Abanye abantu abakholelwa ekuluthweni kocansi, kepha ngiyibonile imiphumela yayo kuqala.
By Angela Gregory Agasti 19, 2016 (isixhumanisi esihlokweni sokuqala)
Kukhona ukwanda kwamadoda (futhi ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane) abaqaphela ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwabo kwe-intanethi ngokobulili akuphethwe ukulawula, kusho i-NHS ngokocansi nobudlelwane be-psychotherapist Angela Gregory
Eminyakeni eyi-16 eyedlule ngiye ngasebenza isikhathi esigcwele njenge-NHS ngokocansi nobudlelwane be-psychotherapist, ngiphatha amadoda nabesifazane ngezinkinga zobulili ezahlukene. Izinkinga zobulili zingaba nesayensi yezokwelapha noma yengqondo noma ingxube yomabili.
Emtholampilo wethu sibona abantu abadala kusukela eminyakeni engu-18 kuya phambili.
Ukukhubazeka kwe-Erectile kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nesifo se-cardio vascular, isifo sikashukela, ukuhlinzwa kwesifo sofuba, ukulimala komgogodla kanye ne-multiple sclerosis. Kodwa eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule kuye kwaba nokwanda kwezinsizwa ezibhekiswe emtholampilo wethu we-NHS nge-erectile disys function and ejaculation, futhi ngokushesha ngaqaphela ukuthi umkhuba wabo wesigqoko eceleni kwendlela yabo yokusebenzisa i-porn inthanethi kwakuyisici esibalulekile ekusebenzeni kwabo ngokocansi ubunzima.
Kuyakhathaza futhi ukuthi kukhona ukwanda kwamadoda (futhi kwesinye isikhathi nabesifazane) ababona ukuthi ukusebenzisa kwabo i-intanethi ocansini "bekungalawuleki", kulimaza ubudlelwano babo futhi, empeleni, kuthathe izimpilo zabo.
Eminyakeni eyi-10 eyedlule kubonakale inguquko yedijithali esize ukuxhumana okusheshayo; Amasiko aseNtshonalanga akhiwa kakhulu yi-intanethi, amafoni ahlakaniphile kanye nemithombo yezokuxhumana. Nge-inthanethi ukuxhumana kocansi nezithombe zocansi kuyatholakala futhi akaziwa; kudale umongo wamasiko ofundisa abantu abasha ngalokho “okujwayelekile”. Sezadlula izinsuku lapho ukuvezwa kwethu kokuthile okucacile kwakuyisigaba sezingubo zangaphansi zekhathalogogo likagogo wakho iLittlewoods noma ukusakazwa kwekhasi eliphakathi labomagazini abadala njengo Playboy noPenthouse.
Kwenzekani lapho ubuchopho bentsha buhlangana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinejubane elikhulu? Hhayi-ke singaqala ukuqagela ngemiphumela yesikhathi eside, kepha esikwaziyo ukuthi njengabantu sonke singathola imizwa yokungafaneleki, ukuthi ezingeni elithile asilingani uma kuqhathaniswa nezinye. Kepha abantu abasha basengozini enkulu futhi ku-inthanethi bangabuka i-kaleidoscope yezithombe zocansi kanye nokwenziwa kwesitayela sama-Olimpiki ukuze baziqhathanise nakho, ngokuchofoza okukodwa nje.
Ucansi lwezocansi lususelwa ekusebenzeni, ekungeneni kwanoma iyiphi i-orifice ene-orgasm eqinisekisiwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokho okungakhulumi ngakho wuthando, ukugconwa, inkanuko, inkanuko noma imizwa. Umlayezo ucace bha, kunzima, ukungena okusheshayo kufana nobulili obukhulu futhi noma yikuphi "ukwehluleka" komuntu siqu ukukala kungathunyelwa ngokushesha kumasayithi okuxhumana nabantu.
Abanye bazothola izinkinga zokwakhiwa kanye nezinkinga zokuzikhandla ngenxa yokusebenza ukukhathazeka noma ukukhishwa kwengqondo ngokwemvelo nangokwemvelo ngenxa yokushaya indlwabu. Ngokwe-website www.yourbrainonporn.org umfana osemncane uma eqala ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingase zithathe isikhathi eside ukuze ziguqule umphumela wesimo sokuvuselela okuvusa amadlingozi. Ukukubeka ngokucacile, kuzodingeka bafunde ukuthola intombi noma isoka labo sexy noma ubulili beqiniso langempela, kuvusa.
