Ukufundwa kwe-longitudinal kuyadingeka ukuze kubonakale ukuthanda izinto ezingcolile zobulili
- Ishicilelwe ngoJulayi 27, 2012 nguGary Wilson ku-Cupid's Poisoned Arrow
- Lokhu okuthunyelwe kuyimpendulo Iqiniso nge-50 Shades ye-Porn Grey ne-Futanari ngu-Ogi Ogas, Ph.D.
Sithanda ukuqala impendulo yethu kokuthunyelwe kwakho okungenhla ngokuchaza amanye amaphuzu ongawaqondi kahle kokuthunyelwe kwethu.
1. Uphuthe ngokuphelele umqondo oyinhloko weposi lethu
Ngenxa yalokho, okuningi kwalokho okubhalile akuhlangene nephuzu lethu eliyinhloko: porn okuthandayo okwenziwe i-morphed njengomphumela wokuhlobene nomlutha Ubuchopho Izinguquko azisitsheli okuncane ngokuthanda okuyisisekelo kwabasebenzisi. Ngaphandle kokuthi ucwaningo lulandelela ukuthanda izithombe ze-intanethi zabasebenzisi ngabanye eminyakeni edlule, akunakwenzeka ukuphikisa iphuzu esilenze kulokuthunyelwe kwethu. Okwenu akuzange.
Ukushintsha kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha kwenzeka esikhathini eside. Isibonelo, iningi lamadoda ozibikayo sihlaziya eminyakeni yawo engamashumi amabili futhi bebebenzisa i-porn ye-8-12 iminyaka.
The Imilando yezinyanga ezingu-3 uhlaziyekile bekungeke kuveze into ethunyelwe kuyo ngeposi lethu ngoba imilando emifushane ibingenakwanela ukuqoqa izinhlobo zokushintsha kwabathandayo abasebenzisi ababikayo. Ngakho-ke, labo abathembele ekuhlaziyweni kwakho abacabangi ngokudideka okubalulekile okungenzeka: ukukhuphukela ezinhlotsheni ezintsha ngenxa yezinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha.
Ukuze sichaze, asizange siphakamise ukuthi amadoda amaningi abheka izinhlobo eziningi zezinhlobo ezahlukene Isikhathi esisodwa (yize abanye benza, njengoba usho). Iphuzu lethu ukuthi ukuthanda abasebenzisi abaningi bezithombe ezingcolile akusabonakalisi ukuthambekela kwabo kobulili okuyisisekelo.
Asingabazi ukuthi lapho abasebenzisi be-porn bevula amathebhu amaningi ngesikhathi seseshini, lawo mathebhu ngokuvamile ahlobene ne-fetish-du-jour yabo. Kodwa-ke, ngokubona kwethu kufanele ungabaze ukuphetha ngokuthi ukuthanda i-porn ngakho-ke kuzinzile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ngokuvamile, konke ukusesha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungukufuna ubusha. Ukube bekungenjalo, abasebenzisi bebezoqhubeka nokubuka izintandokazi zabo ezibekiwe uphawu / ezifakwe kungobo yomlando. Amadoda amaningi abika ukuqoqa amaqoqo amakhulu ezocansi ... futhi awalokothi awabuke ngoba ukuheha kwento entsha kunamandla kakhulu. Ukusetshenziswa kwe-web-cam okunzima kuyisibonelo esihle sokulungiswa kwento entsha-yize sizokhomba ukuthi amadoda asasebenzisana nezikrini, hhayi abantu.
Khumbula ukuthi lapho Ukuba umlutha wezithombe ubamba umsebenzisi we-porn we-Intanethi kunezindlela ezimbili ezihlukene zokwanda: 1) ukubuka okuningi kohlobo lomuntu oluthandayo no-2) ukubuka izinhlobo zamanoveli. Ukufuna (ukusesha), okusha nokumangaza konke khulula i-dopamine, ngempela ngaphandle kwe i-dopamine ikhishwe ngokuphendula izingqikithi ezithandekayo.
