Bheka uma ukushaya isikhumba kuba inkinga enkulu
Ngo-Markham Heid, uJulayi 16, i-2014
Iyini inombolo yakho? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ushaya indlwabu kabili ngeviki noma kabili ngosuku, mhlawumbe unesibalo esinqunyiwe ekhanda lakho uma kuziwa ngesikhathi sokuthanda kwakho okuthandayo. Qhathanisa noma udlule lokho kumaka, futhi uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi uyayenza yini kakhulu.
Nansi izindaba ezinhle: Ayikho inamba yemilingo uma kuziwa emkhondweni onempilo wokushaya indlwabu, kusho uDan Drake, umlutha wezokwelapha oqinisekisiwe wezocansi kanye nomeluleki wezempilo. "Kodwa ngokuvamile ushaya indlwabu, akusona inkinga uze uqale ukuphazamisa impilo yakho ngezindlela ezimbi," kuchaza uDkt.
Ngakho-ke, ukuvivinya umzimba okungenangqondo kuphenduka nini ukulimala okulimazayo? Nakhu izimpawu zomzimba nezingokwengqondo ezingase zibonise ukuthi udinga ukufaka isandla sakho bese unikeza i-boner yakho i-breather ende.
Uzilimaza wena. Yebo, abanye abafana bahlukunyezwa kuze kube yilapho belimala, kusho uTobias Köhler, MD, udokotela wezokwelapha e-Southern Illinois University. Lokhu kulimala kungaba yinto enobumnene njengoba isikhumba sekhanda, noma isimo esibi kakhulu njengesifo sikaPeyronie-isakhi se-plaque emgodini we-penis yakho engabangelwa ukusebenzisa ingcindezi enkulu ngenkathi isishaya, uDkt. Köhler uyachaza. (Ngokuyisisekelo, ungakwazi ukukhukhumeza inkukhu yakho kakhulu.) Uma uzilimaza, udinga ukusika, uyaxwayisa.
Ithinta ubuhlobo bakho noma umsebenzi wakho. Mhlawumbe uhlala ngoLwesihlanu ubusika ukuze uphendule esikhundleni sokuhlangana nabangani. Noma usuphuzile emihlanganweni ngoba uzinikela ngesandla egumbini lamadoda. Uma uthola umkhuba wakho ukulimaza impilo yakho yomphakathi noma umsebenzi wakho-noma ukuvimbela ukuba ungaphumi futhi uthole umlingani-lezo yizibonakaliso ozidingayo ukuze ulungise isimiso sakho, kusho uDkt.
Unenkinga ejaculating. Abanye abantu abashaya indlwabu eningi ngokusebenzisa izinhlobo ezithile zezinhlanhla-bathi, izigaba ezithile ze-porn ezihambisana nokunyakaza kwesandla esithile-thola ukuthi ngeke ziphinde ziphinde zijabule uhlobo olufanayo lokuzijabulisa ngesikhathi socansi, kusho uDkt. Köhler. Ngokuyinhloko, ukukuxosha kufundisa ukuthi ubuchopho bakho nomzimba wakho uphenduke kuphela ekuphenduleni isenzo sakho se-solo, futhi uhlangabezana nezinkinga zokuziqeda noma ukuqeda nomlingani wangempela wokuphila. "Uma lokho kwenzeka, unenkinga edinga ukubhekana nayo," kusho uDkt. Köhler.
Awukwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngakho. Uma uvame ukuzizwa uphazanyiswa yimicabango yokuthi uzoyikhetha nini noma kanjani ngokulandelayo, lokho kuyinkomba enamandla yokuthi ubhekene nokuziphatha okubi, kusho uDrake.
Uzame ukunciphisa, kodwa uhlulekile. UDkt Drake uyachaza: "Enye yezinqubo eziyinhloko zanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulutha umuthi ukulahleka kokulawula," kusho uDkt. Njengenkinga yokubhema noma yokugembula, uma ungeke ukwazi ukulawula ukujwayela umkhuba wakho uma uqaphela ukuthi uphumelele, lokho kuyinkinga.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokhu, kunezikhathi ezithile lapho ukushaya indlwabu kungemqondo omuhle. Isibonelo, uDkt. Köhler nabalingani bakhe bathole ukuthi ukwenza usuku ngalunye ngamaviki e-2 kunciphisa isibalo samadoda somuntu cishe ngamaphesenti angu-50. "Uma wena nomlingani uzama ukukhulelwa, ukushaya indlwabu kungabangela ubuhlungu amathuba akho," kuchaza.
Uma uqaphela ukuthi unenkinga, yini okufanele uyenze ngakho? U-Drake uthi kunezinkambiso ezimbili eziyinhloko zokubhekana nalolu daba: Ukuzisika kwi-turkey ebandayo, noma "indlela yokunciphisa ukulimala", okuhlanganisa ukusika umkhuba wakho ngenkathi uvumela ukuqhuma kwesinye isikhathi. Ungase uzame wena ngokwakho, kodwa uma uhluleka, ukubona umeluleki noma umeluleki wezokwelapha ungakusiza ukuba uhlele uhlelo lwemidlalo oluhlakaniphile, kusho uDkt.
"Akukho lutho olubi noma olunenkinga ngokushaya indlwabu," uyashesha ukwengeza. "Kodwa uma kuyingozi empilweni yakho, khona-ke kudingeka uyiphathe njengokungathi uzomunye umkhuba omubi."
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