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I-Noah Church iyi-26 eneminyaka engama-16 ubudala e-fireland firefighter e-Portland, Ore. Ngesikhathi eyi-9, wathola izithombe ze-Internet ezihamba ze. Ufunde ukulanda amavidiyo acacile. Ngesikhathi engu-15, amavidiyo asakaza afika, futhi wayebukele lawo. Ngokuvamile. Izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, ukwenza lokho abantu abavame ukukwenza ngenkathi bebukela lolo hlobo ngokwabo.
Ngemva kwesikhashana, uthi, lawo mavidiyo awazange amvuse, ngakho-ke waqhubekela phambili ekusebenzeni okuhlukile, ngezinye izikhathi ehilela abesifazane kuphela, ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane oyedwa nabafana abaningana, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nomfazi ongathandi. "Ngangithola noma yini engangiyicabangayo nezinto eziningi engingacabangi ngazo," usho kanje. Ngemuva kokukhala kwalabo abahlukumezekile, waqhubeka waya ezingeni elilandelayo, ekhuthele kakhulu, evame ukudlwengula.
Ngonyaka wakhe ophakeme esikoleni esiphakeme, wayenethuba lokuba nobulili wangempela, nomlingani wangempela. Wathandwa kuye futhi yena kuye, njengoba kuboniswa ukuthi wayesehamba ekamelweni lakhe phambi kwakhe. Kodwa umzimba wakhe wawubonakala ungenasithakazelo. "Kwakukhona ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwalokho engangikufunayo engqondweni yami nokuthi umzimba wami usabele kanjani," usho kanje. Wayehluleka ukuthola imishini yamanzi edingekayo.
Wayibeka phansi imizwa yabantu besikhathi sokuqala, kepha kwaphela iminyaka eyisithupha, futhi akukhathalekile ukuthi wayehamba nobani owesifazane, umzimba wakhe wawungasabambisani. Iphendule kuphela ekubukeni kocansi. Isonto likholwa ukuthi ukuzitika nge-Intanethi kwentsha ngandlela thile kubangele izinkinga zakhe nokuthi unalokho abanye abakubiza ngokuthi ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile okubangelwa ucansi (PIED).
Inani elikhulayo lezinsizwa liyaqiniseka ukuthi izimpendulo zabo zocansi ziye zacekelwa phansi ngoba ubuchopho babo babukhukhuleka kwezocansi lapho besakhula. Isizukulwane sabo sisebenzise okuqukethwe okusobala ngobuningi nezinhlobonhlobo okungakaze kwenzeke ngaphambili, kumadivayisi aklanyelwe ukuletha okuqukethwe ngokushesha nangokuyimfihlo, konke lokhu kuneminyaka lapho ubuchopho babo babuyipulasitiki-bathambekele ekuguqukeni unomphela – kunasebomini bamuva. Lezi zinsizwa zizizwa zifana nezingulube zeginea ezingavunyelwanga esivivinyweni esingathathwanga isikhathi eside seminyaka eyishumi esimeni socansi. Imiphumela yokuhlolwa, bathi, ingekho phansi ngokoqobo.
Ngakho-ke baqala ukubuyela emuva, bakha amaqembu omphakathi aku-inthanethi, izinhlelo zokusebenza ze-smartphone namavidiyo wezemfundo ukusiza amadoda ayeke i-porn. Baqale amabhulogi nama-podcast futhi bathatha wonke ama-gigs okukhuluma esidlangalaleni abangawathola. I-Porn ibilokhu ibhekene nokugxekwa phakathi kwabathembekile nabesifazane. Kepha manje, ngokokuqala ngqa, amanye ama-alamu ashubisa kakhulu aqhamuka kubantu abafanayo namakhasimende awo anomdlandla kakhulu.
Vele kunokuningi okukhathazayo okubanzi ngomphumela we-porn emphakathini odlula amandla okukhubazeka ngokocansi, kufaka phakathi iqiniso lokuthi kuvame ukugubha ukwehliswa kwesithunzi kwabesifazane futhi kulungiswe ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. NgoFebhuwari, lezi zinkinga zaholela kuhulumeni kaNdunankulu waseBrithani uDavid Cameron, owayekade ecele abahlinzeki bezinsizakalo ze-Intanethi ukuthi bahlunge okuqukethwe kwabantu abadala ngaphandle kokuthi umsebenzisi angene, ukuqala inqubo yokudinga amasayithi ezocansi ukuthi aqinisekise ubudala babasebenzisi bawo noma babhekane nenhlawulo. Ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho, isishayamthetho sase-Utah savumelana ngazwi-linye isinqumo sokuphatha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengenkinga yezempilo yomphakathi. Futhi ucwaningo olusha oluphoqayo mayelana nezimo ezibukwayo lunikeza ukusekelwa okuthile emibonweni yezinsizwa, okusikisela ukuthi inhlanganisela yokufinyelela kwikhompyutha, ubumnandi bezocansi kanye nezinqubo zobuchopho zokufunda kungenza izithombe zobulili ezingcolile eziku-inthanethi zibe nomkhuba wokwakha, onemiphumela engaba khona engqondweni.
