Ngiyi-20 yo European dude, unyaka we-3rd eyunivesithi. Le yindaba yami yeNoFap, eqale izinyanga ze-9 ezedlule. Indaba Izinyanga ze-11 ezedlule ngilahlekile. Ngiqale ukungabaza impilo yami nempilo iyonke, ngaya ngifuna injongo yokuphila nokuthi kungani impilo yami yayiyindlela ebiyiyona. Ngezwa sengathi kukhona okushodayo empilweni yami kepha angazi ngempela ukuthi yini.
Kwakuyisikhathi sokuthi ngibe nabangane abaningi. Uthathe izincwadi zokufunda, ukuzindla, ukuzilibazisa okusha (ukudilika mahhala). Kusetshenzwe okuningi. Yeka ukubhema imbiza, ubekwenza lokhu amasonto ama-5 elandelana cishe nsuku zonke, kanti ngaphambi kokuthi ngikwenze ngezikhathi ezithile. Nginqume ukuthi angifuni ukuncika embizeni. Ngalesi sikhathi ngicabange KUNINGI ngempilo futhi kulokhu esidlule siyaphi ngemibuzo? Yebo impela, i-inthanethi. Cishe izinyanga ze-2 kule nqubo ngazibuza ngolunye usuku: "Kungani ngifaka?" Uyitholile wayithola lo mphakathi. Lwaqala kanjalo-ke uhambo lwami lweNofap…
Umlando wokugcina Isikhathi sokuqala lapho ngibona uP cishe wayeneminyaka engu-13-14, angizange ngiyibuke njalo ngenxa yekhompyutha yomndeni ophakathi. Ezinye izinyanga azikho, ezinye izikhathi ezimbalwa. Ukuguqula i-18 nokuya eyunivesithi ngithole ikhompyutha yami futhi uye wakucabanga, waqala ukubuka kakhulu, eminyakeni eyi-2 kamuva ngangibuka cishe njalo ebusuku. Ngalesi sikhathi, ukuqala ngo-13-14, ngangihlala ngivela njalo, hhayi ngqo nsuku zonke kepha ngubani okhathalelayo, ake ngithi ngafakwa nsuku zonke. Kakhulukazi ngaphambi kokuba ngilale, ngicabanga ngamantombazane angempela. Ngesikhathi esikoleni esiphakeme ngangiphumelela namantombazane, kodwa nganginemikhuba emibi ngawo. Izikhathi eziningi ngakubona sekwephuze kakhulu lapho intombazane yayingithanda. Mhlawumbe nganginezinkinga ezithile lapha ngokucabanga ukuthi ngangingemuhle (kusukela ekuqaleni kwabantu abaningi babethi ngimuhle, angikaze ngikukhathalele kangako lokhu ngoba umuntu anganquma kanjani ukuthi muhle?). Futhi ezinye izingqinamba ngenxa yokuxhashazwa ngisemncane, ngibona lokhu kuphela manje. Ihlazo kodwa okwedlule sekwedlule. Ngakho-ke isidingo sami samantombazane sasihlala siphansi kakhulu kepha okunikezwayo kwakukhona.
Kuqala i-Nofap Ngemuva kokufunda izindaba ezithile kanye 'ne-Brain On Porn' yakho kanye nomfutho wokuzithuthukisa ngathi kimi: "awuyena umlutha we-P futhi uzokufakazela lokho ngokuqedela inselelo yezinsuku ezingama-90" ? Nganginesiqiniseko sokuthi anginazinkinga zokukhathazeka komphakathi ngoba lapho kudingeka khona bengingakhuphuka ngikhulume nabantu kepha lapho kungadingeki ngivame ukukwenza, uma ngibheka emuva lokhu benginakho okunye kwako. Futhi ngangine-ED ngaphandle kokwazi ngoba angizange ngiqhubekele phambili namantombazane kunokumanga (kwabambalwa engangiqabula). Bengingenamdlalo. Wenza ucansi namantombazane amabili esikoleni esiphakeme, zombili lapho ukwehluleka okungahambi kahle nokuncane (ngenxa ye-ED mhlawumbe).
