Amazwana we-YBOP: Lokhu kungenye yezikhala zethu zokuqala ezichaza enye yezinzuzo ezingalindelekile ezibikwe ngabasebenzisi bokuqala be-porn. Asisho ukuthi i-porn ye-Intanethi iyimbangela eyinhloko yokukhathazeka komphakathi ezinsizweni. Akekho owaziyo ukuthi imaphi amaphesenti alabo abanesifo sokukhathazeka komphakathi (SAD) abasebenzisa i-porn njengesici esinikelayo, ngoba azikho izifundo ezikhona. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezisezingeni eliphezulu ze-Inthanethi yinto entsha; awekho amaqembu wokulawula angenzeka; futhi akukho cwaningo oluye lwabuza imibuzo efanele. Lokho kusho ukuthi, abasebenzisi be-porn abasindayo bayaqhubeka nokubika ukuzethemba okukhulu nokuxolelwa kokukhathazeka komphakathi ngokuguqula ukusetshenziswa okuhlukile kwe-inthanethi. I-athikili yethu yakamuva ngale ndaba (enesayensi eningi): I-Porn, Ukushaya indlwabu kanye noMojo: I-Neuroscience Perspective
Futhi ubone Ingabe i-porn yenza ukukhathazeka / ukuzethemba kwami kwezenhlalakahle kubi nakakhulu? - equkethe izindaba eziningi zokuthuthuka kokukhathazeka komphakathi ngemuva kokuba abantu beqede izithombe ezingcolile.
Ngomzuzu wakhe we-5 we-TED Talk, “Ukuphela Kwabafana”isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esidumile uPhillip Zimbardo uqaphele ukuthi "ukuluthwa okuvusa inkanuko" (i-porn, imidlalo yevidiyo) kuyisici esiyinhloko ekukhathazekeni komphakathi.
Kuka-2019 Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-75 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi nezimpofu ezingokwengqondo-ezingokomzwelo nemiphumela empofu yokuqonda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izidakamizwa zezokwelapha ziye zabonisa ngokuphindaphindiwe lokho Ukulutha kwe-intanethi ikhiqiza inkumbulo ehlala njalo nezinkinga zokuhlushwa kwabanye abasebenzisi.
Tlapha kungenzeka kube nokuhlanganisana phakathi kokusetshenziswa kocansi nokukhathazeka komphakathi
Ukhona yini ofunda lokhu okuqaphele ukuhlanganiswa phakathi kokuyeka izithombe ezingcolile nokunciphisa ukukhathazeka komphakathi?
Ngenxa yokuthi a ukuzenzakalela injini yokusesha, Bengilokhu ngilalele iminjunju nokuthokoza kokuthola imilutha yezocansi iminyaka eminingana. Ngokuphindaphindiwe, kuvela iphethini ejwayelekile. Njengoba abasebenzisi bekwazi ukugwema izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi banciphisa indlela yokushaya indlwabu (ngokuvamile okwesikhashana), isifiso sabo sokuxhumana namanye ama-surges. Kanjalo nokuzethemba kwabo, amandla abo okubheka abanye emehlweni, amahlaya abo. Futhi kunjalo nangokuqonda kwabo "ubudoda" babo, ukugxila kwabo, ithemba labo, ukwahlulela kwabo, ukuheha kwabo kwabangahle babe ngabalingani babo, njll.
Ngisho nalabo ababekade behlushwa ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwezenhlalo kaningi kunesibindi sokuhlola izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nomphakathi: ukumamatheka nokuhlekisa nabantu osebenza nabo, ukuphola online, amaqembu okuzindla, ama-nightpots, njalonjalo. Kwezinye izimo kuthatha izinyanga, kepha imvamisa ishifti iyashesha kangangokuba ibafica isimanga. (Angisho ukuthi ukukhathazeka komphakathi kuphela ngenxa yokusebenzisa i-porn, noma ukuthi ukuxubana kuyisibonakaliso sokungabikho kwayo. Ngimane ngiyazibuza ukuthi ngabe, kwabanye, ukuphathwa ngokucophelela kwesifiso sobulili kungaba lusizo ngokumangazayo.)
Isifo sokunamathisela
In Umlutha njengesiyaluyalu sokunamathisela, UPhilip J. Flores ubeka iphuzu lokuthi umuntu akanakunamathela ebuhlotsheni obujwayelekile, noma obelaphayo, ngenkathi umuntu enamathele ekuluthekeni. Ngendlela efanayo, ukusekelwa okuhle kakhulu kokugwema ukubuyela emuva ubudlelwano obuqinile nabanye — kanye nokukwazi ukubakha ngentando.
