I-HOCD ehlobene nocansi ingase ifake isimiso sayo sokwelashwa
Izinkathazo ezingathandeki ukuthi umuntu ube ngumlingani-nakuba yena (yena) uye waqondana iminyaka ngokungangabazi-bathole ilebuli i-HOCD, ukungezwani kobulili obunzima-okucindezelayo. Ukukhathazeka okungcono kakhulu kuzobizwa ngokuthi ukuziphatha ngokocansi okuphazamiseka okukhulu-okucindezelayo ngoba baphinde bahlasele abantu abathandana nabasolwa ngokuzumayo uma beqondile.
Abahlengikazi abaphatha i-HOCD, njenge I-Steve Seay PhD, kuvame ukuphakamisa ukwelashwa okujwayelekile kwe-OCD: Ukuvikelwa Kokuvezwa Kwezifo Nezimpendulo. “Ukuvezwa” kubhekisa ezimweni zokungena ngokuzithandela okungenzeka zidale ukucindezelwa, futhi "ukuvimbela ukuphendula" kusho ukuvimbela ngenhloso amasiko akho okubhekana nezinkinga. Isibonelo: ukumelana nesifiso sokugeza izandla ngokucindezela ezimweni ezithile.
Kodwa isizathu sesayensi ukuthi ukwelashwa kokudambisa ngokuvamile kusiza abanye izinhlobo ze-OCD yisona sizathu sokuthi singabuyela esimweni se-HOCD ehlobene nocansi.
Abanye ochwepheshe bacabanga nge-OCD njenge ukwabelana ngezinto ezibalulekile zokulutha ukuziphatha ngenxa ye indima umvuzo idlala. Isiguli se-OCD siqhubeka senza amasiko akhe ngoba senza ama-neurochemicals ahambisana nomvuzo. Ukukhululeka kuzwa kuhle.
Lapho ophethwe i-OCD ephika njalo lo mklomelo we-neurochemical ("ukuvimbela ukuphendula"), izimbangela zakhe ziphelelwa amandla kancane kancane. Kungani? Azisaholeli emizweni ezuzisayo. Azikho izandla ezigezwayo. Akukho ukukhululeka. Awukho umvuzo. Ekugcineni ubuchopho buthi, "Meh… akusizi ngalutho ukwenza ukuthi kusebenze leyo nsimbi yomgudu ngoba ngeke ngithole umklomelo wezinzwa."
Isimiso esifanayo sisebenza ekubuyiseleni umlutha. Zithibe ekuziphatheni "okunomvuzo" isikhathi esanele, futhi (ngemuva kwesikhathi sokungakhululeki okukhulu kokuhoxa) ekugcineni ubuchopho buyayeka ukwenza kusebenze amasekethe obuchopho ahlobene nempindiselo efanayo. Lokhu kuba lula njengoba wonke umlaza wezinguquko zobuchopho obuhlobene nokulutha ubuyela emuva.
Izinhlobo ezimbili ze-HOCD
Ngamafuphi, umehluko phakathi kwe-HOCD ne-HOCD ehlobene nocansi yilokhu:
- OCT + ukwesaba ubungqingili (noma umcimbi) = i-HOCD
- Iminyaka yokusebenzisa i-porn + ukucindezeleka mayelana nokukhula kwegciwane lesandulela ngculazi / ngokobulili ngokobulili = i-HOCD ehlobene nezocansi
Izenzakalo ezingahleliwe empilweni, njengamazwana angacabangi ngontanga ezikhathini ezisengozini, ingabangela abanye abantu ukuba baqale ukubuza ukuziphatha kwabo ngokocansi ngokucindezela (HOCD).
Kodwa-ke, namuhla umfutho ovelayo we-HOCD ukukhathazeka ngokweqile, okushiya ubuchopho bungasabeli ekuzijabuliseni kwansuku zonke futhi ngaleyo ndlela kulangazelele ukuzwa. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile eziphakeme zenza kube lula ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile okungapheli. Uma kuqhathaniswa ne-erotica yesikhathi esidlule ngakho kushukumisa ukuthi, kwabanye abasebenzisi, iveza ukuguqulwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha. Akumangalisi. Ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya kocansi okungapheli, i-porn yanamuhla ye-Intanethi ivuselela uhlelo lokuvuza lobuchopho lazo zonke izinto ezikhona ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo, okwengeza ukwakheka kwememori (wiring):
- Imizwelo enamandla, njengokumangala, ukwesaba, ukuzonda, ukukhathazeka,
- Novelty,
- Ukufuna nokucwaninga, Futhi
- Noma yini lokho iphula ukulindela, kuhlanganise Ingozi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi labo abahlakulela i-HOCD bangaba nobuchopho obuyipulasitiki ikakhulukazi ngasizathu simbe. Ngokuya nge- Ukutadisha kwaseChina, labo abanokuthambekela kwe-OCD ngaphambi kokuba bavelele kwi-Inthanethi babhekene nobungozi bokudakwa.