Inselele INDODA INDODA INDODA, into engakanani lena. Izinsuku zokuqala ze-20 lapho zihlanya, zihlala zicabanga ngocansi nezinto zezocansi, ngemuva kwalokhu kwaba ngcono kangako esikhathini esiphansi, lokhu kwakwesabeka ngoba ngangingenantshisekelo yokubheka amantombazane ne-zero libido. I-Flatline yaphela futhi ngaba nezikhalazo ezilawulwayo. Kufinyelelwe ezinsukwini ezingama-70 ngaphandle kokubuyela emuva nganoma yini. KODWA KANYE KAKHULU KODWA ngangikhona lapho ngengqondo futhi ngabhala okuthunyelwe kimi ngikufinyelela futhi ngikhululekile kulezi zinto, LOKHU KWAKUNGELONA IQINISO. Mhlawumbe kusuka ekushaya indlwabu kodwa hhayi kusuka ku-porn, ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi ngiyenzile nginqume ukuzama namantombazane nge-tinder, umqondo omubi kunabo bonke. Ngokusobala ibuyele emuva…. Kwaphela amasonto ambalwa kunzima ukubuyela ehhashini ngenxa 'yesimo esidabukisayo' esincane. Ngasikhathi esifanayo bengisazifunela nokuthi ngingubani futhi ngingubani, ngithole izinto ezithokozisayo, ikakhulukazi ezakhayo kepha bekunzima ukwamukela futhi kwathatha isikhathi. Ekugcineni kwafika ezingeni lapho ngamukela khona engangikufunda ngabuyela ehhashini. Ngalesi sikhathi angizange ngiphume kodwa nganginemikhankaso enamandla yokuyeka kaningi, hhayi nsuku zonke, kepha kaningi futhi ngafuna i-P online futhi ngabheka amantombazane esidlangalaleni, kunanini ngaphambili. Impi enzima ukuyilwa. Angizange ngibe M noma u-O kepha njengoba ungacabanga, ukubuka izinto ezikhuthazayo ngaphandle kwe-M / O akusizi futhi akulondolozeki ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Isigaba esisha Le nto yaqhubeka futhi isigaba sokuthengisa ngomzimba sangena… Ingqondo yami yayiqhamuka nezizathu zokuthi ngiye kobona isifebe, ngoba yebo lokho kungcono?, Amasonto ngamlawula. Ngobunye ubusuku ngemuva kwephathi nokudansa nentombazane nganginamahloni kakhulu, njengabanye emasontweni adlule. Angiphuzanga lutho futhi bekhathele kancane nje. Wacabanga isikhathi eside wagcina ngokuvakashela isifebe. YINI ENGIFUNDA NGAYO NGOKUQINISEKILE ???? !! Yebo ukwenzile…
Ucabangele into yesifebe Okokuqala nje bekusemthethweni futhi futhi bekungadakiwe nhlobo. Ngifunde okuningi okuthunyelwe kubafana bethi 'ungakwenzi' njalonjalo. Kepha ngikwenzile noma kunjalo nakulabo abacindezela: AKUFUNI UKUTHATYELWA UKUTHENGA Kwahlala isikhathi esisodwa futhi lokhu HHAYI Izoshintsha noma kunini kungekudala. Empeleni bekuyinto enhle ukungenzela yona, uphondo lwami bekungcono kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, I-LOT kangcono. ngakhululeka ngokwengeziwe phakathi kowesifazane (ngoba ngangazi ukuthi konke kuyasebenza futhi ngiya ocansini angithi?). Ngiyazi ukuthi ama-95% enu azokubheka lokhu njenge-BS, niphendule bese nithi “ungalokothi ukwenze lokho…” ngikwenzile futhi kwangisiza! Yeka indlela okuhlekisa ngayo lapho sibona uya esifebeni (uma kusemthethweni) njengoDeveli, into embi nokukhathazeka okukhulu (ngangijwayele nami) ngenkathi ukukhula kanye ne-porn kulungile? Yebo, isifebe akuyona inketho enhle kepha ngicabanga ukuthi ngokwempilo futhi 'ngilahlekelwe kancane' kuyinto enjengale kimi:
- 1) Intombi noma umdlalo wokushaya amantombazane
- I-2) Amapuleti, ama-F buddies
- I-3) Ubuzwe
- I-4) Isifebe kuphela lapho okungenhla kungekho okukodwa futhi ukungashadi kungalawuleki
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- I-10000000000000000) Ukushaya indlwabu
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- 9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999) I-porn
Ukuqhubeka esigabeni esisha Indaba ayikapheli… Into yokuthengisa ngomzimba isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga ezi-2 ingekho lutho olukhethekile, okusho ukuphola, izifiso ezingalawuleki. Ngingene esigabeni esisha, isimanga kunazo zonke: ukwesaba ukuba yisitabane, cha inkinga ngezitabane. Awukho umqondo ongaqondakali ukuthi isihogo lesi besimayelana nani kodwa bekucasula, ngifunde ngakho kokuthunyelwe okumbalwa kwabafana abacabanga ukuthi bayizitabane futhi ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa ngithole ukuthi abekho. Lesi sigaba sithathe cishe amasonto ama-2-3. Awuzange uyifune kakhulu kepha indoda lokhu kungikhiphile. Lokhu sekuphelile manje.
