni wami esimweni sokuhlala ngicindezelekile nokukhathazeka. Abanye abantu basebenza cishe ngokujwayelekile phakathi nonyaka wesikole; hhayi mina. Kepha ehlobo, ngizwa umzimba wami ucishe "uzilungisa" uqobo. Ngiba njengomuntu wami "wemvelo". Ngibona abambalwa abakhethiwe enginethezekile nabo / engijabulela ukuba nabo. Ngiyazethemba, nginomfutho, ngikhululekile ukudlala upiyano, ngifunde noma yini engiyifunayo, ngihlale kuze kube sebusuku uma ngizizwa ngithanda ... Ngithola izinto engizithandayo, engingazithandi, engizifisa ngazo namaphutha ami. Imvelo yami yobuhlakani iyakhanya ehlobo.
Ngolunye usuku ngithole i-nofap, into elandelayo uyazi ukuthi ngidla kangcono, ngivivinya umzimba, ngakha abangane abasha, ngihlangana namantombazane, ngidlala umculo, ngibuka ama-movie engiwathandayo, ngifunda ngobuqotho (hhayi ukufunda ngenkunzi okwenzeka ngesikhathi sesikole) impilo. Kodwa-ke, ngingumfundi ophakeme esikoleni esifana nawe, ngakho-ke ngiyajabula ukubona ukuthi thina esifunda amabanga esikole singaba nokuqonda njengabahlengi abadala. (noma ngabe uyazi, iningi labahlengi lisizonda)
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- Ukucubungula izimangaliso zokushaya indlwabu - Cabanga ngalezi zindaba eziyisihlanu ezithandwayo mayelana nesondo sobulili
QAPHELA: I-YBOP ayisho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuyingozi kuwe. Yenza nje iphuzu lokuthi okuningi okuthiwa izinzuzo zezempilo bathi ukuhlotshaniswa ne-orgasm noma ukushaya indlwabu eqinisweni kuhlobene nokuxhumana okuseduze nomunye umuntu, hhayi i-orgasm / ukushaya indlwabu. Ngokukodwa, ukuhlobana okuphakathi kwezinkomba ezimbalwa zezempilo ezikude kanye ne-orgasm (uma kuyiqiniso) kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona ukuhlobana okuvela emiphakathini enempilo enokuziphatha ngokweqile nokushaya indlwabu. Akuzona i-causal. Ucwaningo olufanele:
Izinzuzo Zempilo Ezihlobene Nezocansi Ezihlukene (2010) wathola ukuthi ubulili buhlobene nemiphumela emihle, kanti ukushaya indlwabu kwakungekho. Kwezinye izimo ukushaya indlwabu kwakuhlobene kakhulu nezinzuzo zezempilo - okusho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu kuhambisana nezinkomba zezempilo ezimbi. Isiphetho sokubuyekeza:
"Ngokusekelwe ezinhlobonhlobo zezindlela, amasampuli, nezinyathelo, ukutholakala kocwaningo kuyahambisana ngokuphawulekayo ekuboniseni ukuthi lo msebenzi owodwa wezocansi (Ukuziphatha Kwama-Penile-Vaginal kanye ne-orgasmic response to it) kuhlotshaniswa, futhi kwezinye izimo, kubangela izinqubo ezihlobene ngokusebenza okungcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba. "
"Okunye ukuziphatha ngokocansi (okufaka phakathi lapho ukuziphatha kobulili be-Penile-Vaginal kungaphumeleli, njengamakhondomu noma ukuphazamiseka kude nokuzwela kwamapenile-ubulili) akuhlanganisiwe, noma kwezinye izimo (njengokushaya indlwabu kanye nokulala komzimba) kuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kangcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba . "
"Imithi yobulili, imfundo yezocansi, ukwelashwa ngokocansi, nokucwaninga ngocansi kufanele kusakaze imininingwane yezinzuzo zezempilo ngokuqondile ngobudlelwane obuphakathi kwe-Penile-Vaginal, futhi kube nokunye okucacile ekuhloleni nasekuhloleni kwabo."
Bona futhi lokhu kubuyekezwa okufushane kokushaya indlwabu kanye nezinkomba zempilo: Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlobene ne-Psychopathology ne-Prostate Dysfunction: Amazwana ku-Quinsey (2012)
Kunzima ukuvumelanisa umbono wokuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuthuthukisa imizwa nokutholakele kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesilisa ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka (UCyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), injabulo encane (Das , 2007), kanye nezinye izinkomba eziningi zempilo empofu ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okubandakanya okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo (ICosta & Brody, 2011), izindlela ezingavuthiwe zokuzivikela ngokwengqondo, ukuvuseleleka okukhulu kwengcindezi yegazi ekucindezelekeni, kanye nokunganeliseki ngempilo yomuntu yengqondo kanye nokuphila ngokujwayelekile ( ukubuyekeza, bheka uBrody, 2010). Kunzima ngokulinganayo ukubona ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuzikhulisa kanjani izifiso zocansi, lapho imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kocansi okungafanelekile emadodeni (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & Johnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) nabesifazane (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss & Brody, 2009). Imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu nayo ihlotshaniswa nokungeneliseki okuningi ngobudlelwano nothando oluncane lwabalingani (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Ngokuphambene nalokho, i-PVI ihlobene njalo ngokungaguquguquki nempilo engcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), umsebenzi ongcono wezocansi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), kanye nekhwalithi yobudlelwano obungcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).