Kunoma ikuphi, ubuchopho bomlutha wezocansi buyakhula kunzima kakhulu ekujabuliseni okujwayelekile ngisho njengoba kwenzeka I-hyper-esebenzayo ukuze ukhethe amakholi. Nangu umfana echaza ukuqhubeka okuvamile, okuvame ukubikwa yilabo abangena kwi-HOCD ehlobene nezocansi:
I-29 y / o neminyaka engu-17 ye-MO (kuya ku-softcore kanye nomcabango) kanye neminyaka eyi-12 yokushaya indlwabu, ikhuphukela ocansini olwedlulele / lwe-fetish. Ngaqala ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo ebulilini bangempela. Ukwakhiwa nokukhululwa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwaqina kakhulu kunokobulili. I-Porn inikeza ukuhluka okungenamkhawulo. Ngingakhetha engifuna ukukubona okwamanje. Ukujula kwami okwephuzile ngesikhathi socansi kwaba kubi kakhulu kangangokuba kwesinye isikhathi bengingakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm nhlobo. Lokhu kubulale isifiso sami sokugcina sokuya ocansini.
Isimo esivamile socansi
Uma lesi sezingeni sokungeniswa kwemisebenzi sesifakiwe, isiteji sisethelwe i-HOCD ehlobene nezocansi. Ukungahambisani nocansi okungahambisani nokulindela, kukhishwa ama-dopamine amaningi kanye ne-norepinephrin kunezinhlobo zangaphambili ze-porn, futhi kunikeza ukukhakha okungaphezulu okuvutha isiphazamiso sesisindo esibi (umlutha). Umsebenzisi angase aqale ukubuza ukuthi kungani angasuka ekukhuliseni i-porn ne-transsexual / gay action kodwa angakhangwa nabalingani bangempela bobulili abavusa esikhathini esidlule.
Kodwa-ke, ubuchopho bakhe buqala ukufaka ucansi ngokuzenzekelayo kulo mdlalo, ukuvuselela uhlobo-esimweni sobuchwepheshe besimo socansi. Njengoba kuchaziwe ku-an okuthunyelwe kwangaphambilini, ezocansi zingalungiswa kunoma yini, noma iphunga lokufa, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi abasebenzisi abaningi be-porn banamuhla babika ukuthi I-porn iyakuthanda i-morph yonke indawo njengoba impendulo yabo yenjabulo iyancipha.
Manje, umsebenzisi wethu angathola ukuthi uyakwazi kuphela umvuthwandaba kuhlobo lwakhe lwakamuva (futhi ngenxa yalokho oluvuselela kakhulu). Uma kungukuthi enye ayibheka njengengahambelani nesimo sakhe sobulili esiyisisekelo, inani lokwethuka likhulu… futhi likhipha amakhemikhali ekhemikhali akhiqiza ukukhathazeka / ukukhathazeka. Ukuvuka kwakhe kukhuliswa, ngokwengxenye, yingcindezi yakhe. Abafana abathathu bachaza ulwazi lwabo:
Umfana wokuqala: Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngiphenduka isitabane. I-HOCD yami yayiqine kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi, ngangicabanga ukuthatha i-dive endaweni ephakeme eseduzane. Ngazizwa ngicindezeleke kakhulu. Ngangazi ukuthi ngithanda amantombazane futhi angikwazi ukuthanda omunye umuntu, kepha kungani ngangine-ED? Kungani ngidinga izinto ezi-transsexual / gay ukuze zingivuse ekuvukeni?
Umfana wesibili: Into esabisayo ukuthi bengilokhu ngibona abesifazane bekhanga ngobuhlanya, nabesilisa noma umbono wamadoda angathandani nabesilisa nabesifazane. Njengendoda eyisitabane enobudlelwano obuhle namanye amadoda kusukela esikoleni esiphakeme, lolu hlobo lokuxaka. Noma ngibona izintokazi “ezimbi” zihamba emgwaqweni, angikwazi ukuzibamba ngicabanga ukuthi bekungaba njani ukulala nabo ngobuhlanya khona lapho. Ingabe izoma? Kuyabuyiselwa emuva?
Umfana wesithathu: Izinsuku ezimbili zokuqala nganginokukhathazeka okukhulu, cishe ngifuna ukuzibulala ngoba ngilahlekelwe yikho konke ukukhanga kunoma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane. Le micabango ingenza ngicabange ukuthi ngingungqingili, ingenze ngibuze ukuthi ngenzani, ngithini, kungigulisa. Angikwazi ukudla. Ngicabanga imicabango engangeneki… engenza ngizizwe sengathi ngingungqingili, kanti ngiyazi ukuthi angisiye.
Ukulangazelela kwabasebenzisi ukuqonda ukuthi inkanuko yabo yezocansi ishintshile ngokuzumayo kungaholela ekuhloleni okungapheli, kokucindezelwa neminye imikhuba yokuqinisekisa. Njengezinye izinhlobo ze-OCD (kufaka phakathi i-HOCD engeyona eyezocansi), ukuhlolwa nokuseshwa kokuqinisekiswa kunikeza ukukhululeka kwesikhashana. "Ukuhlolwa" ngakunye kuqinisa ukuvusa okungafuneki — kungaba ngokukhululeka okuzuzisayo, noma ukufaka umfutho wokuhlupheka uma isivivinyo sihluleka. Ngale ndlela, baqinisa izimbangela eziyinkinga.
Yini okwenziwa ngumelaphi?