Isiteji asaziwa Ngithole enye i-subreddit, enamandla kakhulu kunale. Ngeke ngikhulume ngeyodwa ngoba angifuni amalungu amasha noma abashikashikayo ukuthi bafike lapho bazame ukugijima ngenkathi bengakakwazi ukukhasa. Uxolo, ngolunye usuku uyobe usukulungele futhi uzitholele ngokwakho! Isigaba engikuso manje asaziwa ngoba angisenaso isikhuthazo sokubuka izithombe ezingcolile, anginandaba nokubheka amantombazane ashisayo emigwaqweni. Uqale ukuthuthukisa umdlalo futhi waba nempumelelo ethile ngawo. Kubukeka sengathi ngilawula izifiso zami zocansi okwamanje, mhlawumbe okwesikhashana, kepha ngubani owaziyo? Futhi yebo, ngamukela nokuthi ngingumlutha wezocansi. Ukuqagela isigaba sokwenqaba singokoqobo, kulezi zinsuku anginikeli isifiso sokundiza ngokusisho.
Buyekeza: Isiteji sengikhohliwe Kwadingeka amasonto ambalwa ukungakwazi ukujabulela umculo we-elekthronikhi, ithandwayo (angikaze ngikunakekele lokho), lapho umsakazo ubukwenye indawo ngithole ikhanda ngokushesha. Kungenzeka kube amazinga we-dopamine aphansi impela.
TL; DR Le yindaba yomuntu ongu-20 "ogqashule", ayifunde ukuze ichaze izigaba ezahlukahlukene. FUNDA "Izinto eziwusizo ezingigcina ngiqhubeka" ngezansi.
Izinzuzo Komphakathi: kuhle, abantu ongabazi baqala ukukhuluma nami okuningi kakhulu, bajabulele ukukhuluma okuncane, babe nokukhathazeka okungu-0 kwezenhlalo. Ukulala: okungcono, udinga okuncane. Amantombazane: inzalo ethe xaxa yokuwasebenzisa, kepha angikhathali kangako ngabo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Amantombazane hhayi isikhungo sempilo yami. Amandla: 100% ukubeka isidoda sakho kuyigugu, uzizwa unolaka (ngokuqinisekile). CISHE Ukhohliwe: ACNE: GONE, BYE BYE no more of that shit.
Iseluleko sabaqalayo Qala NAMUHLA, empeleni izolo. Funda izinto ezidingekayo, uthole ukuthi akukhona lokho umphakathi okutshela kona noma okufundile. Awumlutha? Yini ongambiza ngayo umuntu ophuza utshwala, ikofi ngalo lonke usuku olulodwa eminyakeni embalwa edlule? Noma umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa zonke izinsuku? Akufani? BullSHIT chaza kabusha ukulutha kokulutha wokuthi umphakathi usifundile. Ngabe ucabangani lapho ucabanga ngomlutha? Othile olele isigamu-emgodini ephethe inaliti kanye namabhola wokugibela ku-heroine? Yebo kunjalo, kodwa kungani usibheka ngokushesha isimo esibi ngokwedlulele? futhi ekugcineni: Zibuze lokhu: KUNGANI UKUPHILA KWAMAHHALA? KUNGANI UMCULI WE-WEIRD STUFF?
