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Amazwana avela kumadoda amabili:
- Ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe = ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu. Imvamisa ikhuphuka ifinyelela emaphethelweni aseduze nangaphambi kokuba kufike iphepha. Kuyinto yokuqeda ukucindezeleka futhi ihlanza ubuchopho ukuze ukwazi ukugxila.
- Ngokushesha ngemuva i-orgasm (ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nemizuzu eyishumi kamuva) Nginamafu, nginamahloni, ngiyaxolisa, futhi ngikhathazeka, nakuba ubude nobukhulu bezimpawu ezahlukene ziyahlukahluka. I-Orgasm ayiyona imbangela yalezi zinkinga kuphela kodwa nayo ibonakala sengathi i-CURE. Ngezinye izikhathi ngizokwenza kabili uma owokuqala engasebenzi. Kodwa ngemva kwesikhashana, ngathola ukuthi kwakudingeka ngiyenze kaningi ukuze nginciphise izimpawu. Ekugcineni ngafika izikhathi ezinhlanu ngosuku. Lokhu kwakunzima, futhi ukusika emuva kwakunemiphumela emihle yokuhoxisa.
I-Orgasm iqale ikhululeke-mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi emvuthwandaba ubuchopho bukhipha ama-opiate, i-prolactin, i-serotonin futhi kwesinye isikhathi i-spritz ye-oxytocin. Ngasikhathi sinye i-dopamine, i- "Gotta get it!" i-neurochemical, yehla. Njengendaba yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, le mizwa emihle iyindlela yemvelo yokuthi, “Umsebenzi omuhle! ngokuziphatha ngendlela evundisa. ” Ahhhh… (Ngokuthakazelisayo, kunobufakazi bokuthi i-neurochemical Imiphumela yecansi ihlukile kusuka kulabo abathandekayo be-solo.)
Lapho uqala ngokwengeziwe ukhala?
Kodwa kwenzekani lapho unquma ukusebenzisa uvuthondaba “njengomuthi wemizwelo” isikhathi ngasinye lapho uzizwa ucindezelekile? Impendulo incike ezintweni ezahlukahlukene, ezinjengokuthi: ukuzwela kobuchopho bakho, ukuqina kwesikhuthazo osisebenzisayo (Izithombe ze-intanethi zisemaphethelweni aphezulu), uqhelelene kanjani neminye imivuzo yemvelo esize ukugcina izingqondo zokhokho bakho zilinganisile (okusondele, ubungani obethembekile, ukuthintana okunothando, ukuzivocavoca okunamandla, ukudla okujwayelekile, njll.).
Ake sithi awunayo eminye yale mivuzo futhi unomsebenzi omningi okufanele uwenze. Ngakho-ke ufuna ukuphuma ngokushesha okukhulu ukuze uthuthukise ukugxila kwakho futhi ubuyele emsebenzini. Ngokwemvelo, uqhafaza ku-inthanethi ye-porn bese uthola okuthile okushisayo ngokwanele ukuthola imiphumela esheshayo.
Ngeshwa, njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka, ubuchopho bakho bungadinga ukukhuthazeka okwengeziwe nokuningi ukuthola ukukhululeka. Noma ubuchopho bakho bungadinga i-porn noma ngabe ukhona hhayi ngaphansi kokucindezeleka, noma kungase kudingeke ukuba ulale cishe zonke ebusuku. Uma ukhuluma ngokuluthwa, “ukwakha ukubekezelelana”Ngamakhemikhali ezinzwa akhiqizwa ubuchopho bakho, njengoba kuchaza udokotela wezifo zengqondo Norman Doidge. Ngamanye amagama, ukufinyelela njalo "ekwelashweni ngokushesha" kwe-Intanethi kungasebenza ukwandisa izimpawu zakho.
Sisho lokhu ngokuqiniseka ngoba njengoba abasebenzisi be-porn bayeke ukusebenzisa i-porn yamasonto ambalwa, umbiko omningi ukuthuthukiswa okuphawulekayo ngosizi, ukukhiqiza, ukulala, nokunye okumangalisayo, a ukwehla ekukhungathekeni kocansi jikelele.
Umjikelezo we-orgasm uyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunokwamukelwa ngokuvamile. Akukwenzi ekupheleni nalezi zindlela ezinhle ezidambisa ukucindezeleka. Ngemuva kokuqina komvuthwandaba, it kuthatha isikhathi ukuze ubuchopho bakho babuyele ku-homeostasis — mhlawumbe isikhathi esingangesonto. Okwamanje, i-neurochemistry yobuchopho bakho iyashintshashintsha. Izinga eliphansi lingabonakala njengemizwa ekhulayo yokungazinzi, ukukhathazeka, ukukhungatheka njalonjalo — ngaphandle kwalokhu okwenzeka empilweni yakho. Lokhu kungakwenza uzizwe ungathandeki, ungahlali nabantu, futhi uthanda okuthile okungahambi kahle kuwe.
Kuyacasula! Manje usukhulise imizwa yakho yokucindezela ngokuzama nje ukuzizwa ungcono. Ungahlosile, wenza kusebenze ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwakho “i-binge trigger”Ngokugqugquzela kakhulu. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, ubuchopho bakho buzivumelanisa ngokusemandleni akho nesikhukhula esihlala njalo sokuvuselela. Kodwa-ke, umphumela owodwa ojwayelekile ukuthi iba kancane ukuzwela injabulo. Lokhu, futhi, kuphazamisa isimo sokukhula (ukubekezelelana) okuchazwe ngenhla.
Ngakho-ke kufanele ukwenze?
Ukushaya indlwabu kungase kube yingxenye yokuphila kwakho, okungenani uze ube nomlingani wakho. Kodwa kukhona izinto ezisiza.
- Gwema izinto ezimbi kakhulu. I-porn ye-Intanethi ingaba yindlela esheshayo yokwehla, kepha futhi ingenye yokweqisa kakhulu, ngoba nje iyividiyo; kuyinoveli; kuyinkinki, njll. Ngakho-ke umjikelezo ophakeme kakhulu awukhahlela nawo ubonakala kakhulu. Ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwe-Internet, futhi ubone uma ubona izinzuzo.
- Zama ukuvuselela kabusha. Abesilisa bathola ukuthi lapho beshaya kancane indlwabu, kulapho bedinga khona ukushaya indlwabu… okungenani kuze kube seqophelweni elithile. Thola lelo phuzu lokulinganisela lapho izidingo zakho zingakhuli khona. Kuzothatha isikhathi ukuyithola uma ubuchopho bakho okwamanje bungalingani. Ngokumangazayo, isikhathi sakho esifanelekile singafinyelela kuviki noma amabili.
- Ukuzama ukuthola ukuthi iyiphi enye "umuthi wemizwa" wemvelo kuveza imizwa yenhlalakahle. Ngaleyo ndlela ngeke uncike kwi-porn ye-Intanethi ukukhulula ukucindezeleka.
- Ukuze uqonde kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ubuchopho bakho bunzima yini, bukela Ubuchopho bakho ku-Porn: Yeka ukuthi izithombe ze-inthanethi zithinta kanjani ubuchopho.
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