UBob uyabhala:
... ngiye ngakhonza i-Findom cishe iminyaka emihlanu manje. Ngiye nginomuntu wokushaya indlwabu kumacici akhe nama pics kusukela ekuqaleni. Manje ngifunde okuncane kule ndaba kodwa ngisenamandla uma nginomfazi, okwakugcina ngiphume ngosuku futhi angikwazi ukwenza lokho, nganginamahloni kakhulu. Into engikhathazayo ngisengakwazi ukufinyelela i-orgasm enamandla uma ngibona iziqeshana zayo, futhi ngibona izithombe zayo, ngiphinde ngivuswe lapho ngifunda enye yama-imeyili akhe kimi. Angiqondi ukuthi kungani ngingakwazi ukuhlukanisa lezi zinsuku futhi ngisenza lapho nginomfazi. Ngikhathazekile kakhulu ngalokhu kakhulu uDkt. Sue.
Ngesaba ukuthi unomlutha wezithombe zocansi uBob. Amadoda amaningi engiwakhulumayo abuyele eziphethweni uma kuziwa ekuziphatheni kwabo nasekugqiliseni yizwi elidlulela kakhulu kokubili kokungacabangi ngokobulili nokuyiqiniso. Kodwa lokhu yisibonelo esihle kakhulu sokulutha kwezilwane zakudala.
Ngokusobala i-intanethi ibambe iqhaza ezinkingeni eziningi ezithinta amadoda namuhla. I-Porn itholakale kalula kunalokho eyayivame ukuba khona futhi nakanjani ifinyeleleke kubantu kuminyaka encane nangaphansi; izingane ezincane njenge-12 ziye zaba izilingo zocansi.
Kodwa nangu umqashi, ukulutha kabi kocansi akukhona ku-DSM-5 (I-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) okuyinto ingqungquthela engcwele yengqondo kodwa sonke siyazi ukuthi ikhona futhi empeleni iyinkinga enkulu kakhulu ekhula minyaka yonke . I-caveat uma kuziwa kwi-DSM ukuthi ithonywe kakhulu embonini yezokwelapha futhi ixhala kakhulu ngokukhathazeka kokubhalisa kunokuba impela ibhekane nabo kanye nokuningi kolwazi kuqukethe. Isibonelo abesazizwa benesifo se-paraphilia (fetish) isimo sesifo sengqondo. [Yingakho ngeluleka noma ubani ukuba angene ezindlini zempilo yengqondo ukuze nje 'aphumelele' okuyisisekelo sakho
esikoleni ngoba i-99.9% yalokho ozoluthola ivela ezigulini zakho hhayi incwadi esebekhulile akuyona into engafanele - ngaphakathi kwesizathu ngokusobala.] Ngakho-ke ngenxa yokuthi akukho bufakazi besayense obungenza laba bantu abadala bajabule ngokwanele ukuba bafake ukushicilela kusishiya singenalo uhlelo lwezokwelapha 'nge-the-book'. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ayikwazi ukuphathwa. Kusho nje ukuthi ungumtholampilo uzama izindlela ezahlukene kuze kube yinto ethize. Ake sibheke ukuthi kungani ngicabanga ukuthi uBob unomlutha wezocansi.
Nakuba kungekho bufakazi besayense obungenza abafana abadala bajabule ukuthi sinalo ikhono lokubuka amathrendi futhi abaningi abanokholo kwengqondo nabahlengikazi baye benza izifundo ezilula nokubheka okwanele ukuba sikwazi ukukhumbula ukuthambekela okunye okuphindaphindiwe.
Ukungasebenzi kwe-Erectile - Ukungakwazi ukuthola i-erection ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-porn yakho ethandwayo noma ukungakwazi ukuthola i-erection ngokubheka umuntu wesithathu ubukhulu kunomfanekiso wesithombe ezimbili.
Ukuhlukaniswa / ukubuyisana - Ukungakwazi ukuqonda noma ukuzwelana nomlingani wakho ngaphezu kokungabi nesifiso sobulili kubo. Uqala ukuthola umlingani wakho ecasulayo ngoba ufuna i-porn yakho, i-porn yakho 'ikuthola.' Ngiye ngathola izinduna zitshela ukuthi nje ukushaya indlwabu kungcono ngoba uyazi ukuthi ungazicima kanjani kanti NGABE bengasekho.
