Iseluleko Esifanele Sokushaya Ngokushaya Indlwabu (2010)

Ayikho icala, akukho nkinga?

Izingozi zokulutha umluthaMuva nje kuqhamuke insizwa esithangamini sengosi yami ibuza imibuzo mayelana nokushaya indlwabu. Ngalo lolo suku, ngafunda ukuthi isifunda saseSpain sithuthukisa esidlangalaleni indlwabu ezinganeni ezine “Ukuthakazelisa kusezandleni zakho”Umkhankaso. Esikhathini esingengakanani esidlule, iNational Health Service yaseBrithani yaqhamuka nomkhankaso ofanayo owawunesiqubulo esithi, “i-orgasm ngosuku igcina udokotela kude. ” Yize inhloso enhle, ingabe leyo mizamo inengqondo?

Iqiniso ngukuthi, injabulo ye-orgasmic ayikho ezandleni zethu. Ngokuyinhloko yethu ubuchopho-Umphumela we-neurochemical bursts. Ngaphandle kwabo, i-orgasm ngeke ibuye ikhunjulwe kune-burping. Lokhu kunomthelela obalulekile ekufikeni iseluleko esihle sokushaya indlwabu. Kwi okuthunyelwe okudlule, Ngilandise lokho amadoda abelokhu ekwabelana ngokuthi ukunciphisa imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu kungakhuphula kanjani ukuzethemba, amakhono okuxhumana nabantu, kanye nemizwa yothando ngokungalindelekile. Kulokhu okuthunyelwe, ngizobheka ukuthi kungani ukushaya indlwabu okusindayo, okungenamahloni kungenzeka kube yibhomu eliningi elikhathaza njengokushaya indlwabu okunamahloni.

Ngenxa yokuthi kuthinta kanjani ubuchopho bethu, ukushaya indlwabu kuhlanganisa izingozi ezimbili ezinganakwa kalula.

I-1. I-Escalation Pitfall

Yize ukushaya indlwabu kungokwemvelo, kungokwemvelo ukuthi ukuseshwa kwe-orgasm kukhule kalula. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ukukhuthazeka okuhambisana nakho kuvame kakhulu noma kukhulu. Izibonelo zokuqina okungajwayelekile kungaba ukushaya indlwabu okuhambisana nokusongelwa noma inkolelo yokuthi umuntu "uya esihogweni," noma ukushaya indlwabu ezithombeni ezingcolile ze-intanethi zanamuhla. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuqina okujwayelekile kungaba ingane ethola ukushaya indlwabu ngesikhathi sokuthomba ngaphandle kokukhokhiswa ngokomzwelo okufakelwayo. (Lokhu akusho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu akusoze kwaphoqeleka ngokuzitholela okungenacala — kodwa akunakwenzeka.)

I-Orgasm ingakhiqiza nje kuphela ukuphakama kwezidakamizwa, kodwa futhi neurochemchemical isikhathi sokutakula njengoba ubuchopho babuyela ekhaya. Ukuqina okukhulu kwe-neurochemical injabulo ngesikhathi se-orgasm, i-down the lows njengoba ubuchopho buyothola. Kweminye yethu ukutakula kungathatha ifomu ukufisa okukhulu ngenxa yempendulo ejabulisayo ebuchosheni, (obumnene noma obunzima), ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka noma, ekucindezelweni ngokocansi, ukuzisola (ngenxa yokubheka ukucindezeleka onkulunkulu obunzima). Umphumela uvame ukuba nesifiso sokuzibulala Okuningi ukushaya indlwabu. Abaningi abakuboni ukuthambekela kokukhula kuze kube yilapho sebekhululekile kwi-orgasm isikhathi esithile bese bebuyela kukho.

Namuhla, "lapho uyenza ngokwengeziwe lapho uyifuna khona" ngokuvamile kunephutha nge-libido enempilo. Kodwa-ke mhlawumbe kufana kakhulu nokududuza ukudla. Ukuyibiza ngokuthi kunempilo ngoba nje kungukugwema ukuphenywa kwemiphumela yayo. Sixwayisa abazali nezingane ngobungozi bokusetshenziswa kokudla okungafuneki kokudla okungenamsoco noma ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo okuyimpoqo — kepha asizimisele ukuphakamisa ukulinganiswa kokushaya indlwabu, noma ngabe inqubo efanayo yobuchopho yakudala ibhebhethekisa konke ukuphoqelelwa.

