Iposi elibuza mayelana ne-rewiring:
Ngicabanga ukuthi i-rewiring izosiza ukusheshisa izinto uma ukuzwela okuvamile kuvuswa. Kodwa ukholelwa ukuthi kukhona iphuzu lapho umfana noma owake akwazi ukusetha izindlela zemvelo zabesifazane ngoba ubukele izithombe zobulili ezithi, ubudala 5 kuya ku-23.
Noma ukholelwa ukuthi kunephuzu lapho ubuchopho bungathola khona izintambo ezijule kakhulu ezithombeni ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi izindlela ezingcolile azisoze zaba buthakathaka ngokwanele ngesikhathi sodwa ukuze ubuchopho buvume noma bubone ukuthi intombazane engukuphila kwangempela inomvuzo. Ngakho-ke umfana uzodinga ukunikeza izindlela zakhe zemvelo 'umfutho' wokukhuluma.
Indaba ukuqaphela:
Omunye wabangane bami abakhulu walahlekelwa ubuntombi bakhe eneminyaka engu-21. Wayengakaze abe nokuxhumana ngokocansi kwangaphambili nentombazane ngaphambi kwalokho, kodwa wayeneminyaka engu-6 yokushaya indlwabu ekuhlangenwe nakho kocansi. Uqale ukushaya indlwabu eneminyaka engu-15, akazange asebenzise umcabango wakhe. Ngakho-ke akenzanga lutho ukusungula indlela yokwakhiwa kwentombazane yangempela. Kwakungokwemvelo lapho. Kuyavunywa ugcine ukushaya indlwabu okungenani futhi akazange adlulele ekuhlanganisweni kwe-hardcore porn. Ngakho akazange aphelelwe yithemba. Kepha impela bekune-wiring yezocansi.
Wayengenazo izimpawu ze-ED. Manje akaqalanga ku-porn super young kodwa iphuzu lami ukuthi ngokwemvelo wayenentambo yentombazane. Ngakho-ke, ucabanga ukuthi umfana angadeda ku-PM nakuwo wonke ama-O aze akwazi ukuma ame ngokuthinta yedwa, bese-ke ekwazi ukulala nentombazane yangempela ngaphandle kokubuyela emuva?
Ngokwami angazi, kepha ngincike kakhulu ekutheni, “Yebo kungenzeka ukuqala kabusha ngaphandle kokuphinda uvule futhi. Ngoba uma ungathola ukwakheka kokuthinta wedwa ungaba nokwakhiwa lapho intombazane ikuthinta. Ngaphandle kwalapho kudlala ukukhathazeka okuyingqayizivele. ”
UGary waphendula:
"Ukuvuza" kuyigama elingaxegi kakhulu, futhi abanye abantu balichaza ngokuthi "ukuya ocansini ngokweqiniso." Lokho wukuthi, bakholelwa ukuthi badinga ukuya ocansini ukuze baphinde basebenzise isivumelwano sangempela. Kodwa-ke, ukucabanga nje ngamantombazane angempela, ukuba seduze kwawo kufanele kufakwe ucingo olulodwa. Ngangifakwe amantombazane wangempela isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale ukushaya indlwabu ngineminyaka engu-13.
Ngakho-ke, yebo, ngicabanga ukuthi noma ngubani angakwazi ukusebenzisana nabalingani bangempela. Angazi ukuthi kungani abanye befana nomngani wakho, kanti abanye balwa kanzima. Kepha umuntu oqala i-porn eneminyaka engu-15, kunokuba abe neminyaka eyi-12, kungenzeka abe yinto eyodwa. Ukuxhumeka okuningi kwe-neural kukhiqizwa lapho uneminyaka eyi-11, futhi amaningi athenwa yi-15. Iminyaka yokuqala iqala ekukhuthazeni okungaphezu kwamandla njenge-porn ye-Intanethi ibaluleke kakhulu.
QAPHELA: Abafana abambalwa bavakashela izifebe, noma baphakamise ukuvakashela abaqwayizi njengendlela yokuphinda basebenzise "ubulili obujwayelekile". Ngeke ngingene ekuziphatheni kwalokhu, kepha akunangqondo, futhi mhlawumbe kwenza okubi kunokuhle. Okokuqala, i-rewiring ukufunda, futhi ukufunda kufanele kungaguquguquki futhi kufane nezimo zangempela zempilo ukuze kube ukulungiselela okuphumelelayo. Ukuhambela isifebe kabili noma kathathu ngeke kusize ngalutho. Okwesibili, ukuphinda u-rewiring kufanele kufane neqiniso. Ukuhlangana nezifebe akufani nokusondelana nomlingani wangempela. Uma ufuna ukuba yingcweti kuthenisi, awujwayezi ukuphonswa mahhala. Okwesithathu, ukungakwazi ukufeza ukwakhiwa nesifebe (okuvamise ukwenzeka) kuzoqinisa kuphela noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okuzungeze i-ED yakho. Bona le ntambo - Qaphela wonke umuntu, izifebe akuzona isixazululo. Ngingumthunzi wangempela 🙁
Futhi lena:
Ngangivame ukuba ne-PIED enzima, engangicabanga ukuthi ingalapheka ngokubuyela emuva nezifebe. Ngemuva kwalokho ngaqala ukuwavakashela njalo ngemuva kwezinsuku eziyi-100 zokuqalisa kabusha. Icala lami laba ngcono ngakunye kuze kube yilapho ukulala nabo kungakaze kube yinkinga. Manje, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi angiyena ovuliwe uma kukhulunywa ngokulala ne-gf yami noma enye intombazane ejwayelekile!
