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Izibalo ekusetshenzisweni kocansi kwe-Intanethi zivame ukugcwala. Abahlinzeki bezithombe ezingcolile bakhipha izinombolo zabo ngomzamo wokwandisa imali engenayo yokukhangisa, futhi izishoshovu ezilwa nezocansi zithatha izibalo ezigcwele kakhulu ezingazithola ngomzamo wokukhombisa isimo esigcwele yonke inkinga okucatshangwa ukuthi iyinkinga. Ngisho nokulinganiswa kwezibalo okulondolozwa kakhulu kukhombisa ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn - okuqhutshwa ukufinyeleleka kwe-inthanethi, ukufinyeleleka nokungaziwa - kukhula kakhulu. Ongakuthola kuthusa kakhulu kunenqwaba yezithombe zocansi esizisebenzisayo umphumela ongaba nawo empilweni yakho yezocansi.
I-Porn Use Go Up Up, Injabulo Iyayehla
Ocwaningweni lwakamuva lwezazi ezingama-68 ezihola phambili kwezocansi nobudlelwano, amaphesenti angama-86 athe akholelwa ukuthi i-porn ibe nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni babo. Cishe izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu, amaphesenti angama-63, athi bacabanga ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kuguqula okulindelwe ngamadoda ukuthi ucansi nomlingani wangempela kufanele lube njani, kanti amaphesenti angama-85 athi bacabanga ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zinomthelela omubi ekuzethembeni kwabesifazane, ikakhulukazi ngoba abesifazane uzizwe sengathi manje kumele iziphathe njengezinkanyezi ze-porn egumbini lokulala.
Olunye ucwaningo lunikeza ukutholwa okufanayo. Ngokwesibonelo, kwembulwa isifundo esisodwa ukuthi abesifazane abalingani babo ababheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kaningi (ngokwesilinganiso sowesifazane) abajabule kangako ebudlelwaneni babo kunabesifazane ababambisene nabesilisa abasebenzisa i-porn kaningi noma abangazisebenzisi konke (kulwazi lowesifazane). Ucwaningo olufanayo luthole ukuthi ukuzethemba komlingani wesifazane kuyancipha njengoba ukusetshenziswa kocansi komlingani wakhe wesilisa kukhuphuka. Isikhalazo esivame kakhulu ngabesifazane abalingani babo abasebenzisa i-porn kaningi ukuthi abakwazi ukulingana nezithombe eziboniswe ku-inthanethi.
Mhlawumbe, noma kunjalo, ngamadoda okufanele akhathazeke ngokulinganisa. Cabanga ngoRobert, umphathi wekhompiyutha oneminyaka engu-26:
Intombi yami uMelissa uyisitolo sokuthengisa ochitha izinsuku zakhe zesonto ehamba, abuye ekhaya futhi achithe isikhathi nami ngezimpelasonto. Impilo yethu yezocansi ibimnandi kwaze kwaba cishe unyaka owedlule. Bengihlala ngibheke ngabomvu ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ngoba bengazi ukuthi into yokuqala ezokwenzeka ngemuva kokufika kwakhe ekhaya ukuthi sizongena embhedeni wezocansi ezishisayo, ezijulukayo, ezinamandla ngendlela exakile. Amandla ethu ocansi (wami) afakiwe ngokuvamile abanga iseshini esheshayo, elandelwa ishawa (ndawonye), isidlo sasemini sothando, nokwenza uthando lokuzilibazisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngalobo busuku. Ngonyaka odlule, noma kunjalo, ngiye ngazama ukufeza nokugcina ukulungiswa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi angikwazi ukukhipha i-ejaculate. Futhi nakanjani asikwenzi kabili ngobusuku obubodwa njengoba sasikwenza. Ngempela ngifakele i-orgasm amahlandla ambalwa ukuze ngithole izinto. Lokho engingakuqondi ukuthi kungani ngilungele, ngizimisele, futhi ngiyakwazi lapho ngingena kumasayithi engiwathandayo we-porn - into engiyenza njalo lapho uMelissa esendleleni - kepha angikwazi ukusebenza lapho nginento yangempela khona lapho phambi kwami. ANGIKHONA isithukuthezi noMelissa, futhi ngisacabanga ukuthi muhle kakhulu futhi uyajabulisa.
Ukwehluleka kukaRobert ukwenza ucansi kuvame kakhulu phakathi kwezinsizwa kunalokho umuntu angakulindela, futhi kuhlobene ngqo nokusetshenziswa kwakhe kocansi. Eqinisweni, sekuya ngokuya kucaca ukuthi porn inthanethi iyimbangela ehamba phambili yokuphuza ukungasebenzi (i-erectile dysfunction (ED)) nokubambezeleka kwe-ejaculation (DE) emadodeni aphilile enkambiso yawo yezocansi. Kokunye isifundo, Abasebenzisi bo-porn besilisa babike ubunzima obukhulayo ekuvulekeni ngabalingani babo bezocansi bomhlaba wangempela. Lapho kubuzwa ukuthi ngabe le nto inabo yini ubuhlobo bokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, izihloko zaphendula ngokuthi ekuqaleni zabasiza ukuba bajabule ngokwengeziwe ngesikhathi socansi, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kwaba nomphumela ohlukile. Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, amanani akhulayo abesifazane manje azithola esenobudlelwano nabesilisa abahlushwa ukungasebenzi ngokocansi, okuthinta abesifazane njengabesilisa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma indoda yakho ingakwazi ukuyikhuphula, ukuyigcina, noma ukufinyelela ku-orgasm, injabulo yakho yezocansi kungenzeka inciphe.
