- Video by SGIYA ngoMASKANDI MEDIAUkulutha kwezidakamizwa akulona umlutha wezocansi: inkomfa ye-SASH, i-2015
- QAPHELA (2018): Ukufundwa kuyatholakala umehluko phakathi kokusetshenziswa kocansi nezinye izinhlobo zokuziphatha okuyinkinga kwezocansi, futhi abacwaningi bayazibuza ukuthi ngabe ukusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi nge-inthanethi kufanele kuhlukaniswe ngokwahlukana nobulili obufanayo ("ukulutha ngokocansi"): Enye inkinga ukuthi ngabe izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile zingabhekwa yini njengesigaba esingaphansi kobulili obufanayo uma ubudlelwane nokungathandeki nokuphoqeleka akunamandla njengoba kutholakala ngaphambili kulolu cwaningo]. Inkinga yesibili-engahle ihlobene nokuhlukaniswa kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ezisetshenziswe ngaphansi kwesambulela sobulili obubulili obufanayo-ukuthi indlela yokusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile (futhi ikakhulukazi enenkinga yokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyi-intanethi) ingahle ibe nesigaba esingcono.
- QAPHELA (2018) Abacwaningi batusa i-hypothesis esekwe ku-physiology yokuhlukanisa "imilutha yezocansi" "nemilutha yezocansi": Siphakamisa ukuthi sihlolisise ngezifundo zesikhathi esizayo ukuthi ngabe i-subtype echazwe ngokuziphatha kobulili okuzibandakanyeka ingabonakaliswa ngezinga eliphakeme lezinto ezintsha ekufuneni kanye nokungazenzisi okuphazamisayo okuhlongozwayo njengoba kuhlongozwa yi-RDS, kuyilapho i-subtype ehlobene nokubuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokuzibandakanya kocansi kungasetshenziswa esikhundleni sokwehla kwe-ventral reactivity ye-ventral ngenxa yezinhlamvu ezibukekayo kanye nemivuzo ngaphandle kwe-hypoactivation yemijikelezo yemivuzo.
- QAPHELA (2022) Ukufundwa kuyatholakala umehluko phakathi kwemilutha ye-porn kanye nemilutha yocansi: “Uma uqhathanisa i-OCSB [imilutha ye-porn] kanye neziguli ezingezona ze-OCSB [imilutha yocansi], imiphumela ibonise ukuthi iziguli ezingezona i-OCSB zibonise ukwanda okuphezulu kwezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, amaphesenti aphezulu okuziphatha kobungqingili kanye nabesilisa nabesifazane kanye namaphuzu aphezulu ekukhathazekeni nasekuhlulekeni kokulawula isifiso socansi.
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I-ARTICLE: Ukulutha ngocansi kudinga abantu bangempela; Ukulutha kabi kocansi kudinga isikrini
Ukuqoqa 'ukulutha kwezidakamizwa ze-intanethi' kanye 'nokulutha ngokocansi' ngaphansi kwe-Sex Addiction Umbrella kwenza ukuthi okwedlule kubonakale kungabonakali ngoba ukulutha kocansi okuvamile akuvamile. Ngenxa yalokho, abahlinzeki bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo bavame ukungaziqondi kahle labo abanezimpawu zokuluthwa yi-porn, okuholela ekwelashweni okungasebenzi. Isibonelo, imilutha ye-porn esemncane, enempilo enokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile banikwa izidakamizwa esikhundleni sezeluleko zokwehlisa izithombe ezingcolile. Abanye baphathwa ngenxa yokucindezeleka, ukuchitha isikhathi noma ukuxazulula izinkinga kunokuba umlutha ongase ulele emmpandeni wezimpawu zabo.
