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"Ingabe izithombe ezingcolile zingakulungele?" - Ukuzindla Ngocansi
Siyabonga ngombuzo wakho. I-Porn iyathakazelisa. Kodwa-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi singene ezintweni, kubalulekile ukugqamisa ukuthi i-porn isitatimende esikhulu sesambulela. Kubhekiswa ezintweni eziningi ezahlukahlukene.
Kubandakanya izincwadi ezivusa inkanuko, izincwadi ezilalelwayo, izithombe, amavidiyo, izingxoxo ezibukhoma nokuningi. Okuqukethwe kwalezi zinto kungasukela ekubukeni ngamehlo kwezocansi phakathi kwezithandani kuya kumavidiyo abeka obala kakhulu angabandakanya izenzo ezehlisayo zocansi, ukuboniswa okungalungile kobulili, kanye nezinye izinkinki noma izifonyo ezingezona ezejwayelekile.
Ngaphandle kokucabanga kwakho, uma abalingisi bevumile, konke okuhleli ngaphansi kwalesi sambulela kulungile impela. Kulungile ngokuphelele ngokususelwa entweni eyodwa - ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngayo. Kwabanye, izinto ezeqisa ngokweqile ziningi kakhulu, futhi zeqa imingcele yabo yokuziphatha. Kwabanye, izinto ezithambile azanele, futhi azibajabulisi.
Ngakho-ke okokuqala, ukuthi ngabe i-porn yinhle noma imbi kuwe kungancika kuhlobo luni lwe-porn othanda ukuqala ngalo. Bese kuba khona esinye isici okufanele usicabangele - ingakanani i-porn kuphazamisa impilo yakho futhi kubumba okulindelwe emhlabeni wangempela kwezocansi. Lolu uhlangothi lwe-porn ongase uyazi kangcono. Uhlangothi 'olubi'. Ngenkathi kukhona uhlangothi oluhle lwe-porn futhi (okuningi kulokhu kamuva), i- uhlangothi olubi lungaba yinkinga impela.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi i-porn iyisikhuthazo esikhulu. Ikhukhula izindlela zomvuzo zobuchopho bakho ziye ezingeni elingafinyeleleki emhlabeni wemvelo. Njengoba ubuchopho bethu bufakwe izintambo ukufuna imivuzo - ukudla, ubulili, ukuxhumana nomphakathi njll - i-porn ifana nokuthola ukudla okuyisihlanu lapho ukwazi ukuthenga okusemqoka kuphela. Kumnandi mega futhi ukuyibuka kukhipha inqwaba ye-dopamine.
Njalo lapho othile ebona ividiyo entsha enezenzo ezahlukahlukene zocansi ezidlalayo, kukhishwa i-dopamine eningi. Izindlela zethu zemivuzo zithanda okuqukethwe okusha kanye noveli, njengokuhlangabezana nenkathi yangemva komshado nesithandwa. Ekuqaleni kuyajabulisa, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi injabulo iyaphela. Inqubo efanayo, kepha nge-porn le nqubo yenzeka ngokushesha. Uma uskrola isayithi lezocansi, ubona amakhulu amavidiyo phakathi kwemizuzu. Uyabona ukuthi kungaba umlutha kanjani, akunjalo?
Kulabo ukusetshenziswa kwabo kwezocansi sekungalawuleki, kuyinto embi kuphela uma kubenza bacindezeleke futhi kube nomthelela empilweni yabo ebanzi ngendlela engafanele. La maphuzu amabili okugcina abaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abantu babheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengezimbi kusukela ekuqalisweni futhi bangacabanga ukuthi umlingani wabo (noma bona ngokwabo) unenkinga ngokusebenzisa nje noma ukuthembela kuzo. Kulungile ukuthembela, kepha uma kubangela ezinye izinkinga, futhi ungazithandi lezi ezinye izinkinga, kulapho izinto ziba yinkinga kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, zingaba yini lezi zinkinga ezibanzi? I-Porn ixhunyaniswe nezinkinga eziningi zocansi ezifana nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, ukungakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm / ejaculate nesifiso sobulili esiphansi, konke okwenzeka maqondana nobulili obuhlukanisiwe. Kwenzekani ukuthi, izimpendulo zakho zocansi ezifana nokuvusa imizwa kanye ne-orgasm zifakwa esimeni sokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nge-porn.
