Ucwaningo olusha oluphakamisa ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile zingabangela eminye imiphumela engathandeki
Abantu baqhubeka bebuza imibuzo efanayo mayelana ne-porno abanayo amashumi eminyaka - ingabe i-porn iyisihle kithi noma iyingozi kithi? Ingabe ukuziphatha okubi noma ukunika amandla? Ukulimaza noma ukukhulula? Ukubuza le mibuzo ngokungazelelwe kuholele ekugxilweni kwemibono nokunye okunye. Omunye umbuzo ongacatshangwa uwukuthi: yini eyenziwa yi-porn futhi sikulungile ngalokho?
Kukhona umzimba ocwaningayo okhulayo othi ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungaholela eminye imiphumela engathandekiyo kanye nemiphumela yomphakathi kokubili kanye nesikhathi eside.
Abanye abantu bangabuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngezikhathi ezithile futhi bangabi nemiphumela emibi kakhulu; Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi laphaya, kubandakanya intsha kanye nabasanda kuzalwa abanesibindi esikhulu seplastiki, bathola ukuthi bafuna ukusebenzisa i-intanethi ye-intanethi ngesivinini esikhulu nge-pornography yabo yokuthanda ukungahambisani nokuphila kwabo kwangempela ubulili.
Vele uvakashele izingosi ze-YourBrainOnPorn no-Reddit ze-No Fap (akukho ukushaya indlwabu enkundleni ye-porno enhlobonhlobo) ukuze ubone izindaba ezivela ezinkulungwaneni zabantu abasha abahlukumezayo ukunqoba lokho abazizwa ukuthi kuyanda Ukuba umlutha wezithombe.
Esikhathini sokuqala Ubuchopho ukutadisha kubasebenzisi be-Internet be-Internet, okwakwenziwa eMax Planck Institute for Human Development eBerlin, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi amahora neminyaka yokusetshenziswa kocansi behambisana nokunciphisa umthamo ezindaweni ezibuchopho ezihambisana nokuzwela komvuzo, kanye nokunciphisa ukuphendula ngokuzithokozisa ezithombeni ezithandayo.[1]
Into encane encane isho kancane i-dopamine futhi abambalwa be-dopamine receptors. Umcwaningi oholayo, uSimone Kühn, wathonya ngokuthi "ukusetshenziswa okuvamile izithombe zobulili ezingcolile cishe noma ngaphezulu uvala uhlelo lwakho lokuvuza. "[2]
Lesi esinye sezizathu zokuthi kungani Playboy, umagazini owasungula iningi lethu efomini lesifazane, ngeke lisabadlali abadlala ukudlala ngemuva kokuqala kwe-2016. Njengoba u-Pamela Anderson, ovezwe esikhwameni senkinga yokugcina, wathi, "Kunzima ukuncintisana ne-intanethi."[3]
Ucwaningo lwaseJalimane oluhlukile lwabonisa izinkinga zabasebenzisi ezihambisana kakhulu nezinombolo zamathebhu avulekile kanye nezinga lokuvusa.[4] Lokhu kusiza ukuthi kungani abanye abasebenzisi bencike emisha, emangalisa, noma ngaphezulu ngokweqile, porn. Badinga ukukhuthazwa okwengeziwe nokuvuswa, ukuthola ukulungiswa nokuthola isiphetho sezocansi.
Ucwaningo lwamuva oluholwa abacwaningi eYunivesithi yaseCambridge bathola ukuthi amadoda abonisa ukuziphatha ngokweqile ngokocansi adinga izithombe ezingcolile zobulili kunezontanga zabo ngoba zijwayele lokho abakubonayo ngokushesha kunabo ontanga.[5]
Olunye ucwaningo olusanda kuvela eNyuvesi yaseCambridge lathola ukuthi labo abaziphatha ngokucindezela ukuziphatha ngokocansi babonisa ukulutha komzimba okungafani nokulutha kwezidakamizwa ezijikelezweni zobuchopho ngemuva kokubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Kukhona ukuhlukaniswa phakathi kwezifiso zabo zocansi kanye nokuphendula kwabo kwabangcolile - abasebenzisi bangakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi izithombe ezingcolile ezenza ukuba zivuswe kakhulu zimelela ubulili babo beqiniso.[6]
Kungenzeka ukuthi akuyona into engaqondakaliyo ukuthi abasebenzisi be-porn babika ukuthi bashintsha izinto zokuthanda ucansi,[7] ukwaneliseka kancane ebuhlotsheni babo[8] kanye nobuhlobo obuseduze bokuphila kanye okunamathiselwe izinkinga.[9]
Iningi lezinsizwa ikakhulukazi likhuluma ngokuthi i-porn inikeze kanjani "umbono owephukile" noma ongenangqondo wokuthi yini ezocansi kanye nobudlelwane obuseduze okufanele babe khona, nokuthi kanjani-ke bakuthola kunzima ukuthola isithakazelo nokuvuswa ngumlingani wangempela wokuphila.
