Amazwana: Lawa makhasi Ubuchopho Obushintshayo (2007) ngudokotela wezifo zengqondo uNorman Doidge zihambisana kakhulu nokulutha kwezocansi, futhi uchaze nokuthi ukuthanda izinto zobulili ezingcolile ze-Intanethi kukhuphuka kanjani (into abathi ochwepheshe bemilutha bayayibiza “ukubekezelelana“). Uma uthanda, funda sonke isahluko: Ukwenza Ukunambitheka Nezithandwa.
- Buyekeza i-1: isihloko se-2014 ngo-Doidge: Ubulili Ngobuchopho: Yisiphi Isiqhumane SeBrain Esifundisa Nge-Internet Ye-Porn.
- Buyekeza i-2: Uhlu lwezifundo ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi ezinkingeni zobulili.
Okucaphuna okuvela esahlukweni:
Isibungu samanje se-porn sinikeza ukubonisa okucacile ukuthi ukuthanda ngokocansi kungatholakala. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ezinikezwe ukuxhumeka kwe-intanethi okusheshayo, zanelisa zonke izinto ezidingekayo zokuguqulwa kwe-neuroplastic [okwakhiwa kwamashayeli we-neural entsha-isici esibalulekile sokulutha].
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubonakala, uma uqala ukuqala, ukuba yindaba ejwayelekile nje: izithombe ezicacile zobulili zidala izimpendulo zangokwemvelo, eziwumkhiqizo wezigidi zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Kodwa uma lokho kuyiqiniso, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zazingeke zishintshe. Okubangela okufanayo, izingxenye zomzimba nobukhulu babo, obufisa okhokho bethu bekungathijabulisa. Yilokho abacwaningi bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile abangasenza sikholelwe, ngoba bathi banqoba ukucindezelwa ngokobulili, ukuxoshwa, nokwesaba nokuthi umgomo wabo ukukhulula izinhlobo zemvelo zobulili.
Kodwa empeleni okuqukethwe kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyinto a ashukumisayo into ekhombisa ngokuphelele ukuqhubeka kwenambitheka etholakalayo. Eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu edlule, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile “ezinzima” ngokuvamile zazisho ukuthi kucacile ukuboniswa kocansi phakathi kwabalingani ababili abavukile, kukhombisa izitho zabo zangasese. “ISoftcore” ibisho izithombe zabesifazane, ikakhulukazi, besembhedeni, endlini yabo yangasese, noma endaweni ethile yothando, ezifundeni ezahlukahlukene zokukhumula, kuvezwe amabele.
Manje i-hardcore iguqukile futhi iya ngokuya ilawulwa yizindikimba ze-sadomasochistic zocansi oluphoqelelwe, ama-ejaculations ebusweni besifazane, nobulili obuthukuthele obuthukuthele, konke okubandakanya imibhalo ehlanganisa ubulili nenzondo nokululazeka. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Hardcore manje zihlola umhlaba wokuhlanekezela, kuyilapho i-softcore manje iyilokho okunzima okwakuyiminyaka engamashumi ambalwa edlule, ucansi olucacile phakathi kwabantu abadala, manje olutholakala ku-cable TV. Izithombe ezithambile eziqanjiwe zangesikhathi esidlule — abesifazane besezindaweni ezahlukahlukene zokukhumula — manje sezivela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana usuku lonke, kufakwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zento yonke, kufaka phakathi ithelevishini, ama-video e-rock, ama-soap opera, izikhangiso, njalonjalo.
Ukukhula kobulili ezingcolile kuye kwaba okungavamile; ilandisa ngamaphesenti angu-25 wokuqashwa kwevidiyo futhi yisona sesine sizathu esivame kakhulu abantu abakunikezayo ngokuya ku-intanethi. Inhlolovo ye-MSNBC.com yababukeli ku-2001 ithole ukuthi amaphesenti angu-80 azizwa ukuthi ayichitha isikhathi esiningi kwizithombe zobulili ezingcolile ababeka ubuhlobo babo noma imisebenzi engozini. Ithonya lezithombe zobulili ezingcolile lweSoftcore manje liyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ngoba, njengoba ingasifihliwe manje ithonya abantu abasha abanolwazi oluncane lwezocansi ikakhulukazi izingqondo zepulasitiki, ekwenzeni izifiso zabo zobulili kanye nezifiso zabo. Kodwa ithonya lepulasitiki lezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubantu abadala lingase libe nkulu, futhi labo abayisebenzisayo abanalo umuzwa wokuthi ubuchopho babo bubuyiselwa kanjani.