Gcina ukhumbule ukuthi izidakamizwa zokuziphatha nokucindezelwa kuqhubeka umvuzo. Siyazi kusukela ekulawuleni izidakamizwa ukuthi izidakamizwa ziphulukisa kancane kancane ngoba lezo zibusiso azisekho ngenxa yokuzilahla. Kancane kancane, ubuchopho buthaka izindlela ezihlobene.
I-therapist ingakwazi ukusiza kakhulu Ukuhlola ngokunembile imivuzo ngemuva kwe-HOCD yeklayenti elithile. Uma umvuzo wakhe oshukumisayo ngokuyinhloko ukukhululeka "ekuhlolweni" noma ekumemezeleni kaninginingi ukuma kwakhe kushintshile (ukuthola ukukhululeka kwesikhashana kokuqiniseka), khona-ke ukuvimbela ukuvezwa nokuphendula (akusekho ukuhlolwa noma izimemezelo ezikhuthazwa ukukhathazeka) kungenza iqhinga.
Endabeni ye-HOCD ehlobene nocansi, noma kunjalo, imivuzo yokulutha umlutha ingafaka ingxenye yengonyama yenselelo yekhasimende. Kungaba nemivuzo emibili yokulutha kule nhlanganisela: ukwesaba nokuvuka kocansi.
Ukwesaba njengomvuzo
Ukucindezeleka kungase kungabonakali kuvuza kodwa ukwesaba kusebenze umjikelezo wesifunda yobuchopho kwabanye abantu. Cabanga ama-coasters nama-movie ama-horror. Esikhathini sobuchopho sifuna ukuzwa (ngenxa yobuchopho ushintsho olulethwa ukuguqulwa okungapheli / umlutha), ukuvuselelwa okubangelwa ukwesaba kungabhalisa njengokucindezela ngokukhethekile. Ihlanganisa uphahla lwe-dopamine ne-norepinephrine (uhlobo lwe-adrenaline).
Kepha kunokuningi okwenzekayo ezingeni lezinto eziphilayo. I-cortisol ye-neurochemical stress ingakhulisa nemiphumela ezuzisayo nge okubangela ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine. Ekugcineni, izinguquko zobuchopho zingenza umuntu angaziphenduleli ezimpikeni ezicindezelayo. Ucwaningo luqinisekisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokweqile kanye nezidakamizwa zokuhlukunyezwa kokubili ukwandisa amandla okuhlobene (ukulimala) endleleni yobuchopho. Abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi i-cortisol idlala indima ebalulekile izibalo zokuziphatha ezihlobene nomvuzo.
Isimo sifana ne-BDSM, lapho ubuhlungu bomzimba bukhulisa khona ukuzwelana komuntu ngokocansi ngenxa yemiphumela ebuchosheni. Kwabagulayo be-HOCD, ukuvusa nokwesaba kufinyelela ekugcineni okufanayo. Ngezansi: Naphezu kokungakhululeki okukhulu ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba, ukuvusa umfutho okwedlulele kungenza isimilo sibe nzima kakhulu ukusiyeka (umlutha).
Ingqondo yomuntu ohlupheka nge-HOCD ifunde ukuthola ingxenye yomvuzo wayo ekucindezelekeni kwayo. Okubi nakakhulu, lapho ogulayo ezama ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ukukhathazeka kwakhe kuzokwenyuka ngokwemvelo isikhathi eside. Ukuhoxa kukhulisa ukukhathazeka ku konke ukuphulukisa izidakamizwa, ukuvuselela izifiso ezinamandla ukuvuselela okungafani neze ngaphandle kokukhathazeka kwe-HOCD.
Kwabanenkinga ye-HOCD lokhu kwanda okungalindeleka kokukhathazeka kuvame ukucisha ama-spikes ashubile (ukwethuka mayelana nokuma) kanye "nokuhlola" okuxakile, kuvame ukubabuyisela ekuluthekeni. Ngempela, abanye babika ukuthi ukwesaba kwabo kwe-HOCD kwakungeyona into encane baze bayeke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Njengoba ubuchopho obuyimilutha bubhekisa "ukulungiswa" okuqinile kunakho konke ongakucabanga: ukwethuka + ukuhlola + ukuvusa ucansi ezintweni ezihlobene ne-HOCD, imizwa eqondile ibonakala ngathi iyahwamuka.
Ukuvuka ngokocansi njengomvuzo
Umlutha wezocansi ze-Intanethi umlutha we-orgasm-aid. Ukuvuswa kocansi kungumvuzo wemvelo onamandla kunawo wonke ongakhiqizwa ubuchopho. Kodwa-ke ukuvuswa kokungajwayelekile kwe-porn (isigcawu ngasinye sinikeza okunye ukushaya kwama-neurochemicals ashukumisayo) kungakhipha umvuzo onamandla ngokumangazayo. Ubulili, noma i-orgasm, bungahle buqine njengoba umlutha wezocansi uqhubeka futhi uphendula izinjabulo zansuku zonke ziyancipha. Abanye abasebenzisi bagcina bexakeke kwi-buzz ye-neurochemical kusuka ekuhleleni kuya ku-porn yenoveli amahora, ukuhlehlisa ngenhloso, noma ukugwema, uvuthondaba.