Kungani umlutha wezocansi engaphoqeleka ukuthi abhekane nokuphoqelelwa kwakhe ukuze akhe, noma abuyisele, ubudlelwano bangempela? Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uNorman Doidge uphakamisa ukuthi i-stimuli enamandla (i-dopamine ephezulu) yezigebengu zanamuhla zokudunwa kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili futhi ibuyisela kabusha "indawo ethengisa ubuchopho" ebingazinikele ekwenzeni ubuhlobo bezenhlalakahle buzuzise. (Ubuchopho Obushintshayo, k. 109) Abantu bangempela baba mncane umvuzo; abantu mbumbulu baba nokuheha okuthe xaxa. Kulokhu, usayizi enza indaba, okungukuthi, inani lobuchopho obukhanyisa. Ukuyeka ukuziphatha okucindezelayo kukhulula ubuchopho ukubuyisela izinto eziza kuqala.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abantu abanemikhuba yabo edala ukuvuselela okuqhubekayo komvuzo wabo wesifundazwe nabasebenzisi abasebenzisa i-dopamine, isibonelo-ngokuvamile bazizwa bekhathazekile noma becindezelekile isikhathi sonke. Lokhu ikakhulukazi ngenxa ye-dopamine engavamile (noma ukuzwela okuphansi kokudopamine ngenxa yokwehla kwamamukeli we-D2) phakathi kwezinga eliphezulu. Amagundane ayelokhu egoba ngeshukela abonisa ukukhathazeka nobuchopho bashintsha (ukwehlisa i-dopamine). Futhi amagundane adalulwe ku-dopamine ephakeme okwesikhashana kamuva aziphatha njenge babecindezelekile ekuphenduleni ukucindezeleka. Uma umuntu ecindezelekile noma ecindezelekile, ukuzijabulisa kungase kube nomuzwa omkhulu.
Ucwaningo oluthile lubonisa lokho ukukhathazeka komphakathi ihlotshaniswa nayo i-dopamine ephansi or ukwehlisa ubuzwe. Bona futhi lolu cwaningo ngokuxhumanisa phakathi ukungazinzi kahle kwe-dopamine nokukhathazeka komphakathi.
Ingabe ukushaya indlwabu ngokweqile kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi kuholela ekukhathazekeni komphakathi kwabanye abantu?
I-Dopamine surges ngesikhathi sokuvusa ngocansi futhi ihlaselwa ngemva komvuthwandaba. Ingabe abanye abantu bakha i-masturbate njalo kangangokuthi umjikelezo wabo wesifunda awukwazi buyela e-homeostasis phakathi kwama-orgasms? Ngabe bahlushwa i-dopamine engapheli (noma impendulo ephansi ku-dopamine) -kwenza ukukhathazeka komphakathi kube lula? Kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu emphakathini wanamuhla waseNtshonalanga ingahle ifane ncamashi nokhokho bethu abangabazingeli (bheka I-WEIRD Izenzo Zokushaya Indlwabu).
Uma kungenjalo ukushaya indlwabu, isisindo esinzima sokusebenzisa izithombe zocansi singabangela ukwehla kwe-dopamine kanye ne-dopamine receptors kwezinye ubuchopho. Zonke izidakamizwa, kubandakanya izilingo zokuziphatha ezifana ukugembula okungokwemvelo futhi Ukudlala kwe-intanethi, kudala ukwehla okungenakulinganiswa kokusayina kwe-dopamine. Uma umlutha we-porn, unokuthile esikubiza ngokuthi impendulo yenjabulo ehlanganisiwe noma ukwehlisa isithunzi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi une-dopamine signaling ephansi. (Bona: Porn Manje Futhi Manje: Siyakwamukela Brain Training futhi Izidakamizwa ezidakayo: 300 Vaginas = I-Dopamine ukuqonda izindlela.)
Ukungahlehlisi
Cabanga ngalokhu: Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi kokubili ukuziphatha kwezidakamizwa nokuziphatha kuyabangela a ukuncipha ku-dopamine (D2) receptors, okuyisici esiyinhloko sokungabi namthetho.
Umbuzo wokuqala: Yimuphi umehluko owodwa oyinhloko webhayoloji phakathi kwezinkawu ezibusayo nezithobayo? Impendulo: Izinyani ezivelele zinayo amazinga aphezulu we-dopamine D2 receptors. Abazalwanga ngamazinga aphezulu ama-D2 receptors - kunalokho, "ukuba" okuvelele kubangele ukwanda kwama-receptors e-D2.
Umbuzo wesibili: Kungenzeka yini ukuthi izinzuzo (ukuzethemba, ukuzibandakanya, ukugqugquzela, ukukhathazeka okuncane) amadoda azizwe njengoba elulama ekuluthweni kocansi kungahlobana nokwanda kwama-D2 receptors i-dopamine? (Impela kunjalo hhayi amazinga we-testosterone wegazi.)
Ngaphandle kokungabaza, abanye abasebenzisi bangaba ne-dopamine ephansi engapheli noma i-dopamine receptors ukuqala ngayo, kepha abasebenzisi abaningi babona ukuthuthuka ekubukeni lapho benciphisa i-porn / ukushaya indlwabu, ukuthi asikwazi ukukhipha ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi lo mkhuba uqobo ucindezela amazinga e-dopamine.