Ngesikhathi se-1990 phakathi nesikhathi sokugcina, lapho i-intanethi ikhula ngokushesha futhi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziqhuma kuyo, ngiphatha noma ngahlola inani lamadoda bonke ababengenendaba efanayo. Ngamunye wazuza ukunambitheka kohlobo lwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi, ngokukhululeka noma okuncane, ezikhathazekile noma ezamcasula, zathinta umkhuba wesifiso sakhe socansi, futhi ekugcineni zathinta ubudlelwane bakhe nobuciko bezocansi.
Akekho kulawa madoda ayemncane kakhulu, enganandaba nomphakathi, noma ehoxiswa emhlabeni ukuze aqoqe iqoqo lezithombe zobulili ezingcolile okwakungenalo ubuhlobo nabesifazane bangempela. Lawa angamadoda amnandi, ngokuvamile acatshangwa, ebuhlotsheni obuphumelelayo noma emishadweni ephumelelayo.
Ngokuvamile, ngenkathi ngiphatha enye yalezi zinkinga ngenye yezinkinga, wayezobika, cishe njengecala futhi ekhuluma kabi, ukuthi uzithola echitha isikhathi esiningi kuyi-Inthanethi, ebheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokushaya indlwabu. Angase azame ukunciphisa ubuhlungu bakhe ngokufakazela ukuthi wonke umuntu wenza lokho. Kwezinye izimo wayezoqala ngokubuka a Playboy-spepe site noma esithombeni esingenasici noma ividyo kliphu ukuthi othile umthumelele njenge-lark. Kwezinye izimo wayezovakashela isayithi elingenakulimaza, ngesitatimende esikhuthazayo esamqondisa kumasayithi okubeka ingozi, futhi maduzane uzobe esebenzakala.
Abaningi balaba bantu babika nokunye okunye, ngokuvamile okudlulayo, okwangibambelela. Babika ubunzima obukhulayo bokushintshwa ngabalingani babo bobulili, abashadile noma izintombi, nakuba bebebheka njengento ekhangayo. Lapho ngabuza ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka yini ukuba nobuhlobo bokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, baphendula ukuthi ekuqaleni wabasiza ukuba bathole injabulo ngesikhathi sokulala kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kunomphumela ohlukile. Manje, esikhundleni sokusebenzisa izinzwa zabo ukujabulela ukulala embhedeni, okwamanje, nabalingani babo, uthando lokuzijabulisa lubafuna ukuba bacabange ukuthi babeyingxenye yeskripthi se-porn. Abanye bezama ukuphoqa abathandi babo ukuba benze njengezinkanyezi ezingcolile, futhi babelokhu benesithakazelo "sokunqoba" ngokuphambene nokwenza "uthando." Imfashini yabo yezocansi iphila ngokuqhubekayo yizimo ezaba nazo, okusho ukuthi zilandelwe ubuchopho, futhi lezi zincwadi ezilotshiwe zazivame ukuzithokozisa futhi zihlukumeze kakhulu kunezinkolelo zabo zangaphambili zocansi. Nginomuzwa wokuthi noma yikuphi ubuciko bobulili laba besilisa babulawa nokuthi babeba umlutha we-porn.
Izinguquko engizibonile azigcini kubantu abambalwa ekwelashweni. Ukushintsha komphakathi kuyenzeka. Yize kuvame ukuba nzima ukuthola imininingwane mayelana nezimpawu zobulili ezizimele, lokhu akunjalo ngezithombe zocansi namuhla, ngoba ukusetshenziswa kwazo kuya ngokuya komphakathi. Lolu shintsho luhambisana noshintsho kusuka ekubizeni "ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile" kuya egameni elijwayelekile elithi "porn." Ngencwadi yakhe ngempilo yasekolishi laseMelika, NginguCharlotte Simmons, UTom Wolfe uchithe iminyaka eminingana ebuka abafundi ezikhungweni zemfundo ephakeme zaseyunivesithi. Encwadini eyodwa yomfana, u-Ivy Peters, ungena lapho kuhlala khona abesilisa bese ethi, "Ukhona umuntu owathola izithombe zocansi?"
