I-Porn ejwayelekile iyingxenye yalokho okujwayelekile ukwenza ucansi. Kodwa-ke, i-porn ibe nemiphumela emibi kakhulu kubantu abaningi. Laba bantu bayimilutha yezithombe zocansi ze-intanethi futhi babhekana nemiphumela emibi engokomzimba nengokwengqondo (1). Kunobufakazi obukhulayo bokuthi umlutha uqobo uzoshintsha indlela osebenza ngayo ubuchopho bakho (2).
Kukhona neminye imiphakathi eye yasungula ukunikeza laba basekeli ukwesekwa (3). Kubukeka sengathi ukuzibandakanya ocansini ngokweqile kungahle kukuphazamise ekwakheni ukuzithanda nasekuhlanganyeleni uthando lwakho nabanye.
Amanani okulutha kwe-inthanethi kwe-inthanethi ashibhile kusukela kusayithi lokuqala le-tube laqala i-2006. Lokhu kwenza ukuthi ikhwalithi ephezulu ye-porn itholakale ngokushesha kunoma ngubani onekhompyutha mahhala. Ku-1999 izinga lokudonswa ngokocansi kwabesilisa abaseminyakeni ye-18 ne-59 ubudala bekuyi-5%. Nge-2011 leli zinga lase lifinyelele ku-14%, cishe laphindeka kathathu kwalokho elaliyiminyaka eyishumi nambili ngaphambili (1). Lokhu kudansa kocansi kufaka phakathi ukwehla kwe-sex drive, ukubambezeleka kwe-ejaculation, kanye nokweneliseka okuncane kocansi. Kodwa-ke, ukushaqisa kakhulu kwalezi ezingasebenzi kungenzeka kube i-Porn Indedu Erectile Dysfunction (PIED). Ucwaningo lokuqala olwenziwe ku-PIED lwenzekile e-2007 e-Kinsey Institute. Kwakunqunywe ukuthi lapho abantu bebuka kakhulu ama-porn kuya kuba nzima ngokwengeziwe ukuvuswa (1). I-porn iyakwazi ukungena ezingqondweni zethu ezingeni eliphakeme.
Ukuze kuvuswe ucansi, ngaphakathi kwamadoda, kunezindawo ezimbili zobuchopho ezidinga ukwenziwa zisebenze: uhlelo lokuvuza kanye ne-hypothalamus. Lapho sibuka i-porn ukuqhuma okukhulu kwe-dopamine kukhishwa kuzo zombili lezi zindawo. I-Porn iyisikhuthazo esingavamile, yingakho sisebenza kahle. Isikhuthazi esingaphezu kwamandla ukulingiswa okuyihaba kwento abantu abaguquke ukuyifuna (1). I-Porn yenza lokhu ngokuqasha, nangokuqopha, abesifazane abafanelana nobuhle be-archetypes futhi basibonise isenzo esisifisayo ukuze sizale. Ngenxa yokuthi i-porn iyasebenza kakhulu ekusebenziseni uhlelo lokuvuza lobuchopho bethu iyaziqinisa futhi iholele ekusetshenzisweni okuphoqelekile kwizidakamizwa ze-porn (1). Le milutha ingakhomba ukulutha kwayo ngohlu olulula lokuhlola: ukukhathazeka nge-porn, ukungabi nentshisekelo ngocansi lwangempela lwempilo, izimpawu zokuhoxa (njengokucasulwa nentukuthelo), usebenzisa i-porn ukukhulula imizwa engemihle, ukungakwazi ukuyeka yize kunezinkinga impilo, futhi nakanjani ukukhuphukela ezigcawini ezicacile (1). Izimpawu ezifanayo zenzeka kuyo yonke imilutha, azihlukile kwizilonda zocansi.
