Singajabula yini ngaphandle kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyi-intanethi?
Eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, amadoda avela kuwo wonke umhlaba aqala ukufika esithangamini sami sewebhusayithi ekhononda ukuthi abakwazanga ukuyeka ukusebenzisa i-Internet ye-porn. I-Google ibathumele-mhlawumbe ngoba isayithi lami likwabelana ngolwazi ngemiphumela yobulili ebuchosheni. Nokho, isayithi lami liphathelene nobuhlobo, hhayi ukubuyiswa. Kodwa ukucindezeleka kwabo okusobala, kanye nomthelela wezocansi ebuhlotsheni babo, kwangishukumisela ukuba ngibamukele. Njengoba ngilalela, lezi zivakashi zisekela emzabalazweni wokushiya izithombe ezingcolile.
Ngokuvamile bayabika izinguquko ezinkulu njengendlela yokusebenzisa i-porn recedes: amandla amaningi, ukuzethemba kwezenhlalo, ukuhlushwa okungcono, ukuzuza okukhulu ekusebenzeni, ukuvinjelwa okunamandla, ukubuyela ekuthandweni kokuya ocansini kwangaphambili, ukunyuka okukhulu nokuthokozisa okwengeziwe ezintweni ezijabulisayo zokuphila. Ngamafuphi, amadoda amaningi ayajabula kakhulu ngaphandle kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kwangibonisa ukuthi ingozi enkulu ye-porn ayiyona into ebonakala kubasebenzisi abaningi. Kubangelwa ukugqugquzela okukhulu komjikelezo wesifunda sobuchopho-ingxenye ye "ubuchopho bemammalian" yasendulo, engaphansi kwe-neocortex esisha (ubuchopho obungqondo). I-circuitry yomvuzo ilawula imizwelo, ukuxubana, ukudla, isisusa kanye nazo zonke izidakamizwa. Igijima kwi-neurochemical ebizwa ngokuthi i-dopamine, "i-gotta ithole!" I-neurotransmitter.
I-novelty-on-demand (imishini esetshenzisiwe, amageyimu evidiyo, amavidiyo porn) kuvame ukuheha kangaka le ngxenye eyinhloko yobuchopho, ukuthi ukuphoqeleka kuyingozi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubuchopho bethu buguquke ekukhanyeni hhayi kuphela ekuveleni okudingekayo, kodwa futhi i-bonanza yezofuzo ubulili nomlingani weveli.
Ngakho-ke, i-intanethi ye-Internet, ehlinzeka nabalingani abasha ngokuncenga i-ejaculate ekucholeni ngalinye kwegundane, ukubhalisa njengenzuzo kakhulu kangangokuthi ubuchopho buziphindaphinda kalula ukugxila ngokwengeziwe kulokhu okubonakalayo. Lokhu kungakwazi ukuhlehlisa kabusha izinto ezibalulekile zomsebenzisi.
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Umjikelezo wethu we-circuitry we-brainry wavela phambili ukusiholela ekubhekaneni ubulili nokudla. Kubonakala sengathi sisengozini kakhulu ekukhuliseni ukuvuswa kocansi nokudla okungenamsoco. Ukudla okungenamsoco kuye kwasiza ukwenza amaphesenti angu-64 wabaseMelika angaphezu kwamandla (futhi ingxenye yalabo abakhuluphele).
Futhi manje ukuthi amavidiyo wamahhala, wokusakaza atholakala ngasese ekunikezelweni okungapheli, mangaki asebenzisa i-porn? (Icebo: ngonyaka owedlule uprofesa waseMontreal kwadingeka ukuthi abukeze izifundo zakhe ngemiphumela ye-porn. Akatholanga noma yiziphi izintombi "ezingamantombazane ezingcolile" ekhampasi eyunivesithi enkulu.)