UWolfe uqhubeka athi, “Lesi bekungeyona isicelo esingajwayelekile. Abafana abaningi babekhuluma ngokusobala ngendlela abashaya ngayo indlwabu okungenani kanye ngosuku, njengokungathi lokhu kuwukugcina ngokuhlakanipha uhlelo lobungqingili. ” Omunye wabafana utshela u-Ivy Peters, “Zama isitezi sesithathu. Bathola omagazini besandla esisodwa phezulu lapho. ” Kepha uPeters uyaphendula, “Ngakhe i- ukubekezelelana komagazini… ngidinga amavidiyo. ” Omunye umfana uthi, “O, f'r Chrissake, IP, yihora leshumi ebusuku. Ngelinye ihora izilahla ze-cum zizoqala ukuza lapha ukuzochitha ubusuku ... Futhi ufuna ama-porn nama-knuckle fuck. ” Ngemuva kwalokho u-Ivy “wahlikihla wavula izintende zezandla kwangathi uthi, 'Ngifuna i-porn. Yini inkinga enkulu? '”
Into enkulu kakhulu ukubekezelelana. Uyabona ukuthi ufana nomlutha wezidakamizwa ongenakukwazi ukuphakama ezintweni ezake zivuliwe. Futhi ingozi ukuthi lokhu ukubekezela kuzokwenzela ubuhlobo, njengoba kwenza kwabagulayo engangibabonayo, okuholela ezinkingeni ze-potency futhi ezintsha, ngezinye izikhathi ezingamukeleki, ezithandayo. Lapho abathwebuli bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile beziqhayisa ngokuthi bacindezela imvilophu ngokwethula izingqikithi ezintsha, ezinzima, abangakusho ukuthi kufanele, ngoba amakhasimende abo akha ukubekezelela okuqukethwe. Amakhasi angemuva omagazini abawubungozi besilisa nezingosi ze-Internet ze-Internet agcwele izikhangiso zemithi yohlobo lwe-Viagra — umuthi owenzelwe amadoda amadala anezinkinga ze-erectile ezihlobene nokuguga nemithambo yegazi evinjiwe ethweni lobudoda. Namuhla izinsizwa ezishaya izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zikwesaba kakhulu ukungabi namandla, noma "ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile" njengoba kubizwa ngendlela ehloniphekile. Igama elidukisayo lisho ukuthi la madoda anenkinga ezithweni zabo zobulili, kodwa inkinga isemakhanda abo, emabalazweni abo obuchopho bobulili. I-penis isebenza kahle uma zisebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Akuvamile ukuthi kwenzeke ukuthi kungase kube nobuhlobo phakathi kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile abazidlayo kanye nokungabi namandla abo. (Kodwa-ke amadoda ambalwa, achaza ngokusobala amahora abo kumasayithi e-porn njengamakhompyutha njengesikhathi esichithwe "ukushaya indlwabu ubuchopho.")
Omunye wabafana basesigcawini sikaWolfe uchaza amantombazane eza ukuzolala namasoka awo ngokuthi “ama-cum dumpsters.” Naye uthonywe izithombe ezingcolile, ngoba "ama-cum dumpsters," njengabesifazane abaningi kumafilimu ezocansi, bahlala bezimisele, bekhona futhi bathotshiswa.
Ukugxila kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi akusona isifaniso. Akuzona zonke izidakamizwa eziphathelene nezidakamizwa noma utshwala. Abantu bangaba nomlutha omkhulu wokugembula, ngisho nokusebenza. Bonke abahlukumezayo babonisa ukulahlekelwa kokulawulwa komsebenzi, bawufune ngokucindezela ngaphandle kwemiphumela emibi, ukuthuthukisa ukubekezelelana ukuze badinga amazinga aphakeme nakakhulu okuvuselela ukwaneliseka, futhi isipiliyoni sokuhoxiswa uma bengakwazi ukuqeda isenzo sokulutha.
Zonke izidakamizwa zibandakanya ukuguqulwa kwesikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi impilo, ukuguqulwa kwe-neuroplastic ebuchosheni. Ngokulutha, ukulinganisela akunakwenzeka, futhi kufanele bagweme izinto noma umsebenzi ngokuphelele uma kufanele bagweme ukuziphatha okuluthayo. I-Alcoholics Anonymous igcizelela ukuthi abekho “abantu ababeyizidakwa” futhi yenza abantu abangaphuzi amashumi eminyaka bazethule emhlanganweni ngokuthi, “Igama lami nginguJohn, futhi ngiyisidakwa.” Ngokuya ngepulasitiki [yobuchopho], zivamisile ukuthi zilungile.
