1.POSITIVE & YAMANJE
Kuyoba khona izikhathi zobuhle obuphelele, ukuqonda, nokuthula kulo lonke ukubuyiswa kokuqala. Kuzophinde kube nezikhathi zokucindezeleka okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba nokushiya. Isihluthulelo sokwenza ngalezi zikhathi ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi zonke izinto zingezesikhashana futhi le mizwelo izodlulela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikhulu kangakanani.
Khumbula ukuthi ngokuyisisekelo ungumuntu olungile ofanelwe injabulo nothando. Kulungile ukuzwa le mizwa futhi kuyingxenye ejwayelekile yale nqubo. Empeleni awukaze “uzwe” lutho. Ake uhlole le mizwa. Zama ukungacindezeli. Ulufanele ngempela uthando nenjabulo futhi uzothola kokubili.
Ungahlali ngaphakathi kwekhanda lakho isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ungagxili kunoma imuphi umuzwa ongemuhle isikhathi eside. Sithole, uzizwe ngokugcwele, bese uqhubeka. Hlala u-PRESENT ugxile lapho kunokwenzeka. Ungakhathazeki ngokwedlule.
Uma uzithola uphupha ngezocansi, khumbula zonke izinto ezimbi ezikulethe empilweni yakho. Akulungile ebuchosheni bakho ukucabanga ngezinzuzo ezibonakalayo zento ethile ngaphandle kokubheka izinto ezimbi. Khumbula zonke izinto ezesabekayo ezenziwe yilomlutha kuwe. Khumbula ukuthi impilo yakho yayingasalawuleki kanjani. Khumbula indlela owawuzithanda ngayo. Bese ugxila kuzo zonke izinto ezinhle ezingene empilweni yakho selokhu uqale le nqubo yokutakula. Cabanga ngawo wonke amandla ikusasa eliwaphethe ngokululama.
2.EXERCISE
Akunandaba ukuthi hlobo luni. Ukugijima, ukugijima, i-yoga, ukuphakamisa okunzima, i-ballet, i-basketball, ukuhamba kwemvelo njll. Phumela ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka bese uqala ukusebenzisa umzimba wakho. Umzimba wakho uyisipho esihle futhi ingxenye yokulutha kocansi / indlwabu ithatha imizimba yethu kalula. Ngivocavoca umzimba nsuku zonke. Kwesinye isikhathi kunwetshelwa imizuzu eyi-10 kuphela, kwesinye isikhathi ku-1 mile sprint, kwezinye izinsuku amahora amabili wokuphakamisa. Akukho okuhlukile kulo mthetho kimi.
3.QEDA & SHINTSHA
Misa ukuletha ilaptop yakho egumbini lakho lokulala. Yekani ukuletha iselula yakho egumbini lakho lokulala. Funda ngaphambi kombhede noma uzindle.
Phumlani ku-Facebook. Susa izinhlelo zokuchitha isikhathi kufoni yakho. Chitha isikhathi ku-r / nofap esikhundleni salokho. Noma sebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza lwekhalenda ukugcina isheduli yakho yanyanga zonke neyeviki isesikhathini futhi inembile. Uhlelo lokusebenza lwe-notepad luyasiza futhi ukukhumbula izinto nokwenza uhlu lokwenza izinto.
Misa ukuhlala kuze kube yi4am idlala imidlalo yamavidiyo. Misa ukuhlala kuze kufike isikhathi se-4am. Zama ukuvuka ekuseni futhi uhambe ekuseni noma uzindle. Yizame kanye ngesonto, bese kabili ngeviki, bese mhlawumbe nsuku zonke ngesonto. Ngangihlala ngicabanga ukuthi ngizelwe nje ukuba ngumuntu wobusuku. Manje ngithanda ekuseni. Ngiyakuthanda ukuvuka ngaphambi kwanoma ngubani futhi nokwenza umsebenzi.
