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Amanye amadoda azama inqubo yokuqalisa kabusha akholelwa ukuthi inqobo nje uma egwema ukukhishwa ejaculation, aqala kabusha ngempumelelo. Lo mqondo osontekile ubaholela ekwamukeleni umkhuba ongasizi ngalutho ovamile kubasebenzisi be-porn be-Intanethi, okuthiwa ukuhlela. Lokhu kushaya indlwabu kuze kube semkhawulweni we-orgasm, bese ukuyeka ukupholisa izinto phansi, bese uvuselela futhi. Izinguqulo ezintathu ezivamile zokuhlela:
- Ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu
- Ukushaya indlwabu ngenkathi ubuka i-porn, kepha hhayi ukukhipha
- Ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kocansi futhi ngaphandle kokugxila
Njengoba ukuqala kabusha kuchazwa ngokuthi akukho porn noma okufaka esikhundleni se-porn 1 & 2 akunangqondo. Kulabo abazama ukunqoba ukusetshenziswa kocansi okuyinkinga, ukuhlela ngenkathi ukubukela izithombe ezingcolile (noma ukucabanga nge-porn) kuyingozi nakakhulu kunokuba nje ube ne-orgasm bese uqhubeka nayo. Kungani kunjalo? Konke kuya phansi ku-dopamine.
Ukushintsha kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha kanye nesimo socansi (Pavlovian) siqaliswa ngu:
- Amazinga e-Dopamine aphakeme kunamazinga atholakele ngezindlela zemvelo (izidakamizwa, isibonelo)
- Amazinga we-dopamine aphansi ahlala ephakeme isikhathi eside
- Ukuhlanganiswa kwe-1 & 2
Uma uhlela ku-porn uhlanganisa amazinga aphezulu e-dopamine wokushaya indlwabu ngamakhono okukhulisa i-1) okuthakazelisayo, amanoveli we-2) efuna inetha ye-porn 3) ukuthola izinhlobo ezimangalisa noma ezesabekayo. Ukuhlela kungagcina amazinga e-dopamine aphakanyiswe amahora, futhi aqeqeshe ubuchopho zidinga ukuvuselela okubukwayo njalo, okusheshayo-umlilo, ukuchofoza esiteshini kuya endaweni, izitho ezithile, nokucindezela kwesandla sakho siqu. Akukho okunye okufanelana nobulili wangempela. (bheka lokhu ividiyo - Ukuqalisa kabusha: Yini Okubalulekile Njengokubuyela Emuva ?, yiNowa Church)
I-dopamine ephezulu itshela isekethe lomvuzo ukuthi "Lo msebenzi ubaluleke ngempela, futhi kufanele uwenze kaninginingi." Khohlwa amathuba (wangempela) wezinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha. I-dopamine ephakeme kakhulu ilungisa ukuvusa kwakho ucansi kuyo yonke into ehambisana nokusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi. Manje uqeqeshela umdlalo ongafanele. Kufana nokuchitha isikhathi sakho ushaya amabhola egalofu ukuze ube ngumdlali we-basketball omuhle.
Okubi kakhulu kunokuqeqeshela umdlalo ongafanele, kungenzeka ukuthi uzikhipha kulo mdlalo nonke. I-Dopamine ayijwayelekile. Iyadubula impela lapho okuthile kungcono kunalokho obekulindelwe, kepha yehla lapho okulindelwe kungafinyelelwanga. Ukubuyisa ubulili bakho kwi-porn ye-Intanethi kusho ukuthi ngokungazi ulindele ukuthi ube yi-voyeur elawula i-dopamine yakho ngegundane. Lapho ucansi lwangempela lungafani nezithombe ezingcolile, i-dopamine plummets - kanye nenjabulo yakho kanye nokulungiswa kwakho. Ukusakaza ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kubonakala kubangela ukwanda okungakaze kube khona kokuhlukunyezwa kwezocansi kwentsha: Ucwaningo luqinisekisa ukukhwabanisa okubucayi kwezingcansi zobulili ezisencane.
Kuthiwani ngokuhlela ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-porn? Kuxhomeke emigomweni yakho engiyicabanga. Khumbula ukuthi i-YBOP iphathelene ne-inthanethi ye-porn, hhayi ukushaya indlwabu (hello nofap / reddit). Ingabe kufana nokuhlala nje eduze komngcele nomngane wakho? Hhayi ncamashi, ngoba unamathele ukuphendula kwakho ngokobulili esandleni sakho. Ukuba nobulili kusho ukuthi uyilungisa impendulo yakho yocansi komunye umuntu. Lokhu kungase kube okuphawulekayo kuzivakashi ezibhekene nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kanye nesidingo sokubuyisela kubalingani bangempela. Bheka Izifundo ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn / ukuluthwa ukungasebenzi kahle kocansi, ukuvusa inkanuko ephansi, kanye nokwaneliseka kocansi nobudlelwano
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukugqugquzela ucansi yizinga eliphakeme kakhulu le-dopamine ekhiqizwa ngokwemvelo. I-Dopamine isezingeni eliphakeme lapho isengozini ye-orgasming (edging). Ezinsukwini zangaphambi kwe-inthanethi, abafana bebevame ukushaya indlwabu, i-orgasm futhi benziwe ngakho - kungathatha imizuzu eyi-10 noma kunjalo. Ku-orgasm, kuphakama i-prolactin, eyehlisa i-dopamine kumazinga ayisisekelo futhi ivimbele ukukhishwa kwayo. Lokho kuvame ukuphumuza ukukhululeka okuthile.