Lapho nje ubuchopho bungazweli kakhulu ku-dopamine, buye buyekezele ukuzwela kokuqinisayo kwemvelo "njengokuthi" injabulo yokubona umngane, ukubukela ibhayisikobho, noma ilukuluku eliqhuba ukuhlola.”—Nora Volkow, Umqondisi weNational Institute on Drug Abuse
I-hardcore, i-novel entsha ye-intanethi ye-inthanethi iyona ngokucindezela ngamandla- ngesizathu esifanayo ne-crack ne-Krispy Kreme donuts. Lezi zisusa azifani nalutho nobuchopho babokhokho bethu obekufanele babhekane nabo njengoba abantu bevela. Kodwa-ke uhlelo lwakudala lwe-limbic lubenza baphuthelwe yizinto "eziyigugu" kangangokuthi lusinxusa ukuba sizifunele ngokwengeziwe-noma ngabe zibangela ama-hangover nezimpawu zokuhoxisa.
Malini?
Njengezidakamizwa notshwala, "ngokweqile" kwehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Kodwa-ke, kwabanye, ukuba sengozini kwemijikelezo yomvuzo wobuchopho ngokuhlanganiswa ne-porn ye-Intanethi kusho ukuthi ukuphishekela ukugqugquzela ngokocansi sekuye kwaba ukuphoqa ukuphishekela ukugqugquzelwa ngokocansi. Leyo inkinga ngoba ukucindezelwa, khumbula, ungene endleleni yokwenza ubuhlobo obuvuzayo. Ngamafuphi, kungase kube ukuthi imikhuba yokushaya indlwabu eqondile ibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu engokwengqondo kunokuba ngokuvamile ibonwe.
Kusobala ukuthi kuningi ongakufunda. Okwamanje, ngizovumela abasebenzisi ababuyayo bazikhulumele.
Bengihlala ngikwamukela nje ukuthi bengingaphansi kwesilinganiso senhlalo. Kwakungeyona inkinga futhi, kepha kuvela ukuthi, ngemuva kwamasonto amabili ngaphandle kwe-orgasm, izwi lami selikhulile futhi licebile, bengilokhu ngihleka futhi ngiqhekeza amahlaya cishe ngokungami, futhi ukukhuluma nabantu bekukhuluma kahle futhi kulula. Manje, yimi engixoxa. Kuyinto yokujwayela.
Omunye umuntu:
Ngineminyaka engu-25 futhi bengisebenzisa i-porn iminyaka engu-14. Kwakunenkathi yeminyaka engu-2 yize lapho ngangingakwazi ukuyibuka khona ngoba ngangisesikhungweni sikahulumeni lapho izingosi zocansi zazingavunyelwe khona. Ngaleyo minyaka ngangisezingeni lami lobuciko: ukubhala izinkondlo, izingoma nezindaba. Ngangikhuluma nawo wonke umuntu, ngingahluphi ngomphefumulo. Lapho ngifika ekhaya ngabuyela ekuchitheni usuku ngibuka ubunqunu be-Intanethi. Ngemuva kweminyaka emibili, sengiyisethulo, ngizihlukanisa, futhi nginamahloni futhi ngicindezelekile isikhathi esiningi. Okuphikisana ngqo nokuthi ngangikude kanjani nakho. Ngihlala ngizitshela ukuthi ngizo “qeda,” kodwa lokho kuzoba nini? Angifuni ukuchitha enye iminyaka eyishumi ngale ndlela.
Omunye umuntu waphendula:
Udokotela wami wafunga ukuthi ngidinga ama-meds eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule. Esikhundleni salokho, ngaqala ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphansi kokucindezeleka. Lapho ngiyeka ukusebenzisa i-porn, ngazizwa ngimbi kakhulu ekuqaleni. Kepha manje ngizizwa ngincono kunalokho enginakho eminyakeni engu-7. Akunasizathu sokuthi ukucindezeleka kudlange emphakathini wethu ngaphandle kwemikhuba ethile yokuphila. Sikwazi ngokuphelele ukuthola ukuthi ziyini lezi zinto nokunciphisa ukudangala kwethu. Kuyindaba yokuhlunga ngemikhuba yethu ukuthola ukuthi yini ebanga ubuhlungu bethu, futhi sihlale sithembeke ngokuphelele kithina.
Isiqhawe sezinyanga eziyisithupha:
Abantu bangibuza ukuthi ngishintshe ini ngoba nginobungane kakhulu. Angikaze, angikaze ngibe nokuzethemba noma ngikhuthazwe ngokwengeziwe ngokusondela nokubandakanya abesifazane bangempela. (Futhi empeleni ngithola ucansi lwangempela manje!) Ukukhathazeka okukhulu kokusebenza enganginakho ngesikhathi socansi, ngenkathi ngidla i-porn futhi ngishaya, sekuphelile. [Funda okwengeziwe kwabesilisa.]
Izinhlelo zethu zezinzwa ziyizifunda ezivulekile ezenzelwe ukuhlala emphakathini nabanye. Eqinisweni, akunakwenzeka ngokwemvelo ukuthi iningi lethu lilawule imizwa yethu lodwa nganoma ibuphi ubude besikhathi.