Umehluko phakathi kokulutha kwezilonda zocansi nokulutha kobulili kuningi, njengoba kuboniswa kulezi zemibiko:
Umlutha wezocansi (iminyaka engu-35): Ngangizizwa ngikhathele futhi ngiphansi kusukela ebusuku obudlule ngifuna ucansi olungaziwa. Ngakho-ke ngibuyela ku-inthanethi. Owesifazane ubheke ukuhlangana ngokungaziwa. Ungitshela ukuthi ngize ngapha, ngakho-ke ngithatha amakhondomu. Ngisendleleni, uyangibhalela athi angithathe i-pizza. I-WTF? Lokhu kuyamangaza, kepha ithemba lokuya ocansini elingaziwa nelinoveli likhulu kakhulu kuleli phuzu. Kodwa-ke, ngokwesaba ukuthi ngingabanjwa inkunzi, ngiyamtshela ukuthi ngingathanda ukuhlangana naye kuqala. Kuvuleka umnyango futhi kumnyama kakhulu ngaphakathi ngaphandle kokukhanya kwesikrini sekhompyutha. Angikwazi ukumbona ngempela, kodwa ngihamba nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uthi, “Bheka ukuthi ngigqokeni. Sexy angithi? ” Kodwa ngezwi elijulile… kungcono mfo! Futhi uShe uthi, "Lokhu akulungile angithi?" Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele ngimthengele i-pizza ngenxa yomusa bese ngikhipha lapho. Bese ngizwa othile ehamba egumbini lokulala ngemuva. Ngiyesaba kakhulu futhi ngisekhaya, ngijabule ngokungabe ngisabhekana nomdlalo futhi ngibe nemali esele. Ngisebenzisa i-porn bese ngilala.
Umlutha wezocansi: Ngineminyaka engu-23. Ngaqala ukuzama ukuya ocansini lapho ngineminyaka engu-18, kodwa angikwazanga ukukuthola. Bengilokhu ngishaya indlwabu cishe nsuku zonke iminyaka eyi-6, imvamisa ngokubamba okuqinile nokubukwayo okuvusa inkanuko, imvamisa izikhathi eziningi ngosuku. Ngiye ocansini nabalingani abane empilweni yami futhi angikaze ngifinyelele ku-orgasm nanoma yimuphi wabo. Ngamafuphi, impilo yami yezocansi iye yadumaza. Ngempela, ubudlelwane bami bokugcina buphela ngenxa yezinkinga zokwakhiwa. Wangisola ngokuba yisitabane. Ngangazi ukuthi lokho kwakungelona iqiniso kepha wayezongikholelwa kanjani uma umzimba wami wawungabonakali unentshisekelo kuye?
Umlutha wezocansi (iminyaka engu-25): Kungenzeka yini ukuba umlutha wezocansi kepha ungabi umlutha wezocansi? Ngiyazi ukuthi angikwazi ukulawula ukusetshenziswa kwami kocansi, noma ukushaya indlwabu ngefantasy. Kepha ngemuva kocansi ngiyaneliseka ngokwengeziwe. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisinda ngesonto noma ngaphandle kwe-porn. Nami angizange ngibhekane nokuhlukunyezwa ebuntwaneni, ngakho angicabangi ukuthi ngibalekela izinkumbulo ezedlule. Baningi kakhulu abantu abayimilutha yezocansi engibaziyo emhlanganweni weSLAA futhi abahlukumeza izidakamizwa. Angikaze ngibe nezifiso zotshwala noma izidakamizwa, noma ngabe ngiphuza kakhulu kanye ngezikhathi ezithile. Anginamahloni ngokusetshenziswa kwami kocansi futhi angikaze ngikwenze. Futhi, uPatrick Carnes uthi inkolelo eyinhloko yabayimilutha yezocansi ithi "Akekho ongangithanda uma engazi njengoba nginjalo". Ngiyazi ukuthi akulona iqiniso ngoba abalingani bami nabangane bayazi ngokulutha kwami futhi angikaze ngibhekane nokusabela okungekuhle kubo ngenxa yalokho. Yebo nginezinkinga ezizungeze abantu futhi angizethembi kakhulu, kepha ngikholelwa ukuthi kungenxa yokweqa isikhathi esiningi phambi kwekhompyutha nokuxhumana nabantu bangempela. I-Porn kimi iyindlela nje yokubalekela iqiniso nokubhekana nengcindezi-imoto ephumelela kunazo zonke futhi ethokozisayo ukunqamula iqiniso. Ngeqiniso angicabangi ukuthi ngingumlutha wezocansi.