"Ukuzikhohlisa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyi-Internet akusona isifaniso," kuchaza u-Norman Doidge, onguchwepheshe wezifo zengqondo The Ubuchopho Obushintshayo. Abasebenzisi be-Porn baxoshwa kwizikhathi zokuqeqesha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezihlangabezana nazo zonke izimo ezidingekayo ekuguqulweni kwepulasitiki yamabalazwe obuchopho, okuwukuthi, ukunakwa, ukuqiniswa, nokuhlanganiswa kwe-dopamine kwezixhumanisi ezintsha ze-neural.
Ngempela, i-dopamine yeziqhumane zomshuwalense zingenza umuthi ophakeme wezidakamizwa ophoqelela ukwedlula ubulili nomlingani ojwayele. Kwi Playboy i-interview, umculi uJohn Mayer uvumile ukuthi wayezobuyela ezithombeni kunokuba abe nobulili. Wachaza,
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi zikushintshe ngokuphelele okulindelwe yisizukulwane sami. Ungahlala kanjani uhlanganisa i-orgasm [nomuntu] ngokususelwa kuzinhlamvu eziningi? Ufuna eyodwa… kokungu-100 ofunga ukuthi kuzoba yilowo oqeda kuye, kanti awukaqedi. Emizuzwaneni engu-XNUMX edlule ubucabanga ukuthi leso sithombe bekuyinto eshisa kunazo zonke owake wazibona, kodwa usiphonsa emuva bese uqhubeka nokuzingela kwakho bese uqhubeka nokwenza wephuzile emsebenzini. Lokho akuthinti kanjani i-psychology yokuba nobudlelwano nothile? Kufanele.
Ukujikeleza komvuzo womsebenzisi we-Porn akusaboni ukuthi lokhu kufanelekile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, le ngxenye yobuchopho ayikwazi ukucabanga. Inesisindo sezinketho ngokuya ngokuthi iyiphi ekhipha i-dopamine kakhulu.
Ngokudabukisayo, kungcono ukuthi umuntu elulame ekukhuthazeni okukhulu ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna ukuvuselela okukhulu. Le ndlela yokuqala yashintsha ukuze sihlale sisebenza uma into evuselela kakhulu ("igugu") iseduze. Isebenza ngokuphazamisa impendulo yokuthakazelisa isikhathi (ngokunciphisa imiphumela ye-dopamine), ngakho-ke sibukezela ngaphezulu.
Lokhu, ngendlela, yingakho izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa zidinga kakhulu futhi ukuthola imiphumela efanayo. Le divayisi cishe yasebenza kahle ngokusabalalisa izakhi zofuzo lapho abantu abamukelayo, abanoveli bengenalutho. Namuhla, noma kunjalo, ubuchopho buphutha yonke into ekhangayo ye-2-D njengethuba elikhulu lokudlula izakhi zofuzo. Umsebenzisi ongcolile angazizwa sengathi umsebenzi wakhe awunakwenziwa.
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Amadoda ahlukumezekile abika ukuthi ikhuphuka emanzini enjabulo yokuphila, njengezintelezi zabalingani bangempela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bangaba i-hypersensitive emibonweni yezocansi ubuchopho babo buhlanganisa "nokukhululeka." Kwabaningi, ukuphishekela izinto ezithinta kakhulu kuyadingeka ukunciphisa ubunzima bokuzwa sengathi kunesithako esiyinhloko senjabulo yabo esingekho-futhi. Izinguquko zobunjiniyela zinciphise amandla abo okuthakazelisa.
Akuyona into engavamile ukuba amadoda abanjwe kulo mjikelezo abe nomuzwa wokukhathazeka, ukuhlukumezeka komphakathi, ukukhathazeka, nokuphelelwa ithemba. Kuze kube yilapho beqala kabusha ubuchopho babo, ukuphila kubonakala kungenangqondo, kodwa ngenxa yokuphishekela okukodwa kokushushumbisa. Njengomuntu oyedwa wakubeka:
Ngomagazini, ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwakuyizikhathi ezimbalwa ngesonto futhi ngingakwazi ukuyilawula ngokuyisisekelo. 'Kungenxa yokuthi kwakungekho ngempela' okhethekile '. Kodwa lapho ngifika ezweni elibukhali lezinhlelo zobulili ezingcolile ze-Inthanethi, ubuchopho bami buyitholile into eyayifuna nje kuphela .... Ngangingaphumelelanga ezinyangeni ezingaphansi kwe-6. Iminyaka yamagundane: akukho izinkinga. Izinyanga ezimbalwa ze-inthanethi e-inthanethi: ihoxisiwe.