Ama-introverts, nalabo abangazange bahlakulele izibopho ezinempilo njengezinsana, bangaba sengozini enkulu yokukhathazeka komphakathi ngenxa yokusebenzisa i-porn njalo. Ukuzihlukanisa kubenza bakwazi ukulawula ukuvezwa kwabo ekuhlanganyeleni okungahambi kahle nokunganelisi. Ukufinyelela ekuphunyukeni kokusetshenziswa kocansi (noma ezinye izisusa) kungabe sekuthatha indawo yolwazi lokuzitholela komphakathi kanye nomthethonqubo ongokomzwelo. Njengoba enye indoda isho ngokukhathazeka komphakathi:
Ukuhlukaniswa komphakathi kanye ne-porn kuyaqinisana. Lokho wukuthi, ukuba wedwa kuholela ekufuneni ukuphunyuka nokwenelisa wedwa. Lokhu kungasho ukulutha kabi kocansi, okwehlisa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba, okwenza umuntu akhathazeke ngokwengeziwe emphakathini… njalonjalo.
Ukuhlakulela ubuhlobo bomphakathi
Indlela ekahle eNtshonalanga yokuzimela ngabanye nokuzimela kwayo ikhuthaza umzamo wokuzimela ngokwanele endaweni yokuhlakulela imivuzo yokuzihlanganisa komphakathi. Njengoba u-Flores eveza, izidingo zethu ezivamile ezingokomzwelo zokuzibonakalisa abanye zibizwa ngokungalungile ngokuthi zixhomeke ekuziphatheni nasekuhluphekeni. Eqinisweni, lokhu yilokho ubuchopho bethu buhlelwe khona.
Njengeziqu zesizwe, izibopho ezihlanganayo, izingqondo zethu zidinga ukuxhumana okuseduze kwempilo enhle ezimpilweni zethu zonke. Ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn njalo kungahle kuthathe indawo yalesi sidingo somuntu esiyisisekelo ngesifiso esandayo kanye ne-orgasm. I-porn ayinikezeli ukuthinta okunikeza impilo kobudlelwano bothando. Lapho ezocansi / ukushaya indlwabu ziba ngenkani, kungavama ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokuzayo unomphela. Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi kushintsha ubuchopho, i-physiology yayo kanye nezimpawu ezivuthayo. Kwabaningi, lezi zinguquko zingabonakala njengokukhathaza okomphakathi okulimazayo.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi abaningi bakuthola kulula futhi kujabulisa ukuxhumana nabanye lapho beyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi benciphisa ukushaya indlwabu. Ngingaba nentshisekelo yokuzwa kubantu abanenkinga yokukhathazeka komphakathi (noma abelaphi babo) abazama ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Izifundo ekuqhekekeni phakathi kobulili nezidakamizwa ebuchosheni
Ukukhula kobufakazi besayense yomjikelezo we-post-orgasm oqhubekayo (izifundo)
Amazwana athunyelwe ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko ku- “Psychology Today”
ngoba kuningi kakhulu
njengoba kunabantu abaningi kangaka abanenkinga enjalo benganakile, ubhekana kanjani nalaba bantu ngemuva kokunqoba umlutha?
uyabanaki futhi uthole abangane abangcono? Uyabasiza baqonde inkinga yabo?
Ngicabanga ukuthi engizama ukukusho ngukuthi bonke abantu babuyiswe ekuluthweni kocansi, kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona abantu abayi-100 noma abayi-1000 ababanjwa yilowo mkhuba. lapho ukugula kuba yinto evamile, wenzani?
Imibuzo emikhuluNgaphandle kokungabaza, ukusetshenziswa kocansi sekuyinto evamile phakathi kwabesilisa abasebasha. Isizukulwane sakho (ngicabanga ukuthi usemncane) sizodinga ukuthola lokhu kungcola. Anginayo impendulo. Ngethemba ukuthi labo abalulama ku-porn bangakhanyisela abanye.
Abangane ne-porn bekuyisihloko sengxoxo yakamuva inkundla yethu yokuhlangana kabusha - https://web.archive.org/web/20210120005321/http://www.reuniting.info/node/7142
Sithemba ukuthi ososayensi abambalwa abanesibindi bazocwaninga imiphumela ye-porn ebuchosheni babasebenzisi. Indlela okuyiyo manje, "ochwepheshe" bayasiqinisekisa ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile akunayo imiphumela emibi, noma ukuthi kunenzuzo ngempela. I-meme evamile ukuthi ayikho i-porn, noma ukushaya indlwabu, okungajwayelekile noma okuyingozi.
