LINKA KU-ARTICLE Ephreli 27, 2016 ngo UDkt. Barbara Winter
Umeluleki wezocansi, uDkt Barbara Winter uthi intsha eyimilutha ye-porn ingaqhamuka nezinkinga zokusondelana futhi inenkinga yokuxhumana nomlingani wayo.
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Ezinsukwini ezimbili ezedlule indodana yami esanda kuba yindodana eneminyaka engu-18 yeza kimi yangibuza… “mama, kungani ugxile kwezocansi ,?” njengoba ezwe ngami kaningi ekhuluma ngokuhle, okubi nokubi kanye nokukhathazeka kwesiko lethu ngocansi lwedijithali, ukuthanda kwami nokho ukuqhekeka kwe-oculus. Okuningi kwalokhu kube kwakamuva. Ngosuku olulandelayo ngesikhathi sekilasi lakhe lesisekelo, wamangala (noma kungenjalo) ukuthola kimi isithombe sekhava yeposi yomnenke Isikhathi enesihloko esithi "PORN, ... kanye nosongo lwegciwane."
Uyazibuza ukuthi ngiyadla yini? Mhlawumbe. Yebo, ngenza njalo cishe njalo-ehhovisi lami.
| Njengoba imilutha ihamba, lona ungashesha futhi uthukuthele. I-porn idlangile-ayaziwa, ayithengiseki (mahhala ezimeni eziningi) futhi, ihambelana kakhulu, iyatholakala. |
Okwesikhashana manje, ngibone ngifika ehhovisi lami inqwaba yamadoda, amadoda amadala amadala, okusebenza kwawo kocansi kulinganiselwe. Okusho ukuthi, i-penise yabo ayisebenzisi okungenani hhayi indlela abafuna ngayo uma bekhona nabantu bangempela. Futhi nakuba amadoda asebekhulile angase alethe ukwelashwa ngobunzima ekamelweni ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwezenhlalakahle, izidakamizwa, izinkinga ze-Asperger nezinye izinto zokusondelana, izinombolo ziyanda futhi ngokuvamile i-porn iyona engumphumela.
Ukuhluleka ukuthola noma ukugcina ukulungiswa nomuntu wangempela kubonakala ehhovisi labacwaningi bezocansi. Isifo se-erectile esibangelwa i-PIED-Porn-njengoba sesanda kubhalwe, sesibe sesinye ukulutha ukuziphatha or inqubo yokulutha. Kuyabonakala emayini.
Ubuchwepheshe buvame ukusolwa kulezi zinsuku ngokuvuselela ubuchopho bethu kanye nokuphazamisa ukuxhumana kwethu. Manje kubonakala sengathi ukukhathazeka kwethu ngezindaba zedijithali kuthinta ukusebenza kwethu ekamelweni. Futhi ngenkathi le nkinga ibike okwesikhashana manje, izinombolo zibonakala zikhula.
Ngokwencazelo, ukulutheka kubandakanya izinto ezimbili — ukubekezelelana nokuhoxa. Ukubekezelelana kubhekisela emcabangweni wokuthi sidinga inani elikhulayo lezinto ukufeza umphumela ofanayo. Ukuhoxa kusho ukuthi ngokususwa kwento sinolunye uhlobo lwezimpawu ezikhubazayo size sibuyele ekuqaleni. Kokubili kuhilela ukuncika komzimba. Ukujwayela — into emisha, ukumangala, nokukhathazeka, kukhuphula i-dopamine yobuchopho — futhi izindlela zethu zenjabulo eyisisekelo kanye nomvuzo zingafinyeleleka noma kuphi, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Le nqubo ifaniswe nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa ezifana ne-cocaine. I-Porn iyisidakamizwa esiyiphupho futhi ukuhamba usuka kwesinye isikrini uye kwesinye yingxenye eyingozi ngoba kukhulisa amandla okukhuthaza okukhulu futhi kube nzima ukuguqula isimo. Akukona okwenzekayo ezindlini zokulala zangempela nabantu bangempela.
| Ngaphambi kokuthi laba bafana babe nethuba langempela ekusondelaneni bakwi-intanethi futhi abanye babo baye bakhuthazeka ukusebenza ngokungalingani. |
Njengoba imilutha ihamba, lona ungashesha futhi uthukuthele. I-porn idlangile-ayaziwa, ayithengiseki (mahhala ezimeni eziningi) futhi, ihambelana kakhulu, iyatholakala. Belinda Luscombe, umbhali we Isikhathi i-athikili, yaphawula izibalo ezimbili zokutholwa kokuqala kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile; uthe izifundo ezimbili ezihlukene zathola ukuthi iminyaka eyi-12 ne-13.