Izikhalazo ezivamile mayelana nokungasebenzi ngocansi kwabantu besilisa kufaka phakathi:
- Akanankinga nokuthola ukwakheka noma i-orgasm ngezithombe ezingcolile, kepha mathupha, neqabane lakhe elizimiseleyo, ulwa nelilodwa noma bobabili.
- Uyakwazi ukwenza ucansi futhi afeze i-orgasm nomlingani wakhe, kepha ukufinyelela i-orgasm kuthatha isikhathi eside kunalokho obekuhlala kwenzeka futhi umlingani wakhe uthi ubukeka engathandeki.
- Angalungisa ukwakheka nomlingani wakhe, kepha angafika kuphela ku-orgasm ngokufaka izingcezu ze-Internet ze-porn engqondweni yakhe.
- Uthanda kakhulu ukuthanda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, futhi azithole ezithanda kakhulu futhi ezibandakanya nabanye.
- Ugcina izimfihlo ezihlobene nezocansi kumlingani wakhe (isikhathi esichithwa ebuka i-porn, izinhlobo zezithombe ezibonwe, njll.)
- Umlingani wakhe uzizwa efana "nomunye wesifazane."
Le nkinga ayibangelwa nje imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm; kuhlobene kakhulu neqiniso lokuthi abesilisa bebonke bavuselelwa ngamehlo futhi bavulelwe izikhuthazi ezintsha. Ngokuyinhloko, indoda echitha amaphesenti angama-70, ama-80, noma amaphesenti angama-90 wempilo yakhe yezocansi ecabanga nokushaya indlwabu ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile - izithombe ezingenakubalwa zabalingani abancane, abajabulisayo, abashintsha njalo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho ngokocansi - ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kungenzeka ukuthi athole -Inyama ihlangabezana nokukhuthaza okuncane kunombukiso ongapheli wezinto ezintsha ekhanda lakhe. Ngakho-ke manje esikubonayo ngezinga elibanzi ukungaxhumeki ngokomzwelo nabalingani bezocansi bomhlaba wangempela okungakhombisi nje kuphela ngokomzimba njengokukhubazeka ngokocansi, kepha ngokomzwelo njengokungabi nentshisekelo kokuxhumana okusondele emhlabeni wangempela. Futhi izidakamizwa ezithuthukisa ezocansi - i-Viagra, i-Cialis, i-Levitra, nokunye okunjalo - ngeke zilungise izinto ngoba le mithi yandisa kuphela imithambo yegazi ukuqinisa ukwakhiwa, hhayi ukuyidala. Ingqondo nomzimba kudinga ukuvuswa kuqala ngokwabo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, awukho umthamo wezidakamizwa "zokwakha ukuthuthukisa" ozosiza.
Ngakho… Alusekho Ucansi?
Empeleni, izindaba azizimbi zonke. Ukuthola isikhuthazo, sidinga ukubheka kuphela ubuchopho babalulami bezidakamizwa. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukusetshenziswa okungapheli kwezidakamizwa eziluthayo kubangela ukuthi ubuchopho buzi "rewire" uqobo. Lezi zinguquko ze-neurobiological, ngokwengxenye enkulu, ezenza ukuyeka kube nzima kakhulu futhi kubuye kube yinto ejwayelekile kubantu abazama ukuyeka. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisile ukuthi uma umlutha wezidakamizwa uhlala esangulukile izinyanga eziyisithupha kuya onyakeni, ubuchopho cishe buhlala bubuyela entweni esondele kakhulu esimweni sayo esijwayelekile. Ubufakazi be-anecdotal busikisela ukuthi ukulutha kokuziphatha - kufaka phakathi umlutha we-porn - kuyafana, futhi ubuchopho buyakwazi ukuzilungisa lapho bunesikhathi esidinga ukuphulukiswa. Ngokwe-Web site Ubuchopho bakho ku-Porn, ukucisha i-porn ezimweni eziningi "ukuqala kabusha" ubuchopho, kuvumela ama-dopamine receptors awonakele kusuka ekuqotheni ngokweqile (futhi abangele ukungasebenzi ngokocansi nokungathakazeleli ngokomzwelo) ukuthi alulame, ekugcineni abuyisele amasekethe womvuzo wobuchopho entweni esondela ekuqaleni. Ngamanye amagama, uma umhlukumezi we-porn ehlala isikhathi eside kude nezocansi, maningi amathuba okuthi ukungasebenzi kahle kwakhe ngokocansi kanye / noma ukungabi nandaba kuzophela.
URobert Weiss LCSW, i-CSAT-S, ungumongameli oyiphini likhulu wentuthuko yezempilo Izindlela Zokuziphatha Kwezempilo. Umbhali nesazi ngezihloko ngobudlelwano obuphakathi kobuchwepheshe bedijithali nobungqingili babantu, uMnu Weiss usebenze njenge uchwepheshe wezindaba we-CNN, Oprah Winfrey Network, New York Times, Los Angeles Times, ne-Leo Show, phakathi kwabanye abaningi . UMnu Weiss uyena umbhali ye-Cruise Control: Ukuqonda Ukuluthwa Kwezocansi emadodeni angamaGay, kanye nomlobi ngokubambisana noDkt. Jennifer Schneider bobabili abangashayi eceleni kwiWebhu: ucansi, i-porn, kanye ne-Fantasy Obsession ku-Age Age ye-Intanethi nokukhululwa kwe-2013 okulandelayo, Ukusondelana Ngokubambisana, Ukuqhubeka Futhi: Umphumela weTekhnoloji ne-Intanethi kwezocansi, ukusondelana nobudlelwano, kanye nezindatshana eziningi ezibukezwe ontanga kanye ezahlukweni.
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