Abasebenzisi ngokuvamile abaqapheli ukuthi badlulisela nini baze banike ubuchopho babo ithuba lokubuyela ekulinganiseni. Kwabanye, ukuhoxiswa isikhathi eside okudingekayo ukuze kufezeke lokhu kungabangela ubuhlungu (ukuthuthumela, ukulala, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukuthanda, ukuhlukana ikhanda) abazizwa beboshelwe.
Isibonelo, ku-The Great Internet Porn-Off, amaphesenti angu-70 wabamncintiswano abakwazanga ukuhamba ngaphandle kwama-porn amasonto amabili. Futhi angakwazi ezinye iziphathimandla ze I-Securities and Exchange Commission, kubonakala kanjalo.
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Iplanethi lapho amadoda afundela ikhompuyutha asebenzisa ingozi enkulu yokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile aziyikujabula njengoba kungenzeka. Abantu abanenkinga yokunciphisa izinkanuko zokuvuselela ngokwengeziwe ngokuvamile abanesikhathi esincane, ukuzwela, noma ukuxazulula ubuciko, izimbangela ezinhle, ubudlelwane, noma izinjabulo zemvelo. Kodwa ukuguqulwa kulabo abazizwa bangcono ngaphandle kwe-porn kuyashukumisa. Cabanga ngalokhu okuthunyelwe:
Ngizizwa futhi. Ngizizwa ngizizwela futhi. Intshisekelo yami kubesifazane ikhulisiwe, ukuzethemba kwami kuphezulu futhi kunginika isisusa futhi. Ngingu-28 manje futhi kuze kube seminyaka embalwa edlule ngizizwa nginokukhula komnyaka we-15. Kodwa njengoba ngiphulukisa futhi ngiphilisa kulokhu kucindezelwa, ngizizwele imizwelo engakaze ngiyibhekane nayo ngaphambili. Kungisize ngikhule.
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Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ngibona amandla okwandisa, ukunakekelwa okukhulu, nokuzihlonipha okuphakeme. Ngemva kwenyanga-nakuba kwakuthatha izinyathelo ezimbalwa ukuze zifike lapho-lezo zithuthukisi zaziphezu kwendlu. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, nganginezocansi zangempela. Kuhle ukuvuswa izinto ezincane, njenge-blouse ebonakalayo noma nje ukugeleza kowesifazane, izinwele ezimhlophe neziphunga.
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Ngikhululekile kakhulu ngami futhi ngingabheka abantu ngamehlo, ngomusa nangokwethemba okungaphezu komuntu. Nganginabesifazane ababili bazethula kimi izolo, shake isandla sami bese u-HOLD IT. Hewu. Ngangikhululekile kakhulu ukukhuluma wonke umuntu. Ngabhala amakhasi amabili weskripthi esaya endleleni ejulile kunalokho engangikuhlosile. Ukusebenzisa kuphahleni.
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Nginamandla amaningi kakhulu, nginamahloni kakhulu, nginomdlandla futhi ngishukumiseleka emsebenzini, angizizwa ngishubile sonke isikhathi, futhi ngizizwa nginomqondo ojulile wokuxhuma nakho konke okuzungezile. Kodwa ushintsho olukhulu olwenzile lubuhlobo bami. Intombi yami kanye nami sizizwa sisondelene kakhulu kakade.
Uma kuziwa ezakhiweni ezicacile zobulili, umphakathi wethu uvame ukulahlekelwa ezingxoxweni mayelana nenkulumo yamahhala, izinga lokungcola, ukucindezelwa ngokocansi, nokulimala kwabangaphandle. Mhlawumbe kufanele sibheke ngokucophelela amandla esithombeni ukuze sithinte ubuchopho.
