Ukuthola usizo ezindabeni ezihlobene nokusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwe-porn kungumqondo omuhle. Kodwa-ke, abelaphi abaningi abanamqondo wokuthi umlutha wanamuhla we-porn ogcizelela kakhulu i-Internet. Abaningi babeqeqeshwa lapho be-static, softcore Playboy kwakuyi-porn, futhi ngaphambi kobuchopho besayensi esanda kukusiza ekuchazeni ukufana okude phakathi kwezinto ezivusa amadlingozi nokuziphatha — zombili lezi zinto ezingakhiqiza ukulutheka. Olunye uqeqesho lwabeluleki luphakamisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi njengethuluzi lokwelapha!
Wathi ilunga lesayithi:
Lapho ngivakashela umeluleki ngamthumelela izixhumanisi kwimicu embalwa namakhasi ewebhu mayelana ne-ED ehlobene nocansi, ngakho-ke wayeqonda ukuthi kwakungeyona nje engqondweni yami kepha kwakuyinkinga yangempela. Wayemangele impela ngenani labafana ababhekana nalokhu. Abaningi abelaphi bebelokhu benza imisebenzi yabo iminyaka, futhi basekela izeluleko zabo ekuqeqeshweni / ekuhlangenwe nakho kwezindaba zempumelelo ngaphambi kwesikhathi lapho ukusakaza izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwakutholakala kalula. Empeleni abelaphi be-'skool 'yakudala babevame UKUQALA i-porn kunokuncoma ukuyeka. Ngazithola ngifundisa umelaphi wami ngaphezu kwalokho ayengifundisa khona ... futhi nguyena okhokhelwayo. Icela inkolelo!
Noma kunjalo, wayeyintokazi enhle ngakho anginankinga kakhulu. Futhi, i-porn ye-Intanethi yinto entsha. Ngokwami ngiphakamisa ukuthi usabona eyodwa, bangenza njengomeluleki omuhle ongangahluleli.
Ngincoma ukufundisa udokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuvakasha. Njengoba uyikhasimende, umelaphi akufanele asishaye indiva isicelo sakho. Angazimisela ukuluthathela phezulu lolu daba uma kubonakala ukuthi ucwaningile futhi wahlobana nezingqinamba. Ngicabanga ukuthi izixhumanisi engimthumele zona zisizile impela. Kube ukushaqeka ukuthi iningi labafana abancane belicasuke kanjani 'elimthole' ngempela.
Ngombono wami, ukuhambisa lolu daba nguthisha nge-imeyili kusengaphambili kufanele futhi kusize ukusula noma yikuphi ukungafuni ukuqala / amahloni mayelana nokuxoxa ngomlutha wezocansi kanye nezimpawu ezihlobene.
Umshado nabelaphi bomndeni
A Ucwaningo lwe-2008 emishadweni kanye nababelethi bomndeni wembula ukuthi abaqeqeshiwe ukubhekana nokulutha kwezidakamizwa.
Abaningi abasabelayo babika ukuthi izifundo zabo ezidingekayo ekolishi azizange ziwusizo ekuzilungiseleleni ukuxilonga nokuphatha izinkinga eziphathelene nocansi.
Impela. Esikhundleni salokho, bafundiswe i-porn ayinabungozi. Iseluleko esinjalo silungile ebuchosheni obungakabikho ebhalansi ngenxa yokweqisa. Ukube bezingekho izinto ezinjenge-porn ye-Intanethi, iningi labantu belingasoze laqala ukuba umlutha wokushaya indlwabu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi iseluleko esithi “yenza njengokuthanda kwakho lapho unesifiso” singaba nengqondo.
Ukuziphatha Kobulili Okucindezelayo
Kodwa-ke, uma umelaphi wakho ejwayelekile, imfundo yabo yokulutha izidakamizwa ingemuva kwezikhathi. Akakaze afunde ukuthi i-porn ye-Intanethi inamandla okudlula izifiso zakho zemvelo futhi adale ukulutha. Basengacabanga ukuthi ukulutheka kungenzeka kuphela ngezinto, nokuthi ukushaya indlwabu akunakuba umlutha "ngaphandle kokuthi othile abe namahloni ngokwenkolo." Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka bangazi ngokuxilongwa okuzayo kwe- “ukuziphatha kocansi okuphoqelela”Kuyi-ICD-11 ye-World Health Organization.
