- UDkt. Harry Fisch uyisazi sokuziphatha ngokobulili nodokotela we-TV
- Incwadi yakhe, The New Naked, yembula ukuthi kungani abantu bezocansi behlupheka
- Isizathu esikhulu sichitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu ebheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile
- Ukubheja kocansi kuyaba yinkinga evame kakhulu
Manje i-porn ikhona ohlwini lokudubula lochwepheshe bezocansi kanye ne-TV uDkt Harry Fisch, obhala encwadini yakhe yakamuva, iThe New Naked, uthi ukubuka okuningi kubangela ukuthi impilo yocansi ihlupheke.
Kulokhu okukhishwe okukhethekile, wembula ukuthi kungani i-porn iyinani elilinganayo ngokocansi lokudla okusheshayo futhi ichaza ukuthi yini okufanele yenze uma umngane wakho ethanda kakhulu kakhulu.
'Ukubuka i-porn nokushaya indlwabu kulingana nokuya ocansini nokudla okusheshayo. Ukwaneliseka okusheshayo, futhi kulungile ngesinye isikhathi lapho ufisa ama-fries noma ama-nachos aseFrance athosiwe kuleyo goop yamanga e-orange, kodwa ukuthola ukondliwa? Khohlwa ngakho.
Njengazinye izinto eziningi ezimbi kithi kodwa singaqiniseka ukunambitha okuhle okwamanje, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingabonakala njengento engenabungozi, okukodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Kodwa ngenxa yamadoda amaningi, kungase kube lula ukumangalela ekutheni umlutha wezilwane ezingcolile uyoba yingozi empilweni yakhe, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ngaphandle kokwazi.
Yingakho umlutha wezocansi kungukuthi inomboro eyodwa lapho abakwa-sex therapists babhekene nayo.
Ochwepheshe abaningi baye baxoxela inani elimangalisa le-porn elidliwe kuleli lizwe kodwa nansi into engingakayizwa noma yimuphi kubo ekhuluma ngayo: Ngenxa yobuningi besilisa ababukela izithombe eziningi ezingcolile, kudala izinkinga ezihlukile zokusebenza ngokocansi.
Yebo, into efanayo ekugqugquzela nokuvusa amadoda (noma abesifazane) ngokocansi ingabhubhisa ngempela libido yabo yonke kanye nokusebenza.
Ngakho-ke kungani kungekho muntu okhuluma ngomphumela ekusebenzeni ngokocansi-i-ESP — isici sezocansi? Baxoxa ngokuthi kungani umfana eyibuka - hhayi ukuthi kwenzakalani ngepipi lakhe lapho elibukayo.
Ngiyakwazi ukutshela ukuthi umuntu ubuka kanjani izithombe ezingcolile uma nje eqala ukukhuluma nami ngokungaqondile nganoma yikuphi ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili anakho.
Uma umuntu ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile bese ephuma kuso, noma ebuka izithombe zobulili ezithombeni ngezandla zakhe ukuze akwazi ukushaya indlwabu ngesikhathi esifanayo (okuyinto ngokuvamile eyenzekayo), ukuvuselela okuzwakalayo akuthola ezweni eliyinkimbinkimbi kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuze avuke, ahlale evukile, futhi avuke ngenjabulo ngumuntu wangempela, owesifazane ophilayo empilweni yakhe.
Akusihle: I-porn enkulu kakhulu ingaba nethonya elibi ekuvusweni kwamadoda ngokusho kukaDkt Fisch
INGABE UYAZISWA KWE-ADDICT PORN? THOLA LOKUTHI UKUTHOLA UKUTHOLA:
Wonke umlutha uhlukile kodwa kukhona ukuziphatha okuthile okuzophakamisa ukulutha kocansi. Uma uphendula u-yebo kunoma yikuphi kwalokhu, kungase kube yisikhathi senhliziyo kuya enhliziyweni.