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Kuningi okwenzeke kusukela uMarnia ebhala isihloko esenhla ku-2010 (kufaka phakathi ukudalwa kwe-YBOP ku-2011). Izibonelo ezimbalwa zokusekelwa ngokusekelwe emibhalweni evezwe kulesi sihloko:
- Ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni? Umbhalo wezokwelapha wezokwelapha osetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni, I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), iqukethe ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "(I-2018)
- Ukulutha kobulili / ucansi? Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-39 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikeza ukusekela okuqinile ngesimodeli sokulutha kwezidakamizwa njengoba iziphumo zabo zibuyisa ukutholakala kwezinzwa ezibikiwe ezifundweni zokulutha izidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-16 zakamuva nezincazelo ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokubika okutholakele okuhambisana nokwanda kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezelelana), ukujwayela i-porn, kanye nezimpawu zokuhoxa (zonke izimpawu nezimpawu ezihlobene nokulutha).
- Ukubheka iphuzu lokukhuluma elingasekelwa ukuthi "isifiso sobulili esiphakeme" sichaza ukulahla ucansi noma ukulutha ngokobulili: Okungenani izifundo ze-25 zikhohlisa isimangalo sokuthi ubulili nemilutha ye-porn "banesifiso esiphakeme sobulili"
- Izinkinga zobulili nezinkinga zobulili? Lolu hlu luqukethe izifundo ze-26 ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn / ukubheja kocansi ezinkingeni zobulili kanye nokuvusa okuncane ezenzweni zobulili. I fiziqu ze-5 ezingekho ohlwini zibonisa ibangela, njengoba abahlanganyeli beqede ukusetshenziswa kwezingcolile kanye nokuphulukisa okungavamile kocansi.
- Imiphumela yocansi ebuhlotsheni? Ucwaningo oluseduze lwe-60 luxhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kuya ekungeneni kocansi nokuzaneliseka komndeni. (Njengoba sifana nathi konke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zabika ukusetshenziswa okuningi kocansi okuxhunyiwe abampofu ubulili noma ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano.)
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta impilo engokomzwelo nengqondo? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-55 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi nezimpofu ezingokwengqondo-ezingokomzwelo nemiphumela empofu yokuqonda.
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta izinkolelo, isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha? Hlola izifundo ngabanye - ngaphezu kokuqukethwe kwe-25 ukuxilongwa kwe-porn ukuze "isimo sengqondo esingafani" kubesifazane kanye nokubukwa kobulili - noma isifinyeto kusuka kulolu cwaningo lwe-2016 meta: Imidiya nezocansi: Umbuso woPhando lwezobuciko, i-1995-2015. Umbhalo:
Umgomo walokhu kubuyekezwa kwakungenxa yokwenza umsebenzi wokuhlola uphenyo wemiphumela yokuhlolisisa imidiya. Okugxile ekucwaningweni okushicilelwe ezincwadini zamaphephandaba ezibukezwa kontanga, phakathi kwe-1995 ne-2015. Isamba sezincwadi ze-109 eziqukethe izifundo ze-135 zibuyekezwe. Ukutholakala kwahlinzeka ngokufakazela okuphelele ukuthi kokubili ukuvezwa kwelabhoratri kanye nokwehliswa kwansuku zonke, okuqukethwe kwansuku zonke kulokhu okuqukethwe kuhambisana ngqo nemiphumela eminingi, kufaka phakathi amazinga aphezulu okunganeliseki komzimba, ukuzethemba okukhulu, ukwesekwa okukhulu kwezinkolelo zobulili kanye nezinkolelo zobulili ezingathandeki, futhi ukubekezelela okukhulu kobudlova ngokocansi kubesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuvezwa kokuhlolwa kwalokhu okuqukethwe kuholela kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa ukuba babe nombono owehlisiwe wokufaneleka kwamakhosikazi, ukuziphatha nokubambisana kwabantu.