Kwakuvame ukucatshangwa ukuthi ucansi nokudla akunakubangela ukulutha. Lokhu besikucabanga ngoba izindlela zobuchopho ezingokwemvelo ezilawula ukusetshenziswa kwazo. Lokho wukuthi, bekucatshangwa ukuthi abantu bazoma lapho sebenakho "okwanele". Akunjalo, nokho, ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Internet namuhla — noma ukudla okungenamsoco. Kakade ama-30 +% abantu baseMelika abakhuluphele (bangumlutha wokudla). Kwenzeka into efanayo kwabaningi bama-videogers wamavidiyo anamuhla. Amanani okulutha kwemidlalo eHungary naseChina phakathi kwentsha angama-18% no-14%, ngokulandelana.
Ucwaningo lwamuva
Ngakho-ke maningi amathuba okuthi umelaphi wakho akhumbule okushiwo izincwadi zakhe. Noma ehamba ngokwazi kwakhe njengomuntu ongeyena umlutha. Ucabanga ukuthi ingozi enkulu obhekene nayo ukucindezelwa ngokocansi. Akunjalo. Kuyisidakamizwa: izinguquko ezithembekile kuya kunkulunkulu ebuchosheni bakho ezingashintsha impendulo yenjabulo yengqondo yakho nokulawula okuphezulu.
Ucwaningo lwamuva lwenze lokhu kubonakale. Eqinisweni, ku-2011 i-American Society of Addiction Medicine (odokotela be-3000) bafaka a isitatimende somphakathi echaza lokhu futhi echaza ngokuqondile ukuthi ucansi can ube umlutha. Ku-2018, incwajana yokusetshenziswa kwezokwelapha esetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni, I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), wadala ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "
Isayensi yokulutha
Kodwa-ke, uma umelaphi wakho engazange aqeqeshwe ngqo kwisayensi yobuchopho yokulutha, kufanele ube ukulungele ukuthola lowo onjalo. Nakhu okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu oyedwa:
Ngaya kumelaphi owathi unguchwepheshe wokulutha kwe-intanethi. Ngakho-ke ngamtshela ngenkinga yami wabe esenikeza le nkulumo ngendlela ejwayelekile nokuthi sonke singabantu bezocansi. Uqhubeke wakhuluma ngokuthi kungamanani alondolozayo angenza ngizizwe nginamahloni ngokubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi wazama ukungikholisa ukuthi anginakho ukulutheka. Okubi kunakho konke ukuthi wangikhulumela phansi ngathi ngineminyaka eyi-12! Ngamtshela ukuthi inkinga yami ukuthi ngichitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu ku-porn, futhi uyazi ukuthi uthini? Wangitshela ukuthi ngisebenzise i-timer yeqanda bese ngiyibeka ihora lonke! Angikaze ngimbone ngemuva kwalokho.
Ungase futhi udinga ukufundisa udokotela wakho:
Lapho ngifika kudokotela wami ekuqaleni ngokuphathelene ne-ED yami engachazeki, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokocansi, nokuntuleka okuphelele kwe-libido, waqala wayala ukuhlolwa kwe-testosterone. Lapho lokhu kubuya njengokujwayelekile, wangifaka emithini yokulwisana nokukhathazeka. “Konke kusekhanda lakho, kufanele nje uzikhumbuze lokho, futhi lokhu kuzokusiza.” Ngenkathi bekusekhanda lami, namaphilisi WANGENZA empeleni kusiza kancane, awuzange ufike empandeni yenkinga. Kwaphela izinyanga kuqhubeka nokuqhubeka kwe-ED futhi kwahluleka imizamo yocansi, futhi lokho konke kwangezelela esimisweni sengqondo esibi kakhulu.