Kulula ukutshela izingane ukuthi zidle imifino yazo kunokuchaza ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kunganciphisa ukucindezela kocansi esikhathini esiseduze-kepha kwenze ukukhathazeka ngokocansi okulandelayo kube kubi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe izingxoxo eziningi zomndeni kufanele zigxile emjikelezweni wobuthakathaka obuthakathaka wobuchopho nokuthi ingaphuma kanjani kwizimpawu ezilahlekisayo ezithi “yebo”. Khumbula lezo amagundane ayephethwe ngakho-ke babekwazi ukucindezela i-lever ukuze bavuselele umjikelezo womvuzo (njengokungathi i-orgasm iyenzayo)? Bashaya i-lever baze behla.

Umfundi ka Freud, uRudolf von Urban (Ukuphelelana ngocansi nomshado) weluleka ngokuthi uma izingane zenziwa zazi “ukukhuphuka kwesibindi” (futhi zingalokothi zibe namahloni ngobulili), zizoxazulula inselelo yokuzitholela inani elifanele lokushaya indlwabu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, thina bantu sinamagiya amaningi ukudlula "okwesihlanu" futhi "ukungathathi hlangothi" uma kukhulunywa ngocansi. Izingane zingakwazi ukuguqula imisipha yazo yokuziqeqesha ukuze zize nesikhathi sokushaya indlwabu esingakhuphuki, noma zivumele amaphupho anamanzi aqhubeke nenkambo yawo, noma athole ukuvivinya umzimba okunamandla, noma athole isithandwa. (Ukubambana ngezandla, ukudumisa umuntu othile, nokuhlanganyela ndawonye kakhulu ukunciphisa izinhliziyo zombili-bonder njengezethu, noma ngabe ukuya ocansini akuyona inketho.)

Kodwa-ke, ngaphandle kolwazi mayelana nokuthi ukukhungatheka ngokocansi kungakhuphuka kanjani lapho umuntu ezama ukukhipha isikhathi ngasinye lapho kuvela khona, izingane zingaphonswa kwisitatimende sezintambo ngaphandle kokulawula. Uma behlehlisa ekuphoqelelweni, abazi ukuthi kungani kwenzeka, indlela yokubuyisela ibhalansi, noma yikuphi ukutakula okuyoba khona. Eqinisweni, bangase bazi ngisho nokuziphatha kwabo is ukuphoqeleka, noma ukuhlukumezeka, ukushaya indlwabu njalo kuvamile phakathi kwabangane babo. Uma udla i-Twinkies ne-chips njalo ukudla ngoba nabangani bakho nabo, ungase ucabange ukubuza ukuthi kungani ukuthanda kwakho ushukela namafutha kukhulu kakhulu.

Leli akulona iphuzu elincane. Abasebenzisi be-porn abasindayo abakhetha ukunciphisa imvamisa babhekana nezimpawu zokuqaleka ezingathandeki neze. Abaqondi ukuthi lezo zimpawu zinjalo evamile. Futhi abazi ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esiningi ukuthi ubuchopho buqalise phansi (buyisela ukulingana).

Ngokumangazayo, ngisho noma bengakhulelwanga ezindlini ezicindezelayo ngokobulili futhi abazizwa bengamahloni ngokushaya indlwabu, abanye baphetha ngokuthi izimpawu zokuhoxisa ezifana nokukhathazeka, ukungabi nalutho, ukucasula, ubuchopho obuchopho, ikhanda lokukhanda, ukukhanga okukhulu, njalonjalo ngenye indlela inkokhelo yokucindezelwa ngokocansi, kunokuba kube nomphumela obikezelayo walokho ngokuphambene. Ukungazi kwenza ukucheka kubonakale kuyinkambo eyingozi, ngakho ukukhula kwesibonakaliso kubonakala kungukuphela kokukhetha.

I-2. Ukungafuneki UkuFunda

Ukuqhuma kwe-orgasmic kuyinhlangano yokufunda enamandla ngoba izakhi zethu zofuzo zifuna sikhumbule konke kuxhunyaniswe nokwenza izinsana noma ukuzijwayeza. Namuhla, ingane kuwebhu ingabamba iqhaza ngokuzithandela ezenzweni eziningi zocansi ezikhuthaza kakhulu ntambama eyodwa ngaphandle kokukhokhisa intela yayo, (ngaphambili) elinganiselwe kakhulu. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ubuchopho bethu bokuzingela-baqoqekile bavela lapho ucansi oluthokozisayo nomlingani wethu wenoveli kwakuyi-bonanza engavamile yofuzo.