Ubuchopho buguquke ukucabanga ukuthi umthombo wokuvusa okukhulu kwezocansi yithuba elingaba khona lokukhulelwa. Uma umuntu evuka ngento ekhipha i-dopamine ephezulu ne-norepinephrine, ubuchopho buzoyifaka ngentambo ngokuzenzakalela "njengokubalulekile." Akukhathalekile uma kungahambisani nobulili bakhe obuzalwe nabo-ngoba ubuchopho bukala ubungcweti ngokusho kwamazinga omvuzo wesigaba sokuqalisa ukusebenza, hhayi ukuma. (Kwenzeka lokhu nje ukuthi ebuchosheni obuphendula ngokujwayelekile ebumnandini, izikhuthazi ezifanele ukuma komuntu ngokuvamile zikhiqiza okwanelisa kakhulu imizwa.)
Akumangalisi ukuthi izindlela zobuchopho ezizwakalayo eziphathelene nobulili obukhulu zihlukile ezizindeni ezingathandeki (ngisho nabangqingili). Singakwazi ukukhipha lokhu ngokukhululeka, kodwa hhayi okokuqala. Lokhu kuboniswe ocwaningweni, njengoba kulandiswa UJames G. Pfaus et al:
I-Lalumière ne-Quinsey (I-1998) ibike ukuvuswa komzimba okwenziwe ngokomzimba kubantu abathandana nabo ngokobulili emfanekisweni wesifazane okhangayo, ongenasikhathi esiyingqayizivele ihlanganiswe nevidiyo ebonisa ukusebenzisana okukhulu kocansi. Iqembu elilawulayo elithola ukufinyelela kwesithombe yedwa (ngaphandle kwevidiyo) libonisa ukujwayela [kunalokho]. (ugcizelelwe wengezwe)
Njengoba kuchaziwe ngenhla, izinkomba zocansi ezihlobene nocansi ezihlobene nocansi zikhulu kakhulu ngoba zikhuliswa yimiphumela yokwesaba neurochemical.
Ukwelapha okuvezwayo kubuyela emuva lapho kutholakala umlutha wezocansi
Ngomlutha wezocansi we-Intanethi usebenzisa ukwelashwa okujwayelekile kwe-HOCD, ukuvezwa kwabesilisa abathandana nabangqingili akubheki umthombo wesimo sakhe se-HOCD-esingeyona eyabantu noma ubulili nabantu, kepha kunamaphikseli. Kodwa-ke uma ezama ukwelashwa ngokuchayeka nge-gay porn, uzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okuyikho okuluthayo. Umuntu akakwazi ukudala umlutha ajwayele ngokunikeza zona kanye izinkomba abambeke kuzo!
Yingakho ukwelashwa kokuchayeka kungaba yiphutha kubantu abazama ukukhipha i-HOCD ehlobene nocansi. Kufana nokuphuza kakhulu utshwala ngombono wokuthi uzobhoreka ngokuphuza, noma umuntu ogembulayo abeke ukubheja okuningi aze ajwayele. Kumlutha, ukusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo kuqinisa kuphela ukuluthwa kobuchopho ebuchosheni. Ukwelashwa kokuveza ngaleyo ndlela kungaletha umyalezo oxubile ongakhiqizi kumuntu ophethwe yizilonda nge-porn esikhundleni sokukhuthaza isimo esisebenzisekayo (ukujwayela).
Ngakho uqala kuphi? Izidakamizwa ezingcolile zidinga ukuqeda ukusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi ngaphezu kwakho konke. Njengoba ubuchopho babo babuyela ekulinganiseni abaningi bayaqaphela nokuthi ukudideka kwamagama okuziphatha ngokobulili kulahlekelwa amandla abo.
Uma imilutha ye-porn ene-HOCD izama ukusebenzisa izindlela ezihlobene ngenhloso yokwelapha esikhundleni sokuzigwema kuzo ziqinisa izindlela zabo zokuziphatha-umlutha. Lokhu Ukubamba 22. Umlutha (futhi mhlawumbe umelaphi wakhe) angagcina ngokungeyikho ukuthi impendulo yakhe ephikelelayo, enamandla ezinkomba eziyinkinga akuyona i-HOCD, kepha kunalokho "ubufakazi" bokuthi inkanuko yakhe yezocansi iguquke ngendlela emangalisayo.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukulutha umlutha kuveza isithiyo ekwelashweni okujwayelekile kwe-OCD Exposure & Response Prevention. Noma umlutha wezocansi eyeka ukufuna umvuzo we impumuzo (kusuka ekuhlolweni noma ekuhlaziyweni), ukuvezwa kocansi kusam "vuza "ngokumenza ukuthi asebenze izindlela zokulutha izidakamizwa.
Ini enza Usizo?
Asibona abahlinzeki. Kodwa-ke, sifundile imibiko yokuzimela ngabaningi babasebenzisi be-porn abasebenzisa i-Internet abazichaza ngokuthi ukuhlupheka / ukubuyiswa kusuka ku-HOCD (isampula self-umbiko). Sizofingqa ulwazi lwabo uma kwenzeka luvela.