KuGabe Deem, i-28, i-porn yayiyingxenye enkulu yobusha njengomsebenzi wesikole noma induna. "Kwakuyinto evamile futhi yayikhona yonke indawo," usho kanje. Ukhule ngenkathi lapho okwakucatshangwa ukuthi kukalwa njenge-X kwase kuba yinto evamile, futhi yena nabangane bakhe babehlala bebuka amavidiyo abeka obala njalo, usho ngisho nasesiklasini kuma-laptops abo akhishwa esikoleni. “Kwakungeyona into esaba namahloni ngayo.” UDeem, ohlala e-Irving, eTexas, ungumsunguli weReboot Nation, isithangami nesiteshi sevidiyo esiku-inthanethi esinikeza izeluleko nokusekelwa kwabantu abasha abakholelwa ukuthi banomlutha wezithombe zocansi, banenkinga yokungasebenzi ngocansi ngenxa yalokho futhi bafisa ukuyeka.
Uhluke kakhulu kwabaningi bezishoshovu ze-porn, ngoba wayenza ucansi esemncane futhi esebenzisa i-porn kuphela njengesitsha eseceleni. Kepha kwafika ekubuseni ekudleni kwakhe, futhi eminyakeni ethile ngemuva kwesikole samabanga aphakeme, “Ngahlangana nentombazane enhle futhi saya ocansini futhi umzimba wami wawungenampendulo nhlobo,” usho kanje. "Ngangikhululekile ngoba ngangisemncane futhi nginempilo enhle futhi ngangikhangwa kakhulu yile ntombazane." Waya kudokotela wakhe. "Ngathi, ngingahle ngibe ne-T ephansi," kusho uDemem, esebenzisa isitsotsi sokushoda kwe-testosterone. "Uhleke."
Imininingwane eminingi yendaba yakhe iqinisekiswa yintombi yakhe ngaleso sikhathi, ebingathanda ukuhlala ingaziwa. “Ubezama ukuqala okuthile, bese kuthi phakathi athi, 'Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele silinde,'” uyakhumbula. “Bengivele ngidideke impela bese ngicabanga, Angithandi yini? Kwenzakalani?" Kuthathe izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ngemuva kokuthi emtshele ngenkinga yakhe ukuze akwazi ukwenza naye.
Ukuba nomlingani no-ED akuyona inkinga eyinhloko abesifazane abaningi abasha ababhekana ne-porn, futhi yingxenyana yabesifazane kuphela ababika ukuthi bazizwa bengumlutha, nokho abanayo imiphumela yokukhulela esikweni eligcwele nalokhu okuqukethwe. Amantombazane asemasha aya ngokuya ebika ukuthi abafana balindele ukuthi baziphathe njengezinkanyezi ezingcolile, ezihlanganiswe yizinwele zomzimba noma izidingo zezocansi zabo.
Ngo-Ephreli 2015, u-Alexander Rhode washiya umsebenzi omuhle kuGoogle ukuze athuthukise izindawo zokwelulekwa nezokusekelwa komphakathi kulabo abanenkinga yomkhuba we-porn. Wayeqale i-NoFap subreddit – uhlu lwezikhala kokuqukethwe okukodwa – kuwebhusayithi ethandwayo iReddit kanye newebhusayithi ehambisana nayo ebizwa ngeNoFap.com ngo-2011, kodwa manje sekuwumsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele. (Leli gama lisuselwa ku-fap, Internet-speak for indlwabu.) Lo mfana oneminyaka engu-26 uthi ukuqala kwakhe ukuthwebula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwakuyisikhangiso se-pop-up - cha, impela, uyafunga! - ngenkathi eneminyaka engaba ngu-11. Ubaba wakhe unjiniyela we-software ePennsylvania, futhi wayekhuthazwe ukuthi adlale ngamakhompyutha kusukela eneminyaka emithathu. URhodes uthi: “Uma nje kwakukhona i-Inthanethi, ngangikwazi ukungena kalula. Lesi sikhangiso besingesayithi elikhombisa ukudlwengulwa, kodwa uthi ubeqonda nje ukuthi kunentokazi enqunu. Maduze nje ubeseprinta izithonjana zemiphumela yakhe yokusesha izithombe "yesisu sabesifazane" noma "amabele amantombazane amahle." Ngesikhathi eseneminyaka eyi-3, uthi, wayezijabulisa nge-porn izikhathi eziyi-14 ngosuku. “Lokho akulona ihaba,” uyaphikelela. "Lokho, nokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo, yilokho kuphela engikwenzile."
