Ngaqala lokhu ukuqala kabusha ngenkathi ngingu-19, cishe i-11 noma izinyanga ezedlule. Mhlawumbe elinye lamacala amabi kakhulu we-PIED laphaya, bengingakwazi ukuthola ukwakheka kusukela ekuqaleni esikoleni esiphakeme. Esikhathini esingaphezu kwesonto eledlule, ngilahlekelwe ubuntombi bami entombini yami engakholeki futhi siye salala ocansini kathathu kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, into ebengiyesaba impela ukuthi angisoze ngakwazi ukuyenza. Ngizothumela udaba lwami ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kepha nansi eyami “INDLELA” engibhala ngayo kunoma ngubani onenkinga.
AMathiphu NEZINHLELO ZOKUTHENGA I-PIED / ADDICTION:
I-1. U-OPTIMISM UNGAKHETHA UKHETHO
Lesi yiseluleko esibaluleke kunazo zonke engingasinikeza. Into ekhathazayo ngokuqalisa kabusha ukuthi imiphumela yayo ayihleliwe futhi awunakho okungaphezu kokuqagela okuyimpumputhe ngokuthi uphulukisa nini. Ngikholwe ukuthi ngizokwenziwa cishe ngosuku lwe-180 (iphutha, okuningi kulokhu kamuva) futhi angizange. Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukuzijabulisa wena futhi uziqhenye ngokuthi uthathe isinqumo sokwenza ushintsho oluhle empilweni yakho. Ngisho nokwehluleka okuzayo, njengokungakutholi nentombazane oyithandayo ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha, kufanele kuthathwe njengempumelelo. Ezingeni elijulile lezinzwa: ufundise ubuchopho bakho ukuthi ifuna ukuya kuphi nokuthi yini ekufanele ikulungele. Lokhu kungiholela ephuzwini lami elilandelayo…
I-2. ZIBHALISE IZINDLELA EZILELE
Ufike emasontweni ama-2 okokuqala? Kwenziwe kahle! Walwa nesifiso owawuzongena kuso phambilini? Yidla uswidi, uwutholile. Uma unikeza ubuchopho bakho umvuzo wokugwema i-PMO neminye imikhuba emibi, kuzosiza. Lokho okwenzayo kungaba yimpi yengqondo enzima kunazo zonke owake wadlula kuzo. Amandla ngaleyo shit futhi uziqhenye ngokuthi ufeza okungakanani.
I-3. QINISEKISA UKUPHILA KWAKHE
Ngenkathi lesi seluleko sibonakala sibuyela emuva, singasiza ngokusobala ekuqaliseni kabusha kwakho izindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene. Enye yezinto engisizile ngakwazi ukubhekana nalesi sifo kakhulu yi-EXERCISE. Bengihlekiswa ngokungaphezi esikoleni esiphakeme ngokuba mude futhi ngizacile, futhi onyakeni odlule nohhafu wokuzivocavoca ngibe yisimodeli sokuqina esincintisana emijahweni yezifundo zezithiyo ezihamba ibanga elide. Ukugwema i-PMO kuzoshiya isikhala empilweni yakho, leli ithuba elihle lokugcwalisa lokho ngomkhuba onempilo.
Encwadini yesibili, izidakamizwa ezifana nalezi zivame ukuba uphawu lwenkinga yokuphila, hhayi inkinga uqobo. Lapho izinto ziba nzima ezimpilweni zethu, ikakhulukazi izinto ezicindezelayo ezifana nesehlukaniso noma ukulahlwa noma ukungazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze empilweni, sithambekele ekutholeni izindawo ezenza sizizwe singcono. Ukushaya indlwabu ngokwemvelo kukugcwalisa nge-dopamine ukuze uzizwe wanelisekile (ukhohlise ubuchopho bakho ekucabangeni ukuthi ikhiqize kabusha). Ukugcwala ngokweqile kwamahomoni kudonsa izinzwa zakho kwezinye izinto empilweni okufanele zikulethele injabulo. Uma uthuthukisa ezinye izici zempilo yakho ngaphandle kwe-PMO ezinjengalezi: ubudlelwano bomndeni, ukwenza izinto zokuzilibazisa, izindawo ohamba kuzo ofuna ukuya kuzo, ubheka izinto ohlwini lwakho lwamabhakede, awudingi injabulo yokufakelwa ye-PMO. Lapho impilo yakho iba ngcono, kungani wena?
