Xhumanisa esihlokweni: Umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile uthinta abaseMelika abasha, uma kuqhathaniswa nokuqhekeka kwe-cocaine
UMolly Hendrickson, uMeyi 23, 2017
I-DENVER - Umlutha wezocansi umlutha okhula ngokushesha ezweni lethu, futhi okunye okufihliwe kakhulu.
"Le nto ayipheli, ifana nomdlavuza ebuchosheni, kodwa ngumdlavuza emicabangweni," kusho umlutha wezocansi osalulama ocele ukubizwa ngoJoe, njengoba ebengafuni ukudalula ubuntu bakhe emphakathini. "Udinga izinto ezimnyama, izinto ezinzima, izinto ezinobudlova kaningi."
Kulomlutha, imbewu yatshalwa lapho ineminyaka engu-6th ibanga futhi ubuke i-movie ene-R. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umlutha wakhe wanda kancane.
“Ngiyazi ukuthi emphakathini wethu, akuqondakali ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani. Kucekela phansi ingqondo, kuqeda amandla okusebenza, ngeke ubheke abesifazane ngendlela efanayo, ”kusho uJoe.
Izithombe zocansi zivame ukuqhathaniswa ne-crack-cocaine. Akekho owazi lokho kangcono ukwedlula umelaphi oqinisekisiwe wokulutha ngokocansi, uChris Simon.
"Yingakho nginezikhungo zokwelapha ukusiza abantu abanolwazi olufana nolwami," kusho uSimon.
USimon wasungula iDenver's Restorations Therapy Center e2014 ngemuva kokulwa nokulutha kwezithombe zocansi. Uthe iningi labazali aliqapheli ukuthi abasebenzisi abakhulu kunazo zonke yizingane ezineminyaka ephakathi kwengu-12 nengu-17 ngokuvezwa kwazo kokuqala okulinganiselwa eminyakeni engama-8 ubudala.
"Imboni yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ihlose ngempela ukwenza izingane zibambeke kuyo zisencane ngoba ziyazi ukuthi yilapho zilula khona, zithonywa kalula ngenxa yokukhula kwengqondo," kusho uSimon.
Yilapho konke kuqala khona, ubuchopho. Ukubuka i-porn ye-intanethi kugcwala ubuchopho bakho nge-dopamine nama-opioid, izidakamizwa ezikwenza uzizwe kahle; futhi ungayigcina iphakeme ngezikhathi ezinde, ngokuchofoza kwegundane.
"Kwakudakwa, kwakunjengabo bonke ubuhlungu bami, konke ukuzonda kwami, konke lokho kwakuthulisiwe, kwaphela lapho nje ngibuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kwakungathi konke kukhukhulekile," kuchaza uJoe.
UJoe uthe ukuzwa ukukhululeka kuhlala kungokwesikhashana futhi kuhlala kulandelwa imizwa yecala nehlazo.
“Amahloni yisizathu esenza ukuba umlutha uqhubeke futhi ube namandla njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka ngoba awufuni ukuthi kube khona owaziyo,” kuchaza uJoe.
"Kunokuba bathuthukise amakhono okubhekana nokubekezela, bafunda ukuya ezithombeni ezingcolile futhi leyo mizwa enzima izophela, bazonqamuka," kusho uSimon.
KuJoe, lowo muzwa wamanga wokukhululeka ekucindezelekeni kwakhe, wagcina umbophele ekubeni likhoboka lakhe. Uyabona, ukubuka i-porn ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kubangela ukuthi ubuchopho bakho bakhe izindlela ezintsha ze-neuropathways. Lapho uyibuka ngokwengeziwe, le mikhondo iba namandla ngokwengeziwe. Isikhukhula se-dopamine ebuchosheni bakho, sigcwalisa ngokweqile ama-receptors akho futhi ekugcineni udinga izinto ezinzima nokuningi ukuze uthole ukuphakama okufanayo.
"Lesi yisipiliyoni esifana ncamashi nemilutha ye-heroin uma bekhuluma ngokujaha abokuqala," kusho uSimon.
