Hola uhlelo lwakho lwe-limbic ukuze usekele ezothando futhi uhlale othandweni
"Konke esingakufinyelela emlandweni wezakhi zofuzo wesintu kuveza isimilo esinenkululeko ethe xaxa, lapho imikhuba yezocansi kufanele ibhekwe kuqala njengezinto zokubopha bese kuthi okwesibili kube yindlela yokuzala." ~ EO Wilson
Silinde ukuthi ikhonsathi iqale embukisweni wethu wendawo, mina nomyeni wami sahlola umbukiso wezilwane ezihuquzelayo owawufaka phakathi umqeqeshi wezilwane onama-alligator aphumule ngokuthula ethangeni lakhe. Ngenkathi siphulula i-gator, ngabuza umqeqeshi ukuthi kungani ithambe kangaka. “Ngiwuphulula nsuku zonke. Ukube angizange ngikwenze, bekungabuye kube yindle futhi, futhi bekungakuvumeli lokhu, ”echaza.
Ukuziphatha okuhlanganayo
Ngamangala. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngaphambili ngangiqale ukuqonda amandla wokuziphatha okuhlanganisayo (ukuthintana nesikhumba nesikhumba, ukuphulula kamnene njalonjalo) ukuvusa isifiso sokubopha ngaphandle kokuthi senze okunye. Angizange ngibone ukuthi izilwane ezihuquzelayo zike zaphendula ngendlela efanayo.
Ukuziphatha okuhambisanayo, noma izinkomba zokunamathiselwe, kukhona izibonakaliso ezingaqondakali lokho kungenza izibopho ezingokomzwelo zingasebenzi kalula, uma nje noma yikuphi ukuzivikela kokuqala kungancibilika. Ukuziphatha kokuzibophezela nakho kungumuthi omuhle wokunciphisa ukuzivikela. Nasi isibonelo esimangazayo: Abazali bokutholwa bebelokhu beshikashikana iminyaka nentandane yaseRomania enenkinga yokunamathisela okusebenzayo. Ngodlame, wafaka izimbobo ezingaphezu kwe-1000 ezindongeni zakhe zokulala, futhi njengoba ekhula umama wakhe kwadingeka aqashe unogada womzimba. Ekugcineni, ebusheni bakhe, abazali bazama izindlela zokunamathisela nsuku zonke. Ngemuva kwamasonto amathathu, wagcina esondelene nabazali bakhe futhi waqala ukwakha ubudlelwano obuhle nontanga. Lalela okwakhe inkulumo 'ngiyabonga' ukuze uthole umklomelo.
Ukuziphatha kokuzibophezela kuyasebenza ngoba kuyindlela izingane ezincelisayo ezinamathela ngayo kubanakekeli bazo. Ukuze zisinde, izinsana zidinga ukuthintana njalo nezidumbu zikamama kuze kube sezikulungele ukulunyulwa. Ukuziphatha kokuzibophezela kusebenza ngokukhuthaza ukukhishwa kwama-neurochemicals (kufaka phakathi i-oxytocin), okwehlisa ukuzivikela okungokwemvelo, okwenza kube khona isibopho.
Unomusa
Ngamafuphi, lezi zimo eziphathekayo yindlela abantu esithandana ngayo nabazali bethu nezingane. Izimpawu zokunakekela izingane ezincane zihlanganisa ukuthinta okuthandekayo, ukulungisa, imisindo ephumuzayo, ukukhulisa, ukuxhumana kwamehlo, njalonjalo.
Ezilwaneni ezincelisayo ezingavamile ezinamathele ezinjengeyethu, izibopho zokubambisana sebenzisa a secondary umsebenzi kanye (okwaziwa ngokuthi ukukhishwa). Bayingxenye yesizathu sokuthi sihlale sithandana (ngokwesilinganiso) isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuthi bobabili abazali banamathisele kunoma yiziphi izingane. I-Honeymoon neurochemistry nayo ibambe iqhaza, kepha ifana ne-booster shot eqeda ukusebenza. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuziphatha okuhlanganisayo kungasondeza izibopho ngokungapheli.