- Ingabe ucela ukulala ocansini noma izikhundla ezingavamile?
- Ingabe ubhekana nezinkinga zokunyuka?
- Ingabe ukhathazeka kakhulu ngomzimba wakho, ikakhulukazi isayizi sakho sebele?
- Ingabe ikucela ukuthi wenze noma yiziphi izinguquko emzimbeni wakho, njengokuthola i-wax yaseBrazil, engakukhathazeki nayo?
- Ingabe unezintandokazi ezithile azithanda ukuzibuka ngokuphindaphindiwe?
- Ingabe ulaka uma ungafuni ukubukela naye?
- Ingabe uyayeka ukulala ocansini uma umtshela ukuthi awufuni ukubukela?
- Ingabe ufuna ukwenza izinto ezehlukile ayezibona, noma ngabe uzicacisa ukuthi awufuni?
- Ingabe unayo amasayithi efihlekile noma ephasiwedi avikelwe ku-intanethi?
- Ingabe uke wabona i-porn endaweni engavumelekile yomphakathi (njengendiza)?
- Ingabe unayo enye i-akhawunti yefoni yeselula noma ikhadi lesikweletu?
- Ingabe uzokhansela ukuzibandakanya komphakathi ngoba kungcono ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile?
- Ingabe abangane bakhe bayakuqeda ama-porn akubukayo?
- Ingabe uyavusa noma uyazivikela lapho umbuza nge-porn?
- Ingabe ukhetha i-porn esikhundleni sokufuna ukulala naye?
Ngamanye amazwi, izithombe zakhe ezingcolile zobulili-ezivusa ukushaya indlwabu ziholela ekusebenzisaneni ngokocansi nomlingani. Uma engenayo i-orgasm kuphela lapho ebuka izithombe ezingcolile, futhi uma ejwayele ukuba ne-orgasms kuphela ngendlela ethile noma ngenkathi ebuka into ethize, usezinkingeni futhi nawe unjalo.
Kukhona futhi uhlangothi lwe-flip: Abanye abazilutha ngezocansi bafuna ucansi ngemigomo yabo, ukuze bagcwalise noma yikuphi ukucabanga okuye "kwaphefumulelwa" yilokho abakubhekile.
I-porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu kunomthelela ohlukile ekusebenzeni kwakhe lapho ulala ucansi-kubizwa ngokuthi i-ejaculation ephuzile.
Ukuhlala kwakhe 'okude kakhulu' kuphambene nalokho iningi labesilisa elikutholayo lapho libuka izithombe eziningi ezingcolile — azikwazi ukuhlala nhlobo.
Nakuba kuzwakala sengathi kungase kube into enhle, ukuhlala isikhathi eside kungase kube yinkimbinkimbi ebuhlotsheni njengalapho eseqedile masinyane: uzizwe ekhululekile, enesithukuthezi, noma ekhulelwe, ebuza ukuthi uzokwenzani umsebenzi. Ungasho ukuthi ukuphikisana okuqhubekayo kungaba empeleni kubuhlungu ngemuva kwesikhashana.
Okukhathazayo kimi ukuthi abantu abaningi engikhuluma nabo abakaqapheli ukuthi kunzima ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Ukungagcwaliseki: Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nekhompyutheni kungaholela ekuphileni okungcolile kobulili ezinhlangothini zombili zombhangqwana
Hhayi ekuqaleni. Nginguye umuntu wokuqala okutshela ukuthi i-porn encane ingaba mnandi kakhulu-nokuthi umuntu othanda ukubuka ngesikhathi esisodwa akusho ukuthi uyaphila ekuluthweni kocansi.
Kodwa abantu bangakwazi ukuhlakulela kalula umlutha kulo ngaphandle kokuqaphela ngoba kuwumkhuba onjalo wokuzibandakanya.