Ukubeka unyawo lwakho kwi-dopamine gas, ngaphandle kokushaya i-prolactin imiphumela eqhubekayo yezinkanuko ngaphandle kokwaneliseka. Lo mkhuba wokuhlela izingcingo ukukhumbula engqondweni ukuhlolwa kokuqala ku-circuit circuitry yomqondo lapho izilwane ziyozivuselela ngokuphindaphindiwe, zivuselele ukwethuka kagesi futhi zizinaki abashadile abazithandayo.
Ekugcineni, amazinga aphakeme aphezulu okuthiwa i-dopamine (ngokuhambisana nesisusa esithile) yilokho okubangelwa ukuguqulwa kobuchopho okungabangela ukulutha okugcwele, njengoba ukuqhutshwa ngokweqile kwendiza yokuvuza kuholela ukuqoqwa kweDeltaFosB, ukuvuselelwa kwezakhi zofuzo, kanye nezinguquko ezithile zobuchopho. Njengokushintshwa kwamangqamuzana okulondoloziwe, i-DeltaFosB iqala ukulutha kokuziphatha nokwamakhemikhali. Noma kunjalo enye yezinjongo zayo zokuziphendukela kwemvelo isimo sezocansi. Iphinda ivuselele isekethe lomvuzo kwizimpawu zocansi emvelweni futhi yenza "ucansi" luhehe nakakhulu. Uma imvelo yakho yezocansi iyi-porn ye-Intanethi, yilokho okulindelwe isifunda sakho semiklomelo… .nokulangazelela.
Omunye umfana wenza ukuhlolwa kwesikhathi eside - akukho ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kocansi / ukuhlela ngokungahambisani nocansi / akukho ukuhlela:
I-NoFap "amandla amakhulu" isebenza kuphela ezimweni ezithile
Eminyakeni engu-2 edlule ngenza inselele yami yokuqala ye-no-fap, ukuze ngibone ukuthi ngingakwenza yini, futhi ngithole amandla amakhulu kuwo. Eminyakeni ye-2 ngiye ngazama ukuphinda ngibuye ngibuye ngibuyele, futhi angikaze ngiphumelele. Phakathi nale minyaka engu-2, isilingo ngasinye se-nofap engangiyenzile kwakuwukuzama ukufeza lelozinga lamandla.
Umbono wami kwakuwukuthi wawuxhunyaniswe nokungakhiphi umchamo, ne-testosterone nokunye okunjalo. Ngakho-ke ngenza i-nofap, kodwa ngisaqhubeka ngibheka izithombe zamantombazane amahle, noma i-porn, noma ihlanganiswe ... noma yini engingayenza ukukhulisa amazinga wami we-T, ngaphandle kokukhipha i-ejaculating ... kodwa ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Ngalesi sikhathi, nginqume ukwenza i-nofap, hhayi amandla, kepha ngoba bengiphinde ngakhathala inqubo yami yansuku zonke ye-PMO - futhi bengizonamathela kuyo, ngemodi enzima, ngisho nangaphandle kwamandla amakhulu.
Umphumela: Nginamandla ngokuphelele manje. Isiphetho sami: Kimi, "amandla amakhulu" abonakala angahlobene nokungakhiphi, noma ukukhipha kancane ... kepha ukungazivezi ku-Porn, uhlu olungenamkhawulo lwe-bikini-babes, ukuhlela, ukucabanga, noma ngisho nokuzithinta. Cha Idea ukuthi isebenza kanjani, kepha ngicabanga ukuthi ihlobene nokuthile okufana nalokhu: (repost from another thread) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jX2btaDOBK8
Ngamafuphi: uma ufuna ukuzwa "amandla amakhulu": azikho izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, azikho izithombe, azihleli, azithinti - hamba ngemodi enzima amasonto ambalwa.
Omunye umfana ubike ukuthi ubuhlungu bakhe bubuhlungu ngenxa yokuhlela:
Amabhola ami abelokhu eqaqamba ngenxa ye-varicoceles. Kwakungikhathaza kakhulu. Kodwa lapho ngiqala i-nofap, yahamba kungakapheli isonto futhi kukhona i-zero painin yamasende ami. Ibhulogi ye- "Yodelout" yayinembile nge-varicocele.
Injabulo yezocansi engaqinisekisiwe iyisizathu se-varicocele nobuhlungu obuhambisana nakho. Ngiyethemba uyakuqonda ukuthi ngizizwa kangcono kanjani lapho kungekho buhlungu emabhola. Kukhulu kakhulu. Yize isigaxa se-varicocele singasanyamalali, ukuvuvukala akukukhulu kakhulu njengakuqala. Noma nini lapho nginqanda, ubuhlungu buyabuya. Lobu ubufakazi obukhulu bokuthi ukuhlelwa kanye ne-varicocele kuhlobene kakhulu. Ukushaya indlwabu akubhebhethekisi ubuhlungu, ukuhlela kwenza njalo. I-NoFap yenza ukuphila kube lula. I-4 Month Journey, i-61 day streak (ngaphandle kwamaphupho amanzi)
Ngandlela-thile, abaningi abaphelisa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi babe nomlando wokuhlela izithombe ezingcolile. Njengoba umfana oyedwa wathi,
Ingabe ihlehlela kabi?
