Kusho ukuthini ukusho ukuthi umlutha wobulili "ukhona" noma "awukho" ngaphandle kweqiniso lokuthi ukwenqaba ubukhona balo noma ukuphinda uphike abaphikisi kungakutholela umzuzu wakho we-15 wodumo.
Igama lokuxilonga lihlala lingelokwakha okwesikhashana, ithuluzi lokuhlela imininingwane mayelana nezimo esizama ukuqonda nokusebenza nazo. Ukwakhiwa kuzoba "okulungile" inqobo nje uma kungasebenziseka kahle.
Kamuva cwaningo e-UCLA kwaphuma nesiphetho sokuthi abantu abanenkinga yokusebenzisa i-porn bangase bangabi "imilutha yezocansi" nokuthi bangavele babe "nesifiso sobulili" esiphakeme. Bavumile ukuthi lesi yisiphetho esingajwayelekile, futhi basikisela ukuthi azikho iziphetho eziwusizo mayelana nokulutha ngokocansi okusasekelwa yidatha abayiqoqile. Kepha izihloko ezisematheni zizwakala zibaluleke kakhulu. Ukulutha ngokocansi akukho!
Ucwaningo lwenze ukuhlolwa kwe-EEG kubantu ababika izinkinga ngokusetshenziswa kocansi futhi bathola ukuthi ubuchopho babo abuphendulanga ngendlela abacwaningi abacabanga ukuthi bazoyenza ngayo. Kulokhu abacwaningi baphetha ngokuthi abantu abanenkinga yokusebenzisa i-porn kungenzeka bangabi yimilutha. Lokhu ukwenziwa lula kwesifundo okwenziwe kabuhlungu kakhulu futhi okudidayo ukuthi kungene kunoma iyiphi imininingwane ngaphandle kokulala thina nawe.
Impendulo kulolu cwaningo ukuthi bekungukuthi, ukusho okuncane, akukho lutho olukhulu.
Isihloko ku PsychologyToday.com uzakwabo womcwaningi uveza ezinye zezinto eziningi ezingabazekayo zocwaningo. Ezinye izindatshana ezifana ne- ezibucayi nguDkt Rory Reid, kanye nokugxekwa ku I-PornStudySkeptics, baye bazama ukubhekana nezinkinga ngocwaningo njengokuntuleka kweqembu elilawulayo, ukusetshenziswa kwemibuzo ethile, ukukhawulelwa kwezihloko ekusetshenzisweni kocansi kunokufaka ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha kabi ngokocansi, ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe namanje njengezisusa zocansi, ukusetshenziswa kokuqukethwe okwakungowesifazane oyedwa nowesilisa oyedwa abaya ocansini, nokusetshenziswa kokuqhathanisa nesifundo esedlule sempendulo efanayo ye-EEG kwizidakamizwa ze-cocaine ezibuka izithombe ezihlobene nezidakamizwa.
Umbuzo esidinga ukuwubuza ukuthi "ingabe igama elithi umlutha wezocansi liyindlela ewusizo kunazo zonke yokuchaza isethi yokuziphatha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho ngombono womtholampilo nowocwaningo?" Ngicabanga ukuthi impendulo kuleli phuzu lomlando ithi "yebo".
Ama-theory akhona
Lapho sisebenzisa amagama ukuchaza izinto zesayensi nakwezokwelapha sibheka ukwakheka okungaboshelwa ngokungaguquguquki kudatha ethile engenakulinganiswa futhi esebenza njengencazelo enembile yamaqoqo athile esizama ukusebenzela kuwo. Ngemuva kwalokho sisebenzisa lelo gama inqobo nje uma lingakhiqiza kakhulu, futhi likhiqiza ngokusisiza siqonde izinto futhi sihlele imibuzo yethu yocwaningo ngendlela yokuthi sicindezele ulwazi lwethu phambili. Lokho kwakhiwa kuzolunga inqobo nje uma kungasiza. (Ngishiya ngamabomu ukucutshungulwa kwenqubo ye-DSM yokulutha, ukubekezelelana, ukuhoxa njll.njengoba kungenzeka noma ingagcini ibaluleke kakhulu ezindabeni zocwaningo nezokwelapha.)
Ngikholwa ukuthi umlutha wobulili ubulili uyindlela ewusizo kakhulu futhi enenzuzo yokucabanga ngale ndaba nokuthi ezinye izindlela zedukisa ngendlela esisebenzisa ngayo amagama emisebenzini nasemtholampilo.
"Ubungqingili" kuyindlela ewusizo yokuchaza uphawu ngaphezu kwencazelo yenhlangano yezifo. Kuyisibonakaliso sezinye izinkinga eziningi kubandakanya yonke into kusuka ekuphazamisekeni kwe-bipolar kuya ekulimaleni kobuchopho. Ayinakho "ukuba semthethweni kobuso," okusho ukuthi akubonakali ngathi iyodwa ingachaza ukuthi iziguli zethu zibhekana nani. Kungenzeka kubukeke kuyindlela yokuthola ukulutha kwezocansi kwi-DSM obekungaba wusizo ngokwayo uma kwenzekile.
“Isifiso sobulili esiphakeme” ne- “high sex drive” ngokufanayo akusizi kakhulu. Ucansi lubaluleke ngokweqile kubantu abayimilutha yezocansi kodwa ukusebenzisa ilebula elithi “isifiso esiphakeme” akunamandla achazayo kule ndawo futhi empeleni kuyindilinga.