- Faka i-K9 kuwo wonke amadivayisi akho
- Qhubeka, imodi enzima iyindlela, ungaweli isikhathi esingu-1 ngeviki kulungile, cha yenza okubaluleke kakhulu ukulungisa lokhu, bese uthola intombi noma amantombazane -> enempilo futhi engcono
- Funda izinto ezinjengezami ukuze uqonde izigaba ongadlula kuzo, njengefulethi.
- Qhubeka.
- Funda "Izinto eziwusizo ezingigcina ngiqhubeka" ngezansi
Iseluleko esenzelwe abafana abuyela emuva okokuqala noma ngaphansi kwezikhathi ze-5 ngesilinganiso esihle sesikhathi (izinyanga ze-5 +) UNGAKWENZA LOKHU, qhubeka, ufunde "Izinto eziwusizo ezingigcine ngiqhubeka" ngezansi
Iseluleko sabesilisa ababukeka beqhubeka nokubuyela emuva Wena LOSER, kungani uhluleka? Ngabe ufuna ukuzizwa udoti? UPHI amabhola? Ngokuzimisela asisitholi isizathu sokuthi kungani uqhubeka wehluleka? -> ngiyaxolisa ukusho bhuti kepha cabanga ngalokhu: mhlawumbe awudalelwanga ukuba ube mkhulu, yeka lokhu njengamanje bese ubuyela ekutholeni konke okufunayo i-shithead yakho encane, lokhu kusho ukuncintisana okuncane kimi nakwabanye 'abenze it 'emdlalweni wokuphola nasempilweni jikelele, yebo qhubeka uchitha amahora akho, yebo qhubeka ube nomona ngabafana abathola amantombazane, uthole lo mphakathi futhi UXOLISE amagama anzima.
Izinto eziwusizo ezangigcina ngihamba Ayikho inkinobho yemilingo ongayicindezela, kuzofanele ukwenze lokhu wedwa futhi kuzoba nzima. lolu uhlu lwento engilufunde kokunye okuthunyelwe futhi ngathola ukuthi lunamandla amakhulu. Hlala wazi ukuthi le yimpi yengqondo, uthola uhlangothi olumnyama lobuchopho bakho, uzama ukushintsha 'intofontofo' futhi isidingo sobulili singesinye sezidingo EZIMBILI eziyisisekelo ngemuva kokudla namanzi, ngakho-ke ulwa nemizwa yakho yezilwane.
- I-1. Yazi ukuthi kungani izinto zingahambanga kahle: isibonelo Ekuqaleni ngenze umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu, ngaze ngabuya futhi okokuqala. Ukuphinda kubuye kwenzeke ngoba ngikwazile ukugcina konke okwenzeka empilweni yami, Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu akunakwenzeka ukukugcina, bengingakulungele ukubanga (kungaba lula njengesithombe sentombazane ese bikini ebhasini yeka ukuthengisa). FUNDA UKUPHILA NABAYESHAYA Phuma esimweni socansi, vimbela izingcindezi: shintsha 'intombazane eshisayo nge-bikini' -> mmmm ngiyathanda, ngithanda ukubukeka ngamehlo engqondo nokuthola i-horny KUYA: 'Intombazane eshisayo e-bikini' -> ngizozama okuthile naye: YEBO -> zama, CHA -> intombazane eshisayo e-bikini, lokho kuhle, AKUKHO OKWENGEZIWE !!
- 2. Dlulisa izithombe ezingcolile kanye nokushaya indlwabu engqondweni yakho naseqinisweni. Ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kocansi kusasebenza kepha kungcono 'okungcono'. I-Porn ikunikeza umphumela wokujaha, ngiyaqinisekisa lokhu: ukushaya indlwabu = ukubuyela emuva, ukushaya indlwabu + i-porn = ukubuyela emuva ngenkathi ngikushiya ufuna okungaphezulu -> umzuliswano wesibili. Awufuni noma iyiphi yalezi, ngokuqinisekile hhayi i-mast.
- I-3. UNGAQHAPHA UKUKHANYA KAKHULU NGOKUDLULA. (Ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kunzima).