Amantombazane abika ukuthi ukuyeka umvuzo we-porn inthanethi futhi ukuyeka okwesikhashana umvuzo wezenzo zocansi (ngaphandle kokukhululeka, ubulili bomlingani othandekayo) bobabili basiza ukuxazulula i-HOCD yabo. Njengoba beyeka ukuqinisa umvuzo wabo oyinhloko (ukusetshenziswa kocansi), ubuchopho babo kancane kancane babheka nxazonke, futhi bathande, eminye imivuzo yezocansi. Lokhu kungathatha izinyanga. Ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwalaba bantu, abelaphi bangafuna ukumema amaklayenti ukuthi anqamule kwi-porn ye-Intanethi izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokwethula ukwelashwa kokuvezwa (uma kwenzeka).
Ekuqaleni, amantombazane angase angaphenduli ngokujwayelekile kubalingani, nakuba uthando olukhululekile luyilo epholile (mhlawumbe ngoba ikhulula i-oxytocin). Futhi, kuze kube yilapho ukuhoxiswa komlutha okugqamile kunqamukile, nabo bavame ukuzwa ama-spikes amaHOCD amaningi.
Labo ababuyayo babika ukuthi uma bengamukela imicabango ye-HOCD engathandeki ngaphandle kokucindezeleka, bayayekela ukuqiniswa kokwesaba kwe-neurochemical. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bakuthola kuwusizo ukufunda ukuphila ngokungaqiniseki ngokuthambekela kwabo kwezocansi nokugwema konke ukuhlolwa nemizamo yokuthola “iqiniso.” Ngaleyo ndlela futhi bayamisa ukuqiniswa okuvuzayo kokukhululeka okudlulayo kanye "nokuqiniseka."
Ngamanye amazwi, umhlushwa we-HOCD udinga ukusebenza ekumisekeni ezintathu imikhuba evuzayo: ukusetshenziswa kwe-intanethi ye-intanethi, ukufuna usizo nokucindezeleka.
Umbiko womuntu oyedwa
Umbiko wale ndoda uyajabulisa ngoba uqale ngokwenza buthakathaka umvuzo we-porn, kepha uthole ukuthi ubengazange abhekane nemivuzo yokwesaba nokukhululeka (ehlola).
Manje senginezinyanga ezingaphezu kwezingu-3 ngaphandle kocansi, kodwa ngase ngigxile ekuhloleni njalo amabhodi emilayezo ehlukahlukene ye-HOCD. Bengichitha amahora nsuku zonke kulawo masayithi, kwesinye isikhathi ngiwahlola kaningi kangangehora: emsebenzini, ngenkathi ngishayela, ngilele embhedeni ebusuku, njll. Njll. Njll. Kubi ngempela 'ukuziphatha kokuhlola.' Ingqondo yami yayiklonyeliswa lapho ngifunda okuthile okungiqinisekisayo, futhi kwakungasha futhi kudinwe lapho ngifunda okuthile okwakungikhathaza.
Bengikhulise nokubheka kwami kwamanye amabhodi emiyalezo, kufaka phakathi amabhodi ezitabane nabesilisa nabesifazane. Lokhu kuqhubekisela phambili ukuvunguza. Ngangingalali kakhulu ngenxa yakho konke ukukhathazeka kwami, futhi ngangingekho ngempela empilweni yami. Ngangikula mabhodi noma ngikhathazeka ngalokho engikufunda kuwo. Njalo. Ubudlelwano bami babunzima. Kwesinye isikhathi, ngedwa ebusuku, ngangiya kuma-binges wehora lama-2-3 we-HOCD ehlola amabhodi emiyalezo ye-inthanethi, bese ngizizwa kabi ngemuva kwalokho.
Nganquma ukuthi ngizoyeka. Umlingani wami ufanelwe umuntu okhona, ongaphazamiseki ngokuphelele. Kusukela lapho, ngibe nesikhathi esisodwa semizuzu engu-15, ngibheka izimpendulo. Kuye kwadingeka ngilwe kanzima ukumelana nesilingo, kepha umphumela ngukuthi ngizizwa ngincono KAKHULU.
Kuyamangalisa impela. I-HOCD yami yehle kakhulu manje njengoba ngingasayiniseli ubuchopho bami njalo "LE micabango ye-HOCD IBALULEKILE" ngokuya emabhodini nokuzibandakanya ekuhloleni nasekuqinisekiseni. Bengingakafundi incwadi ezinyangeni, kepha manje sengikwesibili kusukela ngashiya amabhodi. Isikhathi sami sokuphumula ebusuku manje ngisichitha nentombi yami noma ngifunda emlilweni. Ngilele kangcono kakhulu.
Yebo, ngisathola i-spike ngezikhathi ezithile lapho ngibona umfana okhangayo. Futhi-ke kusuka ekuhloleni ngemicabango ngaye. Kepha kutholakele ukuthi kube kuncane kakhulu, futhi lowo mcabango uphela ngokushesha okukhulu.
Manje ngicabanga ukuthi i-HOCD yami ingase ibe ngenxa yokuthi lapho ekugcineni ngidlulela i-PMO ngemva kweminyaka neminyaka yayo, ngilahlekelwa ukuheha kwami kwabesifazane bangempela. Ngaphandle kwabesifazane nabesilisa baqala ukubheka okufanayo kimi, futhi i-BAM ikhathazeka mayelana nokushaywa gay.
Indlela yokwelapha engavezi obala kaSchwartz
Kukhona uhlelo olukhona lokwelapha lokwelapha i-OCD olungakhuthazi ukuvezwa. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uJeffrey Schwartz wakuthuthukisa. (Funda incazelo kuthathwe kwaDoidge Ubuchopho Obushintshayo.)