Yebo, empeleni kubi kakhulu. Isizathu silula: esikhundleni sokufeza i-orgasm nokuyiqeda, uqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuthi bugeze kumakhemikhali amahora. Kuyinto embi kunazo zonke ongayenza, ibha akekho. Okubi kakhulu. Uma uqale futhi wakubona okwenzayo ngesikhathi, yima noma ugijimele ekugcineni. Noma yini oyenzayo, ungagcini ijubane. Iningi lethu belingelona umlutha we-PMO, kepha bekuyi-PEO.
Uma une-ED engapheli eyenziwe nge-porn, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukuphuma kwe-ejaculation kwakuyimbangela ye-ED / DE yakho - mhlawumbe kwakuyiminyaka yokusebenzisa i-porn. I-porn ye-Intanethi iyisikhuthazo esiguqula ubuchopho, futhi, kwabanye abasebenzisi, kubangela ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi. Khumbula, i-porn yanamuhla ayisiyomlutha nje ngoba iholela ekukhokhelweni kwe-orgasm; kungumlutha ngoba abasebenzisi bangayisebenzisa ukukhulisa i-dopamine ngokuqhubekayo ezifundeni zabo zomvuzo wokuqala wobuchopho. Eqinisweni, siyazi ngomuntu oyedwa owathuthukisa i-ED ngu ukubuka nje Izithombe ze-intanethi. Isimiso sakhe kwakuwukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nsuku zonke, kodwa ukushaya indlwabu kuphela kanye kuphela ezinsukwini eziyishumi.
Kwenzekani uma uqeda ukushaya indlwabu kodwa ubuyela emuva kwezinye zezingcansi:
Sawubona bafana, ukuvuselelwa okuncane lapha. Sengiphelile ku-nofap futhi ngikwazile ukungaphumi kusukela ngoJanuwari 3rd. Ngenyanga yokuqala ye-nofap angibhekanga nhlobo i-porn. Ukuthuthuka ebenginakho bekungekhona okwangempela. Ukuzethemba okukhulu, izwi elijulile, i-dick enkulu (ayikho ihlaya). Ngenyanga yesibili ngiqale ukubheka izithombe zebikini kanye nomdlalo wokudlala othambile njengezithombe. Lokhu kwakubonakala kulungile kodwa ngaqala ukuqaphela ukuthi angifuni ukuphuma endlini kakhulu, futhi ukukhathazeka kwezenhlalo kwaqala ukukhuphuka futhi, kusuka ezithombeni ze-bikini, yini le fuck.
Ngiqale ukujula ngesonto eledlule futhi ngaya kusayithi lakudala lezintandokazi lapho ngabuka khona imizuzu eyi-10 yevidiyo. Ukushesha kwe-dopamine kwakungeyona into engokoqobo. Inhliziyo ishaya ngamandla, ukuqhaqhazela, kepha angizange ngiphume. Isonto eledlule ngemuva kokubuka leyo shit kube yinhlekelele. Ukubuka iNetflix usuku lonke, kungasebenzi, blah. Ngakho-ke noma kunjalo ngilapha, izinsuku ezingama-5 ezingcolile, i-nofap 90 okuthile. Azisekho izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kimi, akusikho ukugxuma, i-porn yayo. Zikhulule.
Njengoba kuchazwe "indlwabu engapheli"
Ngithola ukuthi ukuthokozisa ngokocansi ukushaya indlwabu okusizwa yizithombe zobulili ezingcolile kudlula kakhulu injabulo yokuzibandakanya (noma eminye imikhuba) nomlingani. Futhi nginesizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi lesi siphetho sisabalele phakathi kwabantu abangaphansi kwabazitholela indlwabu ezingapheli. Ngiwumhlanganyeli osebenzayo emaqenjini e-Inthanethi agxile ekushaya indlwabu, futhi umengameli weyodwa. Ama-masturbator avame ukuveza ukukhetha okunamandla kwemikhuba yezinhlobonhlobo, ngisho nalapho uqhubeka nobuhlobo obusebenzayo nabalingani bocansi. Abaningi bayeke ngisho nokushiya ucansi lomlingani ngisho ngenkathi umlingani ehlala ekhona futhi ethanda.
Esikhundleni sokuthi "ukuxubha," ukushaya indlwabu okungapheli ngokuvamile kuhilela umkhuba esiwubiza ngokuthi "ukuhlela": Siziletha emgodini we-orgasm ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngaphandle kwe-ejaculation. Singakwazi ukusekela amazinga aphezulu kakhulu okuvusa ngokocansi ngokoqobo ngamahora, futhi ngokukhululekile sibheke ukucabanga kwethu kobulili obuseduze nakakhulu. Lezi zingcingo zingase zenzeke ngomlingani ohambisanayo futhi osekela kakhulu, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi abalingani abaningi bangakhathali umsebenzi noma bahlukanise emibonweni yabo yocansi ngaphambi kokuba i-masturbator engapheli igxilile ngokuphelele. Ngakho ukuhlela-ukushaya indlwabu kwenza kube nzima ukuthola enye into. Umkhuba wokuba umlutha wokuba umlutha kufanele ube sobala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzwa i-masturbator engapheli ivuma ngokusobala ukubheja kwabo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo iveza ukuzimisela futhi isifiso sokuba "umlutha kakhulu."