Nazi ezinye zezindlela zokulutha kwezidakamizwa ezingcolile zobulili ezihlukile:
1. Ukulutha ngocansi kuhilela abantu bangempela; Ukulutha kwezidakamizwa ze-inthanethi kuhilela isikrini. Izidakamizwa ze-Porn zixhunywe kumaphikseli / ukusesha / okungajwayelekile okubukwayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, imilutha yezocansi ibambeke kozakwethu bezinoveli, i-voyeurism, ifulethi, ukukhanya, ucansi oluyingozi, njalonjalo; I-porn kungenzeka noma ingezi ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha.
2. Ukulutha kwezocansi kuyi-Internet kufana kakhulu nokulutha komdlalo wevidiyo kunokulutha ngokocansi. Imvamisa ayitheleli komunye umsebenzi wezocansi. Eqinisweni, abasebenzisi abaningi be-porn abasindayo abakwazi ukuvuswa ngabesifazane bangempela-ngisho nabesifazane ababathola beheha ngokocansi. Ukuqhathanisa umlutha wezocansi nomlutha wezocansi kufana nokuqhathanisa i- World of Warcraft umdlandla we-Las Vegas high-roller.
3. Abayimilutha yezocansi be-Internet bavame ukuphawula ukuthi bangathanda intombi eqinile, noma, uma benomlingani, abafuna ukuphendula kuye ngokocansi lapha. Izidakamizwa zocansi zifuna abalingani abahlukahlukene. Zibambelele kubantu abanoveli kunamaphikseli wenveli.
4. Omaye bokusebenza kwezocansi yisikhalazo esivamile phakathi kwemilutha ye-Internet ye-porn. Imvamisa asizizwa ngezinkinga ezinzima zokusebenza kocansi phakathi kwemilutha yezocansi.
5. Ukulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubonakala kuyanda njengoba ukufinyelela kwi-porn esheshayo phakathi neminyaka yentsha kwanda, yize abanye abantu asebekhulile futhi bebika ukuthi bayaba nomlutha ngemuva ukushintshela kwi-intanethi ephezulu.
Ngamafuphi, ukuphishekela umlutha wobulili kwabantu abaphilayo kuphezulu, kuyilapho umlutha wezocansi ulahlekelwa isenzo se-3-D. Empeleni, i-porn ifakazela "ukungabi nocansi" kubasebenzisi abaningi. Singavela kanjani isimo esiyinqaba kanjena?
Izithombe ze-inthanethi: iningi okungokwemvelo i-reinforcer yemvelo
Emashumini eminyaka amuva, imivuzo engokwemvelo yemvelo njengokudla kanye nobulili ihlangene nabanye kakhulu okungokwemvelo isihlobo. Laba bantu abahlukumezayo bahamba ngezinyathelo ezifanayo ze-neural njengoba imvelo ivuza ubuchopho bethu buguqulwa ukuze baqhubekele. Ubuchopho bethu bomzimba buyabathanda- futhi bathambekele ekunakekeleni izinkinga zabo.
Isibonelo, enikezwe izinhlobo ezingapheli zokudla okungabizi, okumnandi, okunama-khalori amaningi, amaphesenti angama-79 abantu abadala baseMelika abakhuluphele ngokweqile, kanti abanye abangamaphesenti angamashumi amathathu kithi bayimilutha yalezi zinto ezinhle (ukukhuluphala), yize kunemiphumela emibi emzimbeni, kwezenhlalo nakwezengqondo. "Umlutha" yi- isikhathi sezokwelapha lapha, hhayi isingathekiso. Kusho ukuthi ingqondo yomthengi ishintshile ngezindlela ezifanayo eziyisisekelo ezenziwa wumlutha wezidakamizwa.