U-Schwartz ufundisa iziguli zakhe ukuthi i-neuroplasticity isebenza kanjani ngakho-ke bayaqonda ukuthi ukuphoqelelwa kwabo kuvela kokungafuneki, nokusebenza ngokweqile kobuchopho (hhayi ngokungafani nokulutha). Ube esechaza ukuthi izintambo zobuchopho zingaguqulwa ngomzamo oqondile.
Ngandlela thile, kuphambene kakhulu nokwelashwa kokuchayeka. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukujwayela ngokuchayeka, omunye uzama ukubuyisela ubuchopho ngokuguqula amagiya ngokushesha lapho kuvela umkhondo ohlobene. USchwartz uphakamisa ukushintshela emsebenzini owakhekile ngaphambili.
Inhloso akukhona ukugwema ukungaphatheki kahle ngokufuna ukukhululeka, kepha kunalokho ukwenza kusebenze izindlela zobuchopho ezingahlobene esikhundleni sezinenkinga ukuze ubuchopho bunqamuke “kumvuzo” wayo wangaphambili, futhi mhlawumbe uze uze uhlanganise ukukhathazeka nomsebenzi okhiqizayo.
Njengengxenye, uchwepheshe we-HOCD uFred Penzel naye udangalisa ukwelashwa kokudonswa kwezidakamizwa ezingcolile, ngaphandle kokuthi uncoma ukwelashwa kokuVikela nokuPhendula ezimweni zakudala ze-HOCD.
Sethemba, abacwaningi maduzane bazonquma ukuthi iziphi izivumelwano ezisebenza kangcono kunabo abaphikisana ne-HOCD. Abaningi kulabo abathintekayo bafuna ukuxazulula ukukhathazeka kwabo. Ngempela, kuzo zonke izilonda eziphuthumayo ezibuyiselwayo ezivakashelayo site yethu, ama-HOCD amantombazane ahlupheka kakhulu futhi aphindaphinda alula.
Njengamanje, abaningi banqikaza ukufuna usizo ngokwesaba ukuthi abahlengikazi abanomqondo omuhle bayobatshela ukuthi bangabantu abathandanayo (noma baqonde) uma beyazi ukuthi abangekho.
Abagulayo be-HOCD abahlobene nezocansi ngokuvamile abazi ukuthi bangayisebenzisa kanjani i-rewire ngoba ukwelashwa okujwayelekile akusebenzi, futhi izixazululo ezithembisa kakhulu zizizwa ziphikisana kakhulu (kufanele bahambe kude kusuka ekukhululekeni, ekuhlaziyweni, nasekuvukeni kocansi okwesikhashana). Iningi ngeke likuthole ngaphandle kosizo lochwepheshe olunolwazi. Ukuze bathuthuke, bangadinga ukuthola umelaphi owazi kahle kokubili ukuluthwa kanye nendima yokuziyeka ekukhipheni ubuchopho "emivuzweni" engadingeki.
Ukwesekwa kwemibandela yalesi sihloko:
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokubika okutholakele okuhambisana nokwanda kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezelelana), ukujwayela i-porn, kanye nezimpawu zokuhoxa
- Ukulutha kobulili / ucansi? Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-39 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikeza ukusekela okuqinile ngesimodeli sokulutha kwezidakamizwa njengoba iziphumo zabo zibuyisa ukutholakala kwezinzwa ezibikiwe ezifundweni zokulutha izidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-16 zakamuva nezincazelo ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
IMIBUZO NGOKWESIFUNDO
Sula ukubheja kuqala, bese ufuna ukwelashwa kokudinga uma kudingeka
Ngifikile kule sayithi naku-YBOP cishe ngonyaka odlule ngifuna izimpendulo. I-PMO beyiyindlela yokuphila yansuku zonke iminyaka eminingi, iminyaka engu-13 engingayisho. Mina, njengangathi ngawe kuleli thuba, ngabe usususwe kakhulu ezinhlotsheni ezivamile zobulili ezingcolile. Ukufuna iveli noma izinto ezivusa amadlingozi kwaba yinto evamile ngaphandle kwami ekuzileni kahle. Angikaze ngibe nokuphila okuhle kobulili nabesifazane empilweni yangempela, ngibhekene no-ED obumnene, ngaya kuma-Urologists ukuthola izimpendulo, ngathola amaphilisi amancane aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, njll. Ukuthembela ekamelweni kwakuyinkinga. Ngangizozama ukuguqula isithombe esisekhanda lami le-porn scene ukuze ngihambe ngenkathi nginezocansi zangempela. Kwabe sekufika inkinga ye-HOCD.
Umehluko endabeni yami ngukuthi angizange ngifinyelele ezweni lezinsizwa ze-gay / transexual kodwa ngizosho ukuthi ukuthanda kwami ngokobulili kushintshile, ngangidinga imicabango engaziwa futhi engesabekayo yokuba ne-orgasm. I-HOCD igijime lapho ngiseholidini. Ngesikhathi nginecala lokushaya indlwabu, imicabango engavamile yayingasebenzi futhi umcabango ongobucayi, owawunomdlavuza we-gay wagijima ekhanda lami futhi wagcina ene-orgasm ebuthakathaka. Angiqiniseki ukuthi ukushaqeka konke lokhu kwakuyisicala kodwa ngingakutshela ukuthi besaba isihogo kimi. Kwakungaze kube yinto engangiyicabange nganoma yisiphi isaneliseka socansi, futhi ngangingu-33 ngaleso sikhathi.