Indoda ingazitshela ukuthi ayilimazi muntu noma 'ukukopela'. Kungenzeka aqale ukubuka njengendlela yokunonga impilo yakhe yezocansi noma ngoba bekumnandi — kepha imikhuba yokubuka ingakhuphuka ngokushesha, ngokwengxenye ngoba kulula kakhulu ukusakaza izithombe zobulili ezingcolile 24/7.
Ungakwazi njalo ukuthola okuthile okumele akubuke lapho ehlala enhliziyweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhona noma ukuthi kunini isikhathi, noma kunjalo.
Umuntu uthola kanjani umlutha wezocansi? Akulula kepha kuyadakiswa. Yenza umlingani wakho azame lezi zinyathelo kuqala:
Ukuthuthukiswa: Ngokusho kukaDkt Fisch, ukubheja kocansi kunganqotshwa futhi izimpilo zocansi zibuyele emuva
Ngaphandle manje: I-New Naked: I-Ultimate Education Education for Grown-ups itholakala ku-Amazon
• Thatha ikhefu elisheshayo-kusukela kulo lonke ubulili nokushaya indlwabu, hhayi nje ngocansi. Uma umuntu engahlali ejaculate izinsuku ezimbalwa, uyobe ezwela kakhulu (futhi eningi kakhulu!), Futhi cishe uyobe eseqede isikhathi esivamile.
• Zama ukuhlela okuthile okuthandayo ngenkathi evame ukuchitha ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Uma ungathatha uhambo oluthile, lukhulu (ungavuli i-TV, ngoba ngokuvamile i-porn etholakalayo emakamelweni ehhotela uma uhlala lapho). Noma umenze enze imisebenzi eyengeziwe eduze nendlu (njengokugqoka igalaji engakapheli isikhathi eside, ukudweba, noma ukulima, isibonelo-into engokwenyama futhi yenza kube nzima ukukwenza ngenkathi noma yikuphi amadivaysi kagesi akhona).
• Zama ukwenza i-foreplay yakho ibe yidlala ngaphezulu. Mbuze ukuthi uthanda ukuthini uma ebukela izithombe ezingcolile, bese ubeka izandla zakhe ngezandla zakho. Uma umthinta lapho ethanda ukuzithinta khona, uzobhekana nokuthi ungathola kanjani ukuzwa okufanayo lapho esedwa nawe. Yenza lokhu ndawonye-akekho ukukopela futhi ubuyele ezingcolile! -Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngeke udinga imizuzu engamashumi amathathu ye-orgasm noma yini.
• Kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili nikhulume ukuthi nithandana kangakanani, nokuthi uthanda kangakanani izici zomzwelo zobudlelwane bakho bocansi ukuze uvuselele izimfanelo zomlingani wakho owathandwa kuqala. Yenza ngendlela owenza ngayo lapho uqala ukushayisana-ngizobe ngizobe ngibheka i-porn akuyona ingxenye ye-equation ngaleso sikhathi. Ngale ndlela, isifiso sakho sizokwakha ngokwemvelo ukuze nonke nithokoze injabulo yecansi langempela, futhi ushiye ubulili obufanayo kuma robot.
• Uma lokhu kungasebenzi ngoba umlingani wakho ungumlutha ngempela futhi / noma engazimisele ukuxoxa ngale ndaba nawe, kufanele uxhumane nosizo lochwepheshe. Funa ochwepheshe bezocansi ababhekene nokulutha kocansi nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Yilungiselele umlutha ukuba nesikhathi esinzima. Uma izidakamizwa kwakulula ukukhahlela, bekungeke kube khona izidakamizwa.
Njengoba nje ababhemayo kudingeka bathole okuthile okwenziwe ngezandla zabo lapho beyeka-ukuphuza ikhofi, ukuhlafuna i-gum, noma ukudla (yingakho ababhemayo bevame ukuzuza isisindo), ngakho-ke kudingeka udinga indawo engcono. Ngenhlanhla, usunayo kakade eduze kwakho njalo ebusuku.
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