Namuhla usuku. Kuyahlekisa, kepha isikhashana angikaze ngicabange ukuthi ngizokufika ezinsukwini ezingama-90. Kuzwakala kungu-surreal manje ukuthi ngisesiqongweni sentaba okwakubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukukhuphuka. Ngaleso sikhathi, kwakubonakala sengathi labo abazuze izinsuku ezingama-90 babengabantu abasezingeni eliphakeme ngandlela thile, iqembu elite elaliphakeme kunakho konke empilweni. Ngangingahle ngibe yisisulu sohlobo oluthile lwenganekwane.
Ngikhumbula ngicabanga ngekusasa (ngandlela thile linamandla, libukhali, futhi lilihle) kimi owayephumelela kakhulu nabesifazane, enza izigidi zamadola, futhi ebenethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu eqinile. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukudlala lo mbumbulu kaningi kuvame kakhulu ngabakwaNoFap, njengoba umgomo weNoFap, ngendlela, ukungadingi ukubuyela kwaNoFap, ngakho-ke ucabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ibizoba njani ngaphandle kokudinga ukubuya lapha.
Angisakhumbuli nokuthi ngilisetha kangaki ibheji lami, ngifunda futhi ngibuke amavidiyo amaningi mayelana ne-yourbrainonporn.com kanye ne-googling "amasu amahle kakhulu" aya enkululekweni. Ngangizibandakanya kukho konke ubufakazi namathuluzi angenza ngizizwe nginethemba futhi angiphazamise ekubhekaneni nezinkinga zami, ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo.
Futhi leyo kwakuyinkinga yami. Ukucwaninga nokuthola amathiphu akuyona neze izinyathelo ezingalungile ongazithatha ngemuva kokubuyela emuva, kepha mina ngokwami ngikuthathe kakhulu. Okuthunyelwe okukodwa kwe-reddit kuNoFap kungaholela eshumini, futhi kungekudala imizuzu eyi-15 yaphenduka ihora eli-1, elaphenduka laba amahora ama-5, aphenduka usuku lonke. I-Hindsight ihlala icacile, yingakho ngibona manje ukuthi i-NoFap ibiyi- uphawu enkingeni yami.
Eqinisweni, ngangikhathazeka kakhulu ngokugwema ubuhlungu nokwenza okuncane engingakuthola. Ngakuhlanganisa lokho nesifiso esiqhubekayo sokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo futhi ngifunde i-Facebook neReddit, futhi ngaba umlutha we-inthanethi ngokushesha nangazo zonke izinto ezazihamba "njenge-ding"
Ngabona ukuthi ngichitha isikhathi esiningi ngokungenangqondo ngibheka iwebhu, ngingakhumbuli engikufunde noma ngikufunde emahoreni wokuchofoza nokudla. Ngabeka wonke ama-blocker, izandiso, nezinhlelo umuntu angazithola zikhiqiza. Kodwa-ke, bekuhlala kubonakala ngathi kukhona ukusebenza. Okungiletha cishe ngosuku lwe-70 noma kunjalo, lapho i-NoFap yayingeyona ngisho into eyadlula engqondweni yami. Ngangingalwi nakho nhlobo.
Ngangisenenkinga yokuchitha isikhathi ku-inthanethi. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho isibani sokukhanya sangishaya, sangisiza ngabona ukuthi ukulutheka kwami kufihlwe kakhulu, futhi ngokombono wami kuyakhohlisa, kuNoFap. Ngangiyisigqila sento eyenza umhlaba ujikeleze. Ngangingenakho ukuzithiba, ngingenaso isiyalo, futhi ngingenandlela ecacile yokubalekela ukulutheka kwami. Lokhu kungilethele umzuzu omkhulu wokucacelwa - Ngisebenzise i-NoFap njengesaba sokulutha kwami kokuzanelisa khona manjalo nokugwema izinhlungu.
Ngenkathi ngikhuluma ngalokhu esikhathini esidlule, kusenjalo, kuze kube namuhla, into engilwa nayo njalo. Enye i-imeyili, omunye umbhalo. “Okukodwa nje” akusebenzi nje kuphela kuNoFap, kusebenza kunoma yikuphi ukulutha onakho.
- “Leli wubhiya wami wokugcina ngaphambi kokuba ngisheshe.”
- “Le yi-pizza yami yokugcina eyi-1000 yekhalori ngaphambi kokuthola indlela engidla ngayo”
- “Lolu wusuku lwami lokugcina ngidlala i-Xbox kuze kuphele iSikole
- "Lesi yisikhathi sami sokugcina [faka umzabalazo wakho] [faka izaba]"
Lokhu okuthunyelwe KUKHO okuhle nokho. Ngaphandle kweNoFap, bengingeke ngiqaphele ukuthi angilwi nje nokulutha okukodwa. Izinkinga zami zazingagcini nge-PMO, zaziphepha izinhlungu. Lapho nje okuthile sekuba yinkimbinkimbi futhi kunzima, ngangena kwi-inthanethi. Bengingakhuluma nothile, ngibhale phansi izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuxazulula inkinga, kepha esikhundleni salokho, ukusabela kwami ngokushesha bekungukuqeda izinhlungu zami ngokuphazamiseka kwe-inthanethi.
I-NoFap nayo yangisiza ukuba ngibuyele emuva, ngangenza ngazizwa nginamandla, futhi ngathuthukisa ukuzethemba kwami kancane. Angikwazi ukukhulumela wonke umuntu, kepha ngizimisele ukubheja ukuthi lapho iningi lenu lifinyelela ezinsukwini ezingama-90, nizobona ukuthi ninamandla kakhulu kunangaphambili. Ezinyangeni ezintathu ezedlule ngangicabanga ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka; manje, lo msebenzi ubonakale ulula, futhi nginomuzwa wokuthi nginamandla okubhekana nezinkinga ezangiholele kuNoFap kwasekuqaleni.
Sicela uzenzele umusa futhi uthathe imizuzu engu-2 ukucabanga ngalokho okuholele ku-PMO. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi uzophuma uqine futhi uthole ukucaciseleka. Ngiyazi ukuthi ngamunye wenu uzofinyelela izinsuku ezingama-90 nangaphezulu. Njengomuntu owayelwa kanzima unyaka nonyaka unyaka nonyaka, ngiyaqonda. Ngiyakukholwa.
tl; dr bengicabanga ukuthi ukushaya izinsuku ezingama-90 kuzongivumela ukuthi ngikwazi ukuzenzela futhi ngibe "omkhulu kunabo bonke." Manje sengiyabona ukuthi kwakuyisibonakaliso nje senkinga enkulu ebenginayo ngokulangazelela ukwaneliseka okusheshayo kanye nokuphunyuka. Ngabe usebenzisa i-NoFap njengendlela yokugwema izingqinamba zakho ezinkulu? Ngiyazi ukuthi ngangikhona. Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngiyinqobile impi yokulwa ne-PMO, kepha manje sekuyisikhathi sokulandelayo.
UKUHLELA: Ngisanda kubuyela kuReddit (ngizimisele ngokuchitha isikhathi esincane kwi-inthanethi ngangokunokwenzeka, haha) futhi ngijabule kakhulu futhi ngamangala ukubona ukuthi abanye bakutholile lokhu! NGIYABONGA kuwo wonke umuntu ngokuxhaswa. Ngiyawuthanda lo mphakathi futhi ngikholelwa ngobuqotho kini nonke.
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