Okusho ukuthi, ilaptop esiswini sakho, ukunyakaza kwesandla esiqinile nokusheshayo noma kweminwe ezithweni zakho zobulili, isikrini ebusweni bakho, futhi nokuqukethwe yi-porn, konke kuba yizinto ezibalulekile zokufeza ukuvusa ucansi kanye ne-orgasm. Futhi njengoba ubuchopho bethu buthanda imivuzo, buhlanganisa zonke lezi zinto nalowo mklomelo omkhulu olethwa ngocansi.
Kwabaningi, i-porn ingaxhunyaniswa namandla abo okuthola i-horny ne-orgasm yokuthi lapho ucansi oluhlukanisiwe luzungeza, kunzima ukuzwa isifiso, ukufeza ukuvuka noma ube ne-orgasm. Njengoba ngishilo, umhlaba wemvelo awukhuthazi indlela yakho yomvuzo njenge-porn.
Ngaphezulu kwalokhu, njengoba sintula ngokungathí sina imfundo yezocansi eqinile kubumnandi nocansi uqobo, abantu abaningi bafunda ngezocansi kusuka ku-porn, bakhohlwe ukuthi i-porn iyokuzijabulisa hhayi ubulili bomhlaba wangempela. Imvamisa akukho nqubo yemvume ekhonjisiwe, ukuntuleka kokwehluka komzimba, ukugxila enjabulweni yabesilisa, ukucatshangelwa ngokobulili futhi kungacatshangelwa ucansi oluphephile.
Abantu abasebenzisa i-porn ukubumba ukuqonda kwabo ukuthi ucansi kufanele lubukeke kanjani basengozini yokubeka okulindelwe okungenangqondo ngokwabo nakubalingani babo bezocansi. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kocansi lwangempela nocansi lokuzijabulisa.
Lolu uhlangothi olumnyama lwe-porn. Kungaholela ehlazweni ngokwehluleka ukufeza okulindelwe umuntu, ukwaneliseka okuncane kusuka ocansini oluhlukanisiwe, izingxabano ebudlelwaneni, kanye nokuhlukunyezwa okuningi kocansi. Akuyona into engaqondakali ukuthi ukwanda kokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi kuthathe ukwanda okukhulu ngokwanda kwe-intanethi.
Ngakho-ke, ungahle ukhululeke ngokuphelele kuleli phuzu. Ngaphandle kokucabanga kwakho noma kunjalo, kukhona nohlangothi oluhle lwe-porn. Uma ucophelela futhi unolwazi lokuthi ulivumela kanjani lithonye indlela ophila ngayo nokulindela ucansi, empeleni ungazuza okuningi ngalo!
Ungasebenzisa i-porn nomlingani wakho ukunenza nibe nobabili esimweni sengqondo, ukuzama okuthile okuhlukile noma ukukhuthaza ukuxhumana ngezinkanuko zobulili. Ungayisebenzisa wedwa njengesisetshenziswa esivusa inkanuko futhi kungaba yindlela enhle yokujwayela izifiso zocansi njengoba ukubuka abanye abantu benza ucansi kungasusa amahloni okuzenza umuntu ocansini.
Ngezinga elithile, futhi kungaba ngumthombo wemfundo njengoba abantu bengafunda ngama-kinks ne-fetish, izikhundla ezintsha, namanye amakhono ezocansi. Kukhona futhi isiko elisha le-porn elidala nelidlulile elibizwa nge-porn feminist. Lokhu kubonisa injabulo esatshalaliswa ngokulinganayo futhi kuqinisekisa ukuthi abalingisi abathintekayo bakhokhelwa futhi bavunyelwa kuzo zonke izenzo zocansi ezikule vidiyo. Uma lokhu kuzwakala kuyinto yakho, zama i-Bellesa noma i-XXConfessions.
Ngakho-ke isimilo sendaba, noma ngabe i-porn yinhle noma imbi kuwe kuzoya ngokuthi uyisebenzisa kanjani, uthathani kuyo nokuthi ikuthinta kanjani. Uma uzicabangela wena, umngane noma umlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi uphazamisana nohlangothi lwayo olunenkinga enkulu, bheka izinsizakusebenza ezifana Ubuchopho bakho ku-Porn noma bhukha iseshini nge Umeluleki ocansini. Ungahle uqinisekiswe ukuthi ayikho inkinga, noma ungaqala ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuvumelanisa imikhuba yakho yezocansi ibe sezingeni elisizayo, hhayi ekulimazeni wena.
Wonke umsebenzisi we-porn unolwazi oluhlukile. Ngeke kube khona usayizi owodwa olingana konke. Ngakho-ke, ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, i-porn ingaba yinhle kuwe. Kungenzeka futhi kube kubi kuwe. Njengezimpendulo zami eziningi, impendulo ngu… kuya.
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