Yekani ukubhema ukhula nezinye izidakamizwa. Kwangithatha isikhashana ukubona ukuthi ngisebenzisa ukhula njengendlela yokubalekela iqiniso. Ukubuyisa futhi ube nozwela kumayelana nokuzibophezela kwangempela ngazo zonke izindleko. Lapho ngicindezelekile ngiphuza i-chamomile noma itiye elikhulula ukucindezela. Nami ngaqala ukuphuza i-kaumbucha. Ngisanda kuqala nokuzindla. Ngincoma konke lokhu okungenhla njengemisebenzi emihle yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka.
Yeka ukudla ukudla okusheshayo. Funda ukupheka ukudla okulula okunempilo. Ngiyakwazi ukwenza upelepele wenkukhu, imifino ethosiwe ethosiwe, nezinye izitsha ezimbalwa ezilula. Ngigcina ifulethi lami ligcwele izithelo ezintsha, i-hummus, amantongomane, isifuba senkukhu nemifino. Kushibhile impela selokhu ngayeka ukuphuza nokubhema nokudla ukudla okusheshayo. Futhi angilingwa kakhulu ukuba ngidle kabi lapho izinketho ezinempilo zitholakala.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungazikhathazi ngokuzama ukushintsha kakhulu ngasikhathi sinye. Khetha izinto ezimbalwa isonto ngalinye futhi ugxile kakhulu ekuzifezekiseni. Umkhuba lapha ukuthi sisusa imikhuba emibi bese siyifaka emihle. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ushintsho "lwe-oda lokuqala". Lapho ufaka okunye kokuziphatha kokunye ukuziphatha ngendlela ethile yokuziphatha uzibandakanya ekushintsheni kwe-oda lokuqala. Lesi ngesinye sezinyathelo zokuqala maqondana nobungqabavu nokululama.
4.SUPPORT
Cabanga ukutshela umngane ngokulutha kwakho. Ungamangala ukuthi banenkinga noma benze okuthile okufanayo. Tshela umzali noma othile emndenini wakho. Tshela noma ngubani omethembayo nokuthi ocabanga ukuthi uzokusekela ngaluphi ushintsho lwesimo sempilo.
Ngatshela bobabili abazali bami, udadewethu, intombi yami, futhi njengamanje ngiselapha nodokotela onelayisensi yokulutha. Ngiyazi ukuthi abanye abantu bayamelana kakhulu nokuzama ukwelashwa (nami bengiyindlela efanayo), kepha ngicabanga ukuthi lesi bekuyisinyathelo esibalulekile kimi sokuthuthuka ekululameni kwami. Ngatshela umuntu wami wezokwelapha izinto engingakaze ngizitshele noma yimuphi umuntu ongumuntu ngaphambili. Ukuvulela umuntu othile nokuba ngibaphendule ngozwela nangokuqonda kungisizile ukuba ngibone ukuthi angisiye umuntu omubi ngempela futhi ngilufanele uthando nentokozo. Sengiphile impilo yami yonke ngicabanga ukuthi empeleni ngingumuntu omubi. Ukubona ukwamukelwa emehlweni womunye umuntu kuyinto enamandla futhi eguqula impilo.
UCWANINGO NOKUCABANGELA
Izincwadi ezimbalwa zingisize ngempela ukufinyelela kuleli phuzu lezinsuku le-90. Lezo zincwadi yilezi:
“Ukuphulukisa kukaJohn Bradshaw Ihlazo Elikubophezelayo” - incwadi emangazayo futhi ekhuthazayo eyayiyisisekelo esiphakeme sokuguqula ukungisiza ukuqeda amahloni ami futhi ngiqale ukuzithanda. Le kwakuyincwadi eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu ekululameni kwami.
“Indlela Elula ka-Allen Carr Yokulawula Utshwala” - ukuyeka ukuphuza kwakuyisinyathelo esikhulu kimi sokuthola ukusanguluka ngokulutha kwami ngokocansi / ukushaya indlwabu. Amasu amaningi wokuyeka ukuphuza angasetshenziswa ngqo ekuyekeni i-porn nokushaya indlwabu.
