Ngijabule kakhulu ngithole le-subreddit. Lo ngumphakathi oyingqayizivele we-inthanethi ngoba yiwona wedwa wokuxhumana nabantu ku-inthanethi (engikwaziyo) ozibophezele ukukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwamanani weqiniso kumalungu alo kunokusebenzisa ama-inflos angamanga ngokweqile ngezinhlelo zamanani wangaphandle (amavoti aphezulu , ukudumisa okungamanga, ukuhlubuka, lelo hlobo lezinto). Kukhona iqiniso lapha, kwesinye isikhathi iqiniso elinzima kepha iqiniso nokho futhi ngithemba ukuthi alisoze lashintsha.
Into engiyithokozela kakhulu ubuhlakani kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe ngokukhululekile lapha futhi ngithemba ukungeza okuthile okuwusizo kuleyo cache namuhla.
Ngingowesilisa oneminyaka engu-39. Sengishade iminyaka ye-12 futhi bengilokhu ngine-PMO impilo yami yonke. Ngaboshwa ngokushesha lapho ngithola ikhathalogi yami yokuqala kaJC Penny. Ngokweqiniso akukaze kube yilokho engangicabanga ukuthi kungaba ngumthelela ongemuhle empilweni yami ngaphandle kwezeluleko ezijwayelekile zenkolo zokulwa nokushaya indlwabu ngokuvamile. I-PMO kwakuyinto nje engiyenzile. Ngilwele iminyaka embalwa edlule ngezinye izindaba zokuluthwa umlutha, futhi izinsuku ze-60 ezedlule bekuyisikhathi sokugcina lapho ngenza noma yini ngobuhlakani. Kusukela lapho ngibe ngimsulwa, ngingenasisekelo, futhi ngikhululekile ku-PMO.
Ngaqala inqubo ejwayelekile yansuku zonke yokuzivocavoca isisindo, i-yoga, ne-cardio futhi ngigcine ngokwethembeka kuleso siyalo. Izinto bezimangalisa. Nginamandla onke avamile amakhulu nina nonke eniwakhulume kodwa futhi ngiqale ukukhulisa umuzwa wokuzihlonipha engingakholelwa ukuthi wake waba nawo ngaphambili. Lokho kukusha kimi nokuthile manje okubaluleke kakhulu kimi kunanoma yikuphi ukuphakama noma i-buzz engake ngaba nayo esikhathini esedlule. Kuzo zonke izidakamizwa zami, i-PMO iyona enamandla kunazo zonke futhi iboniswe ukuthi iyona enzima kunazo zonke ukukhahlela (isihogo, bengilokhu ngigxuma kusukela nginamandla okwenza isibhakela futhi ngithole i-boner).
Izolo ngizithole ngizihlela. Bengibhekabheka i-imgur futhi ngithole imidwebo engathandeki njengoba kwenza i-imgur, akukho engingakubheka njengobulili obungcolile ngokuya ngemikhuba yami yokuphequlula yangaphambilini, kodwa kukhona. Kwakwanele ukungiphoqa ngaphesheya konqenqema futhi ngazithola ngiphula umugqa wami. Engikwenzile empeleni akuzange kungishaye kuze kube namuhla ekuseni ngiya emsebenzini. Ngazithola ngiphuka futhi ngikhala ngakho, ngililela lokho engangikunikeze kalula lapho ukuqhuma kwesasasa kwakungiphethe. Kwangethusa ngokweqiniso ngoba kunezinto engizikhahlele ezimbi kakhulu kune-porn futhi umcabango wami bekungukuthi: uma ngivula ukuphinda ngibuyele nalo mkhuba kuthiwani ngabanye?
Kuze kube manje ngisebenza kahle, ngisetha kabusha ibheji lami futhi ngiqhubekela phambili. Okulandelayo yilokho engikufundile emzamweni wami wokuqala wokungabi nofap futhi ithemba lami eliqotho ukuthi ngingasiza okungenani omunye umuntu emzabalazweni wabo ngoba ngiyabhekana nakho, lo mkhuba uyinina lomama.
- Uzobhuqa. Kulungile inqobo nje uma ufunda kukho. Ungavumeli isikhashana sobuthakathaka sikunike ilayisense lokubuyela empilweni yakho yakudala. Khumbula impilo yakho yakudala iyamunya kungenjalo ubungeke ube lapha.