Ngesikhathi esanda kweva eminyakeni eyishumi nambili, ngesikhathi ethola intombi, izinto azihambanga kahle. “Ngimzwise ubuhlungu obukhulu [ngokomzwelo],” kusho uRhodes. "Ngangicabanga ukuthi kuyinto evamile ukucabanga ngezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ube usenza ucansi nomunye umuntu." Uma eyeka ukucabanga ngezocansi ukuze agxile kule ntombazane, umzimba wakhe walahlekelwa yintshisekelo, usho kanjalo. Wayeka izithombe zocansi amahlandla ambalwa ngaphambi kokuthi ekugcineni afunge ngokuhle ngasekupheleni konyaka wezi-2013. Amasayithi akhe amabili anamalungu angaba ngu-200,000 XNUMX, futhi uthi bathola abasebenzisi ababalelwa esigidini ngenyanga.
Lawa madoda, nezinkulungwane zabanye abagcwalisa amawebhusayithi abo ngezindaba zokungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi, bonke basezinhlungwini zokukwenza kucace ukuthi abayona i-antisex. "Isizathu sokuthi ngiyeke ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi ngibe nobulili obuningi," kusho uDeve. "Ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungenye yezinto ezithandwa kakhulu ngabantu ngokocansi," kusho uRhodes. Omunye ophawula online, u-sirrifo, ukubeka kalula: "Ngifuna nje ukujabulela ucansi futhi ngizwe ukufisa komunye umuntu."
Ingabe izimangalo zabo ze-porn-ezenzelwe i-ED zinokufaneleka? Izibalo zakamuva ziphakamisa ukulungisa okuthile. Ku-1992, mayelana ne-5% yamadoda ahlangabezane ne-ED eneminyaka eyi-40, ngokusho kwe-US National Institutes of Health (NIH). Ucwaningo olwenziwe ngoJulayi 2013 Journal of Medicual Medicine lithole ukuthi i-26% yamadoda amadala afuna usizo ku-ED ayengaphansi kwe-40. Esifundweni se-2014 se-367 baseSiriya abasebenzi abangaphansi kwe-40, i-ED echazwe ngokwesithathu. Futhi isifundo se-2012 saseSwitzerland sithole isimo phakathi kwesithathu kwabesilisa abasha: 18 kuya ku-25.
Vele, kungaba khona noma yiziphi izizathu zokuthola lokhu. Kusukela kwafika i-Viagra nemithi efanayo, ukuqwashisa nokwamukelwa kokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile kuphakeme kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yazo zonke lezo zikhangiso ze-TV, ukucwaswa kuncane ngokufanayo, ngakho-ke abantu abaningi kungenzeka bayayivuma. Isifo sikashukela, ukukhuluphala ngokweqile, ukukhathazeka komphakathi noma ukucindezelwa nakho kungadala lesi simo, njengoba kunjalo nangokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala. Njengoba lokhu kukhule phakathi kwentsha, kungahle kube nezimo ze-ED. Kepha odokotela be-urologists abazimisele ukukhipha umthetho wokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungenzeka zibangelwe ingxenye ethile. “Ngicabanga ukuthi kungenzeka,” kusho uDkt. Ajay Nangia, owayengumongameli weSociety for Male Reproduction and Urology. "Kukhona uhlobo lokungazethembi kwala madoda, futhi afinyelela eqophelweni lokuthi azizwe eshukunyiswa lapho ucansi kufana nokuthi lunjengokubhayisikobho."
Uma izimbangela ze-spike ku-ED zenzelwe impikiswano, ukufinyelela okungakaze kube khona kwezocansi ngevidiyo yokusakaza kule minyaka eyishumi eyedlule akuyona. Ukufika kwamasayithi wamavidiyo, afana ne-YouTube (aqala ngo-2005), avumela abasebenzisi ukuthi bawalayishe, bawaqoqe futhi bawahlanganise namavidiyo kuguqule indlela abantu abahlangana ngayo nezocansi. Kunezinhlobo eziningi ezimangazayo zokuqukethwe okusobala okucacile okuhlala kukhula ngoba noma ngubani, kusuka kubathandi bezinto kuya kubaqeqeshiwe, angafaka ividiyo ku-inthanethi. Enye inkampani ezimele yokulandela umkhondo wewebhu yavala izivakashi zase-US eziyizigidi ezingama-58 njalo ngenyanga ezindaweni zomuntu omdala ngoFebhuwari 2006. Eminyakeni eyishumi kamuva isibalo saba izigidi eziyi-107. Elinye lamasayithi amakhulu kunawo wonke emhlabeni, i-Pornhub, isiza esabelana ngamavidiyo ngokusobala, ithi ithola izivakashi eziyizigidi ezingama-2.4 ngehora nokuthi ngo-2015 kuphela, abantu emhlabeni wonke babuke amahora angama-4,392,486,580 wokuqukethwe, okungaphezu kokuphindwe kabili inqobo nje uma uHomo sapiens echithe emhlabeni. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zitholakala yonke indawo, ziye zaphonsa ama-memes, kufaka phakathi i-Rule 34, ethi, "Uma ikhona, kukhona i-porn yayo." (Leprechauns? Check. Pterodactyls? Check. Pandas? Check.) I-Inthanethi ifana nendawo yokudlela yama-buffet yamahora angama-24 ondla zonke izinhlobo zokudla okulula kocansi.