Ukuze kunqume ukuthi umlutha wesigcawu ungumlutha kangakanani, abacwaningi e-National Institutes of Health (NIH) eMaryland baqeqesha udoti ukuba baqhube ibha kuze kube yilapho bethola isibhamu semithi. Ngokubi kakhulu isilwane sizimisele ukusebenzela ukucindezela ibha, ukulutha kakhulu lesi sidakamizwa. I-Cocaine, cishe zonke ezinye izidakamizwa ezingekho emthethweni, ngisho nezidakamizwa ezinjengezidakamizwa ezifana nokugijima kwenza i-neurotransmitter dopamine inomsebenzi osebenzayo ebuchosheni. I-Dopamine ibizwa ngokuthi i-transmitter yomvuzo, ngoba lapho sifeza okuthile-sigijimela umncintiswano futhi siphumelele-ubuchopho bethu bubangela ukukhululwa. Nakuba siphelelwe amandla, sithola amandla amaningi, injabulo ezithakazelisayo, nokuzethemba futhi ngisho nokuphakamisa izandla zethu futhi sisebenzise ithonya lokunqoba. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abalahlekelwa yibo abangenayo i-dopamine, futhi bavele baphume amandla, bawa phansi, futhi bazizwa behlukumezekile ngokwabo. Ngokudubula uhlelo lwethu lwe-dopamine, izinto zokulutha zisinika injabulo ngaphandle kokuthi sizisebenzele.
IDopamine, njengoba sibonile emsebenzini kaMerzenick, nayo iyabandakanyeka ekushintsheni kwepulasitiki. Ukwanda okufanayo kwe-dopamine okusithokozisayo futhi kuhlanganisa ukuxhumana kwe-neuronal okubhekele ekuziphatheni okusiholele ekufezeni inhloso yethu. Ngenkathi uMerzenick esebenzisa i-electrode ukuvuselela uhlelo lomvuzo we-dopamine wesilwane ngenkathi edlala umsindo, ukukhishwa kwe-dopamine kukhuthaze ushintsho lweplastiki, kukhulisa ukumelwa komsindo ebalazweni lokuhlola lesilwane. Isixhumanisi esibalulekile ne-porn ukuthi i-dopamine nayo ikhishwa ngenjabulo yezocansi, ikhuphula idrayivu yocansi kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane, yenza i-orgasm, futhi isebenze nezikhungo zobumnandi zobuchopho. Ngakho-ke amandla okulutha ezithombe zocansi.
U-Eric Nestler, eYunivesithi yaseTexas, ubonise ukuthi izidakamizwa zenza kanjani ushintsho oluhlala njalo ezinkathini zezilwane. Umthamo owodwa wezidakamizwa eziningi eziluthayo uzokhiqiza iphrotheni, ebizwa ngokuthi i-delta FosB eqoqa ama-neurons. Isikhathi ngasinye lapho kusetshenziselwa izidakamizwa, i-delos FosB eyengeziwe iqoqa kuze kube yilapho iphonsa ukushintsha komzimba, okuthinta ukuthi yiziphi izakhi zofuzo ezivuliwe noma ezivaliwe. Ukweqa lokhu kushintsho kubangela izinguquko eziqhubeka isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuba umuthi umisiwe, okuholela ekulimaleni okungenakuguqulwa ohlelweni lobuchopho lobuchopho futhi unikeze isilwane ukuba sibhekane nokulutha. Izidakamizwa ezingezona izidakamizwa, ezifana nokusebenza nokuphuza utshwala, nazo ziholela ekuqongeni kwe-deltaFosB kanye nezinguquko ezifanayo njalo ohlelweni lwe-dopamine. [Qaphela: Isihloko esihle ku-deltaFosB]
Abacwaningi bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile bathembisa injabulo enempilo nokukhululeka ekucindezelekeni ngokocansi, kepha lokho abajwayele ukukuletha ukulutha, ukubekezelelana, nokwehla kokuthokozisa ekugcineni. Ngokudabukisayo, iziguli zesilisa engangisebenza nazo zazivame ukufisa izithombe ezingcolile kodwa zingazithandi. Umbono ojwayelekile ngukuthi umlutha ubuyela emuva ukuyolungisa okuningi ngoba uyayithanda injabulo ayinikezayo futhi akabuthandi ubuhlungu bokuhoxa. Kepha imilutha idla izidakamizwa uma ikhona cha ithuba lokuzijabulisa, uma beyazi ukuthi banamanani okwanele okubenza baphakame, futhi bayothanda ngaphezulu ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukuhoxisa. Ukufuna nokuthanda kukhona izinto ezimbili ezihlukene.
