Usuku Lwabesifazane Lwamazwe Ngamazwe yithuba laminyaka yonke lokugubha ukuthi abesifazane sebehambe ibanga elingakanani ekulweleni ukulingana ngokobulili, kanye nokubheka ubude obusazodlula. Enye yezindawo zokulwa ezinkulu zabesifazane yimizimba yethu. Ingxenye eyodwa yemizimba yethu - okungukuthi i-vaginas yethu (ingaphakathi) kanye ne-vulvas (ngaphandle) - iyisihloko esishisayo njengamanje, ekubeni yisihloko semibhalo efana neChannel 4 yakamuva I-100 Vaginas, izincwadi ezifana noLynn Enright's UVagina: Isifundo Sokufunda kabusha (kushicilelwe kule nyanga) kanye no ezinye izifundo ezibalulekile eqinisekisa ukuthi ayikho into ebizwa ngokuthi ama-labia “ejwayelekile”, eza ngazo zonke izinhlobo, osayizi nemibala. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, e2019, izitho zabesifazane zocansi nezokuzala zihlala zingomunye wemithombo emikhulu yokucindezelwa ngokobulili - kusuka I-FGM futhi labiaplasty kuya Ukuphela kokuya esikhathini, isikhathi ubuphofu futhi ukuthuthumela kowesifazane.
Unalokhu engqondweni, ngaphambi kwe-IWD 2019, i-Refinery29 ibuze abafundi bethu besifazane ukuthi bacabangani ngabo kanye nama-vaginas abo. Sithole izimpendulo ze-3,670 futhi okutholakele kwakukhathaza, ngezinye izikhathi maqondana nokukhuthaza konke ngasikhathi sinye.
Isigamu (i-48%) sabaphenduli basitshele ukuthi bakhathazekile ngokuvela kwezikhumba zabo, ingxenye yangaphandle yozalo lwabo (kufaka phakathi i-clitoris, i-labia minora ne-labia majora). Okuvame kakhulu, babekhathazekile ngosayizi wabo (i-64%) nesimo (i-60%), cishe nengxenye yesithathu (30%) nabo bekhathazekile mayelana Umbala wezinhlamba zabo. Lezi zinkathazo zibonisa ukwanda kwe-labiaplasty okwandayo - kwakukhona Ukunyuka okungaphezulu kwe-45% phakathi kwe-2014-15 - Futhi mkhuba okhulayo we ukuphuma kwegazi kowesifazane eminyakeni yamuva, ngakho-ke othile ucela imali ngokungazethembi kwethu.
Akumangazi-ke ukuthi, ngokunikezwa okungaphendulile kwabaphenduli bethu ngemizimba yabo, ukuthi i-chunk enkulu (i-36%) nayo ithe ayeneme ngesitho sabo sangasese sowesifazane: I-22% ithe bebengeneme, kanti i16% ibingazi ukuthi izizwa kanjani ngayo .
Kuwo wonke ama-engela - i-porn, abalingani ocansini, imboni yezimonyo, abangani ngisho nomndeni - abesifazane banikezwa insumansumane yokuthi kunendlela eyodwa okufanele isitho sangasese nesitho sangasese sowesifazane ibukeke, okungahle kuchaze ukuthi kungani abaphenduli abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi "abajwayelekile". Owesithathu (32%) wabesifazane usitshele ukuthi benziwe ukuthi bazizwe sengathi okwabo bekungeyona into "ejwayelekile", futhi ngenkathi sibanikeza ithuba lokuthi bandise kulokhu, ama-akhawunti abo enzelwe ukufundwa okudumazayo. I-Porn yacashunwa kaninginingi, ne-72% yabesifazane abaqhathanisa isitho sabo sangasese noma i-vulva nokubhekisela kwabanye kuyo. Owesifazane othile uchaze ukuthi i-labia yakhe "inkulu" kunalokho abonwe yimboni, omunye wathi eyakhe "ayibukeki njengalokhu [akubonayo] kwezocansi," kanti omunye wayifingqa kahle le nkinga: kusho i-porn. “Izitho zangasese ezibukeka ngokufanayo”.
“Ingaphakathi [lesitho sangasese sami sangasese] akuyona into ekhanyayo, ephinki ekhanyayo evame ukuvezwa ezithombeni ezingcolile zobulili zaseCaucasus. —Akaziwa
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zondla ngomaye wesithombe somzimba ngokungaqondile ngemikhuba yokubuka yabalingani. Ngokuphindaphindiwe, ucwaningo luye lwahlaba umthelela walo olubi kubabukeli besilisa abesilisa nabesifazane - izixhumanisi zidonselwe phakathi kokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nezinkinga ezivela ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile futhi ubulili obungavikelekile okungenzeka kube ukushwabana kobuchopho besilisa - futhi ukwahlulela ocwaningweni lwethu, ukuzibona kwabesifazane kuyimbangela enkulu yokulimala kwesibambiso. Imibono yamadoda ngomzimba wesifazane kubonakala sengathi ihlukunyezwe kakhulu yi-porn, lapho abaningi abaphendulile besitshela ukuthi benziwe ukuthi bazizwe isitho sangasese noma isitho sabo sangasese "bekungejwayelekile" ngowayengumlingani wakhe. "U-bastard ubuke izithombe ezingcolile zobulili kangangokuthi wangenza ngazizwa sengathi nginokuthile okungahambi kahle kimi ngokungahambisani nezindinganiso zobulili ezingcolile," kukhumbula omunye. Omunye uthe owayeyisoka lakhe uzophawula ngombala wakhe ngoba bekungekhona lokho abejwayele ukukubona esikrinini: “NgingumSpanishi ngakho-ke ngaphakathi akuyona ipinki ekhanyayo, ephilayo evame ukuvezwa ezithombeni ezingcolile zobulili zaseCaucasus.” Isoka lokuqala lowesifazane “elidala, elihlukumezayo nelikhohlisayo” elineminyaka emihlanu “lalihlala limgxeka futhi limqhathanisa nezikhulu zakhe nezinkanyezi ezingcolile.”