ukuphawula okufakwe ngaphansi kwalesi sihloko ku- “Psychology Today”
Ukushaya indlwabu
Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi ngaqala ukubuka izithombe ezinobuchopho ngesikhathi sika-8 ngenkathi ngingu-10 Nganginomuntu wokushaya indlwabu nsuku zonke ngokugaya ipenisi yami embhedeni kuze kube yilapho ngigcwalisiwe. Abazali bami babengenayo i-CineMax ngakho-ke lapho izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingasese zizofika, isiteshi sasihlehlisiwe. Ngikhumbula ukushaya indlwabu ngokuzwakalayo kocansi cishe nsuku zonke. Ngangingewona ingane ethandwayo esikoleni futhi amamaki ami ayesabekayo, konke engangikucabanga ngakho lonke usuku kwakuwukushaya indlwabu. Ngiye ngakwazi ukufihla kahle imizwelo yami yangempela, ngivele ngibathungele ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, futhi ngingakwazi ukuba yilowo nalowo engiwuthandayo. Kwadingeka ngifunde futhi ngivumelane ukuze ngilale nabesifazane bangempela. Kwakungelula kimi ukuba ngithole abesifazane, ngangivame ukwenza sengathi ngiyaphola, ngicabanga ukuthi bathande amakhono ami e-billiard, noma indlela engikhuluma ngayo nabo. Ngangizohamba ngezinsuku, kepha ngangingacabangi ukuthi la mantombazane angabalingani bomphefumulo, ngangingenayo imizwa, konke engangikwenza ukuzenza sengathi ngiyabathanda ukuze ngizithole ngilala embhedeni bese ngiyinqamula kancane nabo bese udlulela kokulandelayo. Izithombe zocansi nokushaya indlwabu zazihlale zikhona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngangizibandakanya kangaki ngocansi njalo ngizishaya indlwabu ngangihlale ngibukele i-porn. Ngangidinga, bekufana nokuphefumula kokuphila kimi. Njengoba ngishilo ngaphambi kokuthi ngiguquke ukuze ngithole abesifazane bangempela, bacabanga ukuthi ngingumuntu ovamile, umuntu obanda kunazo zonke abahlangana nabo. Ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ngangizilimaza Ngangiyibhola lomzwelo we-mooch, ngangicindezelekile, futhi konke engangikufuna ukukwenza kwakuyijaji, bekubonakala sengathi yiyona nto kuphela eyenza ngijabule. Ukushaya indlwabu kwaba umjikelezo ongapheli. Ngangivusa ekuseni futhi ngiyi-masturbate, ngifake eshaweni futhi ngiphumule, ngisondeza futhi ngiguqule amacilisi ami, ngizoya emsebenzini, ngezinye izikhathi ngithole indawo yokucasha emsebenzini futhi nginomuntu oshaya indlwabu, ngizobuya ekhaya, ngifinyelele kukhompyutha , ukubuka izithombe zocansi nokushaya indlwabu ngamandla, ngidla, ngiphume ebusuku, ngithole oshade naye, ngiya ocansini, ngiya ekhaya futhi ngiya ocansini mayelana nentombazane engisanda kulala nayo, ngemva kokuba ngithukuthele ngemifanekiso yalokho engakwenzayo vula ikhompyutha nokushaya indlwabu. Lo mjikelezo waqhubeka iminyaka eminingi. Kubantu abangizungezile Ngangiyindoda yokuzitholela Ngangithola noma iyiphi intombazane engangiyifunayo, ngangiphila impilo ekugcineni, ngangingakho konke ababekufuna ukuba khona. Ngangiphila impilo engaphethe ngoba ngangilimaza, ngangingumfana, ngangikuthanda ukugijimela, ngangixoshwa nge-dopamine. Ekugcineni ngashada futhi ngahlala phansi usuku olulodwa, kodwa kwakukhona inkinga! Angisakwazi ukuphila impilo yenkanyezi yedwala, angibange ngisaba nalolo gijimani, lokhu bekuwukuphela kwento egcina amazinga ami e-dopamine ephezulu ngenkathi ngingeyona indlwabu. Ngangifuna ukufa, ngangibeka icala umkami ngenxa yalokho okwakungalungile, ngangizihlukanisa ukuze ngiphume, ngifinyelele ezingxoxweni zobulili ezingcolile ze-Tranny futhi ngangizizwa ngikhathazekile, ngatshela nomkami ukuthi angisebenzise i-strap-on me. Ngangicindezelekile kakhulu futhi naye. wangibona ukuthi ungubani ngempela, ngemuva kwalowo mfana opholile, othakazelisayo, ophumayo waphila i-monster, futhi wabona ngemuva kwezithombe. Ngiyamthanda umkami kakhulu, uma kungenjalo bengingeke ngishade naye ngasizathu simbe bekungekhona nje ngezocansi naye. Umlutha wami wezocansi wabulala noma yiluphi uthando enganginalo, angizange ngimsize endlini, ngangingeke ngimsize nezingane, ngangingeke ngenze lutho, konke engingakwenza