I-5. QAPHELA ISELULELO SAKHO SOKUQALA
Udinga ukuthembeka kuwe ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokulutha kwakho, futhi akunamahloni ngokuya ezinyathelweni ezinqala zokukhahlela le nkinga. Esigabeni sokuqala sokuqalisa kabusha kwami ngayeka ukulalela umculo wezocansi, ngayeka ukubuka ama-movie alinganisiwe R nezinhlelo ze-tv, ngayeka ukuzibamba endlini yami ngedwa, ngayeka ukulandela amakhasi athile ku-instagram / facebook, futhi ngabhekisisa imizwa yami nokusetshenziswa kwefoni yami. Ngangihlala ngisebenzisa ifoni yami ku-PMO, futhi ngenkathi kunxuswa ngangigijima ngibeke ifoni yami ekamelweni lami ngihlale egumbini lokuphumula noma ngaphandle ukuze ngiqiniseke ukuthi angenzi lutho oluyisiphukuphuku. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuzigqaja kwakho kungathatha isikhundla sakho bese ucabanga ukuthi “Angidingi ukuya KOKWEQILE, lokho kungaba kuncane kakhulu”, kepha alikho ihlazo lokulwa nalomlutha ngazo zonke izikhali ezikuwo.
Futhi, kuza iphuzu lapho kuyodingeka ufunde ukuzethemba ngezigaba zakamuva. Lokho akusho ukuphinda ugcwalise lawo makhasi we-instagram angabazekayo noma ubuke kumagazini othile isikhathi eside kakhulu, kusho ukuthi kufanele uthembe ukuvuthwa kwakho ngenkinga futhi uqhubeke. Izinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala kokuqalisa kabusha kwami, ngangikule webhusayithi kaningi ngosuku ngokuxhaswa, okusizile. Kodwa lokho futhi kwangiphoqa ngokungaqondile ukuthi ngicabange ukuthi kudonsa kanjani ukuthi kube ne-PIED kaningi, ngakho-ke ekugcineni ngafunda ukuzincika kule ndawo ukuze ngigxile kwezinye izici zempilo yami. Ukuthola ukulutha ngokweqile awukhohlwa ukuthi isidakamizwa sikhona, kumayelana nokuqonda ukuthi umuthi unakho nokuthi awusafuni noma iyiphi ingxenye yawo.
I-6. YENZA IZINQUMO ZAKHO ZILULA
Ungavumeli ubuchopho bakho bukutshele ukuthi bufunani ngesikhathi sokufuna. Ngisho nangesikhathi sokuhlaselwa kwami kokukhathazeka okukhulu phakathi nalokhu kuqaliswa kabusha, ngangazi ukuthi nginezinketho ezimbili ezilula engingahamba nazo: Ngingakwazi ukugoba futhi ngizizonde ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho, ngibe nesonto elimnandi noma ngemuva kokugcwala okukhulu nokuzizwa nginecala. NOMA ngingalwa nayo imizuzu embalwa, ngiziqhenye ngokushaya leso sifiso, futhi ngizidlele uswidi ongunkulunkulu. Konke kumnyama futhi kumhlophe, noma ngabe isimo sakho sengqondo sikufiphaza lokho isikhashana. Landela lokhu ngisho nasekupheleni kokuqalisa kabusha kwakho, okungiholela endaweni yami yokugcina…
I-7. YETHEMBA ISITOLO
Angikwazi ukukugcizelela lokhu ngokwanele: UNGANIKEZI UKUZINIKELA UKUPHELA. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uzoqeda ukuqalisa kabusha ngemuva kwezinsuku ezingama-90, uzothukuthela lapho ungakwenzi. Khohlwa 90. Ungayinaki. Bengikhathazeka ngemuva kwezinsuku ze-180 lapho bekufanele ngabe ngithembele kwimvelo futhi ngiphumule. Izinsuku ezingaphezudlwana kuka-300 futhi ngiyindoda ekhululekile, amagama engingakaze ngicabange ukuthi ngingawakhuluma. Futhi sekela kule webhusayithi, amazwi akho esikhuthazo angasindisa inqubekela phambili yomuntu futhi ashukumise eyakho.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi lokhu kusiza noma ngubani kulo mzabalazo, thumela lapha kunoma yimiphi imibuzo futhi ngizothumela indaba yami yangempela yokuqalisa kabusha emasontweni azayo!