Ingqondo yakho engumlutha ifuna i-porn, ngakho-ke izolinganisa zonke izinhlobo zezimo, futhi ukubuka ngaphandle kokugcoba kungenye yezintandokazi zayo - ikakhulukazi kulabo asebevele benenkinga yokuvuthwa noma ukugcina ama-erections (ngenxa yokusebenzisa i-porn ngokweqile). Njengoba i-ejaculation ingukuthi hhayi ukulutha umlutha, noma imbangela yokuphazamiseka kwezocansi, ukulinganisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi kungaba yingozi. (Funda “Kuthiwani uma ngibuyisa ubuchopho bami ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu?”Ngezansi kwaleli khasi.) I-hangover yakho yokubuka ngemuva kwe-neurochemical kungenzeka ingabi namandla njengalapho wenza i-orgasm, kepha ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwenza buthakathaka izindlela zakho zobuchopho futhi kuqinise izindlela zakho zokuluthwa yi-neural-wiring your arousal more more tight to the Internet's supernormally novel ukugqugquzela. Iseluleko esivela kubafana ababili:
Ngifunde izinto eziningi ngenkathi ngibuyela emuva, njengokuthi ngisho nomngcele omncane, omncane uyingozi… hhayi ngalolo suku, kodwa ngakusasa lesi sifiso sinamandla athe xaxa futhi ngosuku lwe-3 akubekezeleleki. Ngakho-ke okwamanje angizithinti. Nami manje sengilawula kakhulu imicabango yami eyayingibuyisela ekuhlelweni. Manje sengiguqula imicabango kulabo bantu ngokushesha nje lapho ingena ekhanda lami.
Akunandaba noma ngabe isithombe singenacala kangakanani, encwadini yami ebheka ama-vids / izithombe bese ucisha ngokushesha kunikezwa isilinganiso 'sengozi enkulu yokubuyela emuva.' Izenzo zokusesha, ukubheka nokuthinta ziholela ezinxenxweni eziqinile zokujaha kokugcina okuzikhulisa kube uhlobo lombono womhubhe. Lo mbono womhubhe, ngokwesipiliyoni sami, ubonakala ngokuvalwa ngokuphelele 'kobuchopho obusha / obunengqondo.' Ubuchopho 'obudala / budala' buqala ukubusa. Izinhloso, imiphumela, kanye nokubonisana azikho nje, futhi kunzima kakhulu ukungazinikeli. Zenzele umusa ubalekele kwikhompyutha yakho bese uthatha isikhathi sakho ngokuthile okukhiqizayo. Ungayiteketisi ingonyama, uma kungenjalo izokutholela olunye lwalezi zinsuku :-).
Akekho umlutha we-porn oshiya ngempumelelo lo mkhuba ngemuva ngokuxuba ukuhlela 'nokubuka nje.' Nakhu okutholwe ngabafana:
Udokotela omuhle womchamo engike ngathintana naye eminyakeni eyedlule, wangitshela ukuthi ukuhlela kuhle kakhulu ngoba isidoda siyabuya futhi singahle "sifane" ku-prostate yethu futhi yingakho izinhlungu namabhola aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, wangitshela ukuthi akamukelekile kusoseshini we-urology ngoba uthe ukushaya indlwabu kungaba yimbangela yezinkinga eziningi ku-prostate, abanye odokotela bamtshele ukuthi uma amadoda eshaya indlwabu kaningi azoba namakhasimende amaningi. Qaphela, mfowethu !!!!!! I-Btwm lo dokotela ungitshele nokuthi eminyakeni eyi-10 edlule iziguli zakhe ezingama-90% bezingaphezu kwama-60 futhi manje usiza abantu abaneminyaka yobudala eyi-16, intsha eningi izomthinta. Usole ukushaya indlwabu, i-porn nama-hormone, unokwelashwa ngezinaliti ukujova izakhi zomzimba ezibalulekile emithanjeni yepipi, kufana ne-viagra kodwa futhi okungcono, uzizwa njengenkunzi.
Okubalulekile: Ukuhlela akuyona indlela efanele yokuthola kabusha. Qaphela lokho! Akudlalwa ngomentshisi kuphela. Ukuphuthuma okuthinta kanye ne-dopamine ebuchosheni bakho kwanele ukubambezela ukululama. Angikutholanga lokhu ekuqaleni, ngakho-ke manje ngingeze ikhawunta yokuhlela - futhi sekuvele izinsuku ezingama-4. Ngokuvamile, ngizizwa ngithule kakhulu, ngithule kakhulu ngaphakathi. Ama-erections ami ekuseni abuyile. Ngizwa ukungakhululeki okuncane - amabhola aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka - kepha kuhamba ngokushesha. Ini enza usizo lapho kuphakama izinxushunxushu ukuzithinta ngendlela ehlukile, engezona ubuciko, emvula ebanda noma ukuphuza amanzi kancane ngepeni lami kanye nebhola, ukuphefumula, nokuphazanyiswa (ukwenza okuthile okuhlukile).