"UJoe Zychik Umlutha Womuntu Siqu" http://www.sexualcontrol.com/images/stories/the-most-personal-first-48.pdf UZychik unemibono ethile ephikisayo ngezinto ezithile, kepha ikakhulukazi ngiyavumelana nendlela yakhe yokwenza izinto. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyihlazo ukuthi akakholelwa noma akancomi ukwelashwa. Ngicabanga ukuthi uyababa nje ngaleyo nto ngoba wayeka isikole. Nikeza incwadi yakhe ifundwe. Kumahhala futhi inezinto ezinhle ezihlobene nokutakula lapho.
“UPatrick Carnes 'Ebhekene Nesithunzi” I-Carnes akuyona umuntu engimthandayo kakhulu emphakathini wokubuyiselwa kwezocansi. Kepha ungomunye wabacwaningwe kakhulu, abahlonishwayo nabasunguliwe. Incwadi yakhe ayibekiwe kahle ngombono wami futhi ingadumaza kancane kulabo abasha ukuze balulame. Sekukonke, inolwazi oluhle nokho futhi ngingayincoma ikakhulukazi uma unochwepheshe wokukuqondisa ezintweni nasekuzivocavoca umzimba.
I-6.RESPONSIBILITY
Kufanele uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakho, ukwehluleka kwakho, kanye nesimo sakho samanje. Ubuyisisulu. Ungene ogibeni. Zombili lezi zinto ziyiqiniso. Kepha manje ususazi isicupho futhi kufanele uthwale umthwalo wemfanelo wakho wobugovu owedlule. Ukukhetha okuphindaphindwe okukhethekile kukuholele kuleli phuzu. Amandla afanayo ukukhetha impilo enempilo nokululama azokuholela kule ndawo emnyama.
Vuma ngokushesha lapho wenza amaphutha. Ungasoli abanye uma ubuyela emuva. Njalo bheka isimo sempilo yakho bese uzibuze ukuthi yiziphi izinqumo ozenzile eziholele kuleli phuzu.
Cela usizo kwabanye uma uludinga. Ungazikhukhumezi kakhulu lapho ucabanga ukuthi ungakwazi noma kufanele ukwenze lokhu wedwa. Kudinga isibindi esikhulu ukuvuma izinkinga zakho bese ucela usizo. Kulula futhi kuyigwala ukwenza sengathi awunankinga. Ungasoli umphakathi we-nofap noma abazali bakho noma abangane bakho noma omunye umuntu uma ubuyela emuva. WENA kuphela ongakhetha ukuthi ungazibandakanyi nalomlutha.
I-7.SPIRITUALITY
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kusho uNkulunkulu noma isonto noma inkolo. Kimi ingokomoya ukuzindla. Ingokomoya liyatholakala emculweni. Ingokomoya lingaba ukushona kwelanga okuhle noma ukuduma kwezulu. Noma yini ekukhumbuza ngamandla amangalisayo anamandla akhona kulomhlaba. Khumbula kukho konke lokhu ukuthi noma ngabe uzizwa umncane kangakanani noma ungabalulekanga kangakanani, usakhethekile komunye umuntu. Impilo yakho ibalulekile futhi iyisipho. Ufanelwe uthando nenjabulo.
I-8.HELP YABANYE
Ngiphuphe ngosuku lapho ngizoqedela izinsuku ze-90 futhi ngikwazi ukuza kulo mphakathi ngihlanganyele engikufundile. Lapho ngivuma intombazane yami ngokungathembeki kwami kwakungobunye bunzima nobunzima besikhathi sempilo yami. Ngenkathi ngiyabelana nawe ngakho konke kwahlangatshezwa ukwesekwa okuningi futhi ngazizwa sengathi ngisiza abanye emphakathini ngokwabelana nje nendaba yami.
Khumbula ukuthi lo mphakathi usungamalungu angaphezu kuka-150,000. Iningi lokuthunyelwe alinakwa kakhulu futhi lokhu akuhlangene nokuqukethwe noma ikhwalithi nokuningi okuphathelene nenhlanhla. Ngibe nokuthunyelwe okungenye yezilinganiso eziphakeme kakhulu kulesi sigaba nokuthunyelwe okunamavoti angu-0 futhi angenamazwana. Ungakhubeki noma ungathathi wena uqobo uma lokhu kwenzeka.