Noma kunjalo, i-NoFap ibisiza kuze kube manje, futhi kusukela ezindabeni zempumelelo engizifundile (kanye nevolumu yazo), nginethemba lokuthi kuzoqhubeka kube ngcono futhi empeleni kulungise lokhu. Ngakho-ke, lapho bengizololonga umzimba izolo, nginike udokotela wami ukuxhumana ne- Inkulumo ye-TEDx futhi ngakhuluma naye kancane ngalo mqondo. Ubebonakala enentshisekelo enkulu, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi uzoyinika iwashi. Ngethemba ukuthi uma enza kanjalo, angakhomba enye induna ebhekene nobunzima endaweni efanele.
Ukuboniswa kwevidiyo:
- Ubuchopho obusakhulayo buhambisana ne-Porns Highspeed Inthanethi (i-2013)
- I-Brain On Porn Series Yakho (Powerpoint)
- Ukukhubazeka kwe-Erectile ne-Porn (I-Power Point)
- I-TEDx Talk
- Isiteshi se-YouTube UNowa BE ISonto
- Isiteshi se-YouTube se-Gabe Deem: Isizwe sokubuyisela kabusha
Nika ochwepheshe bakho lezizinhlu zezifundo kubasebenzisi be-porn:
- Ukulutha kobulili / ucansi? Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-40 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikeza ukusekela okuqinile ngesimodeli sokulutha kwezidakamizwa njengoba iziphumo zabo zibuyisa ukutholakala kwezinzwa ezibikiwe ezifundweni zokulutha izidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-18 zakamuva nezincazelo ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokubika okutholakele okuhambisana nokwanda kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezelelana), ukujwayela i-porn, kanye nezimpawu zokuhoxa (zonke izimpawu nezimpawu ezihlobene nokulutha).
- Ukubheka iphuzu lokukhuluma elingasekelwa ukuthi "isifiso sobulili esiphakeme" sichaza ukulahla ucansi noma ukulutha ngokobulili: Okungenani izifundo ze-25 zikhohlisa isimangalo sokuthi ubulili nemilutha ye-porn "banesifiso esiphakeme sobulili"
Izinkinga ze-porn nezocansi
- Izinkinga zobulili nezinkinga zobulili? Lolu hlu luqukethe izifundo ze-26 + ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn / ukubheja kocansi ezinkingeni zobulili nokuvusa okuncane ekuthandweni kobulili. The Ucwaningo lokuqala lwe-5 ohlwini lubonisa ibangela, njengoba abahlanganyeli beqede ukusetshenziswa kwezingcolile kanye nokuphulukisa okungavamile kocansi.
- Imiphumela yocansi ebuhlotsheni? Ucwaningo oluseduze lwe-60 luxhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kuya ekungeneni kocansi nokuzaneliseka komndeni. (Njengoba sifana nathi konke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zabika ukusetshenziswa okuningi kocansi okuxhunyiwe abampofu ubulili noma ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano.)
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta impilo engokomzwelo nengqondo? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-55 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi nezimpofu ezingokwengqondo-ezingokomzwelo nemiphumela empofu yokuqonda.
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta izinkolelo, isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha? Hlola izifundo ngabanye - ngaphezu kokuqukethwe kwe-25 ukuxilongwa kwe-porn ukuze "isimo sengqondo esingafani" kubesifazane kanye nokubukwa kobulili - noma isifinyeto kusuka kulolu cwaningo lwe-2016 meta: Imidiya nezocansi: Umbuso woPhando lwezobuciko, i-1995-2015.
Amaqembu abasebenzisi athile
- Kuthiwani ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili nokusetshenziswa kocansi? Okunye ukuhlaziywa kwemeta: Ukuhlaziywa Kwemifanekiso Yezingcolile zobulili kanye Nemisebenzi Yezenzo Zokuhlukunyezwa Ngokobulili Ezingxoxweni Ezivamile Zabantu (2015).
