Ngineminyaka engu-40 ubudala, ngishadile, nginomlutha we-PMO kusukela ngisemusha. Ukulutheka kwami kwase kudlulele emazingeni ahlanya kangangoba ngangisebenzisa inani eliningi kakhulu lamandla obuchopho ekufihleleni umndeni nabangane. Ngenze i- Umbiko wezinsuku ze-30 lapha futhi bengifuna ukungeza izinto ezimbalwa njengoba ngiqede izinsuku ze-60 izolo.
Lokhu okuthunyelwe akukona ngamandla amakhulu, akunazeluleko eziningi zokuthi ungahlala kanjani kude ne-PMO, bengifuna ukubhala okuthile esithombeni esikhulu sempilo yami ngemuva kwezinsuku ezingama-60 zeNoFap. Bengifuna ukugxila embuzweni owodwa nje - Impilo yami yashintsha kanjani ngemuva kweNoFap?
Okokuqala, iNoFap iyithuluzi nje. Kepha iyithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu ekululameni kabusha komlutha. Kukukhipha ku-loop engaphendulanga engemihle ye-PMO okuholela ekucindezelekeni, okuholela ku-PMO eningi futhi ngokuvamile kube nokuphila okudumazayo. Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi kungani i-PMO iholela ekucindezelekeni, ngibuze futhi sizokuphendula ngokuningiliziwe. UNoFap ungikhiphe kulo mjikelezo. Lolo ushintsho olukhulu kunazo zonke empilweni yami. Ake ngichaze ukuthi kanjani.
Njengoba kushiwo uWoody Allen, Ukubonisa i-80% yempilo. Lokhu kuyiqiniso futhi kunamandla. Empilweni, kufanele ubonakale. Kufanele ubonakale ukuxazulula inkinga, kufanele uqhamuke noma ngabe ufuna ukubaleka ucashe, kuzofanela ubonakale uzofuna okungokwakho yize uvalo lwakho lukutshela ngenye indlela, kufanele ubonakale ukuchitha isikhathi nomndeni nabangane yize ungenalutho ongazikhombisa lona, kufanele ubonakale yize wesaba ukuthi awuzilungiselele, kufanele ubonakale yize ukhathazekile ukuthi abanye bazocabangani ngawe, kufanele ukhombise phezulu nakho konke ukungapheleli kwakho ngenkathi usebenza ukuthola ngcono. Ukuba kuNoFap kusho ukuthi ngiveza kaningi, nginqobe ukwesaba kwami ngokwanele ukuthi ngivele. Njengoba ngikhombisa okuningi, impilo ingibuyisela okuningi. Ukuphela kokufanele ngikwenze ukuzibonakalisa ngezinhloso ezinhle bese ngizama konke okusemandleni ami. UNkulunkulu noma indawo yonke noma amandla aqondile ahlangana nawe maphakathi. Mhlawumbe uhlangana nawe ngokushesha kunehhafu. Kuzoba khona ukwehluleka nezinto ezingaphandle kwamandla akho kodwa uzoqala ukuzibona njengezingqinamba namathuba okushintsha inkambo yempilo, kunokuhluleka okulimazayo.
Ngemuva kwezinsuku ze-60 ze-NoFap, ngingasho ukuthi nginempilo entsha. Kuyimpilo lapho ingqondo yami ingenakho ukwesaba njalo. Kodwa-ke, ngiyazi futhi ukuthi yimpilo ehlukaniswe wudonga oluncane kokunye impilo yami, impilo yami yangaphambilini, eyayigcwele ukwesaba, ukuzisola kanye namandla angagcwaliseki. Lolu donga oluncane kungumkhuba wami weNoFap futhi nsuku zonke kuNoFap nokuzindla kuqinisa udonga. Ayisoze yanqobeka - kepha izolokhu iqina nsuku zonke.
Uma usuqale i-NoFap, qhubeka. Uma umncane futhi uzibuza ukuthi ngabe udinga i-NoFap, impendulo inguyebo. Kwenze manje noma ukwenze ngomzimba oyinkulungwane - ukukhetha kungokwakho.
LINK - Umbiko wezinsuku ze-60
BUYEKEZA - Izinsuku ze-120 zaqedwa
Angikholwa ukuthi sekuphele izinyanga ezi-4. Kade ngizama ukubuyisela emphakathini ngokusemandleni ami ekuphenduleni imibuzo kepha empeleni, isikhuthazo esihle engingakunika sona ukukucela ukuthi ubuyele emuva uyobheka konke engikuthumele uzobona ubuhlungu, injabulo , nokukhula engikubonile.
Anginanto enkulu engingayengeza ngaphandle kokuthi ekugcineni ngizwa sengathi ngiphila impilo yangempela futhi akukubi neze, lapho ungenaso isidingo sokubaleka njalo.
Impilo yami isishintshe kakhulu. Izinyanga zokugcina ze-4 zilethe imicimbi eminingi yokuphila engiyisingathe kangcono kunangaphambili. Izinguquko lapha zingabonakala kuphela ngokungatholakali. Ukungabi khona kwe-screw-ups enkulu ngokuba inkungwini yobuchopho, ukungabikho kovalo, ukungabikho kokukhipha kanye nokuklabalasa kumalungu omndeni ngenxa yengcindezi. Ngicabanga nje ukuthi ukuphila impilo ekhona manje kungaqhubeka nokunezela kuzinga lempilo yami isikhathi eside.
Uma unemibuzo, sicela ungangabazi ukubuza. Futhi Yebo, kuba lula njengoba amaviki edlula. Ngethembe. Hlala uqinile!
BUYEKEZA - Izinzuzo zenyanga ye-5
Kube kuhle. Izikhuthazo zimbalwa futhi azivamile kepha ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele zibheke izingcindezi nezikhathi zemikhosi ezingaba khona ezingadala ukuvusa isifiso. Ngifunde okuthunyelwe okuningi lapha, ngakho-ke ngethembe, amaviki ami okuqala abengahlukile kwezinye zezinselele abanye abantu abazisho lapha. Kuba lula njengoba amasonto edlula.
Nazi ezinye zezinguquko zempilo yami ebengifuna ukuzithatha ngezinhloso zesisusa:
- Ngivuselele indlu yami ngathengisa ngayo
- Ngihlose iholo lami nomqashi wami
- Uthenge indlu futhi wakwazi ukuphatha phakathi kwezinselelo ezibalulekile zomthetho
- Kuthuthelwe nomndeni edolobheni elisha
Konke lokhu okungenhla kwenzeke ezinyangeni ezi-4 ezedlule. Ngangingeke ngikwenze ukube ngangingekho kwi-NoFap. Kungani? Ngoba ukwenza okungenhla, bekufanele ngibe khona njalo hhayi ukuthi 'ngiphume' usuku olulodwa. Angikwazi ukukhokhela inkungu yobuchopho futhi angikwazi ukukhokhela umndeni wami. Kwakudingeka ngilethe umdlalo wami we-A nsuku zonke futhi i-NoFap ibaluleke kakhulu kulokho.
Inzuzo enkulu kunazo zonke - angiseniki i-af * & ^ okuningi. Ngiyazikhathalela izinto ezibalulekile kepha abakhathalelayo 'abangikhubazi' njengakuqala.
Uma unemibuzo, zizwe ukhululekile ukubuza. Ungahlola futhi ukuthunyelwa kwami kwangaphambili. Ngibonga kakhulu ngobuhlakani kulokhu.
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