I-2. Ubeka ukholo oluningi ekucwaningeni okwesikhashana
Ukhuluma ngocwaningo oluningi olusekela iziphetho zakho ukuthi ukuthanda akuguquki. Ngabe kukhona okuphenye abasebenzisi be-porn abasebenza kakhulu be-Intanethi? Silandelela ucwaningo kule ndawo futhi asibonanga lutho olukhona njengamanje olwanele ukuthi lube olufanele, ngoba i-Intanethi ikhombisa ukulutha (kwabanye abasebenzisi) ngendlela i-porn yesikhathi esedlule eyayingeyona. (Izifundo ezifanelekile zokulutha nge-inthanethi ziyi- eqoqwe lapha. Ezinye zifaka ukusetshenziswa kocansi.) Okubaluleke kakhulu, ngabe uke wabona noma yiluphi ucwaningo olulandela ukuthanda kwabo ngokocansi abasebenzisi be-Intanethi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi?
- QAPHELA - Ucwaningo ngokwanda seluqale ukuvela. Bheka Izifundo Thola Ukunyuka (nokuhlala) ku-Porn Users.
Uqinisile ukuthi siyavuma UNorman Doidge MD's buka ukuthi ukubekezelelana kudlala indima ekusetshenzisweni kocansi kwanamuhla. Isipiliyoni samakhasimende akhe sihambisana kahle nemibiko yakho evela kuwebhu yonkana. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi abacwaningi bebezethemba ngokweqile ngomqondo wokuthi "ukuthanda izinto zocansi akunakuguqulwa (okungenani emadodeni)" ukuthi abakakutholi okukhuthazayo esikubonile thina noDoidge.
Kodwa-ke, uma ungathanda ukwenza ucwaningo oludingekayo, singajabula ukukuqondisa amaforamu kuwo wonke iwebhu emazweni amaningi lapho amadoda ebika khona lo mkhuba wokuthanda izinto zokuziphatha ngendlela evusa inkinga. Lolu cwaningo luzobe lufuna ama-questionnaires nokuhlaziywa mahhala bahlekisa imibono yangaphambili.
Empeleni, i-reddit / i-nofap okhiqizwa a ukuhlolwa kwelungu, othole ukuthi ngaphezu kwe-60% yamalungu ayo othanda ezocansi akhule kakhulu, ngokusebenzisa izinhlobo eziningi zocansi.
Q: Ingabe ukuthanda kwakho ku-pornography kwashintsha?
- Ukuthanda kwami akuzange kushintshe kakhulu - 29%
- Ukuthandana kwami kwanda kakhulu noma kwahluleka futhi lokhu kwangenza ngazizwa amahloni or ukucindezeleka - 36%
- Ukuthandana kwami kwanda kakhulu nakakhulu noma kwahluleka futhi lokhu kwenzeka hhayi ngenza ngizizwe nginamahloni noma ngicindezelwe - 27%
I-3. Izinhlanzi zinemikhawulo emikhulu lapho kuhileleka khona ukukhushulwa okukhulu
Ingxoxo yakho ngabesifazane ngesinye nje isifinyezo. Futhi, asibhali ukuthi ngubani ofuna ubusha Ngaphakathi iseshini, noma ngisho nangesikhathi esifushane. Sikhuluma ngenqubo yokulutha umlutha okuthiwa ukubekezela, okwenzeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengoba umphumela wokuguquka kobuchopho obuhlobene.
Umthambeka oshelelayo wokubekezelelana okuhlobene nokulutha umlutha uhlobene nokulawulwa phansi kwe-dopamine ukusayina ebuchosheni nasekufuneni ukuvuselelwa okwengeziwe. Akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane nabo bafuna ukulungiswa kwabo. Futhi akumangazi ukuthi bakhetha ukuhlanganiswa okwehlukile kokukhuthaza. Abanye sebevele babike ukuthi ukusebenzisa kwabo i-porn kubenze bangazinaki.
Imodeli yakho oyisifinyezo ayichazi ukuthi amadoda amaningi achaza ini: Ukwehluleka ukuya ohlotsheni lomuntu lwamanje lwe-porn kanye nesidingo sokuthuthela entweni ongayijwayele ukufika kuvuthondaba… hlambulula uphinde uphinde. Incwadi yakho imane iyakuphika ukuthi kungenzeka — futhi okwamanje kwenzekani. Njengoba sisazi, kuphela imodeli yobuciko bepulasitiki echaza lokhu iphethini ejwayelekile manje.