Futhi abasha bayayidla. Cishe ama-40% abafana baseBrithani abaneminyaka engu-14 kuya kwengu-17 bathi babuka njalo, ngokocwaningo olwenziwe ngoNhlolanja wezi-2015 yi-University of Bristol. UChyng Sun, onguprofesa osebenzisana naye wezifundo zemidiya eNew York University, uthi cishe isigamu samadoda angama-487 awahlola kwesinye isifundo ayekade evezwe ocansini ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka engu-13. Ucwaningo ku-Journal of Sex Research lubeka kuqala ukuvezwa , ngokwesilinganiso, iminyaka eyi-12 yezinsizwa.
Ukushintsha okukhulu kwezenhlalo okubandakanya impilo yabantu abasha kuvame ukudala ucwaningo oluqinile lokuhlola ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela. Kepha kulokhu, hhayi kangako. Kunzima ngisho nokuthola imali yokufunda ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kusabalele kangakanani, kusho uJanis Whitlock, owayenguthisha wezocansi manje ongumcwaningi wezempilo yengqondo eCornell University. Abasebenzi be-NIH kubikwa ukuthi bacebisa abacwaningi ukuthi bangasebenzisi igama elithi ucansi uma befaka izicelo zabo zezimali uma kungenzeka. Isazi se-Neuroscientist uSimone Kühn, ocwaningo lwakhe lokubuka izithombe ezingcolile kanye nokwakheka kobuchopho olushicilelwe ku-JAMA Psychiatry ehlonishwayo, uthi abaqashi bakhe eMax Planck Institute babengajabule ukuzihlanganisa nayo.
Ukuntuleka kocwaningo kubhebhethekisa impi ebabayo emphakathini wezifundo mayelana nemiphumela yokusebenzisa ngokweqile i-porn. Futhi akukho isayensi eningi enzima yokunquma umphumela.
Abashayeli abancane abancane bezithombe ezingcolile babenombono ongenakwenzeka: UGary Wilson, u-59, owayengumprofesa we-biological adjunct biology at Wik Oregon University kanye nezikole ezihlukahlukene zokufundela kanye nomlobi weBrain Yakho ku-Porn: Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Inthanethi kanye neSayensi Ephuthumayo Yezokwelapha. I-website yakhe, i-yourbrainonporn.com, noma i-YBOP evame kakhulu, iyindlu yokuhlanza yolwazi olusekela ukuxhumana phakathi kokusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Abantu abaningi bamthola ngesikhulumi sakhe se-2012 TEDx, esinemibono engaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-6.
I-YBOP iphikisa ukuthi ukubuka izinto eziningi kakhulu zobusha ebusheni kuthinta ubuchopho ngezindlela eziningi. "I-Porn iqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuthi budinge konke okuhlobene nezocansi ukuze kuvuswe," kusho uWilson. Lokho akubandakanyi okuqukethwe kuphela kepha nendlela yokulethwa. Ngenxa yokuthi amavidiyo we-porn awunamkhawulo, akhululekile futhi asheshayo, abasebenzisi bangachofoza kusigcawu esisha noma uhlobo olusha ngokushesha nje lapho ukuvusa inkanuko yabo futhi ngaleyo ndlela, kusho uWilson, “balungisa amaphethini abo okuvusa inkanuko eqhubekayo, eshintsha njalo.”
Isheduli esindayo yezocansi kanye namazinga aphezulu e-dopamine aqhubekayo aqinisa la maphethini. "Umphumela wabanye abasebenzisi be-porn be-Intanethi ukusebenza okuphezulu kobuchopho ku-inthanethi ye-porn, nokuvusa okuncane ocansini nomuntu wangempela," kusho uWilson. Futhi-ke kukhona ukujwayela: isidingo sabaningi ukuthola ukushaya okufanayo. "Ukuziqhenya ngokwedlulele, izibungu ezithile, ukwethuka nokumangala nokukhathazeka - konke lokho kuphakamisa i-dopamine," esho. "Ngakho-ke badinga labo abavuswa ngocansi."