Ngichitha konke okuphumayo kweholide ukuhlaziya konke ukuphendula kwami kubantu, amadoda nabesifazane. Ngacabanga ukuthi izizwa zami zizwa kanjani futhi zihloliwe futhi zihloliwe, futhi zihloliwe. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngabe ngabe nginguGay na ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwami kwabesifazane kwakuxutshwe kahle kakhulu kwasusa i-HOCD ngaphezulu. Lokhu kuhoxiswa kwaphela isikhathi sezinyanga ezimbili ezinhle kuze ngifunde usizo lochwepheshe.
Ukulandela umkhondo kancane, ngithole i-YBOP ngemuva kwezinyanga ngicwaninge konke nge-google okuhlobene ne-HOCD, namasayithi abhekene nokuthi "ungazi kanjani ukuthi uqondile noma uyisitabane." Okuqukethwe ku-YBOP kwaba nengqondo kimi futhi kwakubukeka kakhulu. Abantu abaningi kulezi zinkundla bathi i-HOCD yabo yelashwe ngaphandle kwe-PMO. Ngizamile kunjalo. I-BTW- Nganginobudlelwano futhi namanje ngisasebudlelwaneni ngakho ngalesi sikhathi, ngangiya ocansini kepha ngingenayo i-PMO. Lokho engikufundile ukuthi i-ED yami ihambile. Ubulili bebungasekho ukwakheka kwezithombe zengqondo engqondweni yami kepha isenzo esabiwe nomuntu ophambi kwami. I-HOCD ayizange isuke kimi. Ukubuza kwakukubi kakhulu kunakuqala.
Yilapho ngifuna ukukhuluma khona ngemithi yami ngoba ihlobene ne-HOCD yendabuko ne-HOCD ehlobene nezocansi. Ngizokushiya wenze izinqumo zakho ngokususelwa kuma-akhawunti wami ngamunye. Ngithole umelaphi, oyingcweti ku-OCD, empeleni izihloko zakhe ezimbalwa kushiwo ku-YBOP. Ungene ekwelashweni kokuphendula nokuchayeka kanye nami. Kulabo kini abangazi, le ndlela yokwelashwa ifaka ukuveza isiguli ezintweni abazesabayo ngokulandelana, kuqala ngezinto ezikwenza wesabe kancane ukuphela ngezinto ezikwesabisa ngempela. Umqondo wokuba, uma ufuna ukucabanga ngokuncane, cabanga ngakho ngaphezulu. Ukumelana nemicabango emibi kubenza babuyele emuva kuwe. Ngokuvumelana nemicabango, futhi uziveze kuyo, uzizwa ukhululekile kuyo. Kufana nokubona i-movie esabisayo okokuqala ngqa. Ekuqaleni uyashaqeka, kepha uma uyibona izikhathi eziyi-10, ngeke kusabeka lokho. Siqale ngokwenza uhlu lwezinto ezizongikhathaza sazibeka esikalini esisodwa kuya kweziyishumi, eziyishumi ezesabeka kakhulu. Siqale ngokufunda izindaba, izindaba zokufunda ezingathathwa njengezitabane, silalele ukuqoshwa okuphakamisa ukuthi ngingaba yisitabane. Lapho ukwelashwa kuqhubeka, kwakudingeka ngivumelane nomcabango wokuthi ngingaba yisitabane. Kwakuyisiphakamiso esesabeka kakhulu. Ekugcineni, okokusebenza kwakhuphukela enombolweni yami eyi-10, kepha ngesikhathi ngifika kulelo zinga, ngase ngilungele kangcono. I-BTW- inombolo yami ye-10 ibibuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zobulili, ngokwesaba ukuthi ngingase ngizwe okuthile. Angikaze ngivunyelwe kodwa "ukuhlola" ukuphendula kwami. Bekufanele ngivele "ngibe" nezinto ezishaqisayo, ngivumele nami ukuthi ngikhathazeke ngize ngibone ukuthi akukho lutho olukufanelekayo. Lapho ngenza umsebenzi wami wesikole ngokwengeziwe, lokho okuqukethwe kwakuzongithinta kancane. Ekugcineni, bengingathi "yebo, ngingaba yisitabane, kodwa ubani onendaba." Uyabona ekugcineni, kungukubuza kanye nesidingo sokuthola impendulo eqondile okungithusile. Ingabe ngiyisitabane ngempela? Angicabangi kanjalo kepha angisacabangi ngakho. Angisabheki kakhulu. Ngisathola imicabango engathandeki ngezikhathi ezithile, kepha ngiyavumelana nayo futhi igudluza ukugxila kwami ngokushesha. Akusangithinti ngendlela okwangenza ngayo, yize imibuzo ingavele ivele ekhanda lami. Imibuzo yehla kakhulu njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka.