Ama-ukumemeza akhethekile ku-Rec101 no-Hextonix ngokuba ezinye zezikhathi zokusekelwa kakhulu ngesikhathi sokululama kwami, ukuhlonipha nina bantu ababili!
Futhi: ukumemeza kumakhelwane wami uGabe Deem ngokusetha konke lokhu nokusiza inani elikhulu labantu ngentshiseko yakhe, qhubeka njalo!
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Ukukhathazeka Kokwenza Kokulutha
Le ndaba ngokuyinhloko lapho ungasazizwa unamandla we-PMO kepha usazithola usulwela ukwenza umlingani wakho. Ngisebenzele lokhu kanzima nentombazane yami amasonto ambalwa ngaze ngenza ucwaningo lwethani futhi ngathola amasu angisizile:
I-1. Kulungile ukuba nobugovu lapha
Kunengqondo kuphela ukufuna ukujabulisa umlingani wakho futhi "ube yikho konke abakulindele". Ngeshwa, lokhu kungaholela ekukhathazekeni kokuzibekela okulindelwe kokuthi udinga ukwenza kanjani, futhi kudale umoya omubi wokungabaza. Yize kukuhle ukuqiniseka ukuthi uphathina wakho uyanakekelwa, gxila nakulokho okuthandayo. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokwenza okuthile ngoba kukuzwa kukuhle kuwe, futhi uzama ukukujabulela ungakuboni lokho ukususa ingcindezi emahlombe akho.
I-2. Phefumula futhi wehlise ijubane
Uma uzizwa ingqondo yakho igijima ngenkathi uthola umzimba, thatha umoya ojulile bese ucabanga ngezinto ezinhle ezenzekayo. Ngabe kunjani? Yini oyithandayo ngakho? Kuzwakala kulula kepha kuyamangaza ukuthi kulula kanjani ukwenza izinto zibe lula. Ukucabanga ngentshiseko ngokuthi ungakuthola noma cha, uma umlingani wakho ekujabulela, noma ukuthi yini ongazazi ngayo yi-bummer yokubulala i-boner futhi leyo micabango ayisifanele isikhathi sakho.
I-3. Ukwehluleka kulungile
Ngenxa yokungakwazi ukwenza amaswidi, ngiyazi. Kungakushiya unamahloni, udumele, futhi uzibuza ukuthi ingabe ukuqala kabusha kuyoke kuphumelele yini.
KUZOKWENZA.
Konke ongakwenza ukuqhubekela phambili futhi ube nethemba. “Hawu akusebenzanga ngalesi sikhathi? Hhayi-ke, kukuzwile isikhashana futhi uvuselele ubuchopho bakho okwesikhashana. Impumelelo kaFreakin. ” Ukubekwa emumva kuyisikhali sakho esikhulu kunazo zonke kulo mzabalazo, futhi kufanele uqhubeke, wenze okuthile okujabulelayo (ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ubone i-movie, njll), sula ikhanda lakho bese uzama futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi unethemba elithile.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi lokhu kusiza abanye abantu laphaya! Ngazise uma unemibuzo!
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