- Kuthiwani ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili nokusetshenziswa kocansi? Okunye ukuhlaziywa kwemeta: Ukuhlaziywa Kwemifanekiso Yezingcolile zobulili kanye Nemisebenzi Yezenzo Zokuhlukunyezwa Ngokobulili Ezingxoxweni Ezivamile Zabantu (2015). Umbhalo:
Ucwaningo lwe-22 oluvela emazweni ahlukene we-7 luhlaziywe. Ukusetshenziswa kwakuhlotshaniswa nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili e-United States nakwamanye amazwe, phakathi kwamadoda nabesilisa, nasemifundweni engezansi kanye neyesikhathi eside. Izinhlangano zaziqinisile kunomlomo ngaphezu kokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili, nakuba zombili zazibalulekile. Iphethini elijwayelekile lemiphumela lisikisela ukuthi okuqukethwe okubudlova kungase kube yinto ekhudlwana.
- Kuthiwani ngokusetshenziswa kocansi kanye nentsha? Hlola lolu hlu lwaphezulu Ucwaningo lwezingane ze-200, noma lokhu kubuyekezwa kwe-2012 yocwaningo - Umthelela Wezithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile Ze-Intanethi Kubantwana Abasha: Ukubukezwa kocwaningo (2012). Kusuka esiphelweni:
Ukwandiswa kwe-intanethi yizingane ezisencane kudala amathuba angakaze abe khona okufundiswa ngokocansi, ukufunda nokukhula. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingozi yokulimala ebonakalayo kulezi zincwadi iye yaholela abacwaningi ukuba baphenye ukuvezwa kwentsha ezithombeni ezingcolile ezenzweni zokuzama ukuhlukanisa lobu buhlobo. Ngokubambisana, lezi zifundo ziphakamisa ukuthi intsha edla izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ingahlakulela izinkolelo nezinkolelo ezingacabangi ngokocansi. Phakathi kokufundwayo, amazinga aphezulu wemicabango yokuziphatha ngokocansi, ukukhathazeka ngokocansi, nokuhlolwa kwangaphambili kobulili kuhlotshaniswa nokusetshenziswa kaningi kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile .... Noma kunjalo, ukutholakala okuqhubekayo kuye kwavela ukuxhumana kokusetshenziswa kwentsha yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezisemuva ezibonisa ubudlova ngezinga eliphakeme lokuziphatha kocansi. Lezi zincwadi zibonisa ukuthi kukhona ukuhlangana phakathi kokusetshenziswa kwentsha engcolile nokuzicabangela. Amantombazane abika azizwe engaphansi kwabesifazane abakubukayo ezintweni ezingcolile zobulili, kuyilapho abafana besaba ukuthi ngeke babe njengabantu abafana nalabo abakhona kulezi zindaba. Intsha iyabika ukuthi ukusebenzisa kwabo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunciphile njengoba ukuzethemba kwabo nentuthuko yezenhlalakahle kwanda. Ukwengeza, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi intsha esebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ikakhulukazi etholakala kuyi-intanethi, inezilinganiso eziphansi zokuhlanganiswa komphakathi, ukwanda kwezinkinga zokuziphatha, amazinga aphezulu okuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, izimo eziphakeme zezibonakaliso zokucindezeleka, futhi ukunciphisa ukuhlanganiswa ngokomzwelo nabanakekeli.
- Ukuze uthole i-debunking cishe cishe yonke iphuzu lokukhuluma nge-naysayer nokutadisha okuthandwa yi-cherry bheka lokhu kuhlaziywa okubanzi: Debunking "Kungani Sikhathazeke Ngokukhathazeka Ngokubuka Izithombe Ezingcolile?? ", NguMarty Klein, Taylor Kohut, noNicole Prause (2018). Indlela yokuqaphela ama-athikili abathandwayo: Bakusho Prause et al., 2015 (ngokumangalela ukuthi ihlambalaza izidakamizwa ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile), ngenkathi ishiya ngaphezu kwezifundo ezingu-3 ezinokwenziwa kwezinkanyezi ezisekela ukulutha kocansi.
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