kwakuwukuhlala ngemuva kwekhompyutha futhi ngibukele izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngasese. unkosikazi wayenganginiki izimpahla engangizithola ngiphatheka kabi futhi ngimthuka, ngangimenza azizwe sengathi akananwele, kwakwesabeka, futhi ngangimxoxela ukuthi adakwe ukuze ngithathe kuye ngenkathi yena walala. Ukukhathazeka engangenza kwamenza angakwazi ukulala ngakho waphendukela ezipilini zokulala ezazingelahlekile kimi okwakusho ukuthi ngingazithatha kuye noma nini lapho ngifuna, kunoma yikuphi lapho ngangifuna khona. Ngemuva kokuthi ngifeze naye ngiguqule i-iPOD yami futhi nginakho ukushaya indlwabu ngamahora amaningi ngiya ocansini enzima. Unkosikazi wami uthe useyahamba muva nje, wathi ngimbangela ubuhlungu obukhulu futhi ngimlimaze kakhulu kangangoba akazi ukuthi kungaze kulungiswe yini, ngamenza wazizwa engelutho, ngangingamboni njengo umuntu, futhi wayekhona lapho ukuze ngikwazi ukukhipha umuthi futhi angifanele ukushaya indlwabu. Sasiya ocansini futhi ngilahlekelwe ukwakhiwa kwami futhi lokhu kwamkhathaza kakhulu futhi kwamenza wazizwa sengathi izindonga zakhe zilahlekile. Ngamthembisa ukuthi ngizoshintsha, ngathembisa ukuthi kuzohluka, ngathembisa ukuthi ngeke ngibuke izithombe ezingcolile (LOKHU YINTO EBALULEKILE AKHALALE NGAYO) ngakho-ke bengicabanga ukuthi ngizomtshela lokho ukuze ngimjabulise. Ngempela ngangizama ukuyeka ukubuka izithombe zobulili zobuningi ngobusuku obubodwa futhi kwakungalungile ngempela! Izandla zami zaqala ukuzamazama, ikhanda lami laqala ukuthuthumela, futhi ekugcineni ngaqala ukudumala, ngase ngiqala ukukhala. Ekugcineni ngase ngiqaphela ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokushaya indlwabu kwakusungule impilo yami yonke, ngangazi ukuthi ngenxa yezingane zami nomkami kufanele ngiyeke. Impilo yami yonke yobusha kanye neyabantu abadala ayisazizwa ingeyangempela. Ngihlale ngizizwa sengathi kuningi ekuphileni, ngihlale ngizizwa sengathi kukhona okushiwo. Ngingene nakuYouTube ngifuna abafokazi, nozungu lukahulumeni, nabantu abahlala eNyangeni, benginesiqiniseko sokuthi kukhona okushodayo. Ukuphela kwento ebikade ilahlekile yimina odla izidakamizwa, bengingazi ukuthi nginomlutha ngakho angizange Angazi ukuthi isiqeshana se-puzzle esilahlekile kwakuyizidakamizwa ezakhishwa ngemuva kokuba ngishaye indlwabu futhi ngibuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Tranny zihlala zingisusa kanzima. Ngabona ukuthi ngiyagula, ngabona ukuthi ngilimele abantu abaningi empilweni yami. Ngisusile zonke izithombe ze-porn kusuka ku-hard drive yami futhi ngifunge ukuthi ngeke ngisakwazi ukushaya indlwabu.
Kubonakala sengathi
ukuthambekela komkakho kwakukuhle… mayelana nezocansi. Kungenzeka ukuthi * kwakuyisizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi ukulutha kwakho kwanda. Uyazi yini enye? Ngibheka ukuthi wayeqinisile ngawe, futhi. Ngikubheja ukuthi * ungulowo mfana omuhle… ngemuva kokulutha. Ukubuyisela kuzoba yinto enzima kunazo zonke owake wazenza, kepha futhi kungaba enye yezinto ezinelisa kakhulu. Thola konke ukwesekwa ongakwenza. Ngabe ubuke ikhasi lokuxhasa? Ngikufisela okuhle.
*Mange kakhulu*
Ngiyabonga
Ngiyabonga kakhulu, amazwi akho angikhuthaza.
Kusuka kwenye indawo.
Kusukela kulolu chungechunge: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1860581
Lapha siphawula njengalo mfana ngaso sonke isikhathi:
Lokho akusho ukuthi ukukhathazeka okujulile kwezenhlalakahle kuzonyamalala ngomlingo, kepha kubantu abaningi umlutha uqobo wawudala isifiso esingeyona semvelo sokuzihlukanisa.
intambo ku- reddit.com - Ukuvela Kokukhathazeka Komphakathi
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/r4am0/social_anxiety_disappears/
Intambo evela ku-Reddit.com NoFap
Izinsuku ze-22 ku, inzuzo engalindelekile.
Kusuka ku-reddit - NoFap
Kusukela ku-yourbrainrebalanced.com
LINK - Ingonyama eyesabekayo eyathola isibindi sayo (izinsuku ezingu-115)
I-Fom Reddit: Umuntu ohlukile kunangesikhathi ngiqala lolu cwaningo.
LINK - Ngiyindoda ehlukile kunangesikhathi ngiqala lesi silingo.