- Kuthiwani ngokusetshenziswa kocansi kanye nentsha? Hlola lolu hlu lwaphezulu Ucwaningo lwezingane ze-200, noma lokhu kubuyekezwa kwe-2012 yocwaningo - Umthelela Wezithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile Ze-Intanethi Kubantwana Abasha: Ukubukezwa kocwaningo (2012). Kusuka esiphelweni:
- Ukuze uthole i-debunking cishe cishe yonke iphuzu lokukhuluma nge-naysayer nokutadisha okuthandwa yi-cherry bheka lokhu kuhlaziywa okubanzi: Debunking "Kungani Sikhathazeke Ngokukhathazeka Ngokubuka Izithombe Ezingcolile?? ", NguMarty Klein, Taylor Kohut, noNicole Prause (2018). Indlela yokuqaphela ama-athikili abathandwayo: Bakusho Prause et al., 2015 (ngokumangalela ukuthi ihlambalaza izidakamizwa ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile), ngenkathi ishiya ngaphezu kwezifundo ezingu-3 ezinokwenziwa kwezinkanyezi ezisekela ukulutha kocansi.
I-Internet engcolile ihlukile futhi ingadala umlutha
Imiqondo eyisisekelo yokuthi porn ye-Intanethi ihlukile kanjani nokuthi ukusetshenziswa kungadala kanjani umlutha kuchazwe lapha. Ngiphakamisa ukuthi kufundwe lokhu ngokulandelana:
- I-Porn, Inveli, nomphumela weCoolidge
- Porn Manje Futhi Manje: Siyakwamukela Brain Training
- Kungani kungadingeki ukuthi u-Johnny Watch Porn Uma Athanda?
- Ungayethemba IJohnson Wakho?
- I-Porn, i-Pseudoscience ne-AFosB
- Izifundo zokulutha izidakamizwa zakamuva zihlanganisa i-Porn
- Izidakamizwa Zezingcingo Zizobe Zitholakala Ngokushesha Ngokusebenzisa I-WHO Diagnostic Manual (ICD-11)
- Ingabe Ukhunjulwe Ezingcolile? Buza ASAM
- Tshisa Amabhuku Wakho Okubhala: Amadokhumenti Alula kabusha Ukulutha Kokuziphatha Kwezicansi. I-American Society of Addiction Medicine ivuma ukungavumelani ne-DSM
- Abasebenzisi abasha abasha abadinga usizo olude ukuze babuyisele uMojo wabo
- I-Porn, Ukushaya indlwabu kanye noMojo: I-Neuroscience Perspective
Ukuxhumanisa nakho konke endaweni eyodwa
Izixhumanisi kochwepheshe kule nkambu
- Ochwepheshe abaqaphela ukuhlukunyezwa kobulili okubangelwa ucansi, okufaka phakathi i-PIED
- Ubulili ebuchosheni: Iyiphi i-Brain Plasticity efundisa nge-Internet Porn (2014), Norman Doidge, MD
- Norman Doidge on Pornography kanye Neuroplasticity (isahluko kusuka Ubuchopho Obushintshayo)
- I-Porn-induced ED ihlinzekwe kwiNgqungquthela yama-American Urologic Association, ngoMeyi 6-10, 2016: Ingxenye 1, Ingxenye 2, Ingxenye 3, Ingxenye 4.
- "Inqunu Entsha" ngu-urologist uHarry Fisch, MD (2014)
Izinhlangano kanye "nokuziphatha okucindezelayo kocansi"
- Ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni: Ibhuku elisetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), iqukethe ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "(I-2018)
- Ikhasi elivuselelwe kontanga I-DSM-5 ilungu leqembu lesisebenzi socansi uRichard Krueger MD: Sifo yokuziphatha ngokocansi noma ukuziphatha kocansi okuphoqeleka kungenziwa ngokusebenzisa i-ICD-10 kanye ne-DSM-5 naphezu kokulahla lokhu okuxilongwa yi-American Association Psychiatric
- Ochwepheshe Abakhulu BaseMelika (ASAM) Usanda Kukhipha Incazelo Entsha Yokushaywa Komlutha (2011)
- I-American Society for Addiction Medicine: Incazelo Yokulutha Umlutha - I-Long Version (2011)
- I-National Institute of Health Mental (NIMH): I-DSM iphutha futhi iphelelwe yisikhathi (2013).
Sicela uxhumane nathi ngezinye iziphakamiso. Akudingeki ukuthi bavele kuleli sayithi.
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