Umlutha uqobo udlala indima. Uma othile eba umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile izindlela zakhe ezikhuthazwayo zezocansi zivuselelwa kakhulu yi-porn. Iqiniso lingaba yize uma liqhathaniswa nokulutha kwakhe. Lapho ukusabela kokungokoqobo (amantombazane angempela) kungahambisani nokusabela kwakhe kokulutha okunamandla ngokweqile, ukwehla kwakhe kwe-dopamine. Ngakho-ke akenzi “izintambo” emantombazaneni angempela ngendlela okhokho bakhe abebenayo (ngaphandle kwezindlela zokuncintisana zokulutha). Bheka Kungani Ngithola I-Porn Ebaluleke Kakhulu Kunokuba Ngumlingani?
Esinye isici kungenzeka ukuthi yilokho okufakela omunye umuntu mayelana nokungahambisani ne-porn. Isibonelo, kumuntu oqondile, ngabadlali be-porn, noma amantombazane esikoleni noma ku-TV? Mhlawumbe esinye isici sivele sibhekene namantombazane, nje lapho bekhona. Ingabe othile osemgodleni wakhe udlala imidlalo yevidiyo, noma ukhuluma namantombazane, noma uhlanganyela emisebenzini yomphakathi namantombazane? Ukuze uthole imibono yokuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nomlingani wangempela, ngisho nangaphandle kokulala ocansini, bheka Amathuluzi Okuxhuma Nabanye. Zijwayeze ukubheka iso nokumamatheka. (Uma unamahloni, qala nabantu asebekhulile futhi usebenze kulabo ongaba ngumlingani wakho.)
Vele, iningi labafana abasebenzisa i-porn abanayo i-ED, ngakho-ke imvelo inamandla. Kodwa-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi sizoqhubeka nokubona ukuthambekela okuphezulu ku-ED, DE, nokudumazeka okuningi kwezocansi ezivamile kubafana ababenezintambo ezincane kwi-Internet ye-porn. (Futhi ucwaningo lukhipha lesi sibikezelo: Izifundo ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi noma ukubheja kocansi / ucansi ocansini, ukuvuselelwa kobuchopho obuphansi ekusebenzisaneni ngokocansi, nokwaneliseka kocansi.)
Lokho kusho ukuthi, ubuchopho buyipulasitiki. Bayashintsha, kepha kudinga ukukhetha okuhle nokubekezela. Ukuthola okuningi bheka incwadi kaNorman Doidge Ubuchopho Obushintshayo.
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- Isiqophi: Ukusebenzisa ama-Prostitutes ukushaya ukungasebenzi kwe-Erectile e-Porn-Inducedzwa, nge-Noah Church
- kulesi ividiyo UNowa uxoxa nge-DE, ED nokuphinda enze i-rewiring - Kungani ukulala ocansini kuzwa ukuthi kuhle? (ukuxoshwa kwezingcingo ezenziwa ngocansi kanye no-DE), nguNowa Church
- I-September 2015 Inkulumo ye-TEDx yinsizwa edinga isikhathi esingeziwe nokufunda kabusha / ukuphinda ibuye ukuze inqobe i-ED eyenziwe ngocansi kanye ne-anorgasmia - Inkulumo ye-TEDX mayelana ne-ED eyenziwe ngocansi nokubuyisa ubulili bomuntu: “Ungaba Kanjani UNkulunkulu Wobulili” nguGregor Schmidinger
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I-rebooter eyaphulukisa imibono yakhe ye-PIED ngokubuyisa kabusha
Ukuhlangenwe nakho kwami kokuqalisa kabusha kwakungaphandle kobudlelwano, kungananyathiselwe ingxenye enkulu (ibha yezinyanga ezi-2 ubudlelwane nobusuku obubodwa); Ngithole ukuthi okokuqala akukho porn noma ukugqugquzela ngokocansi; bese kuba yisikhathi esengeziwe esinqanda i-orgasm; bese izinqumo zokudla nezindlela zokuphila zokwenza ngcono ukusebenza kocansi phansi kwesekethe ziholele ekutheni ngiqale kabusha esikhundleni sami samanje (ama-erections we-10/10 okuzenzekelayo; izinkuni zasekuseni; MO (ukuzwa, akukho fantasy / ukugqugquzela) ngaphandle kokungena flatline). Ngakho-ke, ngibona sengathi ngiqale kabusha ngaphandle kosizo lobudlelwano futhi akusona isidingo sokuqalisa kabusha. Ngizizwa ngobuqotho ukuthi ubudlelwane kungenzeka bube nzima kakhulu kimi (ukulindela ucansi okubekwe kuwe ngumlingani, kanye nokwenzeka kwe-orgasm ejwayelekile engiqaphele ukuthi kubambezele ukuqala kabusha kwami futhi kwaqeda ukuqhubeka kwami nokwedlula isimo se-porn).
I-hypothesis yami ukuthi ngokuvumela izindlela ze-porn neuron ziphele ngokuswela ukusetshenziswa kungibuyisele esimweni sami sobusha, ngakho-ke bengingadingi ukuba ebudlelwaneni lapho bengibekelwa khona ukulingisa nomlingani wami.
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