Kusuka ku-reddit - NoFap
Ingabe i-NoFap ikunikeza amandla amakhulu? Ngabe yonke inzuzo yabantu engabakhona ibika nje umphumela we-placebo? Umbono wami…
Kusuka emgqeni ofanayo
Kusuka emgqeni ofanayo
Kusuka emgqeni ofanayo
Usuku lwe-80 + nokubona ezinye izinguquko ezimangalisayo ze-neurological
Akuyona into emfushane yokungena-fucking-ikholelwa.
Ngiqonde ukuthi angikabi khona okwamanje… Nginokhuni lwasekuseni njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa noma kunjalo (kusengukuthuthuka okukhulu) futhi akukuhle njengoba ngikhumbula, kepha lokho kusho ukuthi ngidinga isikhathi esithe xaxa.
Ngakho-ke kubo bonke abanye abantu abazingabazayo… i-rewiring ayilingani, ingenzeka ngezigaba, kungathatha isikhathi eside kunezinsuku ezingama-90, awukwazi ukusho. Kepha okwangempela ngikhuthaza wonke umuntu ukuthi anamathele kukho.
Futhi uma omunye umuntu enezinguquko ezinqala ezifanayo afuna ukukhuluma ngazo, sicela uphendule. Ngingathanda ukubezwa ukuze babone ukuthi lokhu kuzoqhubeka kangakanani.
Okungcono noma ngabe ngizohlala ngingenisa njalo, ngiyazibona manje sengikhululekile eqenjini elikhulu. Ukuphela kwento engisayidinga ukuthola ukuthi ngiyilungisa kanjani ukungakwazi kwami ukuqhamuka nenkulumo encane… Angicabangi nje ngalolo hlobo lwento
Izinsuku ze-60 futhi ngivele ngizizwa ngingumuntu omusha
LINK - Usuku lwe-60: Okuhlangenwe nakho kwami kuze kube manje - Kukufanele ngokuphelele!
Isikhathi sokuqala ngabuza intombazane eminyakeni eyisithupha futhi ngiziqhenya kakhulu
Ngaqala lolu hambo amasonto angu-3 adlule
Ukuhluka Kokuhluma Vs. Ayikho okuhlangenwe nakho okwenzekayo
Kusuka ku-reddit - NoFap
Lokhu kungcono kakhulu engake ngakuzwa empilweni yami.
I-Dude, i-nofap inciphise kakhulu i-ADD yami.
Ngizokhuluma indaba yami. Ngiyethemba kunigqugquzela nonke
Iphendukela ku-Alphamale
Ilunga lesithangami
wanikeza lo mbiko:
Ukuhamba nge-Blu-ray
Ngasekuqaleni kwalobu busuku ngase ngiphelile
kusuka emcimbini wokukhathazeka komphakathi ngokuyeka izithombe ezingcolile
Ekugcineni uchofoze mina izolo! Kuthiwani uma? Futhi indaba ye-las las
XHUMANA NOKUTHUMELA - Ekugcineni uchofoze mina izolo! Kuthiwani uma? Futhi indaba yobusuku obudlule
Ungakhathaleli ibheji lami, angivamile ukuvakashela i-r / NoFap ngoba empeleni ngikuthole kuyisisusa kimi. Ngisanda kuphuma ku-18 day streak, ende kunazo zonke kuze kube manje. Uma unentshisekelo yokwazi indaba yami ungafunda isingeniso sami lapha ngakho-ke ngeke ngikubhore ngemininingwane. Bengifunda i-r / socialskills ukubona ukuthi yini engingayenza ukuthuthukisa ubungani ngoba anginamuntu engingambiza ngokuthi "umngane omuhle" noma mhlawumbe izindlela zokuhlangana nabantu abasha. Ngithole i-athikili futhi le ndoda encane engaphakathi kwekhanda lami ngemuva kokukhubeka isikhathi eside ebumnyameni ekugcineni ithole leyo switch switch.
Kulungile-ke lokhu kuhlobana kanjani ne-r / NoFap? KwakungoMsombuluko lapho nganginesifiso esikhulu sokuphuma nje. Ngaphandle kwebha, ukuphuma ukudansa, ukwenza noma yini futhi angikwazi ukulinda le mpelasonto ukuthi ivele. Ngokukhula kwami ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku bekuzoba nokubuka i-TV, ukufakela, imidlalo yevidiyo, ukufakela, ukufakela, imidlalo yevidiyo. Manje esikhundleni sokufisa ukukhula, nginesifiso sokwenza noma yini enye. Angikaze ngibe uhlobo lomfana (mhlawumbe ngenxa ye-fap!?), Bengithatha amakilasi okudansa ezinyangeni ze-6 ezedlule ngakho ngiyayithanda leyo ngxenye yokuphuma. Angikuthandi nje ukugcwala kangaka ngomsindo omkhulu womculo. Noma kunjalo, nginqume ukubheka le bha / indawo yokuphumula nginomqondo wokuthi “Kuthiwani uma?"
