Ngu-Anna O'Rourke (isixhumanisi esihlokweni)
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayamukela noma cha, i-porn idlala indima ekuphileni kwabantu base-Ireland.
Asikaze sikwazi ukufinyelela ezinhlobonhlobo zezithombe ezingcolile njengamanje, ngenxa ye-intanethi, kodwa lokho kusho ukuthini kithi?
Sesanda kwenza abanye ukumba ukuthola ngemikhuba yezocansi yabafundi bethu futhi sifunde ukuthi ngaphezu kwengxenye yenu (amaphesenti angama-55) avuma ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile, kungaba yedwa noma nomlingani. Lokhu akumangazanga kakhulu, kepha okusimangazile bekungolunye ucwaningo esiluthole kuleli sonto.
A Ucwaningo lwase-US ikhombise ukuxhumana okuqinile phakathi kwamadoda abebukela i-porn kaningi nalabo ababika ukungabi nesifiso sobulili, kanye nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile - kepha futhi kukhombisile ukuthi ukushayela kwezocansi kwabesifazane bekungeyona into embi.
Uma lokhu kungadlula, thina bantu besifazane singabuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuze kube yilapho izinkomo zifika ekhaya ngaphandle kwemiphumela ngenkathi amadoda ebeka engcupheni ukushayela kwabo ubulili uma bezitika kakhulu ngakho.
Uchwepheshe wezocansi uTeresa Bergin utshele yena ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso kubantu base-Ireland.
"Amanye amadoda anenkinga yangempela ukulawula impilo yawo yansuku zonke ngenxa yesikhathi asichitha ezithombeni ezingcolile," esho.
"Kwamanye amadoda, akuyona inkinga yokulutha kodwa noma kunjalo kunomthelela emandleni abo okuvuswa ngocansi nokuxhumana nabalingani babo."
“Lapho abantu besilisa beshaya indlwabu ezithombeni ezingcolile njalo, isekethe labo elivusa inkanuko liyaxhunywa kuleso sikhuthazo. Ukuvusa abantu ngaphakathi akukaze kufane nobukhulu bezithombe zocansi ngakho-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyaphela ukwanele. Lapho lokhu 'kuxhuma kabi' kwenzeka, indoda ingathola ukuncipha kwesifiso sayo sobulili nomlingani wayo noma iqala iPIED, i-porn ibangele ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile.
Uveze ukuthi ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile ngokwesiko kuhlotshaniswa nabesilisa abaphakathi noma abadala, manje usekubona kwabesilisa abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili nantathu.
"Manje lokhu sekuyinkinga ejwayelekile kakhulu phakathi kwabesilisa abasebancane abakhule benezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezitholakala kalula ocingweni noma kuthebhulethi," esho.
"Empeleni, ukuvusa kwabo ucansi sekube nzima ezintweni abazisebenzisayo."
Kepha uma ucabanga ukuthi abantu besifazane bavaliwe lapho kuziwa ngocansi, uzobe uphutha.
Ngokusho kukaTeresa, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bahlushwa ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokusebenza ngenxa yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
"Abesifazane bavame ukusho ukuthi bakhathazekile ngokuthi umlingani wabo ubaqhathanisa nezinkanyezi ezingcolile ezibukwayo, noma bazolindela ukwenza okufanayo," esho.
"Uma lokhu kungaxoxwa ngakho, kungenzeka ukuthi kube yinkinga enkulu phakathi kwabalingani."
Kodwa ukwethembeka kungase kungabi lula kakhulu imibhangqwana yase-Ireland.
“Sisabhekene nobunzima kuleli ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zocansi,” kusho uTeresa.
"Futhi, ngoba manje izithombe zobulili ezingcolile sezisetshenziswa kabanzi futhi zenziwa zabajwayelekile, abantu bangase bangazazi njengezinto ezingenzeka ebunzimeni bezocansi - 'kuyizithombe zocansi kuphela, uqinisekile ukuthi wonke umuntu uyayibuka'. ”
Wayenezeluleko kunoma ngubani okhathazekile ngemikhuba yezocansi yomlingani wakhe noma umphumela we-porn ebuhlotsheni babo.
“Khuluma naye. Vulani ingxoxo ngezinto ezikukhathazayo bese nizama ukukhuluma nonke ngalokho okushiwo yizithombe zobulili ezingcolile kini nobabili nokuthi kungabuthinta kanjani ubuhlobo benu bobulili. Zama ukungasoli, ukusola noma ukugxeka.
"Uma umlingani wakho ehlangabezana nobunzima be-erectile, mkhuthaze ukuthi abonane nodokotela wakhe futhi uma kunesidingo, funa usizo lokwelashwa, futhi okungcono kakhulu, hamba naye."
Ungathola okuningi ngomsebenzi kaTeresa ku Sextherapy.ie.
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