Izimpawu ezinamandla
Ezithandweni, ukuziphatha okubambisana kubheka okuhlukile kunalokho okwenzayo phakathi komnakekeli nosana, kepha ukufana kubonakala. Lezi zimpawu ezinamandla zihlanganisa:
- emamatheka, ngamehlo
- ukuthintana kwesikhumba
- ukuhlinzeka ngomsebenzi noma ukwelapha ngaphandle kokuthi ucelwe
- nokunikeza imvume engacelwanga, ngokumamatheka noma izincomo
- babukana emehlweni
- lalelisisa, futhi ubuyelela lokho okuzwayo
- ukuthethelela noma ukunganaki iphutha noma ukuphawula okungacabanganga, okwedlule noma kwamanje
- ukulungiselela umlingani wakho okuthile azokudla
- ukuphefumula okuvumelanisiwe
- ukuqabulana ngezindebe nezilimi
- ukukhwabanisa, noma ukuzamazama ngobumnene, ikhanda lomlingani wakho nesisu (kusebenza kahle kusofa, noma ngemicamelo eminingi)
- bebambene, noma bethaphuthana, omunye komunye ethule
- imisindo engenamazwi yokwaneliseka nenjabulo
- ngokushaya ngenhloso yokududuza
- massaging ngenhloso yokududuza, ikakhulukazi izinyawo, amahlombe nekhanda
- ukuqabula ngenhloso yokududuza
- ukulala nendlebe yakho phezu kwenhliziyo yomlingani wakho nokulalela ukushaya kwenhliziyo
- ukuthinta nokuncela izingono / amabele
- ubeke kahle intende yesandla sakho esithweni sangasese sesithandwa sakho ngenhloso yokududuza kunokuvusa
- ukwenza isikhathi sindawonye ngaphambi kokulala kube yinto eza kuqala
- ucansi oluthambile
Kwenze nsuku zonke
Kunezici ezithile ezihlakaniphile ekuxhumaniseni ukuziphatha. Okokuqala, ukuze ugcine ukukhanya kubudlelwane phakathi kwalezi ziphathamandla ezidingekayo zenzeke nsuku zonke, noma cishe nsuku zonke — njengoba umqeqeshi we-alligator abona. Okwesibili, akudingeki zenzeke isikhathi eside, noma zisebenze ngokukhethekile, kepha kufanele zingazideli ngokweqiniso. Ngisho nokubambana ngokuthula ekupheleni kosuku olude, olumatasa kunganela ukushintshanisa izimpawu ezingenangqondo zokuthi ubudlelwano bakho bunomvuzo. Okwesithathu, kunobufakazi bokuthi lapho usebenzisa kakhulu izindlela zokuziphatha, i okubucayi kakhulu ubuchopho bakho buba ngamakhemikhali e-neurochemicals okusiza uzizwe ukhululekile futhi unothando. (Ngokuphambene nalokho, ngezinye izikhathi ukugqugquzela okukhulu kubangela ukubekezelelana ukwakha.)
Okwesine, ezinye izinto ohlwini olungenhla zingazwakala njenge-foreplay, kodwa ngomqondo owodwa obalulekile azikho. I-foreplay ihlose ukwakha ucansi ukungezwani kanye nomgogodla-obeka a umjikelezo ocashile wezinguquko ze-neurochemical (futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukungaboni kahle okushiwo yi-shift) ngaphambi kokuba ubuchopho babuyele ekulinganiseni. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuziphatha okubambisana kuhloswe aziphumulele. Basebenza kangcono uma behlisa ingxenye endala yobuchopho bokuqala eyaziwa ngokuthi i-amygdala.
Indima ye-Amygdala
I-amygd
Umsebenzi ka-ala ukugcina siqaphile up, ngaphandle kokuthi kuqinisekiswe njalo ngalezi zimpawu zokuqonda. Ngokuqinisekile, ibuye iphumule okwesikhashana ngesikhathi futhi ngokushesha ngemuva kokuhlangana okunothando. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukukhulelwa kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu kwizakhi zethu zofuzo. Kodwa-ke, oxhumana naye ojwayelekile, ongeyona igoli ubonakala esebenza kangcono njengokuziphatha kokuhlanganisa. Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi ukuthanda umdlalo wangaphambi kwe-orgasm enhle kuhle… kepha kungathumela imiyalezo exubile. Mhlawumbe lezi zimpawu eziphikisanayo zokungazi lutho zibanga abathandi bezinto "zokuheha-ukukhwehlela" bavame ukuzibona ngemuva kokushona kwelanga eliphakeme ngemuva komshado.
Ukuhlakulela ukuthinta
Kunoma yikuphi, ukuthinta ukunakekela akukona kuphela ukudala isikhala senduduzo nokuphepha. Kungase futhi kumangalisa ngokumangalisayo, njengoba umngane okwabelwana ngawo:
“Yize bekusemva kuka-11: XNUMX, saganga. Cishe amahora amabili. Ukugaxeka okujabulisayo. Ngibe nokuhlangenwe nakho izolo ebusuku engingenawo amagama ngokushesha. Ucebile, ujulile, ugcwele. Kucashile. Inamandla. Ukuhamba. Okunengqondo. Ukukhomba ukuxhumana okukhulu nayo yonke impilo. Besixhumene. Kuleli gagasi elifanayo, njengoba akubeka, njengomhlambi wezinyoni onamasondo esibhakabhakeni sengathi unomqondo owodwa. ”
Noma ngabe uhlangabezana nokuthokoza noma cha, isimilo sokuzibophezela kuyindlela ebonakalayo yokubuyisa nokugcina ukucwazimula okuhambisanayo ebudlelwaneni… ngisho nomlingani oshaya njenge-alligator. Zihlanganise nokwenziwa kothando olunomusa ngezikhathi eziningi zokuphumula (kanye ne- ubuncane bokusayina kobulili nge-orgasm), futhi ungathola ukuthi ungagcina ukuvumelana ebuhlotsheni bakho ngokukhululeka okumangalisayo.