https://web.archive.org/web/20201112031244/https://i.imgur.com/LsVO7rB.gif “When I read about people edging on the forum”
Ingemuva - uneminyaka engama-21, ulunge ngokwedlulele, umfundi. Ngiye ku-16 day streak lapho ngangihlela cishe izikhathi eziyi-1-3 ngosuku, usuku ngalunye. Ekupheleni kosuku lwe-16, i-prostate yami yazizwa ingakhululekile kakhulu futhi kwakucishe kube buhlungu ukuhlala phansi. Ngibone kuwumqondo omuhle ukudedela. Kwangimangaza ukuthi umthamo wesidoda wawuphansi NGOKUPHAKATHI, futhi ngaba nobuhlungu obukhulu obushisayo ku-prostate yami ngemuva kokuphuma. Lokhu empeleni kubuhlungu njengesihogo. Ngidlula ezinsukwini ezimbalwa (namuhla) izinhlungu sezihambile. Ngizoqala omunye umugqa, kulokhu (futhi angisophinde) ukuhlela. Angiqiniseki ukuthi yini imishini esetshenziselwe lokhu ukudala lolu daba, kepha kuyethusa kakhulu futhi ngincoma kakhulu ukuthi UNGABHEKI. Uma uhlela njalo, kungcono ukhulule.
Ungapheli. Ngempela. Ungakwenzi. Kuyinto embi kakhulu ukuyenza. Noma ungakubali ukuhlela njengokuphinda ubuyele emuva (okuyikho ngempela), uma usuqala ukuhlela, kumane kuyindaba yamahora noma izinsuku lapho uzobuyela khona. Ubudala 20 - Ukuzethemba okukhulu nokuthuthuka okungcono, Wenze abangani abaningi ngenyanga edlule kunangaphambi kweminyaka engu-2
“Umphumela weZeigarnik ukuthambekela kokuzwa imicabango engenangqondo ngenhloso eyake yalandelwa futhi yashiywa ingaphelele (Baumeister & Bushman, 2008, ikhasi 122). Uhlelo oluzenzakalelayo lukhombisa ingqondo eqaphelayo, engahle igxile ezinhlosweni ezintsha, ukuthi umsebenzi wangaphambilini ushiywe ungaphelele. Kubukeka kuyimvelo yomuntu ukuqeda esikuqalayo futhi, uma kungaqediwe, sihlangabezana nokungajabuli. ”
Indlela engcono yokugwema ukufaka ukugwema ukugwema ukuqala.
Vala isiphequluli. Vula amehlo akho uma uqala ukucabanga. Vala i-TV. Phuma embhedeni. Zip it up.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ungaqali. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2u0s0l/dont_edge_the_ziegarnik_effect/
Ngaqala i-Nofap, futhi yize kwakunzima ekuqaleni ngangimba izithende zami futhi izinto zathuthuka kancane kancane. Ngenze izinsuku zami zokuqala ezingama-90. Ngemuva kwalokho nginqume ukusetha kabusha njengoba ekuqaleni ngangivumele ukuhlela futhi ngangifuna ukukwenza kahle. I-FYI kulula kakhulu uma unganqamuki.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-accounts/rebooting-accounts-page-1/1-year-my-wife-and-i-have-a-much-more-active-and-passionate-sex-life/
Ngayeka ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngoJuni 8, 2011 futhi angikaze ngibone intombazane enqunu esikrinini sami (nganoma iyiphi indlela) kusukela lapho. Kodwa-ke, iphutha elibalulekile ebengilenza, kuze kube yizinsuku ezingama-32 ezedlule, lalingu-EDGING. Ngibone kuncane kakhulu, cha, inqubekela phambili ezinyangeni zokuqala ze-6 noma kunjalo, futhi angikaze nginikele ngokuphelele kulokhu ukuhlela (ngokwengxenye ngenxa yokuphika, futhi ngokwengxenye ngoba bekuyimvelo yesibili nokuthile engingacabangi ngakho kakhulu ngenkathi okwenzekayo). Ngakho-ke, ezinsukwini ezingama-30 ezedlule, bengibona intuthuko enkulu. EKUGCINENI! Nakhu engikutholile kuze kube manje, kanye namathiphu nezeluleko:
Izinsuku ezingu-10 ze-nofap ngaphandle kokuhlela ngokulingana nezinsuku ze-60 ze-nofap ngokuhlela.
I-1st imizamo yezinsuku ze-74 ngokuhlela, i-2nd imizamo yezinsuku ze-39 ngokuhlela, izinsuku ezingu-3rd imihla ye-15 enemizamo yokuhlela kanye ne-4th izinsuku ezingu-5 ngokuhlela.