Manje angikaze ngiye kule ndawo ngaphambili futhi ngicabange ukuthi kuzoba ibha ejwayelekile enama-TV, umculo onomsindo omkhulu nemidlalo. HHAYI! Ibitholakala ngaphansi kwale ndawo yokudlela esezingeni eliphezulu ngakho ngehla lezi zitebhisi ezimnyama. Ngempela kwakumnyama, kwakukhona ikhandlela elilodwa kuphela ezansi kwezitebhisi nomnyango omnyama okhiyiwe. “Kulungile WTF? Bekufanele ngabe ivulwe ngo-6 ntambama? ” Ngibuyela emuva kubha yokudlela, nginezithandani ezindala ezipholile nethenda lebha. Ngiyambuza uma ivula phansi ezansi athi its a speakeasy, udinga iphasiwedi ukuze ungene. “Ima, ini? Sinomunye walabo kuleli dolobha? Uyayazi iphasi? ” Ku-chimes umfana osekupheleni kwebha, "phakathi kwamashidi". Ngiyabonga kakhulu! Ngakho ngiphinde ngehle futhi ngqongqoze emnyango. UTender uqhekeza umnyango kancane bese ngiyamnika ipasi. “Siyakwamukela ndoda! Hlala noma kuphi lapho uthanda khona. ”
Ngingena futhi yilokhu kubanda okukhulu, ukusungulwa okuphezulu ngomculo wesikhathi esidala okudlala nabantu abaxoxa. Ngakho-ke ngihamba ngiye endaweni yokucima ukoma nangaphambi kokuthi ngiyenze lapho intombazane eqenjini nabangane bayo (akukho lutho olukhethekile emnyangweni obukeka) ehleli kosofa abaseduze nebha ebuza ukuthi ngiphuzani. "Mhlawumbe nje iVodka 7" ngasho kakhulu ukuze uRobbie (Tender) angizwe. Ngiqhubeka nenkulumo encane nabo bese kufika isiphuzo sami. Ngibamba isihlalo eduze kweqembu lamantombazane bese ngiyazethula. Baphume ndawonye bengenela enye yamantombazane “iphathi ye-bachelorette”. Kuza izinto zokuxoxa nezincane zokuxoxa kepha beziwuhlobo oluyisicefe futhi sengiqedile isiphuzo sami. Ngalesi sikhathi abanye abantu abaningi bavele namantombazane amabili akhangayo komunye umbhede. Ngabona lo owayebalekela ukubukeka kwami futhi ebuyela kumngane wakhe nomngane wakhe bese engihlola, enikeza ukuvuma okuncane bese ebuyela engxoxweni yabo. “Kwenzeke ngempela lokho?” Ngacabanga ngathi, "Kuthiwani uma!?”Kwenzeni?
Ngiyasukuma, ngi-ode esinye isiphuzo ebha bese ngihamba ngiye kulamantombazane amabili. Ngibeka isiphuzo sami phezu kwetafula bese ngiyazethula, ngibe nesihlalo eduze kwalowo obalekile, bese ngiqala ukuba nengxoxo engakholeki nabo. Ngabe angikaze ngibe yisigidi seminyaka, ikakhulukazi ukube bengisakhula, ngenza engikwenzayo njengamanje. Bengizikhipha nowesifazane ababili abathandekayo njengoba besikhuluma ngeComic Con (eyodwa yazo iya minyaka yonke), Game of Thrones, Total Recall, REDDIT !, memes eziningi, nanoma yini enye nerdy ongayicabanga. Ngigcina ngokuchitha ubusuku bonke ngikhuluma nabo, okuluhlobo oluncelayo ngoba bekukhona omunye umbhangqwana ogqoke kahle njengabo-1930 engangifuna ukukhuluma nawo. Yebo, bekumunca ukuthi bengikhuluma namantombazane amabili amangalisayo ubusuku bonke. WTF! Ngabe lokhu kulula ngempela? Kuthiwani uma!? Ikona?
I-TL: DR Ngizoqhubeka nohambo lwami ukufinyelela lezo zinsuku ze-90 zeNoFap kepha manje sengizophuma ngiye emhlabeni ne Kuthiwani uma? ukucabanga. Izikhathi eziningi sicabanga ukuthi, "Uma engenqaba?" “Uma bengangehlulela futhi bengizonda?” "Uma ngenza isilima?". Yebo kahle, “Uma-ke kunguye?” “Kuthiwani uma ungumuntu opholile kunabo bonke abake bahlangana nabo?” “Kuthiwani uma uyimpilo yephathi?”. Ake ngikutshele kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kobusuku bokugcina, ubungozi bokuzenza isilima noma ukwaliwa ngumuntu ongamazi ngokungahleliwe ongeke uphinde umbone, kuyinto encane kakhulu emvuzweni ongaba khona.
Iyini inqwaba yobufakazi bakho obuphoqelelayo ye-nofap?
Iyini inqwaba yobufakazi bakho obuphoqelelayo ye-nofap?
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NoFap uletha wonke amantombazane egcekeni!
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Ubufakazi bokuthi uNofap wehlisa ukukhathazeka kwakho komphakathi.
Ubufakazi bokuthi uNofap wehlisa ukukhathazeka kwakho komphakathi.
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