INofap ibilithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu ukuthuthukisa impilo yami. Ngiyekile ukulutha kwami. Ukuthokoza nokujaha engikuthola ngokumamatheka kwentombazane enhle ngemuva kokumncoma ngengubo yakhe enhle kucishe kubekezeleleke.
Ngisho nokuma ehhovisi likaprofesa wami bebuza ngocwaningo abalwenzile nokubona injabulo emehlweni abo ukungitshela konke ngoba sebetshalwe kakhulu kuyo. Ubulili bumangalisa ngokuphelele, futhi ukushesha kwe-dopamine engikuthola kokuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela kwempilo kuphume kulo mhlaba.
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Ngeke ngigcine ukusho ukuthi uvele kanjani ubuchopho bakho unomphela futhi akukho ongakwenza ngakho. Khumbula lapho ngithi umzimba u-FOREVER uzivumelanisa nemvelo yawo. (akugcini ngokuya ngandlela-thile) Futhi ngasho kaningi ** ubuchopho bakho buhlala buzivumelanisa nezimo futhi buguquka ngokomzimba buye obutholayo, yingakho ukujwayela kuhle * futhi kungakholeki.
Uma uzilamba ngalolo dopamine-injabulo rush leyo porn (i-3 mechanisms) ekunika, ubuchopho bakho ngokuqala buyibuyisela ngokomzimba ukungalingani ukuze kuqiniswe i-homeostasis, njengoba yenzile ku-porn Ngemuva kwakho konke okwakhelwe inhloso yokusinda futhi yikho futhi kuphela.
Njengoba amazinga e-dopamine ephansi azolinganisa ukuzwela kwawo. Le mfanelo enhle ibizwa ngokuthi yi-neuroplasticity, futhi yinhle ngokuphelele (ayikwazi ukuyisho ngokwanele). Kungakho i-nofap isebenza. Uma uzincisha lawa mabhati e-dopamine uhlala kuwo lapho uwudonsela ezithombeni ezingcolile, uthosa ubuchopho bakho ngamazinga we-dopamine ayingozi ngokweqile. Ingqondo yakho manje ayikho esimweni se-homeostasis. Leyo ndlela yokuphendula engemihle edale ukwehla komthetho manje yenza okuthile okukhethekile. Iqala ukulinganisa, njengoba ihlala yenza emvelweni wayo. Iqala ukubuyela esimeni sayo sokuqala ngoba akudingeki ibhekane ne-dopamine eyeqile.
Ingqondo yakho ihlala isesimweni sokubuyela emuva emazingeni ayo asekuqaleni nokuzwela kuma-neurotransmitters. Kuhamba kuphela ngenye indlela njengendlela yokuvikela ukuvikela amathiphu akho we-neuron ukwakha oxidizing ngokushesha okukhulu. Lapho isisusa se-porn sisuswa, leyo ndlela yokuvikela iyasebenza futhi ubuchopho bakho buvumelana nesimo sakho samanje. Okungabantu bangempela, ubulili bangempela, ukumamatheka okuyintombazane yangempela, ukufunda kwangempela futhi kulinganise isikhungo sabo somvuzo we-dopamine kulezo zivuseleli. Lapho kuthinta khona izimpendulo ezibuthakathaka uma ziqhathaniswa ne-porn.
Njengoba lezi zimpendulo ziqina ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ekugwemeni i-PMO khona-ke umuzwa ofanayo owutholile kusuka ku-porn ungasuselwa ezweni langempela. Futhi kuyamangalisa. Ngokungazelelwe ufuna ukuthatha i-violin bese uqala ukuyifunda futhi ukhuthazeke ukuba ube ngcono ngoba uhlelo lwakho lwe-dopamine luzilinganisile. Ufuna ukuba nengxoxo ezwakalayo nomuntu esikhundleni sokuthi "hey kwenzenjani." Uyakwazi ukuzibandakanya kumaphrojekthi futhi njengoba ingubo yokukhathazeka iphakanyisiwe, uyakwazi ukuhlela impilo yakho futhi uqhamuke nohlelo lokusebenza. Ngeke ukholwe zonke izinto ozofuna ukuzenza (futhi asisoze saba khona isikhathi esanele sokwenza konke ofuna ukukwenza).