Kunenani elikhulayo lobufakazi obuvelayo obukhombisa ukuthi umlutha yisifo sobuchopho nokuthi ubuchopho bemilutha busebenza ngokwehlukile kunalokho okunempilo. Wonke umlutha uziphatha ngezindlela zokujaha, ezibukhali, nezenelisa izifiso zawo. Zonke izidakamizwa zilimaza ubuchopho ukuze iziqu zokukhuthaza umuntu zihlelwe kabusha. Uma lokho sekwenzekile, ukuziphatha okuluthayo kubaluleke kakhulu kumlutha. Imvamisa, isimilo sokulutha siyindlela yokuziphatha engalungile engaba nenzuzo ekusindeni, njengokulutha ngokocansi (2). Mayelana nokulutha kocansi umlutha uthuthukisa isimilo esingalungile sokushintsha ubulili ngokushaya indlwabu ocansini. Njengoba lokhu kuziphatha kuqhubeka nokukhulisa umlutha kukhuthazwa kocansi, kepha futhi kukhulisa ukubekezelelana nakho. Ngaleyo ndlela, okwenza umlutha uphakamise i-ante futhi ubuke izigcawu eziningi zemifanekiso. Njengoba lokhu kubekezelelana kwakha umlutha wezocansi ubekwa esimweni sokushintsha ubulili ngokuvuselelwa kocansi okubukwayo (1). Ngenhlanhla bonke ubufakazi bubonisa ukuthi imilutha yezocansi ingaphula umjikelezo wabo wokuziphatha kunalokho kalula.
Kukhona imiphakathi embalwa eku-inthanethi eyakhelwe ukuphendula umlutha wezocansi we-inthanethi. Izimbili ezaziwa kakhulu ngokuba i-ybrainonporn.com (YBOP) neNoFap. Yomibili le miphakathi ihlinzeka ngezeluleko, ukusekela, namathuluzi ukuze kusizwe abantu abayimilutha yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile abafuna ukwephula lo mulutha. Inqubo esetshenziswa abayimilutha yezocansi ukwephula isimilo sabo seyaziwa, kuwo wonke amaqembu, njengokuqalisa kabusha. Ukuqalisa kabusha kumane kuvimbele isikhathi lapho umuntu othile eyogwema ukukhuthaza ngocansi. I-YBOP ayinayo imihlahlandlela eqinile maqondana nokuqalisa kabusha, iziphakamiso nje ezisuselwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abakwenze inqubo (3). Ikhasi le-web le-YBOP mayelana nokuqalisa kabusha uthi kufanele ugweme konke ukukhuthaza ubulili bokufakelwa ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha, njengamavidiyo, izithombe, noma izincwadi. Lo mphakathi awunasikhundla esiqinile sokuthi kufanele ukugweme yini ukushaya indlwabu ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha. Enye yezinto ezangihlaba umxhwele kakhulu nge-YBOP ubungako besixhumanisi samaphepha ocwaningo ababenawo mayelana nemiphumela yokuluthwa yi-porn (3). Umphakathi weNoFap unendlela yawo yokuqalisa kabusha.
Umphakathi owaziwa njengeNoFap uyefana ne-YBOP, ngoba usethelwe ukusiza ukubuyisa imilutha ye-porn. Kodwa-ke, basondela inqubo yokuqalisa kabusha ngenye indlela. AbakwaNoFap bahlele isitayela sabo sokuqalisa kabusha sengathi kungumdlalo noma inselelo. Umuntu ngamunye usetha imingcele yale nselelo, efana nesikhathi, futhi iNoFap iza namazinga inselelo ngayinye angangena kuyo. Imodi ye-P iyinselelo lapho umlutha wayo ezoyeka i-porn kuphela. Imodi ye-PM yileveli elandelayo lapho umlutha ugwema khona ezocansi nokushaya indlwabu. Izinga eliphakeme kakhulu yi-PMO-mode lapho umlutha ugwema khona ama-porn nama-orgasms wanoma yiluphi uhlobo (4). Umphakathi weNoFap nawo ufuna ukuthi amalungu awo angadikibali uma egxuma. Uma lokho kwenzeka ngesikhathi inselelo ophonsela inselelo ukhuthazwa ukuba asethe kabusha. Uma sebephinde benza inselelo yabo kufanele baqale ekuqaleni. Njengokuqala ngaphezulu kweleveli kumdlalo wevidiyo. Ngokungeziwe kwiwebhusayithi yabo eyinhloko i-NoFap ine-subreddit nohlelo lokusebenza olunikela amalungu omphakathi wabo ukwesekwa. Uhlelo lokusebenza lwe-NoFap ukufakwa ocingweni lwakho njengochungechunge lwezinkinobho. Izinkinobho zifunda i-Emergency, Ukwenqaba, Ukudana, Nokuphinda Ubuye. Inkinobho ngayinye izokunikeza okuhlukile kokuthunyelwe kwenkundla, izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo, noma ama-memes ukukusekela kwinselelo yakho (4). Ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha kwami ngisebenzise uhlelo lokusebenza lweNoFap futhi ngakuthola kungasiza impela.
