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Uma usebenza futhi izinga lakho le-t lihlola, noma kunjalo, kungaba yinkinga yengqondo ezungeze ukukhathazeka kokusebenza noma ngisho nangokubuka izithombe ezingcolile kakhulu. Ukusiza ukunqoba le ndaba, uchwepheshe wezocansi, Eyal Matsliah utshela iBustle ukuthi kufanele zama ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwe-porn futhi ngaphandle kokujula, ukuzifundisa ngokwabo ukuvusa ngokwengeziwe ngokwemvelo.
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Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kushisa kangakanani, ubulili yibhizinisi elihle. Futhi ngokuhlambalaza, angisho nje lokho okulandelayo, ukujuluka noma okwenzekayo lapho imizimba ehambahambayo ihlangana ndawonye - Ngisho isenzo sayo sonke. Iqiniso elibucayi okubhekana nalo ukuthi ngisho noma bobabili amaqembu ngempela (ngempela!) Afuna ukuba nomunye nomunye, kuningi okuthukayo kodwa izinkinga zobulili ezivamile okwenzekayo endleleni. Kusuka ukuqedela kakhulu kusenesikhathi noma sekwephuzile kakhulu ukushayela ngezocansi ezingafani, ngisho nemibhangqwana ejabulisayo kuyodingeka ihambe ensimini yekamelo ngokuzwela, ukubekezela kanye nokukhuthazela.
Uma ubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ezingezansi, kungase kube nzima ukucacisa ukuthi ngabe yini osebenzelana nayo ivela enkingeni yangempela noma engqondweni. Iningi labachwepheshe liyavuma ukuthi ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukubona umhlinzeki, kubalulekile ukulawula noma yikuphi okukwelapha, kuqala. "Inkinga yezocansi ingaba izinto eziningana. Kungaba inkinga esebenzayo, ukungabikho kobulili, inkinga yobulili efuna, noma ukungathembeki, "isazi sengqondo UDkt Nikki Martinez, I-Psy.D., i-LPCC ithi. "Izinkinga ezisebenzayo zingaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo. Uma udokotela wakho ebone ukuthi ayikho isizathu sezokwelapha, cishe sibheka izinkinga zokukhathazeka okuzungezile. "
Ngakho wazi kanjani ukuthi inkinga ohlangabezana nayo ingokwengqondo, ngokomzimba, noma mhlawumbe ukuxuba kokubili? Ochwepheshe bezocansi banikeza iseluleko sabo esingezansi ngezansi futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ubona udokotela ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini eyedlulele. Kodwa okokuqala, hlola ividiyo yethu ukuthi ungaphila isikhathi eside embhedeni:
I-1. Ayikwazi ukuthola noma ukulondoloza ukulungiswa
Ngenkathi ungase ucabange lokho Inkinga ye-erectile ukungasebenzi kwayo ukuthola noma ukuhlala kanzima yenzelwe abesilisa abaneminyaka ephakathi noma yobudala kuphela, kunokwanda okuqhubekayo emadodeni angaphansi kweminyaka engama-40, ngakho-ke akuyona into onamahloni ngayo. Kwabafana abaningi abasebasha, le nkinga ingavela ekudleni okungenampilo nasekuzivocavoca umzimba, noma ezingeni eliphansi le-testosterone. Uma usebenza futhi izinga lakho le-t lihlola, kungahle kube yinkinga yengqondo ezungeze ukukhathazeka kokusebenza noma ngokubuka i-porn eningi kakhulu. Ukusiza ukunqoba le nkinga, uchwepheshe wezocansi, Eyal Matsliah utshela iBustle ukuthi kufanele bazame ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa ngaphandle kokuzikhandla, bazifundise ukuthi bangavusa kanjani ngokwemvelo. UDkt. Rachel Needle, isazi sezokwelapha onelayisensi kanye nochwepheshe wezocansi utshela iBustle ukuthi ukwelashwa kungasiza amadoda amaningi ane-mental block obangela ukungasebenzi komzimba erectile ekucindezelekeni, ekukhathazeni, noma ngokukhathazeka.