NOMA Manje:
Izinsuku ezingu-11 ze-nofap ngaphandle kokuhlela (hhayi ngisho nokubuka ipeni lami noma zihlelwe okwesibili, nginezinsuku ezingu-1st zokuphila kwami ngosuku lwe-4th, ngingu-25 YO) futhi ngimangele ukuthi ingqondo nomzimba wami usabela kanjani emphakathini futhi ukubuka kwami kuyingozi bonke abantu bayakhangelwa bonke abesifazane ngendlela engibukeka ngayo. Ukuzwa okuhle nokuqiniseka ngesikhathi esinzima engikubhekana nayo manje kusiza kakhulu, kodwa izikhathi ezithile ucindezeleka ngenxa yezici zangaphandle ezinizungezile kukunika isibindi sokulwa.
Ngikholwa ukuthi lokhu kuyinkululeko yokugcina, uma udlula isifiso sakho socansi.
HLELA: - ngiyeke ukubukela izithombe ezinyangeni ezinhlanu emuva
Empeleni ngifunda i-neuroscience esikoleni esiphothule iziqu, futhi enye yezinto zokuqala ozoyifunda ngohlelo lomvuzo ukuthi i-dopamine empeleni ikhukhula uhlelo ngokulindela umvuzo - hhayi ngemuva komvuzo uqobo. Ngakho-ke ngokombono we-neurobiological, ukuhlela imizuzu eyi-15 kubi kakhulu kunokuzihlikihla okukodwa ngemizuzu embalwa. Uma ucabanga ngakho ngokwethembeka, umlutha wakho yi-PM, hhayi i-O.
KODWA… Ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile futhi ukubona ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi ulahlekelwa ukugxila bese uqala ukuhlela imizuzu, akufanele ulandele ngoba "kuhle ukuthi ngiyivele ngivele ngiyayihlela ngingahle ngiqede futhi ngiqale phansi". Kukhona inani ELIKHULU elingatholwa ngokusukuma umelane nokulwa nesifiso nakulezo zikhathi.
[Kwaphela amasonto ambalwa ngaphambili, le ndoda yayikhononda ukuthi yayidlala ngokucindezela ngezidalwa zakhe zobulili.]
Angikaze ngithinte umthondo wami isikhashana. Amaviki ama-5 cha M, iviki eli-1 alikho P. Ngizizwa nginohlonze. Ngendlela enhle. I-OCD yami ihambile. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngine-restless syndrome yomlenze. Ngiyekile ukuhambisa imilenze yami ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi. Bengikwenza ngokungazi ukuthinta ipipi lami. Ngikhathele kakhulu manje. Konke kuhamba kancane kimi, futhi ngizola ngokwengeziwe lapho ngikhuluma nabantu. Ngikhululeke kakhulu, futhi angidingi nto engingayenza. Ndoda, ngiphezu komhlaba. NGIFUNA UKUTHI ngishayele i-x-girl yami ngiyitshele ukuthi ngisayithanda… haha… ngiyayithanda. Sahlukana ne-cuz yezocansi. Uthando lwami luhambile lapho ngikuwo, kepha uma ngingenjalo, ngiphezulu komhlaba. Ngisasaba ukubuyela emuva, ngoba ngenza nje. Kuzohlala njalo. Kepha lolu hlelo lokuqalisa kabusha ekugcineni luyakhokha.
Ngobusuku bokugcina ngazama ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile ngaphandle kokuzithinta (ngiyaqala kabusha manje). Ngazizwa sengathi ngilawula. Nganginekhono ngenza eminye imisebenzi ngenkathi ngibuka, okungenzeki kimi lapho ngisebenza kuze kube se-orgasm. Kodwa-ke, namhlanje ekuseni ngizwa inkungu ethile yobuchopho (inkomba yami yokuthi i-chemistry yobuchopho bami ayilungile). Akukubi kangako lapho ngangiye MO kuya ku-P, kepha kukhona. Futhi ngilindele ukuthi izinsuku ezimbalwa ezilandelayo (okungenani) zibe yisihogo, njengoba nginezithombe ezintsha okufanele ngibhekane nazo. Ngeke ngiphinde ngikwenze lokhu. Ngalokho kukufanele.
[kusuka I-Reddit / NoFap] Kungani ungamele - - “Lokhu okuchazayo kubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlela. NGIYAKUTHEMBISA uma uqhubeka nokunqanda uzobuyela emuva akukho ma-if, ama-ands, noma ama-buts ngakho.
NGITHEMBELE lokhu kulula njengo-1 + 1 = 2. Ngiyekile ukuqhubeka / b / ngaleso sizathu. Kufanele usike izithombe eziqukethe ezocansi, ngisho nokufunda ku-Facebook yale ntombazane ebusayo kungaba yingozi. Nakhu ukuthi kuqala kanjani, “Ndoda, ngenza kahle kwa-nofap. Kakade izinsuku ezingama-60?!?!? Angisafuni nokufuna fap… hmmm… wow. UStephanie ubukeka eshisa kuleyongxenye emibili… ngingathini nje ngithanda ukubheka abesifazane abashisayo. Akukho lutho ku-nofap olumelene nokubheka abesifazane abashisayo… Ake ngibheke / s / ukuze ngibone ukuthi yini okuqhubekayo, akufani nokuthi ngizoba fap noma yini. Ngifuna nje ukubona amanye amabele… Hawu, la mantombazane ayashisa. Ake ngihlole / i-gif / akufani nokuthi ngisakaza i-porn noma yini, zingama-gifs nje… Hawu, ngishaqekile manje.
Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ngeke kube nandaba uma ngivele ngizithinte kancane ... akufani nokuthi ngizogcwala ku-fap kanye ne-orgasm yanoma yini. Lawa mantombazane ayashisa kakhulu. Ngiyazi ukuthi intombazane ekwi-xnxx ebukeka njengayo… Akunandaba ukuthi ngiyayihlola yini. Angizukuqeda, ngifuna ukumbona nokuthi i-vid iyagula… OMG, angikwazi ukuzisiza, uyashisa. ANGIKE NGINIKE NGENXA YOKUPHILA. i-orgasm Wow… woooowwwww..wwwoooooowwww… .90 izinsuku phansi kokukhipha i-FUCKING… omfg.
Ngingaqhubeka nokuqhubeka manje njengoba sengivele ngaphula i-streak… lokho okushaya amanzi ... Nokuthi umngani wami ukuthi kuhamba kanjani. Uma uvumela ukuhamba ngentambo, nakanjani uzolahlekelwa ibhalansi yakho. UNGAKWENZI! ” –Esbietoo
Lomthambeka oshelelayo yinto sonke okudingeka siyibheke! Inkinga esemqoka ukuthi abantu bacabanga ukuthi bangakwazi "ukukopela" uhlelo ngokumane bazihlelele kepha baphike i-orgasm. Kodwa-ke, ukugijimela kwe-dopamine okuhambisana nokuphequlula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kusazogcina ukubhebhetheka komlutha ... futhi njengoba iphansi liwela liphuma ngaphansi kwakho njengoba usondela futhi usondela ekugcineni kokungabuyeli ngenkathi uhlela, ukulandela nokwenza i-orgasming kuzobe kungagwemeki . Ngakho-ke, ngigcizelela ukuthi wonke umuntu ayeke ngisho nokuhlela! Le nhloso [ayikho i-porn / indlwabu], hhayi i-NoCum. Bhekana nakho.
Ngazama ukuzama ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule lapho ngangibuka khona izithombe eziningi zobulili ezingcolile futhi nginqamula ngaphandle kwe-orgasm izinsuku ezingama-21. Lapho ekugcineni ngiyikhipha yayingenayo i-porn. Emasontweni ambalwa alandelayo ngaba nokuhoxiswa OKUSABALAYO. Ngakho-ke kukhona isifundo ongasithola.
Ngikuqinisekisile. Ukuhlela Kubi kakhulu kunokushaya indlwabu. Kufana nebhizinisi elingaqediwe. Ngangihlela namuhla. Ngaphambi kwalokho, ngazizwa ngithulile. Ngemuva kokuhlelwa cishe kwehora, ngezwa ukuthuthuka ngaphakathi kimi. Ngizwa amandla afana nakhona, kunesiphepho ngaphakathi komzimba wami. Uma kuqhathaniswa nemizwa yolwandle epholile, ezolile ebenginayo ngaphambi kokuhlela, kubi kakhulu. Kungithathe amahora ambalwa ukuzizwa ngipholile futhi. Ngifunde isifundo sami. 🙁
Ngakho-ke ngenza i-nofap ngaphambili kwezinsuku ze-63 kepha ngangizama futhi ngibheke i-porn kanye ngesikhashana. Angizange ngibone imiphumela eminingi ngemuva kwesonto lokuqala njengoba ubuchopho bami bujwayele ukungahambi futhi ngifaka i-PMO esikhundleni se-PM futhi ngangibuyele emuva kumuntu wami wakudala. Nginqume ukuzama futhi ngaphandle kokubheka noma iyiphi i-porn noma ukuhlela nhlobo. Kwakunzima kakhulu ekuqaleni kepha kwavuza kakhulu.
Ukuziqhenya engikuzwile ngokukwenza bekukukhulu futhi benginokuzethemba namandla okuqinisa nayo yonke leyo jazz. Kwathi emva kwesonto kwenzeka okuthile. Ngaqala ukunakwa ngamantombazane amaningi. Amantombazane engibangani nawo athi kukhona okuthile okwehlukile ngami, bayadlala ngothando futhi ababili bazamile nokuxhumana nami. Ngibona amantombazane engigqolozele, emomotheka futhi engihlola.
Qaphela lapho uhlela noma uphupha - noma yini edala ukuthi ulayishe kuqala ukulungiselela ukuqaliswa. Ngikubonile okuthunyelwe okumbalwa kabusha: Ama-NoFappers ezwa ingcindezi / ubuhlungu be-prostate kusuka kumaseshini wokuhlela. Imicu emibili engisanda kuyiphatha ibinemihelo ebabazekayo yokudubula ngemuva kokukhipha imithwalo emikhulu.
Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu kungenxa yokuthi i-prostate incipha ibuyele kusayizi ojwayelekile. Bekufanele ngiphule isonto lami lamaviki amabili manje ngoba indlwabu yami ibizwela kakhulu lapho ibizwakala ingeyona eyemvelo impela.Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ukucabangela nokuguqula kwakubangela isisu esikhulu sokwakha okwakukulungele ukukhishwa. Ukuhlelwa nokuziqhenya ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kwakubangela imithwalo eminingana eyakhayo engakwazi ukuhlakazeka ngamaphupho amanzi njll.