- 4. Izihlambi ezibandayo nokuzindla. ABABONISI ABABANDAYO: ekuqaleni angibathathanga ngoba kungani uzolunga? Ngikufundile ukuthi, njengokuzindla, kubulala ukudana / izikhathi zokudangala -> AWUKHO ESIKHUNDLWENI SOKUCINDEZELEKA! UNGENZE IPHUTHA OLUFANAYO NJENGAMI, ngiyakuncenga ukuthi angizange ngichithe amahora amathathu okugcina ngoba uzokuziba futhi wenze 'isiprofetho esizigcwalisayo' kimi…
- I-5. Uma uzizwa sengathi uyakhala, makuphume, abanye abafana (nami futhi) babike ngokukhala ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha. Ukukhala kunempilo.
- 6. ISITOLO ESIBALULEKILE Mhlawumbe awuhlali neNofap, ufuna ukuthuthukisa ezinye izinto nasempilweni yakho, mnumzane omuhle kakhulu. Kepha yenza iNofap ibe yinombolo yakho yokuqala, zonke ezinye izinto noma i-super kepha ziyesekondari. Lokhu kusho ukubuyela emuva ekudleni okunempilo? Ungazizwa kabi, iNofap yinombolo yakho ye-1! -> Ukubuyela emuva kulokhu, uzizwe ungathi shit.
- I-7. Yekani ukwelapha yonke imicimbi noma umuzwa kuNofap, mhlawumbe ekuqaleni kungenzeka ukuthi iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi kodwa uma uqhubeka akuyona imiphumela yeNofap njalo. Lokhu kuyingxenye yempilo yakho, funda ukuyilawula esigabeni sokugcina futhi uzokhululeka, ucabange konke njengoba iNofap izokulethela ndawo.
- I-8. Cabanga ngezigaba, hhayi ngezinsuku, inqubekela phambili ayihambelani futhi ayifani kuwo wonke umuntu.
- 9. STOP PEDASTILIZING WESIFAZANE
- I-10. Udinga lokhu ngaphezu kwalokho oyokwazi ukukubona.
Phawula okungahleliwe Ngikhumbula ngifunda i-athikili eyabhalwa ngudokotela wezengqondo, isibiza ngezilima nezinye izinto. Ngisho kuyingozi ngoba siwumphakathi okhulayo futhi sihlose izinsizwa / abafana abancane. Uthi thina [kuphela] senze ucwaningo olwanele ekusebenzeni kobuchopho ukuthi lube yingozi (fakazela ukuthi le subreddit ayiyona inkinga). Ngesikhathi ngiyifunda ngangizizwa ngithukuthele futhi ngidabukile ngasikhathi sinye. Lo mfana wehlulela incwadi ngekhava yayo, ngendlela enokhahlo. Ukhule ngesikhathi esingenabo ubuchwepheshe ne-porn futhi uphuthelwa yingxenye ebalulekile yalo mphakathi: 'waqala ukubuka i-porn -18'. Kufanele sikwazi ukuya kubafana kubafana abanjalo sibatshele ukuthi: "hey ngiyifundile [i-NoFap] futhi ngiyizamile futhi kubonakala isebenza, ungangisiza ngiqhubeke?" kodwa CHA wanquma ukuba ngumuntu ozondayo, angakhathaleli ngisho nokubhujiswa kwempilo yezigidi zamadoda laphaya. Kubo bonke abantu abanjengaleyo: ukube bengisegumbini elilodwa nawe, uHitler noStalin, benginesibhamu esisodwa kuphela nezinhlamvu ezi-2, bengizokudubula KABILI.
Hhayi-ke bekuyikho ngicabanga ukuthi, uma ngizoqhamuka nokunye ngizokungeza. Ngibhale lokhu ukubuyisela okuthile emphakathini wamadoda angahleliwe emhlabeni wonke asizanayo. Leli yiparele langempela olwandle lokubusa ngentando yeningi nemibuzo. Ngiyaziqhenya ngokuba yingxenye yalo mphakathi. Ibheji lami lisho okuncane kunalokho engikufunayo, ngiyazi -> setha kabusha. Ungasetha kabusha ibheji kepha awukwazi ukusetha kabusha inqubekelaphambili yakho, ukubuyela emuva kanye hhayi ukusetha kabusha inqubekelaphambili yakho, umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho AKUSEBENZI kanjalo.
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