NguRose Laing, ngoLwesithathu 12 Okthoba 2016
I-Christchurch GP Rose Laing uthola ukuthi yisikhathi sokwengeza umlutha wezintambo ze-intanethi ohlwini lwakhe lokuhlolwa kwamathambo
Ukuhlolwa kwamathambo okumele siwacabangele ekunakekelweni okuyinhloko kubonakala kuthatha isikhathi eside ngosuku, kodwa nginezela elisha emayini - ukulutha kwezidakamizwa ze-intanethi nemiphumela yayo.
Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngiyazi ngezingozi zezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Ngangikhulume ngakho ezinyangeni eziningi ezedlule nengane engumngane wakhe, umfundi owayesebenza ngesibindi, owayenenkinga, wayehlala isigamu ebusuku futhi wayeqala ukuhluleka esikoleni.
Sasixoxile ngokungafani phakathi kocansi, ubulili obuvamile nokwenza uthando, kanye nalo lonke uhlu lokuphikisana lokuphikisana, futhi ungitshele abangane bakhe abaningi ukuthi bacabanga ukuthi izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ziwukulahlekelwa.
Umama wayenelisekile ngalokhu kodwa izinto zishintsha, futhi manje indodana yami ingitshela abangane bakhe abaningi ukuba bafinyelele njalo ezingcolile futhi bazizwe bengathandi, noma bangakwazi, ukuyeka. Kunalokho, ngesibindi, enza inkulumo yesikole ngokuthi kungani ubungozi bebubi kuwo wonke umuntu futhi ungibonise izinkulumo eziku-intanethi asetshenzisile njengophenyo ukuze asekele impikiswano yakhe.
Benza ukubukwa okuphazamisayo.
| Ngaphezulu kwalokhu, i-pornya isaba imboni ehlukumezayo, exhaphazayo eyenza imali encane yabambalwa, futhi ibhubhise izimpilo zabaningi. |
Kulula kakhulu izingane (futhi ngisho izingane; ukuhlola kwe-US kusikisela ukuthi i-90 iphesenti yezingane zibukele izithombe ze-porno ngenkathi ziseneminyaka engu-12) ukuze uchofoze kumasayithi abangena ekubukeni kokuhlukumeza ngokocansi kwabantu.
Abazali abahlola imilando yokuphequlula kwezingane zabo bangakhohliswa kalula yizingosi ezingashiyi umkhondo. Kuyinto elula ukuhamba kusukela kumasayithi e-porn-entry angena ezingosini ze-fetishist kanye nobudlova njengezithombe ezingcolile "ezivamile" ezilahlekelwa ukukhishwa kwazo.
I-Porn ingena ku-eyo-dopamine-release release axis njengezidakamizwa eziningi ezinzima. Njengakwezinye izidakamizwa, ukubekezelelana nokubekezela kukhula, ngakho ukucinga okuthakazelisayo okuqhubekayo kuyinto evamile; iyatholakala kwi-keystroke efonini ephathekayo.
Imiphumela emibi ingabandakanya ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukuboniswa okufana ne-ADHD, nokusebenza kabi kwe-erectile kuvamile.
Ngisho nalabo abangenalo umlutha, i-porn inikeza indima ephazamisayo njengethuluzi lokufundisa ngocansi olusha. Ukugxila konke kocansi kuyi-sexual / orifice contact. Izinkanyezi ezingcolile azikhulumi, ngaphandle kokukhipha imiyalo, ungakhathazeki, uphendule, uphumule noma uhleke ndawonye. Ukubukela lolu hlobo lwezinto ezibonakalayo kubeka kanjani amadoda amancane noma abesifazane besiphi isimo sobungane?
Umthelela omubi ekuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala kocansi
Abangani bothisha bangitshela ukuthi impikiswano ye-porno iyingozi kakhulu ekuhambeni kokuqala kokuxhumana kocansi phakathi kwentsha.
Abesifazane abasebasha bayaphoxiswa noma bahlukunyezwa yilokho kubonakala sengathi kulindeleke ukuba babekezelele, futhi izinsizwa eziningi ziyakhathazeka kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili umahluko phakathi kokucatshangelwa ukuthi ucansi kufanele kube kanye nesidingo sokusondelana ngokomzwelo kubalingani babo.
Ngaphezulu kwalokhu, i-pornya isaba imboni ehlukumezayo, exhaphazayo eyenza imali encane yabambalwa, futhi ibhubhise izimpilo zabaningi.
Angikaze ngisebenzise indlela yokuletha ulwazi olusha lwami ngale nkinga ibe yimiqondo evamile ngaphandle kokusabisa iziguli, kodwa ngokuqinisekile ngizocabanga ukuthi ngikhulise nendoda encane (noma engeyona encane) eveza ukucindezeleka , ukulala, ukukhathazeka noma ubuhlobo bomshado.
Funda amabhulogi amaningi kusuka ku-Rose Laing at www.nzdoctor.co.nz
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