I-dopamine eyengeziwe ekhishwe ngokuphathelene nokugqugquzela ukuthi ubuchopho buyabelana kakhulu nomcimbi, futhi ubuchopho bujulile kakhulu izintambo isipiliyoni. Ngokusobala, ukubuka ucansi nezimbuzi akudingi ukuthi kuqoshwe njengolwazi olubalulekile, kepha zama ukutshela ubuchopho bakho be-limbic ukuthi!

Izingane zibhemaLe nqubo efanayo yokufunda / yokuhlanganisa izintambo ingaveza imiphumela ebuhlungu kakhulu kunaleyo eyehliwe yimbuzi. Isibonelo, ucansi "olwenqatshelwe" futhi "olunesono" (okungukuthi, okuyingozi) lubangela ubuchopho bobabili i-dopamine ("kufanele uyithole!") Kanye ne-adrenaline (ukwesaba). Le yindlela ukucindezelwa kwezocansi okungafaka ngayo okunye okwejwayelekile ucansi nge-aura ekhumbulekayo efana nezidakamizwa. Ukuthola umqondo wokuthi "ingozi" ingazizwa kanjani, funda Kungani kungani ucansi lwamahhala lushisa, lapho indoda ikhala khona ngokuba ingaphandle kwekamelo ngoba uyilangazelela lokho kuguquliwe.

Izithombe zanamuhla ze-intanethi zingashesha ukubuyisa ubuchopho. I-porn eyedlulele ikhiqiza udonga lwe-neurochemical wallop, ikakhulukazi ebuchosheni obuncane, obupulasitiki. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuhlale kuyinoveli. Ucwaningo lwembula ukuthi ukufunwa kwezinto ezintsha kuheha ngokweqile-futhi kwakha imikhuba. (Kubuye kube ngemuva kokuheha kwemishini ye-slot nayo yonke imilutha ye-Intanethi.) Okushiwo ukuthi abasebenzisi bekhompiyutha emhlabeni wonke, abashaya indlwabu ukuze bathuse (kubo), izenzo zocansi eziveza obala njalo, manje babhekene nohlobo lwe-neurochemical supranormal isikhuthazo — nesikhathi sokululama esibuhlungu — ebekade sigcinelwe abantu abavela emindenini ecindezela ngokocansi.

Njengoba uThomas Paine wake wabona,

Umkhuba omningi wokungacabangi into engalungile kubonisa ukuthi ulungile, futhi kuqala ukuphakamisa isimemezelo esabekayo ekuvikeleni isiko.

Ukushaya indlwabu akuyona into engalungile, kodwa nokungaqondi kahle ukuthi ingathinta kanjani ubuchopho kungase kungabonisi kahle. Leli phutha laqondakala lapho sasingazi kangako ukuthi sithinta kanjani ubuchopho bethu, lapho sikholelwa ukuthi amahlazo kwakuwukuphela kwendlela yokwenza indlwabu yokuzikhukhumeza, futhi lapho ukugqugquzela ngokocansi okungafani nakho konke okwakungavamile-ngakho-ke ukukhushulwa ngokweqile (ngaphambi kwe-intanethi).

Namuhla, noma kunjalo, "ukushaya indlwabu kuyinto evamile, ngakho ungabi namahloni" kungenzeka kungabi imininingwane eyanele ezinganeni ezifuna izimpendulo. Kutholwe ngokungenacala imikhuba ingayithola endleleni yokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle. Ingabe yisikhathi sokubeka eceleni imicabango yethu ehlanganisiwe futhi sivuselele ingxoxo mayelana nemfundo yokushaya indlwabu ngokugcizelela ukubaluleka kokulinganisela?

Amazwana asuka ku-nofap

Ukuphonsa ithawula kodwa ngizwe ngaphandle (nsfw)

Izindaba zempumelelo ziyiqiniso. Izolo kusihlwa benginowesifazane embhedeni wami, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi akuyona ingxenye encane ngenxa yalokhu kulawulwa phansi. Wonke umuntu kufanele ayeke ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi azame ukushaya indlwabu kancane. Kepha, futhi lokhu kukhulu kodwa, AKUKHO INDLELA engingazenza izinsuku ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye. Ngiyakwazi lokho manje, ngemuva kokuzama nokuhluleka njalo. Izinsuku ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ngaphandle kocansi, ngokuqinisekile, mhlawumbe ukwenzile lokho, kanjani ngalokhu esikhundleni salokho - azikho izithombe zobulili ezingcolile eziphinde zaba khona impilo yakho yonke, ezenza umqondo. Kepha izinsuku ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu? KULUNGILE, uma une-ED. Uma ungumsebenzisi we-porn osindayo ngempela, uphuma kabili ngosuku, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto. Yeka ukugula okubandayo izinsuku ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye, YEBO mhlawumbe umqondo omuhle.