Esikhathini esifushane esedlule ngafika ekuqapheliseni ngemikhuba yami yokushaya indlwabu nokusetshenziswa kocansi. Ngakhula nge-inthanethi futhi ngangisemusha lapho kuqala ishubhu lokuqala ku-2006. Cishe sonke isikhathi lapho ngangishaya indlwabu ngangibuka i-porn. Ngolunye usuku ngazithela phezu kwe-NoFap subreddit futhi nganquma ukuthi ngifuna ukuziphonsela inselelo. Nginqume ngamapharamitha athile wale nselele futhi nginqume ukufika kuwo. Ngisethe inselelo yezinsuku ezingama-90 ezosethwa kwimodi ye-P. Nginqume nokuqopha le nselelo kubhulogi lami ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi 'Inselelo Yesitayela seNoFap'. Ngabeka uhlelo lokusebenza lweNoFap efonini yami, engilusebenzisa kahle noma kunini lapho ngithola khona ukulunywa kocansi.
Ngikwazi ukugwema noma yiluphi uhlobo lwe-porn ngalezo zinsuku ze-90, yize ngangiqhubeka nokushaya indlwabu. Ekuqaleni kwakunzima kakhulu ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kocansi, ngakho-ke kwadingeka ngiziphoqe ukuba ngikwenze amasonto ambalwa okuqala. Njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka ngangijwayela ukungasebenzisi i-porn ngaqala ukugxila esenzweni sokwenza uthando kimi. Imizwa yaba namandla kakhulu, ukuzethemba kwami kwanda, nokuzethemba kwami okujwayelekile kwakhula. Ngabona nokuthi ezinye izinguquko zomzimba. Ukushayela kwami ucansi sekukhule kwaba ukuphakama okusha, ngichama ngaphambi komaki wamaminithi angamashumi amabili, futhi ngithola okuningi kakhulu kuvuliwe ngesikhathi socansi manje. Ngiphinde ngabona ukuthi ngokuqondisa kabusha ukugxila kwami ngaphakathi uthando lwami lwaqala ukwanda. Inselele yami yezinsuku ze-90 yaphela ngo-Okthoba 7th, 2016 futhi sengibuke i-porn kabili kusukela lapho. Angisenasithakazelo sokuyibuka futhi. Ngenkathi ngaphambi kokuthi ngiyibuke cishe nsuku zonke. …
Kunesimo esijabulisayo sokubheka i-porn kwimpucuko yanamuhla yasentshonalanga. Empeleni kufanele sibuke i-porn sengathi yisidakamizwa esinemiphumela, njengotshwala. I-porn ethe xaxa ngeke nje yakhe udonga lwengqondo olugcina ama-orgasms akho angafinyeleli eziphakeme ezingaziwa, kepha futhi izogcwalisa umzimba wakho ngokungasebenzi kocansi. Le nselelo ingifundise ngesilingo esinobuthi esingezocansi.
Ngoba i-porn ye-intanethi itholakale kuphela kule minyaka eyishumi edlule simane nje sifunda ngemiphumela yayo ephelele. Izifundo ezenziwa eminyakeni embalwa edlule bezisikhombisa ukuthi izithombe ezingcolile ziwuthinta kangakanani umzimba nengqondo yomuntu. Ubuchopho bomuntu buguquke ukufuna ubulili kanye nezinkinobho ze-porn kuleyo drive yokuqala. Kakhulu kangangokuthi imilutha yezocansi iqala ukukhetha ukushaya indlwabu nge-porn kunokuba ibe nocansi lwangempela (1). Njengoba sifunda kabanzi mayelana nokulutha kocansi siphinde sifunde ngokulutha ngokujwayelekile. Ubufakazi bakamuva busikhombisa sonke ukuthi ukulutha umlutha kuguqula ama-neurons asebenza ekuphenduleni isisusa (2). Lezi zifundo, kanye ne-'NoFap Style Challenge 'yami, zingikhombisile ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zikwazi kanjani ukungena ezingqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu futhi zisifake ushevu. Ukujwayelekile kocansi okukhuthazwa yi-porn kuyinto enhle, kepha izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile zizokuxosha ocansini lwangempela. Uzohlukaniswa futhi uthole ingqondo, umzimba, nomphefumulo ogulayo.
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