Sibone inani elikhulayo ngaphakathi kwesibalo sabantu kanye nalabo asebeqale ukunyakaza kwe-porn. Uthisha we-Gary Wilson, uthisha we-anatomy ne-physiology, (yourbrainonporn.com) Ted-X Xoxa ku-2012 enesihloko I-Great Porn Experiment Namuhla kunemibono engaphezu kwezigidi eziyisithupha. I-thesis yakhe — i-porn ithinta ama-neuropathways, idala ukuzihlukanisa futhi Isikhathi izingqungquthela eziqakathekile, zishintsha "ubuningi bezinsizwa." I-Gabe Deem, i-28, ngumsunguli weReboot Nation. Njengoba esengumlutha we-inthanethi ye-porn esemncane usefundisa amadoda ukuthi angabuyekeza kanjani ubuchopho bawo. Uyasazi kahle isidingo sesivinini futhi akhombe ukuthi ake azizwe njenge-zombie ngenkathi ehamba umkhuhlane obandayo, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuze kuguqulwe isimilo nakho konke ukulandelana kwezifo zomzimba, (isimo esingumphumela wesifo esedlule lokho kuhambisana nakho.) Ngenkathi inqubo ingahle ibonakale (asikacwaningi kuze kube manje) izinsizwa zizodinga usizo lokuhamba ngayo kanye nehlazo elihambisana nakho nokungafaneleki kwalo.
Umlutha we-porn akuwona umlutha wobulili walabafana futhi ngenkathi amaqembu athile eshiwo ngaphambili angaba sengozini enkulu ukululama kungaba lula kwabanye. Kunokusolwa kanye nobufakazi obungaqondakali bokuthi ukululama kwabesilisa asebekhulile kushesha kakhulu kunokwabantu besilisa ngokwengxenye ngoba bayazi ukuthi ubudlelwane bocansi nomuntu wangempela bubukeka kanjani futhi bunjani. Zingakwazi ukubuyela kusisekelo ngokushesha ngoba zinakho.
Ngaphambi kokuthi laba bafana babe nethuba langempela ekusondelaneni bakwi-intanethi futhi abanye babo baye bakhuthazeka ukusebenza ngokungalingani. Lesi simo asibaniki ithuba lokukwazi ukuthi ngabe bayakwazi yini ukuba nobuhlobo obuseduze obungahle kwenzeke njalo lapho behlangana ngokocansi okokuqala. Ukuhluleka, ukwenqatshwa, nokungahambi kahle nokunye okuningi okuvame kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala lapho okuhlangenwe nakho okubi khona. Kudingeka bafunde ukuthi bangaba nobulili ngaphandle kwefantasy futhi bahambisane kakhulu nomlingani wabo. Badinga ukufunda ukuthi bangaba nobudlelwano obuphilile nemizimba yabo nezocansi, kungenjalo, ezocansi. Ubulili buzovame ukuhilela okuthile okufisa; Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyisidakamizwa esiyinkimbinkimbi futhi naphezu kokunyakaza kwamanje ku-mindfulness kubonakala sengathi kusekhona kwenye indawo.
Enkokhisweni ka-Ephreli 23 yeVanity Fair, uPrince ucashunwe ethi "" Ngicabanga ukuthi kwakukhona uhlelo oluthile lokungenza ngibe nzima futhi ngisheshe. Nganikezwa umagazini i-Playboy, futhi kwakukhona izincwadi ezivusa inkanuko. Yathathwa kalula. Kwakunzima kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi. Ngicabanga ukuthi ibuthinte kakhulu ubulili bami. ”
Ngubani owazi kahle ukuthi indodana yami yayenzani ngaleso sikhathi lapho ngiyithumela leyo ngxenye phakathi nosuku lwesikole. Siyazi ukuthi izinkulungwane zeminyaka zixhunywe ku-24/7; ukungena ngemvume kufana nokuvulwa. Ngenkathi amantombazane kungenzeka ukuthi abe ku-Instagram, kungenzeka ukuthi ubebheka isimo sakhe sefantasy (ibhola okungukuthi) noma ethumela iSnapchat. Ngithemba okungenani ukuthi yena, noma omunye wabantu afunda nabo, bebengaboni izithombe ezingcolile.
- Bona okuningi ku: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-porn-is-hijacking-the-sex-lives-of-our-young-men-bbab/#comment-2358711
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