Kepha uma uyimi – ngizokutshela ukuthi kwenzekani ngemuva kwezinsuku EZINHLANU .. Ngihamba ngilungiswa njalo, ngizizwa ngikhathele ngokweqile ngoba ngipompa igazi elincane kakhulu ebuchosheni futhi likhulu kakhulu endondeni yami. Ngihlala ebhasini, ngizwe izwi elimnandi esihlalweni ngemuva kwami ​​(izwi nje!) Bese ngokuzumayo ngibe nzima kakhulu angikwazi ukusuka lapho ngimi khona, ngesaba ukuthi othile angabona. Izikhindi zangaphansi zami zigcwele nge-precum. Amabhola ami AYABUHLUNGU. Ngicabanga ukuthi le yi-subreddit enhle, kepha kunenkinga. Okufanelekile lapha — ukuyeka izinsuku ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye – akuwona nje wonke umuntu. Njengoba ngishilo kodwa, ukunciphisa kuyakuthuthukisa njengomuntu. Wonke umuntu kufanele ayeke ngokuphelele i-porn futhi abeke imingcele yokuthi bangashaya indlwabu kangaki. (Ngicabanga ukuthi zonke izinsuku zesine kuphela ezisebenza kangcono kimi).

QAPHELA: I-YBOP ayisho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuyingozi kuwe; nje ukwenza iphuzu lokuthi eziningi okuthiwa izinzuzo zezempilo bathi ukuhlotshaniswa ne-orgasm noma ukushaya indlwabu eqinisweni kuhlobene nokuxhumana okuseduze nomunye umuntu, hhayi i-orgasm / ukushaya indlwabu. Ngokukodwa, ukuhlobana okuphakathi kwezinkomba ezimbalwa zezempilo ezikude kanye ne-orgasm (uma kuyiqiniso) kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona ukuhlobana okuvela emiphakathini enempilo enokuziphatha ngokweqile nokushaya indlwabu. Akuzona i-causal. Ucwaningo olufanele:

Izinzuzo Zempilo Ezihlobene Nezocansi Ezihlukene (2010) wathola ukuthi ubulili buhlobene nemiphumela emihle, kanti ukushaya indlwabu kwakungekho. Kwezinye izimo ukushaya indlwabu kwakuhlobene kakhulu nezinzuzo zezempilo - okusho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu kuhambisana nezinkomba zezempilo ezimbi. Isiphetho sokubuyekeza:

"Ngokusekelwe ezinhlobonhlobo zezindlela, amasampuli, nezinyathelo, ukutholakala kocwaningo kuyahambisana ngokuphawulekayo ekuboniseni ukuthi lo msebenzi owodwa wezocansi (Ukuziphatha Kwama-Penile-Vaginal kanye ne-orgasmic response to it) kuhlotshaniswa, futhi kwezinye izimo, kubangela izinqubo ezihlobene ngokusebenza okungcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba. "

"Okunye ukuziphatha ngokocansi (okufaka phakathi lapho ukuziphatha kobulili be-Penile-Vaginal kungaphumeleli, njengamakhondomu noma ukuphazamiseka kude nokuzwela kwamapenile-ubulili) akuhlanganisiwe, noma kwezinye izimo (njengokushaya indlwabu kanye nokulala komzimba) kuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kangcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba . "

"Imithi yobulili, imfundo yezocansi, ukwelashwa ngokocansi, nokucwaninga ngocansi kufanele kusakaze imininingwane yezinzuzo zezempilo ngokuqondile ngobudlelwane obuphakathi kwe-Penile-Vaginal, futhi kube nokunye okucacile ekuhloleni nasekuhloleni kwabo."

Bona futhi lokhu kubuyekezwa okufushane kokushaya indlwabu kanye nezinkomba zempilo: Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlobene ne-Psychopathology ne-Prostate Dysfunction: Amazwana ku-Quinsey (2012)

Kunzima ukuvumelanisa umbono wokuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuthuthukisa imizwa nokutholakele kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesilisa ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka (UCyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), injabulo encane (Das , 2007), kanye nezinye izinkomba eziningi zempilo empofu ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okubandakanya okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo (ICosta & Brody, 2011), izindlela ezingavuthiwe zokuzivikela ngokwengqondo, ukuvuseleleka okukhulu kwengcindezi yegazi ekucindezelekeni, kanye nokunganeliseki ngempilo yomuntu yengqondo kanye nokuphila ngokujwayelekile ( ukubuyekeza, bheka uBrody, 2010). Kunzima ngokulinganayo ukubona ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuzikhulisa kanjani izifiso zocansi, lapho imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kocansi okungafanelekile emadodeni (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & Johnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) nabesifazane (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss & Brody, 2009). Imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu nayo ihlotshaniswa nokungeneliseki okuningi ngobudlelwano nothando oluncane lwabalingani (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Ngokuphambene nalokho, i-PVI ihlobene njalo ngokungaguquguquki nempilo engcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), umsebenzi ongcono wezocansi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), kanye nekhwalithi yobudlelwano obungcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).