Ungaphinda uhlale uphinde uhlale lapho uyeka ukuphuma nabangani noma uma ungashadile awunandaba nokuphola ngoba kungumsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu noma kukudonsa kude ne-porn. Futhi kwezinye izimo ezimbi kakhulu amadoda azohlala ekhaya evela emsebenzini ukuze abheke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokushaya indlwabu ngaleyo ndlela besongela ukuphila kwabo.
Izinkinga zokukhathazeka kwezenhlalakahle zingaphinde zihambisane nokulutha kabi kocansi. Umqondo wokuphuma nokusondela owesifazane uba kakhulu kangangokuthi bahlala ekhaya endaweni ephephile lapho bengenakuhanjiswa khona. Njengoba abaningi kangaka sekwephuzile ekuphileni izintombi kukhona izidakamizwa porn.
Kodwa ukukhubazeka kwe-erectile kuyinombolo eyodwa. Ngakho-ke esimweni sikaBob ungabona ukuthi akasakwazi ukuthola i-erection noma uma enza obuthakathaka noma engakwazi ukugcinwa lapho esesimweni nomfazi. Futhi unesizathu esihle sokukhathazeka.
Manje kufanele sengeze kwenye into, iqiniso lokuthi lobu ubudlelwano be-D & s. Lokhu kuqale kungenacala ngokwanele. Uthola iDomme, umthengele iziqeshana, wakhe ubudlelwano futhi akutshele ukuthi ungenzi lutho ngaphandle kokubuka iziqeshana zakhe noma ulalele imisindo yakhe lapho uphuma ungena kwenye into. Lokhu kudala izingqinamba ezimbili, ukuzimisela kwakhe ukwenza njengoba etsheliwe nokuphindwaphindwa kokubuka iziqeshana zakhe nokujezisa okubeka isimo esihle sobuchopho obuluthayo noma ngabe i-Domme iyayazi noma cha. Hhayi ukuthi lokhu kungumsebenzi wakhe kepha uma enendaba nesikhokhelo sakhe kufanele abe nohlelo ngalolu hlobo lodaba kepha ukwethembeka ngokuphelele amadoda amaningi awalandeli imiyalo eya kulelo banga. Bayathenga, baphake kancane bese bayakhukhuleka. Kepha abanye, njengoBob, baba yizilwane ezifuywayo ezizinikele ezizokwenza noma yini eziyitshelwayo.
Izindaba ezimbi yindlela kuphela yokukhipha umlutha wezocansi ukuyeka ukubheka izithombe ezingcolile. Ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi kunendlela elula kodwa lokhu kuyinkinga yokuziphatha okusho ukuphula ukuziphatha. Awukwazi ukuphula ukuziphatha uma usabambe iqhaza ekuziphatheni.
UBob unenkinga ngoba indlela yodwa yokuthi abuyele emuva ku 'ngokoqobo ngokocansi' ukuthi ayeke ukuxhumana noDomme wakhe futhi ashintshe ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ngakho-ke kufinyelela esinqumweni, qhubeka ukhonza i-Domme bese uhlala lapho usumlutha khona manje kanye nokuzijabulisa enikeza noma ukumisa wonke othintana naye futhi asebenze ekungeneni kabusha ezweni langempela. Kuthatha isikhathi njengoba nje kwenza ukuba ube umlutha futhi abantu abaningi abafuni ukwenza umsebenzi ohilelekile.
Ngikubone lokhu ngamakhulu amaklayenti kule minyaka futhi akuyona into elula ukukhahlela ngoba izwa kahle. Kodwa umlutha wezocansi kuyinkinga yangempela futhi engathí sina futhi kungenza ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumlingani wakho, umndeni wakho nabangani bakho. Uma uzizwa wehla emgwaqweni oya kumlutha wezocansi umphakamiso wami ukuma manje futhi uguqule izinyathelo zakho ngaphambi kokumba umgodi ojulile. Ungakwazi ukulungisa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa uma uhlala lapho isikhathi eside, kuzothatha isikhathi eside ukulungisa kamuva.
Uma uthola ukuthi ukhathazekile noma unenkinga yomphakathi khona-ke ngizokuphakamisa ukuthi ubone umqondo wezifo zengqondo futhi uxoxe ngezindlela zokwelapha ukuze sikusize ngaphezu kokululekwa kwempilo yengqondo evela kumhlinzeki ogxile ekubhekaneni ngokocansi nasezicansi endaweni yangakini . Akufanelekile ukulahlekelwa abathandekayo bakho noma ukungena esiphundu sokuxhumana kocansi kwabantu.
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