Ngaphezu kwalokho, nakuba ingozi encane yomdlavuza we-prostate yayihlotshaniswa nenqwaba ye-ejaculations (ngaphandle kokucaciswa kokuziphatha ngokobulili) (Giles et al., 2003) [Phawula ubufakazi obuphikisanayo, noma kunjalo: “Umdlavuza we-prostate ungaxhunyaniswa nama-hormone ocansi: Amadoda asebenza ngezocansi kuma-20 awo kanye ne-30 angase abe nomngcipheko ophakeme wesifo somdlavuza wesi-prostate, ucwaningo lubonisa. "], yimvamisa ye-PVI ehlotshaniswa ngqo nengozi encishisiwe, kanti imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhambisana nengozi eyengeziwe (ukubukeza isihloko, bheka uBrody, 2010). Mayelana nalokhu, kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nezinye izinkinga zeprostate (amazinga aphezulu e-antigen athile kanye ne-prostate evuvukile noma yethenda) futhi, uma kuqhathaniswa ne-ejaculate etholwe ku-PVI, i-ejaculate etholakala ekushaya indlwabu inezimpawu ukusebenza kwe-prostatic okumpofu nokuqedwa okuncane kwemikhiqizo kadoti (Brody, 2010). Ukuziphatha okuwukuphela kocansi okuhlobene njalo nempilo engcono ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba yi-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukushaya indlwabu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezimpawu zempilo empofu (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Kunezindlela eziningana ezingaba khona ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzimba, ezingumphumela wokukhethwa kwemvelo okuxhasa izinqubo zezempilo njengezimbangela kanye / noma nomphumela wesisusa sokufuna, namandla okuthola nokujabulela, i-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukukhethwa kwezinqubo ze-psychobiological ezivuzayo zokukhuthaza ukushaya indlwabu akunakwenzeka ngenxa yezindleko ezinzima zomzimba ezingenzeka uma kungavimbela eyodwa kusuka ku-PVI ngokuyenza ingabalulekile enhlalakahleni (Brody, 2010). Ngokusobala ngokwengeziwe, ukushaya indlwabu kubonisa ukwehluleka okuthile kwezinqubo zedrayivu yezocansi nokuhlobana okusondelene, noma ngabe kuvame kangakanani, futhi noma ngabe kungenzeki ngokujwayelekile kuhlangana nokufinyelela ku-PVI. Kulokhu, kuyaphawuleka ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nokunganeliseki ngezici ezithile zempilo ngaphandle kwemvamisa ye-PVI (Brody & Costa, 2009) futhi kubonakala kunciphisa ezinye izinzuzo ze-PVI (Brody, 2010).
Ekugcineni bheka le PDF - Ukuhlukaniswa Kwezenhlalakahle, Ezingokomzwelo Nezihlobo Ezingxenyeni Zokuhlaziya Ngokushaya Indlwabu Phakathi Kwabancane Abasha (i-2014)
“Ngakho-ke, bajabule kangakanani abaphendulile abashaya indlwabu muva nje uma beqhathaniswa nalabo abangazange? Umdwebo 5 wembula ukuthi phakathi kwalabo abaphendulile ababike ukuthi "abeneme kakhulu" ngempilo yabo kulezi zinsuku, amaphesenti angama-68 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-84 abesilisa bathi bashaya indlwabu phakathi nesonto eledlule. Ukuhlangana okuthobekile nokungajabuli kubonakala kuqondile phakathi kwabesilisa, kepha hhayi abesifazane. Iphuzu lethu akusikuphakamisa ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kwenza abantu bangajabuli. Kungenzeka, kepha isimo semininingwane esehlukanisiwe asisivumeli ukuthi sikuhlole lokhu. Kodwa-ke, kunembile ngokomthetho ukusho ukuthi amadoda athi ajabule awakwazi kangako ukubika ukushaya indlwabu muva kunamadoda angajabule. ”
“Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nokubika imizwa yokungafaneleki noma ukwesaba ebudlelwaneni kanye nobunzima ekuzameni ngempumelelo ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezinsuku ezedlule zibonisa izikolo eziphakeme kakhulu zokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangabikanga ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezisonto eledlule zikhombisa izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangazange babike ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. ”
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