Ngaphezu kwalokho, nakuba ingozi encane yomdlavuza we-prostate yayihlotshaniswa nenqwaba ye-ejaculations (ngaphandle kokucaciswa kokuziphatha ngokobulili) (Giles et al., 2003) [Phawula ubufakazi obuphikisanayo, noma kunjalo: “Umdlavuza we-prostate ungaxhunyaniswa nama-hormone ocansi: Amadoda asebenza ngezocansi kuma-20 awo kanye ne-30 angase abe nomngcipheko ophakeme wesifo somdlavuza wesi-prostate, ucwaningo lubonisa. "], yimvamisa ye-PVI ehlotshaniswa ngqo nengozi encishisiwe, kanti imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhambisana nengozi eyengeziwe (ukubukeza isihloko, bheka uBrody, 2010). Mayelana nalokhu, kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nezinye izinkinga zeprostate (amazinga aphezulu e-antigen athile kanye ne-prostate evuvukile noma yethenda) futhi, uma kuqhathaniswa ne-ejaculate etholwe ku-PVI, i-ejaculate etholakala ekushaya indlwabu inezimpawu ukusebenza kwe-prostatic okumpofu nokuqedwa okuncane kwemikhiqizo kadoti (Brody, 2010). Ukuziphatha okuwukuphela kocansi okuhlobene njalo nempilo engcono ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba yi-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukushaya indlwabu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezimpawu zempilo empofu (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Kunezindlela eziningana ezingaba khona ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzimba, ezingumphumela wokukhethwa kwemvelo okuxhasa izinqubo zezempilo njengezimbangela kanye / noma nomphumela wesisusa sokufuna, namandla okuthola nokujabulela, i-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukukhethwa kwezinqubo ze-psychobiological ezivuzayo zokukhuthaza ukushaya indlwabu akunakwenzeka ngenxa yezindleko ezinzima zomzimba ezingenzeka uma kungavimbela eyodwa kusuka ku-PVI ngokuyenza ingabalulekile enhlalakahleni (Brody, 2010). Ngokusobala ngokwengeziwe, ukushaya indlwabu kubonisa ukwehluleka okuthile kwezinqubo zedrayivu yezocansi nokuhlobana okusondelene, noma ngabe kuvame kangakanani, futhi noma ngabe kungenzeki ngokujwayelekile kuhlangana nokufinyelela ku-PVI. Kulokhu, kuyaphawuleka ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nokunganeliseki ngezici ezithile zempilo ngaphandle kwemvamisa ye-PVI (Brody & Costa, 2009) futhi kubonakala kunciphisa ezinye izinzuzo ze-PVI (Brody, 2010).

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“Ngakho-ke, bajabule kangakanani abaphendulile abashaya indlwabu muva nje uma beqhathaniswa nalabo abangazange? Umdwebo 5 wembula ukuthi phakathi kwalabo abaphendulile ababike ukuthi "abeneme kakhulu" ngempilo yabo kulezi zinsuku, amaphesenti angama-68 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-84 abesilisa bathi bashaya indlwabu phakathi nesonto eledlule. Ukuhlangana okuthobekile nokungajabuli kubonakala kuqondile phakathi kwabesilisa, kepha hhayi abesifazane. Iphuzu lethu akusikuphakamisa ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kwenza abantu bangajabuli. Kungenzeka, kepha isimo semininingwane esehlukanisiwe asisivumeli ukuthi sikuhlole lokhu. Kodwa-ke, kunembile ngokomthetho ukusho ukuthi amadoda athi ajabule awakwazi kangako ukubika ukushaya indlwabu muva kunamadoda angajabule. ”

“Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nokubika imizwa yokungafaneleki noma ukwesaba ebudlelwaneni kanye nobunzima ekuzameni ngempumelelo ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezinsuku ezedlule zibonisa izikolo eziphakeme kakhulu zokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangabikanga ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezisonto eledlule zikhombisa izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangazange babike ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. ”