Sekuphele iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi abashadikazi benenkinga ngodaba olulodwa unkosikazi manje asaba ukuthi seluphenduke “umlutha” olimaza ubuhlobo babo.
UMBUZO: Umlingani wami unezinkinga zokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10 futhi kuthinta umshado wethu ngempela. Okwenza kube nzima nakakhulu ukuthi ngicabanga ukuthi ungumlutha we-porn nokushaya indlwabu. Ngazi kanjani ukuthi ukungasebenzi kahle kwakhe nge-erectile kuyinkinga yomzimba noma yengqondo ngenxa yezinkinga zakhe eziqhubekayo zokulutha? Ngiyamthanda kepha anginasiqiniseko sokuthi ngingathatha kangakanani ngokuziphatha kwakhe nokuntuleka kothando egumbini lokulala.
IMPENDULO: Ngiyakuzwela. Ngizwa isizungu esiyisisekelo nomuzwa wokungabi namandla okuzisiza onabo ngobuhlobo bakho.
Izizathu zokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile
Kunezici eziningi ezingadala ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile. Lokhu kufaka phakathi izinkinga zempilo ezingaphansi (ngihlala ngincoma umuntu ohlangabezana nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile avakashele i-GP yakhe ukuze akhiphe lokhu), ubudala, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka kokusebenza noma ezinye izinto ezingokwengqondo.
Ukunquma ukuthi inselelo yezocansi iyinkinga engokomzimba noma engokwengqondo kuvame ukuba nzima ngoba kaningi, kuyinhlanganisela.
Ukuqagela kwami ukuthi uma wazi ukuthi umyeni wakho usasebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - futhi hhayi ukusondelana nawe - kuningi okwenzekayo kunenkinga ebonakalayo edala izinselelo ze-erectile.
Imiphumela yokusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ekusebenzeni kocansi
Manje sesibona izindlela eziningi ezithinta izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi ezithinta ukusebenza kocansi nokusebenza.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile eziphakeme ezisetshenziswa ikakhulukazi emadodeni amancane ziholela ekungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, ukubambezeleka kwe-ejaculation (ukungakwazi noma ubunzima bokufinyelela ku-orgasm), kunciphise ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, futhi kunciphise i-libido.
'Amandla' ezithombe zocansi, amandla abesilisa okuzinika bona ngqo abakufunayo nokungabikho kokukhathazeka ngokusebenza kwabo nomunye umuntu kungezinye zezici ezithinta amava ezocansi owesilisa nomlingani wakho.
Vele, ngingaqhubeka ngokulindelwe kwezocansi okwenziwe yi-porn nezindlela ezithinta ngazo abesifazane, kepha akuyona indawo le. Angilwi ne-porn, kepha ngicabanga ukuthi sidinga qaphela uhlobo lwezithombe zocansi esizibukayo nokuthi silindeleni kuyo.
Izinkinga zokusondelana ezisisekelo
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingenza izinkinga zokusondelana. Itholakala kalula, inezinhlobonhlobo cishe ezingenamkhawulo, ibhekiswe kakhulu enjabulweni yabesilisa futhi abesilisa balawula ngokuphelele ulwazi lwabo lwezocansi ngenkathi beshaya indlwabu. Konke lokhu kungadala izinkinga zocansi oluhlukanisiwe.
Ukuphendukela ekwanelisekeni kusuka ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile, kunokuba ukusondelana nokuxhumana nomunye umuntu kungakhuphula izinselelo ezibangelwa ukusondelana. Ngeshwa kuyajwayeleka kakhulu.
Yini ongayenza
Inkinga esemqoka lapha ukuthi uzizwa unohlobo oluthile lokungathandwa nokunganakwa. Ngenkathi lokhu kubonakala kakhulu ekamelweni lokulala, ngizobheja ukuthi akuyona ukuphela kwendawo ubuhlobo bakho obushoda khona ukuxhumana.
Ngenkathi ngibona ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga enzima umlingani wakho angakhuluma ngayo - futhi ukukhuluma ngezinkinga ezingokomzwelo noma zobudlelwano cishe akuyona into akhululeka ngayo ngezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu, kuzodingeka ukhulume ngalokhu.
Kubalulekile ukuthi nobabili nazi ukuthi kunezindlela zokwelashwa ezitholakalayo. Kepha umyeni wakho kufanele azimisele ukuzibandakanya nabo.
Khuluma nomyeni wakho
Angingabazi ukuthi uke wazama, kodwa kuzodingeka ukhulume nomyeni wakho mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Udinga ukuqonda ukuphindeka kokuziphatha kwakhe ebudlelwaneni bakhe, kepha ngiyazi ukuthi kunamandla okwandisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe futhi kumenze avale.
Lapho uphakamisa izingqinamba ezinzima, uzothola imiphumela emihle kakhulu uma usebenzisa indlela 'ethambile yokuqalisa'.
• Yabelana ngemizwa yakho.
• Yisho izidingo zakho ngendlela enhle.
• Cela umphumela oyifunayo.
Okwakho lokhu kungazwakala kanjena:
Ngizizwa ngingathandwa futhi ngicasukile ngokusondelana kwethu. Nginesidingo sokuthi sixhumeke kuzo zonke izindawo zobudlelwano bethu. Ngingathanda kakhulu ukuthi sikwazi ukukhuluma ngalokhu futhi sisebenzisane ngakho ngokubambisana. Ngabe uzimisele ukwenza lokho?
Cela ukuthi akhulume nochwepheshe
Ukunqoba noma iyiphi inselelo yezocansi kusebenza kangcono ngokusekelwa. Ikakhulukazi uma unikezwa ubude besikhathi lolu daba belulokhu luqhubeka futhi nezici ezingokwengqondo ezingaba khona lapha, uzothola imiphumela engcono esebenza nodokotela wezocansi noma owelapha ngokobulili ongakusiza ngecebo namathuluzi asebenzayo.
Sika izithombe ezingcolile
Ngeshwa, ingxenye yaleyo nqubo kumyeni wakho kungenzeka ukuthi iyeke ukusebenzisa kwakhe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokuphelele - okungenani isikhashana, ngakho-ke angafunda ukujabulela ucansi ngezinye izindlela futhi.
Ngiyethemba ngenxa yobudlelwano bakho uzimisele ukusebenza nawe futhi athole usizo kulokhu.
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