Ungethuki lapho uzungeza amantombazane ngoba awuboni njengento ethambile yokuzihlikihla esithweni sangasese. Ngisho nabangane bakho abadala ongakhulumanga nabo uzofuna ukubabiza futhi ubone ukuthi baqhuba kanjani nempendulo yenjabulo ayifani nenye. Zonke lezi zifiso ezintsha zingumphumela we-neuroplasticity. Ingqondo yakho ilinganisa kabusha izinto ezikhuthaza imvelo uqobo. Ngokungazelelwe awucindezelekile ngoba impilo ikunikeza injabulo lapho izithombe ezingcolile zingakaze zikwazi. Uzwela lwakho kwesinye isikhathi lukhulu kakhulu, uzizwa ukuthi imizwa enamandla kangakanani oye wancishiswa yiyona iyamangalisa futhi inhle.
Uba isimanga ngabesifazane ngoba… Futhi nansi imfihlo yokuheha abesifazane:
ikhwalithi ekhangayo kunazo zonke umuntu angaba nayo ukuthi aneliseke ngokuphelele ukuthi iyiphi impilo okufanele ayinikeze
nomfana ngithi kuwe amantombazane angakutshela. Lapho ujabule futhi wenelisekile ngempilo yakho uvele wakhanya njengesihlahla sikaKhisimusi. Ubukhona bakho buyakhula futhi wonke amantombazane angatshela. Uma wenza ucansi empeleni kuyamangaza ngokuphelele. Akukona ukuthi "Ngifuna ukwenza lokhu nalokhu kuye" ukuzama ukuphila iphupho lezithombe zocansi, nguwe kanye naye futhi kuyamangaza.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlanekezela umbono wakho kwezocansi, futhi akuyona eyangempela. Ngaphambi kokuthi ngibe yi-PMO futhi ngiya ocansini, ubulili abuzange bunelise ngoba ngangifuna ukwenza lokhu-nalokhu-nokuthi-nalokhu…. Ngaphambi kokuthi ngibe nokukhathazeka ngamantombazane ngoba ngangizocabanga ukuthi angangena kanjani emabhulukweni abo futhi lokho kumayelana nakho. Manje angikwazi ukuchaza ukuthi kunjani ukuya ocansini manje ngokuqhathanisa nokuthi kwakunjani phambilini. Ngaphambi kokuthi ngiye ocansini, futhi ngemuva nje kokuba kwenziwe kungenelisi futhi ngibe nesithukuthezi.
Manje, kukhungathekisa ngendlela enhle kakhulu, futhi kungilungele izinsuku noma amasonto. Awumboni eyinto efudumele yokuthambisa izitho zakho zobulili bese uzama ukudala iphupho lakho. Ubabona njengomuntu wangempela, onezinhloso, ukwesaba, izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi abazenzayo, imicabango engajwayelekile engahlelekile abazihlekisayo ngokwabo, umuntu onemizwa uqobo ozinikela kuwe nakuwe uqobo. Awuvuswanga nje ngokomzimba lapho ufuna nje ukwenza inqwaba nje yokuthi—, uvuselwa wena wedwa ukuba ube yisithandwa esihle kunazo zonke le ntombazane eyake yabona. Umuzwa wozwelo nozwelo enginalo ngezikhathi zami zobudlelwano umane nje ungu-o-my-god.
Ungacabangi ukuthi ubuyise ngokuphelele ubuchopho bakho, kunethemba lokuthi udinga nje ukuyeka ukondla ingqondo yakho ngalezi zithombe ezinamaphikseli acasulayo / anikezwe ucansi futhi unikeze ingqondo yakho ithuba lokulinganisa kabusha imvelo yayo - njengoba kuhlale kwenzeka. Uma nje uthola ukulungiswa kwakho kwe-dopamine ebusuku, awusoze wavumela ingqondo yakho ukuthi isebenzise ikhono elihle kakhulu: i-neuroplasticity. Futhi muhle impela.
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