Abanye abacwaningi bayakuchitha ukuhlobana phakathi kocansi nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile. ”Uma ingekho imininingwane esekelayo yesayensi, ukuqina kwenkolelo [yalezi zinsizwa] yokuthi i-porn ibangela i-ED akubona ubufakazi bokuthi inkolelo yabo iyiqiniso,” kusho uDavid J. Ley, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nomlobi we-The Myth of Sex Addiction. “Iningi labasebenzisi be-porn alibiki miphumela emibi. Idlanzana kakhulu libika lokhu kukhathazeka nge-ED. ”
U-Ley ukhomba ocwaningweni lwakamuva lwezinsizwa ezisebenzisa i-porn, njengephepha lika-2015 ku I-Journal of Medicine Yezocansi, lapho abacwaningi abavela eNyuvesi yaseZagreb eCroatia bahlaziya ucwaningo mayelana nezinsizwa ezingaba ngu-4,000 ezenza ucansi kwabesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane emazweni amathathu aseYurophu bathola kuphela ukuxhumana okuncane kakhulu phakathi kokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nezinkinga ze-erectile. (Futhi kuphela eCroatia.) Omunye uthole ukuthi abasebenzisi bezithombe ezingcolile ababengabantu abakholwayo kungenzeka ukuthi bacabange ukuthi bayimilutha. UNicole Prause, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nesazi sezinzwa, kanye ne-CEO yeLiberos, inkampani yocwaningo lobuchopho, naye ukholelwa ukuthi iPIED iyinsumansumane: “Ucwaningo oluningi kakhulu lukhombisile ukuthi izibikezelo eziqine kakhulu ze-ED ziyaqhubeka nokudangala nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa.”
Okwezishoshovu zesilisa ezisencane, noma kunjalo, i-Exhibit A ihlale ingumzimba wayo. "Uma ungathola i-boner nge-porn futhi ungakwazi ukuthola i-boner ngaphandle kwe-porn, lokho kunzima kakhulu njengobufakazi obuthola ngombono wami," kusho iDemem of Reboot Nation. Weqa zonke ezinye izizathu zokungasebenzi kwakhe ngokocansi. Ukungabi nalwazi? Uthi: “Bengingumuntu ozethembayo ngokobulili futhi ongumakad 'ebona kusukela ngineminyaka engu-14. Ukukhuluphala ngokweqile? Ungumqeqeshi womuntu oqinisekisiwe, uthi, angaphansi kuka-10% wamafutha omzimba. Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa? Uthi ubebhema amalunga cishe amahlanu empilweni yakhe. Futhi i-ED yakhe ibingenakubangelwa ukukhathazeka kokusebenza, ngoba uthi akakwazanga ukuvuswa noma ngabe ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwe-intanethi ngeSonto ntambama ekhululekile. “Ngigijime ngabuyela kwikhompyutha yami ngiyohlola kabusha. Ngivule i-porn kanye ne-bam! ”
Ngaphandle kwezinkinga ezibhekene nalezi zinsizwa, kukhona ucwaningo oluvelayo okufanele lunikeze wonke umuntu osebenzisa i-porn ikhefu. Ucwaningo lwe-2014 fMRI oluvela eMax Planck Institute luthole ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn okujwayelekile kungaba nomthelela ebuchosheni. "Lapho abesilisa bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile bedla kakhulu, incane i-striatum yobuchopho, isikhungo semiklomelo sobuchopho," kusho uKühn, umbhali. "Futhi labo ababebuka izithombe ezingcolile eziningi babonisa ukusabela okuncane ezithombeni ezingcolile endaweni efanayo." Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi abasebenzisi be-porn abavame kakhulu babephuthuma kakhulu futhi benamandla amancane okulibazisa ukuzithokozisa. Futhi ucwaningo lokuhlola ubuchopho eNyuvesi yaseCambridge e2014 lukhombise ukuthi amadoda anokuziphatha ngocansi okuphoqelela aphendula iziqeshana ezicacile ngendlela efanayo nabasebenzisi bezidakamizwa abaphendula ngayo ezidakamizweni; babebafisa, noma ngabe babengabathandi.
Umcwaningi oholayo kulolo cwaningo, isazi se-neuroscientist kanye ne-neuropsychiatrist uValerie Voon, uthi eziningi zezifundo zakhe ezisetshenziswa kabi ezisetshenziswa ngocansi zibika ukuthi zinezinkinga ze-erectile. Kepha yena noKühn bobabili bayaqaphela ukuthi akukho kulokhu okuwubufakazi bokuthi i-porn inciphisa ubuchopho; kungenzeka ukuthi abantu abanezikhungo zemiklomelo ezincane kufanele babuke izithombe ezingcolile ezingaphezulu ukuze bathole injabulo efanayo. “Ngingakuqaphela ukusebenzisa ucwaningo olulodwa ukuze ngibonise ukuthi kube 'nomonakalo' ebuchosheni,” kusho uVoon. "Sidinga nje izifundo ezengeziwe."
Impikiswano yokuluthwa yizidakamizwa ezingcolile zobulili iyisisekelo esingavumelani sokungavumelani emiphakathini yezokwelapha neyesayensi mayelana nokuthi kungenzeka yini ukuhlukanisa izinto ezibizwa ngokuthi yimikhuba yokuziphatha, njengalezo zokugembula nokudla, esigabeni esifanayo nezidakamizwa, njengalezo zotshwala noma imishanguzo kadokotela. U-Prause uthi ukusebenzisa umlutha wegama ukuchaza okungamane kube inkanuko ephezulu yezocansi akusizi futhi kungahle kube kubi inkinga ngokuyihlambalaza.