Abanye ozakwethu bathi umuntu olwa nehlazo kanye nomonakalo wokulutha ngokocansi kumane nje kungukuziphatha okuhle noma ukunganaki. Lesi sikhundla asisizi ngalutho futhi asenzi lutho ukuqhubekisela phambili imingcele yolwazi. (Bheka ne-my blog “Abaphikisi Bokuluthwa Ngobulili: Yini Ebenza Benze Madaka? ')
Ezinye izinto ezibalulekile “zokuluthwa umlutha wobulili” njengesixilongo
Kunesisho esithi “umlutha wobulili awukhulunywa ngocansi, imayelana nobuhlungu. ” Yabantu abayimilutha yezocansi ucansi luyisidakamizwa sokubulala izinhlungu futhi ubalekele imizwelo engathandeki. Kungasebenza njenge "jubane" ngokunciphisa izinga elijwayelekile lokuvusa, njengalapho uzibandakanya emisebenzini eyingozi njengokuxhumana nabantu ongabazi noma ukuziphatha okungavumelekile. Noma ingasetshenziselwa ukuqaqamba njengomlutha olahleka kumcabango noma ku-porn. Kuba yisidakamizwa sokuzikhethela somlutha.
Umlutha sekuyiminyaka eminingi uchazwa njengobudlelwano be-pathological nento noma isimilo. Imiqondo enjengobungqingili ibonakala ingaphakathi kwesiguli. Mhlawumbe othile angaba nokushayela ucansi okuphakeme ngaphandle kokwenza noma yini ethile. Ukulutha ngokocansi kuqondwa njengendlela elimazayo yokuthinta okuthile.
Abaphenyi bokulutha ngokocansi bathole ukuthi labo ababhekene nokulutha ngokocansi bavame ukubhekana nokunye ukulutha umlutha. Bakholelwa ukuthi kunenqubo ejwayelekile ecashile ebandakanya ukulahleka kolawulo phezu kokuziphatha. Empeleni indlela yokwelashwa ileyo ebheka ukuluthwa “okuyisisekelo” kepha icabanga ukuthi ezinye izidakamizwa zomuntu zidinga ukubhekelwa njengengxenye yenqubo efanayo yokwelashwa.
Ukuzama ukuthola ukwakhiwa okusha okwehlukanisa isimilo sokulutha ocansini nalabo ohamba nabo kusho ukwehluleka ukusebenzisa umsebenzi omkhulu futhi owandayo emkhakheni jikelele wocwaningo lokulutha. Imininingwane eminingi ewusizo ingadluliselwa kusuka kokutholakele mayelana nokugembula, ukubhema nokunye. Futhi ama-hypotheses awusizo angavela kulo mzimba womsebenzi ekuphenyweni kokulutha ngokocansi ikakhulukazi. Kepha ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi akukho ukufana ngesilinganiso esisodwa alufakazeli lutho. Empeleni kungaba ngumzamo oyisicefe futhi ongenanjongo ukuzama ukuthatha yonke imiphumela yocwaningo mayelana nokulutha umlutha emashumini amaningi eminyaka ukufakazela ukuthi ayisebenzi ekuluthweni ngocansi. Futhi ngubani ongafuna ukwenza lokho?
Bheka futhi i-athikili yakamuva yesayensi yobuchopho nokuziphatha kocansi okuphoqayo: Umlutha wezocansi obonakalayo - isikhuthazo esikhulu esibhekwe kumongo we-neuroplasticity nguDonald L. Hilton Jr., MD
UDkt Linda Hatch wazalwa futhi wakhulela eNew York City futhi usebenze njengochwepheshe wezokwelapha onelayisense eCalifornia kusukela kuma-1970. Uqede i-BA yakhe, i-MA ne-PhD eCornell University nase-University of California Riverside. Ubuye wafundisa e-UCLA njengomprofesa osizayo obambele futhi wathola ukuhlangana ngemuva kodokotela e-UCLA kwezengqondo zezenhlalo.
UDkt Hatch ubelokhu enza imisebenzi yangasese ehlanganiswa nokufundisa nokubonisana isikhathi sakhe esiningi. Eminyakeni eminingi waxoxisana neNkantolo Ephakeme, uMnyango Wezokulingwa, iBhodi Yamajele, noMnyango Wezempilo Wezengqondo ngaleso sikhathi enikeza ukuhlolwa kwezokuhlola nobufakazi bobuchwepheshe kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo. Usebenze kakhulu nabenzi bokubi nabadala abasha, wabahlukumeza ngokwengqondo nabenzi bokuhlukumeza ngokocansi ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwezinkantolo nohlelo lwejele. Isipiliyoni sakhe sangaphambilini sifaka iminyaka eminingana ekuelulekeni kwabafundi baseyunivesithi kanye nokungenelela kwezinhlekelele / ukuhlukunyezwa kwezigameko ezinzima. Ubuye wasebenza njengodokotela wezifo zengqondo zabasebenzi futhi njengomxhumanisi wokuqeqeshwa koMnyango We-Alcohol, Drug and Mental Health Services ngaphambi kokukhetha ukugxila emkhakheni wokuluthwa ngokocansi.
Njengamanje uDkt Hatch usenkampanini yangasese eSanta Barbara njenge-Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) eqinisekisiwe. Ngaphambi kwalokhu wayezibandakanya neSikhungo Sokuvuselela Abesilisa Ngocansi eLos Angeles. Umkhuba wakhe ulinganiselwe emkhakheni wezokwelapha umlutha wobulili kufaka phakathi ukuphathwa imilutha yezocansi kanye nabenzi bokuya ocansini, kanye nabalingani babo nemindeni.
UDkt Hatch uyilungu le-American Psychological Association, kanye ne-Society for the Advancing of Health Health. Uthole isitifiketi sakhe se-CSAT nge-International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals.
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