Kuzo zonke, ngiyavuma ukuthi ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyisihluthulelo ngaphambi kokuqala noma yikuphi ukwelashwa kwalolu hlobo. I-Porn yangifaka kulolu hlu kodwa ukwelapha kwangiphumelela. Angazi uma le thrapi izosebenza uma ungumsebenzisi oye wahamba ezweni lezinsizi zocansi noma i-pornsexual sex. Ngingasho ukuthi ngiyeke kuqala bese ngibona ukuthi ume kuphi ne-HOCD ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa. Lokho engiye ngafunda kumhlengikazi wami wukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zabantu abathandana nabesifazane ababuka izithombe eziqondile futhi bacabanga ukuthi bangase baqonde, ngakho-ke le nkinga ingahamba ngezindlela zombili. Ngizosho ukuthi uhambo lwami luyedwa kodwa lokhu ukwelashwa kwakukuguqula impilo kimi. Uma uthola usizo, hamba ochwepheshe be-OCD oye wabhekana nalokhu, hhayi umeluleki jikelele. Beza, uma bekwazi ukuthi benzani, ngeke bakutshele ukuthi ukwahlulela ukuma kwakho, kodwa kukusiza ukuba uyeke ukukhathazeka ngale mibuzo. Ngithemba ukuthi abanye bangakwazi ukulandisa endabeni yami futhi bakusize ukuthi ubuyele emuva endleleni nokuphila. Siyabonga.
https://www.reuniting.info/content/one-year-later-porn-and-hocd
Ngine-OCD, futhi ngangifunda le ncwadi I-Brain Lock, futhi ngithole
Ingaphakathi ngaphakathi kobuchopho isakhiwo esibizwa ngokuthi i-nucleus ye-caudate. Ososayensi emhlabeni wonke baye bafunda lesi sakhiwo futhi bakholelwa ukuthi, kubantu abane-OCD, i-nucleus ye-caudate ingase ingasebenzi kahle. Cabanga nge-nucleus ye-caudate njengesikhungo sokucubungula noma isiteshi sokuhlunga semilayezo enzima kakhulu eyenziwe yingxenye yangaphambili yobuchopho, okungenzeka ukuthi iyisici esetshenziswa ekucabangeni, ekuhleleni nasekuqondeni. Kanye nesakhiwo sodadewabo, i-putamen, eseduze kwayo, i-nucleus ye-caudate isebenza njengokudluliselwa okuzenzakalelayo emotweni. I-nucleus ye-caudate kanye ne-putamen, ehlangene ndawonye ebizwa ngokuthi i-striatum, ithatha imilayezo evela ezingxenyeni ezinzima kakhulu zobuchopho- "labo abalawula ukunyakaza komzimba, imizwa yenyama, nokucabanga nokuhlela okuhilela lezo zintuthuko nemizwa. Zisebenza ngokubambisana njengezokudlulisa okuzenzekelayo, ziqinisekisa ukuguqulwa okubushelelezi kusukela ekuziphatheni komunye kuya kwesinye.
Kusukela encwadini: http://www.worldcat.org/isbn/9780060987114
Ngabe sengicabanga ukuthi i-nucleus ye-caudate ithinteka kanjani yi-porn futhi ngiyitholile
Ivolumu yengqondo yesakhiwo
Bathola ukuthi inombolo ephakeme yamahora ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile ezihambisana nokunciphisa izinto ezimpunga endaweni yobuchopho okuthiwa i-nucleus efanele ye-caudate. Le nhlangano yahlala ngemuva kokuqeda ukuhlanganiswa kwesibili nokulutha kwe-intanethi nokulutha ngokocansi. Inhlangano nayo itholakale phakathi kokudonswa kwe-porn ephakeme eminyakeni eminingi futhi ingaphansi kwegrey kule ndawo yobuchopho. Abacwaningi bahumusha lokhu njengesibonakaliso semiphumela ye-exposure ye-porn-yesikhathi eside.
Ngakho ukuyeka izithombe ezingcolile, kungasiza kubantu abane-OCD.
I-PS: Ngemva kokuthola ukuxhumana phakathi kwalaba ababili, ngizizwa ngisosayensi. ðŸ~>
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2jritu/link_between_ocd_and_porn_…
Ngangifuna ukungeza umqondo kule ngxoxo. Ukwelapha okuvezwayo kuboniswe ukuthi kuphumelela kakhulu kubantu abane-HOCD. Laba bantu abahlangabezana nombandela wokuba nokukhathazeka, okungukuthi imicabango engathandeki ehambisana nokucindezeleka okuphawulekayo ukuthi lo muntu uzama ukunganqamuki. Lokhu akubandakanyi umuntu empeleni ongongqingili futhi nje engakhululekile ngezimiso zakhe zobulili. Isibonelo somuntu ophethe i-OCD yindoda enesaba ukuthi ukucabanga ngamanye amadoda angcolile kuyomenza abe gay. Lokhu kufana nezinye izifo eziphuthumayo ze-OCD, njengokucabanga ngokulimaza umuntu empeleni kuyoholela kumuntu olahlekelwa ukulawula nokubulala umuntu. E-HOCD, ukubuka izithombe ezihlukile zothando zobulili obufanayo kungase kube yingxenye yokwelapha, ngokungenelela okuyinhloko ngokuvamile ukuthuthukisa induduzo ngemifanekiso yengqondo kuze kube yilapho umuntu ehlala khona.
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