Kepha kuVoon, ofunda ukuluthwa, ukubukela izithombe ezingcolile zobulili okucindezelayo kubukeka kufana, yize kunezakhiwo ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi isifiso esiphakeme sobusha kunezinye izidakamizwa. "Kungenzeka ukuthi inhlanganisela yezenzo zocansi ezuzisa kakhulu ngaphezu kwento entsha ingahle ibe nomthelela omkhulu," esho.
UBrian Anderson, isazi sokusebenza kwemizwa esikhungweni semfundo yezinzwa eJohns Hopkins University, unombono othakazelisayo. Ubungcweti bakhe ukwakha imikhuba; ngoFebhuwari iqembu lakhe likhiphe ucwaningo olukhombisa ukuthi izinto ezibukwayo ezixhunyaniswe nomvuzo kunzima ukungazinaki lapho ziphinda zihlangana nazo. Lapho ubuchopho buthola ubufakazi besikhuthazo esimnandi, bunaka kakhulu futhi buvimbele ezinye izinto. "Ubuchopho bakho bunentambo yokwakha lawo maphethini, futhi uma uwabophela entweni efana ne-porn kungaphazamisa kakhulu futhi kube nzima ukuyiphula," kusho u-Anderson.
Ucabanga ukuthi ukubonakala kocansi kuyenza ikhange kakhulu ebuchosheni. Uthi: "Kubolekisa kakhulu futhi kuyashesha ukunakwa." "Ingqondo izokwazi ukufunda leyo nhlangano ngokushesha okukhulu." Futhi ngoba izimpilo zabantu zanamuhla zinzima kakhulu kwikhompyutha, kukhona izikhumbuzo zezithombe zocansi yonke indawo. Uthi: “Mhlawumbe kuza iphuzu ngesikhathi, lapho uvula khona isiphequluli sakho bese uqala ukucabanga ngezocansi.” (Futhi lokho ngaphambi kobuchwepheshe be-virtual-reality kuthatha izinto ziye ezingeni elisha lonke.)
Njengoba intsha iphazamisa konke lokho i-porn ekugayayo ebuchosheni obusakhula, kungenzeka ukuthi bathinteka ikakhulu. UPhilip Zimbardo, uprofesa osafufusa wezengqondo eStanford University (kanye nomfana owenza ucwaningo oludumile lwejele laseStanford), uphawula ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zivame ukuhambisana nemidlalo yevidiyo futhi ngokufanayo zilungiswe kahle ukuze zenze umkhuba ngangokunokwenzeka.
Uthi: "Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zikufaka kulokho engikubiza ngokuthi yisikhathi samanje se-hedonistic time," esho. "Ufuna ubumnandi nobusha futhi uphile isikhashana." Yize ingeyena umlutha wamakhemikhali, uthi, i-porn inomphumela ofanayo ekuziphatheni njengoba kuba umlutha wezidakamizwa: abanye abantu bayayeka ukwenza okunye okunye bathanda ukukulwela. "Futhi-ke inkinga ukuthi, njengoba wenza lokhu ngokwengeziwe, izikhungo zemiklomelo zobuchopho bakho zilahlekelwa amandla okuvuka," esho. Ngesikhathi lapho izinsizwa zisezingeni eliphezulu ngokomzimba, uthi, konke ukungasebenzi kungahle kube nomthelela ekungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi okungalindelekile.
I-Noah Church inikela ngamahora angama-20 ngeviki ukuzama ukusiza abanye ukuqeda i-porn ezimpilweni zabo, noma okungenani ukuqeda umkhuba owaziwa nge-PMO (i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu, i-orgasm). Ubhale incwadi emahhala ngayo, uWack, usebenzisa i-addictiontointernetporn.com futhi weluleka abantu nge-Skype ngemali eyi- $ 100. URhodes, okwamanje, uzama ukusiza abafana ukuthi babuyise i-mojo yabo ngokuhlela "izinselelo," lapho abantu abasha bezama ukuyeka i-PMO isikhathi esithile. Kunamazinga ahlukene okuziyeka: okwedlulele kakhulu (okwaziwayo, okuxakayo ukuthi, “njengemodi enzima”) ukuziqhelelanisa nanoma yimuphi umsebenzi wezocansi, kanti okweqisa kakhulu kunakho konke ukuhlangana kocansi okuzivelelayo, kubandakanya nalokho okwenzeka wedwa, kepha ngaphandle kwezinsiza-kufundisa. Isayithi likaDeveli linikeza ngamasu afanayo, kanye nokuxhaswa okuningi komphakathi nezinto zokufunda. Iqembu lezinsizwa zase-Utah seliqale inhlangano ebizwa ngokuthi yi-Fight the New Drug, enohlelo lokululama mahhala lwentsha olubizwa ngeFortify.