Ngempela, iningi lazo ukuhlangana ngokobulili kwangempela kungaba yinto engaphandle kwamanye amazwe neyokukhathazeka. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amakhono okuxhumana adingekayo, umzimba wawo wonke udinga ukubandakanyeka futhi kumele uhlanganyele nomunye umuntu wesithathu nenyama wegazi ophethe izidingo zabo zobulili nezothando.
Ibhuku U-Sex at Dawn unikeza isichazamazwi esifanele:
Kunendaba endala mayelana nokuqulwa kwecala lowesilisa obekwe icala lokuluma omunye umunwe empini. Ufakazi wokuzibonela wasukuma. Ummeli wabameli ubuze, "Ngabe ubonile ukuthi iklayenti lami lilume umunwe?" Ufakazi wokuzibonela uthe, "Hhayi, cha, angizange." “Aha!” Kusho ummeli emamatheka. “Ungasho kanjani ukuthi ulume umunwe wale ndoda?” “Kulungile,” kuphendula ufakazi, “ngimbonile eyikhafula.”[10]
Cabanga ngalokhu kumongo wabantu abasha ababukela i-porn inthanethi. Nakuba imiphumela ye-inthanethi ye-intanethi ebuchosheni nasekuziphatheni ingakaqali ngokugcwele, ngaphambili nanini emlandweni wesintu kunezinsizwa ezincane ezithola lesi simo esibizwa ngokuthi i-porn-induced ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (PIED).
Esikhathini sokuqala sokucwaninga okuphelele kokuziphatha ngokocansi e-US, eyenziwa ngu-Alfred Kinsey ku-1948 futhi yanyatheliswa encwadini elandelayo Ukuziphatha ngokocansi ku-Male Male, amaphesenti angu-1 wamadoda angaphansi kweminyaka engu-30 namaphesenti angu-3 wamadoda phakathi kwe-30 neminyaka engu-45 ubudala, abike ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile.[11] Kodwa-ke, ocwaningweni lwakamuva, ngaphezu kwengxenye yesithathu yamasosha asemasha abika ukuthi abhekana nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile.[12] Ezinye izifundo zamuva zinezilinganiso ezifanayo phakathi kwentsha engeyona yezempi emhlabeni jikelele, ngamazinga abonisa ukwanda okuphawulekayo ngemuva kwe-intanethi ye-intanethi ye-intanethi esanda kakhulu.[13] [14] [15]
Ngencwadi yethu ezayo, Umuntu Waphazanyiswa, sixoxisane nezinsizwa eziningi maqondana nokukhathazeka kwabo mayelana nezocansi nokuthi kunesidingo esinjani sokusetshenziswa kabi kocansi. Isimo esasivamile phakathi kwabo sasithi: “Ngingathanda ukwazi ukuthi izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo zakuvuma ukuba umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngazo zonke izindlela. Ukube bekunjalo ngabe anginathemba lokuthi ngizobatshela ngezinkinga zami. ”
Babuye bakhulume ngokuthi ezinye izici zokuphila kwazo zithinteka kanjani, njengokuthi ukuhlushwa kanye nenhlalakahle ngokomzwelo, ngokubheka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ngenxa yokuthi zibona ukushintsha okunamandla emiphakathini yabo kanye nokubuka lapho Ima ukushaya indlwabu kuyo.
Lezi zinsizwa zivame ukulandisa ukuthi zinjani ukukhathazeka komphakathi ngcono kakhulu - kuhlanganise nokwanda ukuzethemba, ukuthintana kwamehlo, nenduduzo ehambisana nabesifazane. Babuye babike amandla amaningi ukuze baphile impilo yabo yansuku zonke, ukuhlushwa kube lula, ukucindezeleka ukunciphisa, nokuvinjelwa okunamandla nokuphendula ngokocansi ngemuva kokuzibandakanya ngokuzithandela "inselelo" engekho "fap".
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu angase azizwe kanjani ngokubaluleka kwe-pornography, izifundo eziningi zisho ukuthi abasebenzisi be-porn babhekana nemiphumela emibi. Ekugcineni, ucwaningo oluningi luzodinga ukuqhutshwa. Kodwa-ke, uma okwamanje siyaqhubeka nokuphika ukuthi i-porn kungaba yinkinga kwabanye abantu, siphika ngokuqinile laba bantu, iningi labo ngaphansi, usizo kanye nesiqondiso.
Lokhu okuthunyelwe kwabhalwa ngokubambisana noNikita Coulombe. Bona futhi incwadi yethu, Umuntu uphazamiseke, kanye nenkulumo yami ye-TED ku- "Ukudilizwa Kwabafana."
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