UTHANDO lwe9.SELF
Qala ukuzithanda futhi ukhombise ngezenzo zakho. Zivuze impumelelo. Uma ukwazi ukuyikhokhela, zenzele izinto ezinhle njalo ngesikhashana.
Ufanelwe injabulo. Ufanele impilo ngaphandle kokulutha. Bungaza ingqophamlando. Ziphe izipho. Hamba uyothola ukubhucungwa. Iya kumamuvi. Iya epaki ufunde incwadi. Hleka, amamatheke, futhi ukhale lapho udinga. Ungazithatheli phezulu. Impilo imfushane. Kujabulele. Uyakufanelekela.
LINK - I-9 ye-90 (imithetho ye-9 eyangisiza ngifinyelela ezinsukwini ze-90)
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Nayi into yokunamathisela ekhophi ezintweni ezingisizile ekuqaleni kokululama kwami, uma ngabe ufuna amathiphu amaningi kakhonkolo. Sikufisela inhlanhla ohambweni lwakho lokululama. Ngikholwa ukuthi uzothola indlela yakho futhi ngithemba ukuthi unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe wokushintsha. Ngempela ufanele ukujabula. Uyakufanelekela ngempela. Njengoba umusha okusha ekululameni nansi imininingwane encane engisizile ohambweni lwami. Qhubeka uzenzele ucwaningo mayelana nezimo ezinhle ze-porn nokushaya indlwabu. Buza konke okufundayo futhi kungekudala uzobona ukuthi abantu laphaya bayazikhohlisa. Bayimilutha yesidakamizwa futhi banesifiso sokuthola ngandlela thile ukusebenzisa kwabo izidakamizwa. Abantu bazimisele ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze bachaze imikhuba yabo emihle. Sivikela kakhulu izinto esazi phansi phansi ukuthi ziyimilutha. Nakhu okufundwayo okuncane okudingayo! Khumbula ukuthi ungalokothi uyeke ukucwaninga nokuhlola lo mlutha. Kuwubuqili futhi lapho ufunda ngokwengeziwe impumelelo engcono ozoba nayo. Khumbula ukuyithatha yonke ngohlamvu lukasawoti. Okubalulekile ukuthi lezi zinsiza zizokusiza ukuthi uqale ukubuza umlutha wakho wangaphakathi. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2zrqrk/this_is_so_true_must_read/ (kungamazwi ami uqobo, ngakho-ke ngiyathemba ukuthi lokho akubonakali njengokuhlekisa. Ngicabanga nje ukuthi ukucabanga ngalezi zinto kubaluleke kakhulu ekululameni kwasekuqaleni) http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234 Le ncwadi yinhle ngokubhekana namahloni. Kungisizile kakhulu emzabalazweni wami uqobo ukubhekana nesikhathi sami esedlule nokwenza ukuthula namaphutha ami nokuzamukela njengomuntu. http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easy-Stop-Smoking/dp/0615482155 Le ncwadi ayibhalelwanga ukuluthwa ngokocansi, kepha ikhombisa ukuthi ukululama kungaba yinto enhle kanjani. Ngingancoma ukuthi ngiyifunde futhi esikhundleni se- "nicotine" esikhundleni se- "porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu" http://www.sexualcontrol.com/The-Most-Personal-Addiction/ Kukhona ukulandwa kwamahhala kwe-PDF kuwebhusayithi. Ngiyithanda kakhulu le ncwadi ngoba inikeza amasu aphathekayo wokunqoba umlutha we-porn nokushaya indlwabu. Kufunde konke ngenhlamvu kasawoti. Futhi usondele kuyo yonke into ekululameni kwakho kokuqala ngokungabaza. http://www.amazon.com/Facing-Shadow-Starting-Relationship-Recovery/dp/0982650523 Angiyena umlandeli omkhulu kaPatrick Carnes ngoba ubonakala ephuthelwa umbono oyisisekelo ngokutakula engicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile. Kepha le ncwadi inhle impela ekuhloleni umlutha wakho. Ngingayincoma ngemithamo emincane. Isebenzisana kakhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuyinselelo enkulu ukusebenza nayo. Le ncwadi isetshenziswe kahle ngosizo lomelaphi.
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