Izinsizwa ezifisa ukuqala kabusha ubuchopho bazo zichaza imiphumela efanayo njengoba ziyeka lo mkhuba. Abanye babo banezimpawu ezifana nokuhoxa njengokuphathwa yikhanda nokungalali. Abaningi babo bakhuluma "ngokubabaza," isikhathi sokungabi nenjabulo, i-zero libido ngisho nezitho zangasese ezinciphile ezingathatha amasonto ambalwa. "Ngangizizwa nginjenge-zombie," kusho uDeem. Abafana asebekhulile babike izimpawu ezifanayo, kepha ngokuvamile balulama ngokushesha, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi baba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi kocansi empilweni yangempela. Umdlali webhola ophenduke umlingisi uTerry Crews usanda kufaka uchungechunge lwe Facebook amavidiyo ngomonakalo umkhuba wakhe wezocansi awenza emshadweni wakhe, nangempilo yakhe, yize kungewona amandla akhe. Waya ekuvuseleleni. Abanye babika ukubuyela emuva ngokushesha okukhulu. “Ngangizizwa ngigxile ngokwengeziwe, ngiphapheme, ngizethemba emphakathini, ngixhumene nabanye, nginentshisekelo yokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke futhi ngizwela kakhulu emoyeni,” kusho uChurch. "Ngaqala ukuzwa lezi zinguquko ngokushesha okukhulu ngemuva kokuyeka."
Ngoba ukusebenzisa i-porn kuvame ukwenziwa ngokuxhamazela, umkhiqizo omusha we-NoFap uyinkinobho yezimo eziphuthumayo eku-inthanethi, okuthi lapho uchofozwa uhambisa abasebenzisi esithombeni esishukumisayo, ividiyo, indaba noma iseluleko, njengalesi: “I-PMO ayiyona inketho. Indlela yokudla iqhwa eliphuzi akuyona inketho. Akungeneki ngisho nasenqubweni yokuthatha izinqumo. ” Uhlelo lokusebenza lweBrainbuddy, olwakhiwa ngemuva kokuthi osemusha wase-Australia ogama lakhe linguDavid Endacott abone ukuthi kwakunzima kanjani ngaye ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, unikeza uchungechunge lwezinye izindlela –umsebenzi noma ividiyo ekhuthazayo. Ukungazibukeli izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyingxenye yempi, uthi. Ingqondo kufanele ithuthukise ukuzihlanganisa okusha nokuhlukile okujabulisayo nekhompyutha. NjengeFitbit, uhlelo lokusebenza futhi lulandelela ukuthi zingaki izinsuku abasebenzisi abazihambile ngaphandle kokusebenzisa lo mkhuba. Sekulandwe ngaphezu kwama-300,000 kuze kube manje.
Into eyodwa lezi zinsizwa ezingasikiseli ukuphela kocansi, noma ngabe lokho bekungenzeka. "Angicabangi ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kufanele zishaywe umthetho noma zivinjelwe noma zivinjelwe," kusho uRhodes. Kunoma ikuphi, ukushaya umthetho wezocansi bekulokhu kugcwele, futhi namuhla lokho akukhona nje ngenxa yeSichibiyelo Sokuqala kodwa futhi nangenxa yobuchwepheshe. Inselelo eyodwa ebhekene nesiphakamiso saseBrithani sokuphoqa amasayithi e-porn ukuthi aqinisekise ubudala babathengi bawo ukuthola ukuthi bangenza kanjani lowo msebenzi ngaphandle kokuhlasela ubumfihlo babantu abadala futhi ngaphandle kokukhululeka lapho iningi lentsha lingahlanekezela okokuhlunga okuku-inthanethi. (Imibiko ikhombise ukuthi izivakashi eziyingqayizivele eziyizigidi eziyi-1.4 eziya ezindaweni zabantu abadala eBrithani zazingaphansi kweminyaka eyi-18 ngoMeyi 2015, ngemuva kokuthi izihlungi zokukhetha ukungena kwabahlinzeki be-Intanethi bezikhona.) Yize isiza esisodwa esizinze e-US, i-Pornhub, sithembise ukulandela imithetho emisha yaseBrithani, imboni iyangabazeka mayelana nezimangalo zezempilo. "Ukungabi namboni kwami ngemboni yezocansi ukuthi bebengamukeleki ngokuphelele kulo lonke lolu hlelo lokulutha umlutha wezocansi," kusho uRhodes. “Bayithatha kalula.” (I-Pornhub yenqabile ukuphendula noma imiphi imibuzo mayelana nomthetho noma ukukhathazeka ngezempilo ngale ndaba.)
“Njengomkhakha sibone inqwaba yeziphithiphithi zokuziphatha,” kusho uMike Stabile, umqondisi wezokuxhumana weFree Speech Coalition, okuyinhlangano yezimboni yezokuzijabulisa yabantu abadala. “Kubonakala ingekho yonke isayensi enedumela elihle. Uma kukhona okungavela kungahle kukhuthaze izingxoxo. ” Le mboni ayihambisani nendlela yaseBrithani eyenza abasebenzisi be-Intanethi bakhethe okuqukethwe ngabantu abadala kunokuba bakhethe ukuphuma, kusho uStabile: "Lezo zihlungi zingavimbela ukufinyelela kumaqembu e-LGBTQ nezindawo zokufundisa ngocansi." Kepha leyo imodeli impela isenator yesifundazwe uTodd Weiler anethemba lokuthi izosetshenziswa e-Utah. “Sishintshile indlela esisebenzisa ngayo ugwayi, hhayi ngokuwuvala kodwa ngokubeka imikhawulo efanelekile,” kusho uWeiler. Ungathanda izindawo ezifana McDonald kanye ne-Starbucks – kanye nemitapo yolwazi – ukuhlunga i-wi-fi yabo ukuze bangabi nocansi.
