Ukungabi namandla kuyanda - Ngu-Arnab Ganguly, iMumbai Mirror | | May 28, 2020
U-Lalit usenenqwaba yezinyanga eziningi manje. Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu asebenza naye iminyaka emithathu edlule, lo mfundi oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala ukuthole kunzima ukuthola ubuhlobo bezothando nomlingani wakhe izinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlule. Ekuqaleni, akakwazanga ukudlala embhedeni, futhi kancane kancane, uLalit wayeka ukuzizwa efisa ukusondelana, yize ayesathandana kakhulu nomlingani wakhe. Kungani insizwa enempilo, ebusosheni bayo, izithola ibhekene nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (ED)? Impendulo, ngokusho kwengqondo yakhe, yayingumkhuba owasungulwa nguLalit eminyakeni edlule, kusuka kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ahlangane nentombi yakhe yamanje. U-Lalit wayezimisele ukuthola izithombe zobulili ezingcolile; wayechitha amahora amaningi eyibuka, ngenkathi intombi yakhe ingekho.
Ngokwezempilo, ababambe iqhaza abaphambili ku-ED impilo engeyinhle ngokomzimba, ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa kanye nezimo zempilo yengqondo njengokuxineka, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathala kanye nokucindezelwa. Kepha, isikole esisha somcabango sakha ukuxhumana phakathi kokuchayeka ngokweqile ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile kanye ne-ED. Ngenxa ye-inthanethi ye-porn boom, lesi simo asisavunyelwe emadodeni aneminyaka yobudala ephakathi kuphela ngokusebenza ngokomzimba oku-zero nempilo yobungcweti ecindezelayo. Ngenkathi izici ezinjengokungalingani kwempilo yempilo, ukhuluphele, izimo zezokwelapha ezinjengoshukela nezinye izingqinamba zendlela yokuphila zinendima kuzo
play, i-porn iya ngokuya igqame njengembangela.
Isazi sezengqondo esisebenza eMumbai u-Alaokika Bharwani seze wahlangana neziguli lapho izinto zobulili ezingcolile kufanele zisolwe. "Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingumbono ohlukaniswa kakhulu njengoba ukukhuthaza kuvela ngaphandle," kusho uBalwani. “Ngenkathi ubuka izithombe zocansi futhi uhambisa indlwabu, indoda inomuzwa wokuthi iyakwazi ukulawula. Kepha kumlingani, akufani, futhi lokho kuyamkhathaza, ”kusho yena, engeza ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi izithombe zocansi zitholakala kalula likhulisa ubukhulu benkinga.
Ukungasebenzi kuboniswa ngesikhathi sokuxhumana nomlingani hhayi ngenkathi ubuka i-porn. Labo abasebenzisa izithombe zocansi ngokweqile, bathola ukuxhumana okungathandani ngokomzwelo nangokobungqingili nomlingani wabo. Baqala bakuthola kunzima ukuphendula izidingo zabalingani babo kwezocansi, noma isenzo sangempela asihlali ngokwezinto ezilindelwe umlutha we-porn, zimshiye engenelisekile. Kukhona futhi abanye abacabanga ngokuthola ama-erections njengoba abonwa kuwebhu, futhi baba nokukhathazeka lapho bekuqhathanisa nalokho okungokoqobo.
“Ngithole amadoda akwazi ukulala nabesifazane bawo ngenkathi ebuka izithombe zocansi, uma kungenjalo awavuswa. Lokhu kuyihlazo kakhulu kumlingani futhi kungapela ukuphela kobudlelwano, ”kusho uPavan Sonar, udokotela wezifo zengqondo nosekelwa eMumbai.
Akusizi ukuthi, njengoba ucwaningo luye lwabonisa, ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile, lapho kuba umkhuba ophoqelekile, kusebenze amanethiwekhi obuchopho afanayo angaphansi njengoba kwenza utshwala nezinye izidakamizwa. “Ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kukhuphula izinga le-dopamine, futhi njengoba i-dopamine iyisisuli esihle sezinzwa, kwenza umuntu alangazelele kaningi lokho kuzizwa. Kancane kancane, lokhu kwakha umkhuba. Ingqondo iba ngaphansi kwaso. Ukuzibandakanya ocansini empilweni yangempela akunikezeli umuzwa ofanayo wokweneliseka, bese amadoda ekuthola kunzima ukwenza nabalingani bawo, ”kusho uSonar.
Ngenkathi ebuka izithombe zocansi futhi ehambisa indlwabu, indoda izwa sengathi iyabusa. Kepha kumlingani, akufani futhi lokho kuyamxaka
-Alaokika Bharwani, udokotela wezengqondo
Ezinyangeni eziyishumi nesishiyagalombili ezedlule, uDhananjaya uthathe isinqumo sokungayibukeli i-porn nokushaya indlwabu, kanti oneminyaka engu-33 ubudala une
anamathele ngokuqinile. “Bengibuke izinto ezinqala kakhulu ngisemncane, kwakunzima ukuthi ngithole
waqala empilweni yangempela, ”kusho yena. “Kwakungelula ukunciphisa. Kepha bekufanele nginciphise. Kwakungicindezela
impilo yomshado, umsebenzi wami nakho konke okunye, ”kusho yena.
Ngaphandle kokufunga i-porn, uDhananjaya wenza izinguquko ezinhle empilweni yakhe. Ushaya umthambo kathathu ngesonto,
ingabe isisindo, i-Cardio nokuzindla, futhi kudla okulinganiselayo kwafa. Uphuma ngaphezulu futhi uchithe isikhathi esincane ngaphakathi
phambi kwesikrini.
UShyam Mithiya, ongumeluleki ngezocansi nobelulekwa ngobudlelwano, uthi abaningi abaneminyaka engaphezulu kuka-20 no-30 kuye kuye lokho akubiza ngokuthi, “izimpawu ezicatshangelwe zokungasebenzi kahle”. “Abanayo i-ED, kepha besaba ukuthi kungenzeka babe nayo,” kusho uMithiya. “Isipiliyoni sabo siphumela ekwenzeni izinto ezinjengokuziqhathanisa namamodeli abonwa kumafilimu wezithombe zocansi. Futhi, kunalabo abaxakeke kakhulu futhi bazizwa bekhathazekile ngokwazi kwabo ukwanelisa abalingani babo ngenxa yokubuka izithombe zocansi. ”
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzitika ngokweqile kwe-porn kungapela ukuphela kokuxhumana ngokomzimba phakathi kwabalingani. “Ngempumelelo, kusho ukuthi indoda ikhohlwa ubuciko bokufunda ulimi lomlingani wayo,” uyanezela
Bharwani.
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