I-2. Ukuqedela Ngokushesha
Ngesikhathi i-penis-in-vagin Ubulili buhlala emaminithini amahlanu ngokwesilinganiso, uma umlingani wakho eseqedile ngokushesha, bangadinga ukwakha ukukhuthazela kwabo ngokocansi. Ngenxa yalolu daba, umlingani wakho angase abe nokucindezeleka futhi kudingeka adluliselwe enjabulweni enkulu kancane kancane, kunokuba konke-at-once. "Zama inqubo ebizwa ngokuthi 'ukugxila kwenhliziyo' lapho ufunda ukubhekana nokuvuselela okuqhubekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuze kube yilapho ungagcina ubulili ngobude obukhulu namandla," kusho uMartinez. Amakhondomu angasiza futhi ukuhlala isikhathi eside ucansi bese umlingani wakho echitha isikhathi esiningi ngokushaya indlwabu ukuze akhe isikhathi sabo.
I-3. Ukushayela Ngokushayela Ngezocansi
Ngakho uyayifuna kusihlwa, uyayifuna ekuseni. Ungakhetha izikhathi ezimbalwa ngesonto, ngenkathi ethanda njalo ngosuku olulodwa, izikhathi ezimbalwa ngosuku, uma kungenzeka. Iningi lamabhangqwana lizobhekana nokushayisana kobulili okungalingani ngesikhathi esithile ebuhlotsheni babo, futhi kujwayelekile. Kule nkinga, isihluthulelo sempumelelo siyindlela yokuxhumana. "Lo mbhangqwana udinga ukuvuleka ukuthi yiziphi izidingo zabo kanye nezidingo zabo, bese bekhuluma ngakho futhi bathole indlela ejabulisayo lapho bobabili bezizwa kahle ngokulingana kocansi abanalo," kusho uMartinez. "Bangase bavumelane nokwengeza isenzo sangempela sobulili nezinye izenzo zokunakekela izidingo zomlingani."
I-4. Ukuhluleka Ukuthola Amanzi
Kwabesifazane abathile, ngisho noma usuvuliwe ngempela, ungase ungabonakali unjengawo phansi. Izinga lokumanzi ahlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa uma usomile kakhulu, ochwepheshe batusa ukubona udokotela ukulawula noma yiziphi izinkinga zezokwelapha ezingabangela le nkinga. Uma konke kuhle, u-Martinez uncoma ukusebenzisa i-lube noma uchitha isikhathi esiningi kwi-foreplay ukuze uthole okuningi emoyeni. U-Matsliah uthi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ukushaya indlwabu kungakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izindawo ezikuguqula kakhulu, futhi ngaleyo ndlela, ungabonisa umlingani wakho ukuthi angakwenza kanjani ukuthukuthela.
I-5. Akusilo Ukukwazi Ukubumba
Uma uzizwa sengathi uzama konke futhi umlingani wakho uzama konke futhi awusayiwo ama-orgasming, kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho. "Uma engakwazi ukufika ekugcineni komgudu ngesikhathi umlingani ekwazi ukulondoloza, empeleni ufuna ukwenza into efanayo, ukukhuluma, ukusho okuthandayo futhi okudingayo okungakusiza ukuthi uhambise lokhu," UMartinez uthi. Kungasiza futhi abesifazane ukuba bafune isazi socansi abangabasiza ukuba baphumule ekamelweni, futhi ukuze umlingani wabo aqaphele ukuthi ungadinga isikhathi esiningi kunabo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingqondo, ngokomzimba, noma kokubili, khumbula ukuthi lezi zinkinga akuyona into okufanele ihlazeke ngayo - noma engenakwenzeka ukunqoba.
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