Ulahla umqondo wokwehliswa kwezinsolo, kepha ucwaningo seluvele lubonise ukuthi lwenzeka kuma-addicts e-intanethi. Bheka I-Driamatic Dopamine Ye-DXMUMX Abamukeli Kubantu Abanobudisi be-Intanethi futhi Abathengisi baseDriamatic Dopamine abaNcishisiwe ku-Abantu abane-Disorder Addiction Disorder Sicela ubheke lokhu okuthunyelwe kwezinye izinguquko zobuchopho eziphathelene nokulutha ezitholakala ezilutha ze-intanethi: Imiva Yezinkinga Zobunjineli Ze-Inthanethi Yamuva Ihlanganisa i-Porn.
I-4. Uhlukumeze ingqondo yethu
Simangele lapho sifunda i-spin yakho esho ukuthi okuthunyelwe kwethu bekusekwe ekuziphatheni noma ekubizeni noma iyiphi i-porn ethile "ephambukile." Lokho kwakuyizwi likaSeltzer. Iphuzu lethu bekungukuthi ukuthanda i-porn, okuyindlala ngenxa yenqubo yokulutha, kuyisibonakaliso se- i-pathology-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi i-vanilla, ushokoledi noma i-sitrobheli. Phela, i-nucleus accumbens ibhala umthelela we-neurochemical, hhayi okuqukethwe.
Siyazi ukuthi kumnandi ukukholelwa ukuthi uvikela inkululeko yezocansi 'kubaninimikhuba emibi,' kepha hleze noma yimuphi umfundi adukiswe ngamazwi akho, nayi leyo ngxenye yokuthunyelwe kwethu:
USeltzer uyabhala:
"Enye yezinto ezisiza kakhulu ezifezwa yi-A Billion Wards Thoughts ukulungisa izinto eziningi ezithandwa ngocansi ezingahle zikuthinte (mhlawumbe nabantu abaningi). Ngokusobala, lapho inkambiso isakazeka kabanzi, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuyishiya ithi “iyagula” —ikakhulukazi uma kunezimbangela ezingokwengqondo nezingokwemvelo eziyichaza kahle le nto. ”
Kuthiwani uma okunye kwalokhu okubizwa ngokuthi 'okuphambukayo' kungenxa yokulutha nokubekezelelana kuphela (isidingo sokukhuthaza okunamandla)? Uma abantu abenele bethola ubufakazi bokugula [ukukhula] kungahle kube yinto ejwayelekile, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi indlela abaziphethe ngayo "ayiguli." [okuhlobene nokulutha]
Izifo eziwumshayabhuqe ziye zaba khona ngaphambili emlandweni wesintu futhi azizenzanga izimpawu lezo eziyimilutha zathola “okujwayelekile” ngomqondo wokuthi “azinakho ukugula.”
Ayikho izwi elilodwa leposi lethu elikwahlulela okuqukethwe okuthile. Isibonakaliso kuphela sokubekezelelana sasixoxwa kulesi sigaba.
Ungacacisa ukuthi "imiphi imibono yokuziphatha ngokulutha" engaba yini? Sivame ukuhlola okuthunyelwe kwethu ngongoti abahamba phambili bokulutha, futhi thina noma bona abashukunyiswa yisifiso sokuziphatha ngendlela esazi ngayo.
Futhi uthi sihlikihla yonke inkanuko ndawonye futhi sithi "nakanjani kuvusa ukwanda okuyingozi kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili." Inkulumo ethi 'ukwanda kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili' ibhekise ngokusobala kwezocansi ukulutha, hhayi bonke abasebenzisi be-porn. Ukukhuphuka kuyinto umsebenzi izinguquko zobuchopho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu unqobe i-vanilla noma i-etiothetic fetus.
Akuwona wonke ubuchopho obhekana nezinguquko zobuchopho obuhlobene nokulutha, okuyiqiniso, futhi lokhu bekufanele kubonakale ekuthunyelwe kwethu. Siphakamisa ngokusikisela kwethu ukuthi kulabo abayeka ukubheja, ukukhula kwezilwane ezingcolile kuya ocansini okungaqondakali cishe kuyisibonakaliso se-pathology kunokuba kube uphawu lwezinto ezithandwayo zobulili.
Siyavuma ukuthi, ngaphambi kokuvinjelwa okukhulu, ukuthanda kwabesilisa ngokocansi kwakulungisiwe kunabesifazane. Sikholelwa ukuthi ucwaningo olulungile luzoveza ukuthi i-porn ye-Intanethi inciphise lokho kucabanga, okungenani lapho kuthanda khona ukuthanda i-porn.