Imboni ekhulayo yokwenza izimonyo ingenye into ebangela ukungavikeleki kwabesifazane - ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye ne-labiaplasty kwakuyizinqubo ezikhula ngokushesha kakhulu phakathi kwe2016-17, ngokwanda kwe-23% ngonyaka owedlule, ngokusho izibalo ezivela ku-International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ISAPS). Uma izinqubo zikhona zoshintsha ukwakheka nobukhulu besitho sangasese sowesifazane nobala - kufaka phakathi imisebenzi efana labiaplasty kanye nezinqubo ezingezinhle ezifana ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane futhi fillers - akusikho ukweqa kakhulu kwabesifazane ukucabanga ukuthi kukhona okuthile okufanele "bakulungise" ngokwabo. Owesifazane othile ucaphune "ukukhuphuka kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, nabesifazane besika ama-labia minora abo" njengomthombo wokungazethembi kwakhe, kanti omunye ubalule ukwanda “kokukhangisa ngoshintsho lokuhlinzwa kwezitho zangasese”.
“Umama wasitshela sobabili nodadewethu ukuthi 'sasingejwayelekile' lapho sisebasha. —Akaziwa
Akunangqondo - futhi kuvame ukungabi nasisekelo - ukuphawula ngokuvela kwebala labo lobufazi noma lobufazi babo (ukuthuthumela kowesifazane) kusuka kubangani nomndeni, okwenziwe kusukela ebuntwaneni bokuqala, nakho kwaba nomthelela ohlala njalo kwabesifazane abaningi. "Umama wasitshela sobabili nodadewethu ukuthi sasingajwayelekile 'ngesikhathi sisebasha," kusho omunye ophendulayo. "Usithathe sobabili wasiyisa kudokotela oqinisekise ukuthi siyaphila," wengeza ngokuthi kumshiye enenkinga ehlala isikhathi eside. Umama womunye wabiza i-labia yendodakazi yakhe ngokuthi "amakhethini enkomo" ngesikhathi esengumntwana, uqhubeke wathi: "Kusukela lapho, ngazizwa nginokuzenyeza okukhulu futhi ngizonda isoka lami elizoya lapho ngaphandle uma kumnyama." Abanye bakhombe abangani njengembangela yokungazethembi kwabo - kulabo abavuma ukuqhathanisa isitho sabo sangasese / isitho sangasese sabo nabanye, u-26% uthe bakwenza lokho bebhekene nabangane. “Ngiyakhumbula ngiqhathanisa izitho zangasese nabangane ngisemusha kanti okwami kwakungafani namanye amantombazane,” kusho omunye wesifazane. "Bangiklolodele kancane ngazizwa sengathi okwami kubi ngoba bekungafani nokwabo."
Njengoba kunikezwe imilayezo elimazayo abayitholile mayelana nezitho zabo zobulili kusukela ebuntwaneni babo, ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane abangaphezu kwengxenye yesithathu (34%) basitshele ukuthi bazoshintsha okuthile ngesitho sabo sangasese noma isitho sangasese. Kwabesifazane abangu-81% abake bezwa nge-labiaplasty, u-3% usitshele ukuthi bacabanga ukulandela inqubo futhi u-1% ubesekwenzile lokho, kanti u-15% uthe bazokucabanga esikhathini esizayo. Kulabo ababezwile ngokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane - indlela yokwelashwa engahlosile eyenzelwe “ukuqina” noma “ukubumba kabusha” isitho sangasese sowesifazane - u-18% wasitshela ukuthi bazokucabanga ngokuzayo.
Sithole okuningi okufanele sikugubhe mayelana nesimo sengqondo sabesifazane maqondana nezitho zabo zobulili, kodwa-ke, siphakamisa ukuthi imithombo yezindaba yabesifazane, enomzimba esikhulume ngayo ekuqaleni kwalesi sici, kanye nokwazi okwandayo ngomonakalo odalwe yimiseducation, kuba nomthelela. Abangaphezu kwesigamu (61%) basitshele ukuthi bajabule ngesitho sabo sangasese, u-68% uthe bebengakaze benziwe bazizwe isitho sabo sangasese noma isitho sangasese saso besingeyona into "ejwayelekile" kanti uhhafu oqinile ngeke ucabange ukushintsha okuthile okwabo. Ngokusebenzisa i- #I-VaginasFine yakho uchungechunge, i-Refinery29 izibophezele ekwethuleni umbono ongokoqobo, ongaxolisanga wabesifazane nemizimba yabo, futhi akukho okududuza ukwedlula impendulo evela kwabesifazane abanokungazethembi okuye kwasuswa isimo samasiko esilawulwa kakhulu ngabesifazane. "Ngangihlale nginamahloni ngezinwele zami zangasese ngoba abantu babethi ayihlanzekile futhi imbi," omunye wesifazane wasitshela, ecaphuna izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nezikhangiso azibonile "ezingakaze zibonise abesifazane bangempela abanezitho zangasese zangempela". Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi wayezobona ukuthi lokho kwakungelona iqiniso: "Ngiyasithanda isitho sami sangasese manje."
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