Ukunikeza intsha ephikisayo mayelana ne-porn abazohlangana nayo nakanjani, yize noma yiziphi izihlungi ezifakiwe, kuyinjongo eyinhloko yezishoshovu ezisencane. "Izingane ezineminyaka engu-14 no-XNUMX ubudala zingathola indlela yezithombe zocansi ze-Inthanethi ezingavinjelwe futhi ezingapheli ngaphambi kokuba zithole ukuthi zingaba nemiphumela emibi," kusho uRhodes. I-Deem iveza ukuthi wayehlala kude ne-cocaine ngoba wafundiswa ukuthi izomlimaza. Ungathanda ukubona i-porn iphathwa ngendlela efanayo, nezikole zifundisa ngemiphumela emibi yezithombe zocansi ngesikhathi socansi. "Ngingatshela indodana yami, ngizokusho ngqo, zonke izinto ezibabaza kakhulu, njenge-Internet porn, ukudla okungenamsoco nezidakamizwa, zingaba mnandi futhi zijabulise, okwesikhashana," kusho uDemem. "Kodwa-ke, futhi banamandla okukucindezela ezintweni ezijwayelekile, zemvelo futhi ekugcineni bakuphuce into eyodwa obucabanga ukuthi bazokunikeza yona, ikhono lokuthola injabulo."
Ukwethula ucansi ocansini nokuya ocansini esikoleni kungabonakala sengathi yi-quixotic quest. Imfundo yezocansi isivele ingumthombo wokuphikisana okukhulu, futhi izikole azifisi ukusola ngokuletha izingane ezingcolile, ngisho noma isayensi yemiphumela yaso isingathwe. Abazali nabo bayaqaphela ukuxubha isihloko, besaba ukuthi yimiphi imibuzo engase ibuzwe. Kodwa ilukuluku lunikeza intukuthelo; I-porn e-intanethi iqala ukulala ngokobulili kubantu abaningi abasha.
UWhitlock, owayenguthisha wezocansi, uthi umangazwe yindlela ababenqena ngayo ozakwabo bakudala ukukhuluma ngezocansi. Ukholelwa ukuthi ngoba abafundisi bezocansi bebelwa isithombe esingesihle sobulili isikhathi eside phakathi neminyaka yokufunda ngokuziyeka kuphela, bayaphikisana nanoma yini ebuza izinkanuko zobulili. Uthole ukuthi ngisho nokucela abafundi ukuthi bazindle ngokuthi imikhuba yabo yokubuka iyenzani empilweni yabo yengqondo kuhlangabezana nokubuyiselwa emuva. Uthi: “Akunangqondo kimi. “Kufana nokuthi uma ungabaza ukubaluleka kokudla iDunkin 'Donuts ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi' awunakho ukudla. '”
Indlela ekahle yokuhambisa umyalezo ingahle ibe ku-inthanethi, kepha okuxakayo ukuthi eminingi yale mizamo ibhuntshiswa yizivimbeli ze-porn. Leyo yinkinga yeBrainbuddy. Umdali wayo uzizwa kubalulekile ukuyisa esixukwini esineminyaka engu-12 nangaphezulu, kepha abasebenzisi kumele babe ngaphezu kweminyaka engu-17 ukuyilanda.
Ihlazo elizungeze umkhuba ophoqelela wezocansi lenza kube nzima ukucela usizo, yize ososayensi bezinzwa bethi kungenzeka kunoma ngubani. Bese kuba khona ukucwaswa okuphambene nezinsizwa ezikhuluma ngokungahambisani nalolo hlobo esikweni eligubha ubulili. I-Deem nabanye abameli bayazi ukuthi bahamba bangena ekungeneni kokunganaki, ukuphikisana nokuhlekwa usulu. Kepha abavinjelwe. "Uma kukhona okuzoshintsha," kusho uDeem, "kuzofanele kudlule kubafana abadlula emseleni, ababecindezela empeleni amathebhu futhi bebuka i-hardcore porn lapho sineminyaka engu-12."
Elinye lamalungu amasha eNoFap (aziwa ngokuthi amaFapstronauts), indoda engama-30 engungqingili eqala inselelo yezinsuku ezingama-30, ikubeka ngale ndlela: “Uma ngicabanga ngakho,” uyabhala, “ngichithe iminyaka yami impilo ifuna ikhompyutha noma umakhalekhukhwini ukuhlinzeka ngento engeke ikwazi ukuyinikeza. ”
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