Masifike ekugcineni kwezimpawu ezimbi kakhulu abasebenzisi ababikayo manje
Ucwaningo lwakho 'lwe-snapshot' belungeke luveze lo mkhuba esikhomba kuwo. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka nokuthi bekungasabalalisanga emuva ngo-2006 ngenkathi uqoqa idatha yakho. Kule minyaka emihlanu edlule besilokhu sizwa imibiko yethu yezimpawu ezinzima esibhala ngazo: izinkinga zokusebenza ngokocansi, ukuthanda ukuthanda ezocansi, ukungabi nalutho ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukungabi nokukhangwa kwabalingani abane-3-D, nokunye okunye.
Kubonakala sengathi lezi zimpawu zihlobene ubude be-highspeed ukufinyelela futhi indlela yokuqala ekuphileni othile uqala ukuyisebenzisa. Siyicabanga ohlakaniphile ukuxwayisa labo, njengoSeltzer, abathembele ekuhlaziyweni kwakho, ukuthi ukuhlaziywa kwakho kungenzeka kunganeli abasebenzisi bezithombe zocansi banamuhla kanye nabanakekeli babo.
Uma siqinisile, ngakho-ke kufanele sonke siyeke ukuphikisana ngamaphuzu amahle ocwaningo manje aseneminyaka eyisithupha siphelelwe yisikhathi futhi angalungisanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukubekezelelana kusebenze, bese siqala ukucwaninga izimpawu ezethusayo ngempela manje ukubikwa kabanzi nembangela yazo eyisisekelo.
Indawo enhle yokuqala iphelele ukuqonda okushiwo yi ukulutha kwe-neuroscience yakamuva emiphumeleni yokulethwa ngamandla okunamandla kwanamuhla ukuvuselelwa kwe-cyber. Inkinga yangempela lapha ingahle ingahlangene nakancane ne-erotica nakho konke okuphathelene nobusha-ngokuchofoza. Nayi i-akhawunti yomlando yomsebenzisi we-porn ephawulekayo ye-Intanethi. Kuvele nje namhlanje.
"Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile" [kwake kwaba] ngaphezulu nje kwe-Playboy, mhlawumbe izinto ezithile ezithambile ekufinyeleleni ngekhebula, kepha iningi labafana okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuthola leyo njabulo [kwaba] ukumisa i-VCR yakho NGESIKHATHI ESIFANELE (khumbula lokho ?? Ingcwele sh * t !! Cabanga nje ngayo ngenkathi uthayipha lokhu). Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - ngemuva kwesinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu seNkantolo Ephakeme - [sasivikelwe] ngokuphelele yiSichibiyelo Sokuqala, ngaphandle kwalapho bekungukudlwengula noma ukudlala ngocansi noma okuthile. Manje, unabantu abazonda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa thatha umcabango wokuthi “Angikuthandi kodwa ngizokuvikela ekufeni ilungelo lakho lokukusho”, ngibona noma yimuphi umzamo wokwephula izithombe zocansi njengo- “Un-American” / okududuzayo / okucindezelayo / okuphendulayo. Isihogo, ngisho nabesifazane besifazane [baqala] ukusho ukuthi i-porn ingabanika amandla abesifazane (ngisho nama-pornstars).
Kodwa-ke, akekho umuntu ocabanga phambili kuze kube maphakathi no-2000, lapho uJohnny noLisa bekwazi ukufinyelela kuzo zonke izidlo ezinyanyekayo ne -philia nge-High Definition ku-nanosecond enokufinyelela okuphezulu kwe-inthanethi (Oh man… khumbula ukulinda njengemizuzu emi-5 ukuthola ISITHOMBE esisodwa ozosilanda ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-90's ??? Damn, ukubhala lokhu kungibuyisela EMUVA!). Isihogo, namuhla iningi LABAFUNDI BESIKHATHI bangakwazi ukufinyelela kuwo wonke amantombazane agulayo asontekile oke aba khona ngemizuzwana ngedivayisi abangayifaka ephaketheni labo lokufakelwa.
Izinhloso eziningi "ezinhle" zihambe kabi. Izimiso ezikhona endaweni engenalutho azihlali zinengqondo emhlabeni wangempela, futhi ubuchwepheshe buyashintsha izinto.
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