Umlutha uhlangabezana nezifiso ngoba ubuchopho bakhe bepulasitiki buye lwaziswa kwisidakamizwa noma isipiliyoni. Ukuzwela kuholela ekukhuleni okufunayo. Kuyinto yokuqoqwa kwe-deltaFosB, okubangelwa ukuvezwa kwento noma umshwalense wokulutha, okuholela ekusenizeni.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zijabulisa kakhulu kunokwaneliseka ngoba sinezinhlelo ezimbili zokuzijabulisa ezibuchosheni bethu, okuhlobene nokujabula okuthakazelisayo kanye nokuthokozisa okwanelisayo. Uhlelo oluthakazelisayo lubhekisela enjabulweni "yokunciphisa" esiyifinyelela ekucabangeni into esiyifunayo, njengezocansi noma ukudla okuhle. I-neurochemistry yayo ihlobene kakhulu ne-dopamine, futhi iphakamisa izinga lethu lokucindezeleka.
Uhlelo lwesibili lokuthokozisa luhlobene nokwaneliseka, noma injabulo yokuqeda ukudla, ehamba empeleni ukuba nezocansi noma ukuba nesidlo, ukutholisa, ukuthokozisa okujabulisayo. I-neurochemistry yayo ixhomeke ekukhululweni kwe-endorphins, ehlobene nama-opiate futhi anikeze ukuthula, ukuthula okukhulu.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngokunikela ngesidleke esingapheli sezinto zocansi, senza kusebenze uhlelo lokuheha. Ababukeli be-Porn bakha amamephu amasha ebuchosheni babo, ngokususelwa kuzithombe namavidiyo abawabonayo. Ngoba ubuchopho bokuyisebenzisa noma obulahlekile, lapho sakha indawo yemephu, silangazelela ukuyigcina isebenza. Njengoba nje imisipha yethu iphelelwa yisineke sokuzivocavoca umzimba uma sihleli usuku lonke, kanjalo nezinzwa zethu zilambele ukukhuthazeka.
Amadoda kumakhompiyutha abo abheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokungenalutho njengamagundane asezikhungweni ze-NIH, ecindezela ibha ukuthola isibhamu se-dopamine noma okulingana nayo. Yize bebengazi, babekhohliswe ngezikhathi zokuqeqeshwa kwezithombe zocansi ezihlangabezana nazo zonke izimo ezidingekayo zokushintsha kwepulasitiki kwamamephu obuchopho. Njengoba ama-neurons ahlangana ndawonye ngocingo ndawonye, la madoda athola inani elikhulu lokuzijwayeza ukufaka lezi zithombe ezikhungweni zobumnandi zobuchopho, ngokubhekisisa okukhulu okudingekayo ekuguqulweni kwepulasitiki. Bacabanga lezi zithombe lapho bekude namakhompyutha abo, noma ngenkathi benza ucansi nezintombi zabo, beziqinisa. Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho bezwa ukujabula ngocansi futhi beba ne-orgasm lapho beshaya indlwabu, "i-spritz ye-dopamine," i-neurotransmitter yomvuzo, yahlanganisa ukuxhumana okwenziwe ebuchosheni phakathi nezikhathi. Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi umvuzo wenza lula ukusebenza; ayicasulanga lutho lwamahloni ababezizwa belithenga Playboy esitolo. Nasi ukuziphatha okungenakho "isijeziso," kuphela umvuzo.
Okuqukethwe kwalokho abakutholile okuthakazelisayo kushintshile njengoba izingosi zeWebhu zenza ama-themes nezikripthi ezishintsha ubuchopho babo ngaphandle kokuqaphela. Ngenxa yokuthi i-plasticity iyancintisana, ubuchopho buhlela izithombe ezintsha, ezithakazelisayo zanda ngenxa yalokho okwakudonsele ngaphambili-isizathu, ngikholelwa ukuthi baqala ukuthola izintombi zabo kancane kancane.
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Kuze kube yilapho kwenzeka lezi zithombe ezishayayo, okungenzeka ukuthi zatholwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kobuntwana noma iphupho lokujeziswa, izithombe azibonile zamthakazelisa kepha azizange zimcindezele. Imicabango yabanye abantu yezocansi yasizala. Okuhlangenwe nakho kukaThomas kwakufana nokwakwenziwa iziguli zami; ngaphandle kokukwazi ngokugcwele ababekufuna, baskena amakhulu ezithombe nezimo baze bafika esithombeni noma kumbhalo wezocansi othinte isihloko esithile esingcwatshiwe esabajabulisa ngempela.
Lapho uTomas esitholile leso sithombe, washintsha. Leso sithombe sokuphanga sasinakho ukunakwa okugxile, isimo sokushintsha kwepulasitiki. Futhi ngokungafani nowesifazane wangempela, lezi zithombe ezingcolile zazitholakala usuku lonke, nsuku zonke kukhompyutha.
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