Funda kabanzi: Zama ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - kwashintsha impilo yami
Emkhakheni wezocansi / umuthi wezocansi kunempikiswano enkulu ngobukhona nokusetshenziswa kwegama elithi "ukulutha ngokocansi". Eminyakeni eminingi edlule kwakukhona umbiko wephephandaba mayelana nomlingisi wase-Hollywood A-list owayefuna usizo "lokulutha ngokocansi", futhi ngiyakhumbula ngicabanga ukuthi kuzwakala njengezaba zokungathembeki kwakhe. Kodwa-ke, eminyakeni embalwa edlule ngiye ngazibonela ngawami umonakalo owenziwa ngumuntu ocansini / i-porn eku-inthanethi kubantu abasha nasekhonweni labo lokwakha nokugcina ubudlelwane bezocansi obuseduze nobuthandwa njalo. Futhi ungalenzi iphutha, abantu asebekhulile nabo basengozini efanayo yokuthola izithombe ezicacile nezocansi online.
Ngaphansi kwalesi sibonelo somuntu oneminyaka engu-19 onomuzwa wokuthi impilo yakhe igxile ekubukeni izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye namakamelo okuxoxa ngocansi:
- Uzwa ukuthi izinkinga zakhe zaqala ngenkathi eneminyaka engu-13 yena waziswa ngezithombe ezicacile kuyi-intanethi ngumngane wakhe wesikole.
- Usebenzisa ifoni yakhe ehlakaniphile njengamanje ushaya indlwabu izikhathi ezinhlanu ngosuku, ekamelweni lakhe, emsebenzini futhi ngezinye izikhathi ezindaweni zomphakathi.
- Uye waba nobuhlobo bobulili obulodwa kepha lokhu kwaphela lapho ethola ukuthi naye ube nezocansi eziningi ezithandana nabalingani abahlangana nabo kuyi-intanethi.
- Ubuye waqala ukubona ama-escorts.
- Akavamile ukuzihlanganisa nabangane futhi uzizwa ehlukanisiwe nempilo "ejwayelekile".
- Ushaye amafoni amabili ahlakaniphile emizameni yakhe yokuma kepha lokhu akusebenzanga.
- Uzwa sengathi impilo yakhe ayikufanele ukuphila futhi akasazi ukuthi enzeni.
Funda kabanzi: Uma kuziwa ocansini ngomlomo, ukuba owesifazane uthanda
Ngokudabukisayo kubantu abaningi kule nkinga kukhona usizo oluncane kakhulu lwe-NHS olutholakala kakhulu kangaka oluzobuyela ezinkundleni ze-intanethi usizo www.yourbrainonporncom futhi www.nofap.com. Abelaphi abazimele bangatholakala nge-College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists (COSRT) nezinhlangano ezifana ne-Relate. Okunye futhi okuwusizo ukuqonda nokuPhatha ukulutha kwezocansi nguPaula Hall.
Kubazali, ukuvimbela amasayithi e-porn kuyindlela kodwa izithombe ezibuhlungu ezitholakala kuyi-intanethi yiyona nje ingqikithi yeqhwa. I-Twitter, i-Snapchat, namakamelo okuxoxa nawo aveza abantu abasha ngezithombe zocansi, ingxoxo ecacile namavidiyo. Ukukhathazeka okufanayo ukuthi izingane kanye nabantu abasha ngokuzithandela babeka izithombe ezingcolile zabo ku-intanethi.
Ngo-2012 Isikhungo Sokuxhashazwa Kwezingane Nokuvikelwa Kwe-Inthanethi (i-CEOP) uthole lokho iningi lezithombe ezingcolile zobulili zezingane ezilayishwe ngokocansi zilayishwa kwi-intanethi yizingane kanye nabantu abasha ngokwabo ngaphandle kokuphoqelela kwangaphandle.
Izingosi zokuxhumana nabantu kanye nokucindezela kontanga kuyizikhali ezinamandla nezikholisayo futhi kuyaqabukela baphikiswe nguthisha onamahloni obhekele ukufundiswa kwabo ngocansi. Njengabantu abadala, isinyathelo sokuqala emzabalazweni wokuphonsela inselelo amandla we-intanethi kanye nabezindaba zenhlalo ukwazi ukuthi yini efinyeleleka ku-inthanethi nokwenza izingxoxo ezivulekile nezingagunci omunye nomunye.
U-Angela Gregory ungumholi we-Psychosexual Therapy ku-Chandos Clinic, isevisi yokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi yamadoda nabesifazane ase-Nottingham University Hospital Trust. Njengamanje unobhala weBritish Society of Medicine Medicine.
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