Angifuni ukwethusa umuntu, yazi lokhu nje. Ngifunde okuthunyelwe lapha mayelana nokuthi umuntu kufanele abe kanjani nama-antibiotic ngenxa yokusola iProstatitis ngenxa yalokhu. Bona isixhumanisi http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2pex8m/warning_edging_may_harm_your_prostate/
Ayikho isifiso sokuba fap ngaphandle porn.
Bengifuna nje ukwabelana ngolwazi lwami. Ngaphandle kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile (izinsuku ezingu-22 manje) anginaso isifiso sokushaya indlwabu ngokoqobo. Ngivame ukuba ama-horny. Lapho nginesibindi ngifuna ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Njengoba ngingaqedi ngeke ngibuke i-porn, kepha akukaze kwenzeke kimi ukuthi ngishaye ngaphandle kwe-porn. Angazi nokuthi ngingakwazi yini!
Ngesinye isikhathi lapho ngilala ngizoba nzima kusuka ekucabangeni kwengqondo, kodwa anginaso isifiso sokushaya indlwabu. Ngizoba nzima futhi ngicabange. Kuyamangaza, noma ngabe ngangivame ukubuka i-porn angizange ngiyibone ufuna ukushaya indlwabu. Ukushaya indlwabu kwakuyinto yesibili ngokuphelele, ngangifuna ukuqhubeka ngibheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile uma nje ngingakwazi. Ngangivame ukuzama ukugwema i-orgasming ngoba nje ngangazi uma sekwenzekile amahloni azongena futhi ngiyeke ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Lokhu kuzoqhubeka amahora amaningi nami “nginakekela” i-hardon. Ukuzama ukuyikhuthaza ngokwanele ukuthi ngihlale nginentshisekelo kepha kungenele ukungena, ngakho-ke ngingaqhubeka ngibukele usuku lonke / ubusuku bonke.
Yilokhu ukubheja kocansi kubukeka, futhi kuyasangana. Ukungashayi indlwabu kuyingxenye elula, ukunganikeli nokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyingxenye enzima ngempela.
Isikhathi eside, kungenzeka ukuthi uthole ukwaneliseka okwengeziwe ngokukhishwa kwesikhashana ngaphandle kwe-porn noma i-porn fantasy kunokuba uvela ekubukeni kwe-porn, noma ngaphandle komvuthwandaba. Ngokudabukisayo, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi i-intanethi ye-Internet ixilisa. Akufani nokho okhokho benu abaye babhekana nabo (ngaphandle uma bengenabo abakwa-kinky harem).
Abaphenyi baseKinsey Institute babephakathi kwabokuqala ukubika lo mkhuba wokusakazwa kocansi okuholela ekwehliseni ukuphendula ngokocansi. Ku-2007, baqaphela ukuthi ukuvezwa okuphezulu kwamavidiyo wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubonakala sengathi kubangele ukusabela okuphansi kwezocansi. Baphinde babona isidingo esandayo sezinto ezeqisa ngokwedlulele, ezikhethekile noma ze "kinky" zokuvuswa, kepha abaphenyanga ngokuqhubekayo. Ngo-2016 ucwaningo lwabuza, lwathola lokho isigamu kwabasebenzisi be-porn abacwaningiwe bebekhulile ezintweni abake bazithola “zingathandeki noma zinengeka.”
Isayensi iqala ukucacisa ukuthi imishini ikhuphuka kanjani. Ku-2015, ithimba laseCambridge elihlola izimpendulo zobuchopho kubasebenzisi be-porn abasebenzisi be-intanethi bathole ukuthi ubuchopho buhlala ngokushesha kunokulawula, futhi unxanela into entsha. Ngenxa yokuthi i-dopamine ngokweqile ingaba nomphumela wokwenza injabulo ebuchosheni, ukukhushulwa kocansi lwe-inthanethi kungaba ukwandisa ukunganeliseki. Noma "ukubuka" kuhlala kukunikeza ukushesha. Incazelo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo yalo mphumela obonakala uyindida ichazwe ku Ingabe i-Evolution iqeqeshise ubuchopho bethu ukuba bubukeke ekudleni nasebusweni?
I-Orgasm ngokwayo ingaletha a isifiso sokudakwa futhi, ikakhulukazi uma kushubile impela. Ngokuphambene nalokho, iseshini emnene, yenyama yokuzithanda ayibonakali ikhahlela umjikelezo ofanayo (futhi umkhuba omuhle empilweni yakho yothando 😉).
Qaphela ukuthi, okokuqala, awukwazi ukuthola umvuthwandaba owodwa ngaphandle kokugcwala i-porn, noma uthole ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwe-porn kushukumisa ngokwanele ukuba kuvuthwe. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ubuchopho bakho abuyizwa imivuzo ngokujwayelekile. Abasebenzisi abangaphezu koyedwa abalulamayo baphawule ukuthi lapho eyeka ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile, isifiso sokushaya indlwabu sehla kakhulu, ngoba "ngaphandle kocansi, ukushaya indlwabu kwakungeyona into ethokozisayo." Asikho isidingo sokuziphoqa kuya ekugcineni. Iba nesineke.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphandle iyiphi Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zizokwenza ucansi nganoma yiluphi uhlobo luyanelise kakhulu.
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