- Ukungazibeki phansi yingxenye elula kakhulu ye-no-fap. (Ngikuzwa lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi lapha futhi kuyiqiniso SO) Umsebenzi wangempela ukubuyisa ukulawula kwengqondo yakho. Unikeze isikhathi esiningi ukusungula leli phethini lomvuzo-wokucabanga-umvuzo okungenzeka ukuthi ulukhuni. Ngenhlanhla ubuchopho bethu bungashintsha. Inselelo ukubeka phansi amaphethini amasha omcabango wokususa nokufaka amasha, ukukhulisa ikhono lakho lokukhetha ukuthi ingqondo yakho igxile kuphi. Kungakho imikhakha yengqondo efana nokuzindla kukhulunywa ngayo njalo lapha. Khumbula ukuthi inkinga akuyona udokotela wakho, yingqondo yakho. Uma ungenzi umsebenzi wokushintsha ubuchopho bakho uzobuyela emuva (ngiyisibonelo esihle).
- Ukuhlangana kuzokuphazamiseka nokululama kwakho. Uma unqenqema, uma ubheka ngenhloso noma yini evusa indlela yakudala ye-PMO ebuchosheni bakho, leyo ndlela iyaqiniswa. Ngithole ukuthi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ngiphinde ngibuyisele emuva ngangihlela kumasayithi afana neeumsworld ne-imgur, njengokusho kwami ukuthi ayengama-pics asemaceleni kepha anele ukungiphazamisa kude nenhloso yami. Thatha izinyathelo zokuvikela lokhu, gwema amasayithi analezi zinhlobo zezithombe.
- Amabhulukwe e-Yoga akhona. Kuyohlala kunezinto ezidala izindlela ezindala zobuchopho bakho. Yingakho iningi lethu linenkinga yokudlula emizamweni yethu yokuqala ye-no-fap. Siphila emhlabeni futhi umhlaba ugcwele izinto ezi-sexy ezizodideka ngengqondo yethu. Futhi kufanele siqinise amandla ethu okuxosha izithombe nezimbangela ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuthi zimile futhi lokho kuthatha isikhathi.
- Hlonipha inqubo hhayi imiphumela. Gxilisa ukunaka kwakho enqubeni yoshintsho lwakho futhi uzame ukungabambeki ngokufika ebangeni elithile. Uma engekho u-PMO olushintsho endleleni yakho yokuphila olwenzile ngakho-ke kunethemba lokuthi uzokwenzela lokhu, kahle… impilo. Izobukeka kanjani ibheji lakho ekupheleni kwempilo yakho? Uzoba namaphuzu amangaki? Ingabe kunendaba ngempela? Nginomuzwa wokuthi uma sigxila emsebenzini, isiko lokuziphilisa, izigaba ziyozinakekela futhi mancane amathuba okuthi sizibhuqule uma simosheka.
- Iba nomlingani wokuziphendulela. Ngishadile ngakho umlingani wami omkhulu wokuziphendulela ngunkosikazi wami. Umlingani wakho wokuziphendulela angaba yinoma ngubani kepha qiniseka ukuthi ungumuntu ongaxoxa naye njalo futhi nomuntu ovumelana naye ukwethembeka ngokuphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma ngabe uhlulekile. Umzuzu oqala ukufihla ukuhlulwa kwakho uqala ukwakha igumbi elincane lemikhuba emidala yokubuyela emuva ngaphakathi.
- Umlingani omkhulu wokuziphendulela nguwe. Nguwe kuphela owazi ingqondo yakho. Umqondo wakho yilapho impi yenzeka futhi lapho ukunqoba noma ukunqotshwa kwakho kuyokuhlala khona, ngakho-ke, thembeka ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngokwakho. Iminyaka ekujuleni kwemilutha yami nganginguchwepheshe wokuziqamba amanga. I-PMO nayo ayihlukile. Ekugcineni sibona kuphela kwemikhawulo yezimpawu zethu zokuqonda okufanele. Njengoba uqala ukwelulama, ukubaluleka kwakho kokuqala kuqala ukukhula bese kuthi futhi kube inselelo yokubuyisela amanani akho amadala wokubhubhisa amasha. Le nqubo iyathobeka futhi iyakhungathekisa futhi eyodwa engiqale ngayo kodwa ngiyaluzwa ushintsho olwenzeka nsuku zonke engizinikeza isikhathi sokuzisebenza.
Noma kunjalo, yilokho kuphela engikucabangayo okwamanje. Hlala uqinile!
by I-Solomon031
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