Mhlawumbe lawo "swans" angavamile (imibhangqwana ehlala ngokuzikhandla ndawonye ngokuvumelanayo) enziwe ikakhulukazi, hhayi azalwe. Impela, manje sengicabanga ngokucophelela izindaba ezifana nalezi ezikhuluma nge Umbhangqwana ushada ngokuthokoza iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-80. Intatheli ibike ukuthi, "Lezi zithandani azikaze zilale ngaphandle kokuqabulana nokwangana."
Hmmm… imbangela noma umphumela?
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Umfana owazama ukuziphatha ngokuzibophezela
ngenkathi eholidini eCancun wathi,
Izinto zokuziphatha ezihlanganisayo ziyamangalisa! Yena (waseBrazil omuhle) wathi kimi “Nginezigidi zamathuba, amadoda amaningi. Kepha angibathandi. Uhlukile, uzizwa ukhethekile. Nginamandla, ngiyakuthanda. ”
Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bengingazami ukungena ngokushesha ebhulukweni lakhe njengabafana abaningi. Ukuqabulana, ukubamba, ukuthinta izinto usuku lonke bekukuhle kithi sobabili.
Omunye umfana wathi:
Ingabe ukuthintana kwamehlo nowesifazane osebenza naye ngolunye usuku ngenkathi sikhuluma naye noma lapho amehlo ethu ahlangana ngokunganaki. Ukuxhumana kwamehlo kungaba namandla kakhulu. Umhlaba wonke ngaphandle kwamagama. Ngixhunyiwe. Ngikwenzile futhi emgwaqweni ngesikhathi sokugijima kwami ekuseni. Abesifazane bahle kakhulu.
Ukusebenzisa ukuziphatha okubambisana ukuyeka izithombe ezingcolile
Lapho ngishiya izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngangizihlanganisa nsuku zonke nomkami kunanini ngaphambili. Ekuseni nasebusuku, mhlawumbe imizuzu ye-60 noma ngaphezulu, nokuningi kwesandla esiphakathi phakathi. Ngavele nginikeza umkami imizuzu emihlanu ngesikhathi ehlezi etafuleni lakhe futhi kwaba nomuhle kimi nakwakhe.
Le yindlela engiphila ngayo impilo yami manje. Ngokuthintana kaningi okungekhona okocansi kepha isikhumba esiningi esikhunjeni futhi ugxoba, ukubhucungwa, ukuphulula, njll. Okuningi kwalokhu akubandakanyi ukuqabulana noma yini evusa inkanuko ngokweqile.
Kodwa-ke, kunento eyanelisayo ngokuxhumana nalokhu okwenza kube lula ukuthola lokho okungahle kubonakale kungenakunqotshwa ngaphambili: ukuyeka amafantasti kanye ne-porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu.
"IBrave Terry Crews Ihambe Ngobusuku Bosuku lwe-90 ukushesha ukwenza umshado wakhe ukuthi usebenze"
[Lesi isibonelo esihle samandla okuziphatha okubambisana.]
Nakhu akusinda yena nomkakhe
Indoda ejwayelekile ayenzi nje khetha ukuyeka ucansi izinsuku ezingama-90. Indoda ejwayelekile ihamba izinsuku ezingama-90 izama ukuya ocansini futhi yehluleka kaninginingi. UTerry Crews akayona indoda ejwayelekile. Uma ubheka ifayela le- I-Brooklyn Nine-Nine umlingisi, ucishe abe ngamaphesenti angama-99.9 emisipha. Unesimo esiphakeme. Wayekwazi ukuya ocansini noma nini lapho efuna ukuya ocansini. Kodwa-ke, yize ayeyindoda eqinile futhi efiselekayo, yena nomkakhe bakhetha ukuzibamba izinsuku ezingama-90.
“Ngithole ukuthi ekupheleni kwezinsuku ezingama-90 ngangithandana kakhulu, kuvulwe okuningi. Bengazi ukuthi ungubani, ”kusho uCrews. Kukhona ukugonselana okuningi, ukukhuluma okuningi, ukuthandwa kakhulu. Kumnandi impela, amaCrew. Sizokuzama lokho nathi. Kusele izinsuku ezingama-89 kuphela…
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