USimon uthe ingane iqala ukubuka i-porn online, imiphumela iba mibi kakhulu. Ucwaningo oluningi lubonisa ukuthi abasebenzisi be-porn balwela ukugcina ubudlelwano, abajabuli nabalingani babo, bane-libido ephansi futhi bavame ukukhetha i-porn kunobudlelwano bezocansi nomuntu. Ochwepheshe abanjengoSimon, babona into entsha; I-porn ibangele ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, noma i-PIED futhi inyuka kakhulu kwabesilisa abaku-20 yabo.
“Imithi ye-ED empeleni ayisebenzi kahle kangako ngoba ayiqondene nempendulo yomzimba. Umzimba usebenza kahle, kumayelana nokuphendula ngokomzwelo, ”kusho uSimon. "Iqiniso alikwazi ukuqhathanisa."
Ukulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile akugcini nje ngokwenza amadoda. USimon uthe abesifazane abaningi babuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi ubona ukwanda okukhulu kwabesifazane abadinga ukwelashwa ngomlutha we-porn online.
Likhona ithemba. Abelaphi abanjengoSimon bathi isinyathelo sokuqala ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokuphelele, into eyaziwa emhlabeni wokutakula ngokuthi "ukuqala kabusha." Lokhu kuvumela ubuchopho bakho ukuthi bakhe izindlela ezintsha ezinempilo. Kungathatha noma yikuphi ukusuka ezinyangeni ezi-3 kuye eminyakeni emi-3 kuya ngokuthi umuntu wayezibuka kangaki i-inthanethi zocansi.
“Lokho kungamandla wangempela okuluthwa yizithombe zocansi. Lezo zindlela ezingena ezindleleni, zakhiwa ziqine futhi ziqoshwe kangaka, kuthatha izinyanga noma iminyaka ukuphinda kwenziwe ezinkulu, ukuze lezo zingabe zisaba amabanga aphansi, ”kusho uSimon.
USimon ubuye ancome ukuthi kususwe noma isiphi isikhuthazi sokubuka esingahle sibangele ukubuyela emuva, njenge-Facebook, i-Instagram namasayithi wokuphola afana neTinder neBumble. USimon uthe qiniseka ukuthi umelaphi wakho ungumelaphi oqinisekisiwe wokulutha ngokocansi futhi uncoma ukwelashwa kweqembu njengabantu abayimilutha yezocansi abangaziwa.
USimon uthe abazali kufanele baqale ukukhuluma nezingane zabo ngendlela efanele iminyaka mayelana nezocansi nokusondelana kusukela ekuqaleni kweminyaka yobudala 6. Abazali kufanele bakhulume nezingane ezindala ngalokho okungafanelekile ukubona ku-inthanethi futhi babheke ukufaka isoftware yabazali yokulawula kumadivayisi e-elektroniki ezingane zabo.
UJoe uthe ukulutheka akuyona into abaningi abangayishaya bebodwa ngaphandle kosizo.
“Asiqondi ukuqonda kwe-porn ebuchosheni. Ngiyazi ukuthi kunjani kodwa angazi ukuthi kujule kangakanani, angiqondi ukuthi izimpande kungani zilutha kangaka, angiqondi noma yikuphi kwalokho. Umelaphi kudingeka ukuthi athole ukuzithiba. Iqembu elinezinyathelo eziyi-12, iqembu lokusekela liyadingeka ukuze libe nabangane abakuqondayo. Lawa ngamathuluzi okumele abekhona ukuze asebenze. ”
UJoe manje useluleme futhi uhlanzekile ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi izinyanga eziyi-7. Uthe izifiso zokubuka i-porn zisekhona, kepha ufunda izindlela ezintsha, ezinempilo zokubhekana nokudangala kwakhe.
“Ngingene kulelo qembu lezinyathelo eziyi-12 ngayeka ukuwa. Kwakunjalo. Kusindise impilo yami, ”kusho uJoe.
Uma wena noma othandekayo unenkinga yokulutha kocansi, nansi ezinye izinsiza zokuthola usizo:
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