Izisusa zocansi nazo ziye zonakala. Okungenani okungenani isigamu seminyaka eyishumi nambili, labo abanokufinyelela kweWebhu okunesivinini esikhulu bakwazile ukusebenzisa i-online erotica yamahhala. Njengokudla okungenamsoco kwanamuhla, kukhuthaza ngokukhethekile ezincwadini zomlando womuntu. Umphumela? Kwabesilisa abasebasha, ukusetshenziswa kocansi kucishe kufane nokufinyelela online. Ngempela cwaninga idatha eqoqwe Eminye iminyaka engu-5 eyedlule isivele iveze ukuthi i-9 yamadoda asekolishi aneminyaka eyi-10 (futhi cishe ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu zabesifazane) bebesebenzisa i-porn ye-Intanethi. Izinhlobo ezindala zobungozi bokulutha zisekelwe ezintweni, hhayi ezanamuhla izinguqulo ezingavamile kokudla kanye nobulili, ngakho-ke ochwepheshe abaningi bafundiswa ukuthi zonke izidakamizwa zobulili azivamile.
Maye, uma izinkundla ze-inthanethi zikukhombisa okuthile, abasebenzisi be-porn banamuhla baya ngokukhononda ngokuthi (1) abakwazi Ima ukubuka, futhi (i-2) kuphazamisa ukuthuthukiswa kwazo okuvamile ukuphola namakhono okukhwelana. Bangaki abasebenzisi be-inthanethi banamuhla abaluthekayo akekho owaziyo, kodwa izinga lokulutheka kwe-inthanethi entsheni liyeqa. A Ucwaningo lwesiHungary Usanda kubika ukuthi omunye kwabahlanu asebekhulile kakade usuhoxisiwe. (Ubunjiniyela be-Adolescent bubonisa okuhambisanayo izinguquko ezihlobene nomlutha.)
Ngaqaphela ukuthi ngingakwazi ukuzifaka ngokoqobo engxenyeni ye-orgasm kuphela ekuvuseleleni okubonakalayo-ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isandla sami nhlobo. Ingqondo yami yabuyiselwa ekuthembeleni ezithombeni ezimbi ezondliwe kuwo ngamehlo ami ukuveza ukuvusa.-Umsebenzisi we-Internet we-porn
Ngabe amazinga okulutha kwezocansi e-Intanethi azodlula amazinga wokukhuluphala kwamanye amaqembu abantu manje njengoba i-porn ye-Intanethi isabalele kakhulu kunanoma iyiphi enye i-reinforcer yemvelo ngaphandle kwe-junkfood? Kungenzeka impela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngokwemvelo ubuchopho budedela i-dopamine ethe xaxa yezocansi kunokwenzela ukudla. (Ukukhishwa kwe-Dopamine ngesikhathi sokusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi akukaliwe, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene zobuchwepheshe nezinye izizathu.) Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunemikhawulo ekusetshenzisweni kokudla, kepha akukho ekubukweni kocansi. Futhi, yize kungekho noyedwa ofuna ukhuluphela, ukusetshenziswa kocansi kuyamukeleka ngokwenhlalo nsuku zonke.
Kungani umlutha wezocansi ungewona nje “umlutha wezocansi?”
"Ukulutha ngokocansi" kubonakala kungavamile. UDkt Carnes usifunde amashumi eminyaka. Umsebenzi wakhe wembula ukuthi labo, njengezingane, abebenganakwa, behlukunyezwa, behlukunyezwa, bedlwengulwa, noma bevezwa ngenye indlela ebudloveni kanye / noma ocansini besebancane basengozini yokuthola ukuluthwa ngokocansi (lokho kuwukulutha kobulili budedengu / ukukhanya / voyeurism ). Basebenzisa ucansi njengendlela yokuzenzela imithi yokubalekela, ukunciphisa izinhlungu zabo zengqondo ekuzizweni bengaphephile futhi bethandwa ngokwanele.
Abasebenzisi be-Porn abavakashelayo Iwebhusayithi yethu imvamisa ayilingani nale phrofayili, noma ngabe iziveza njengemilutha. Kumodeli kaCarnes, imilutha yezocansi ethola ukwelashwa idinga iminyaka emithathu kuya kwemihlanu, nokusekelwa okuningi ukubuyisela ukusondelana okunempilo ezimpilweni zabo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, iningi lezivakashi zethu liyalulama, ngisho nasezimpawu ezinzima ezifana nokungabi namandla okubangelwa i-porn, endabeni yezinyanga ezimbili kuya kwezine. Izimpawu zokuhoxa zingaba nzima, kepha ekugcineni iningi labantu libuyela kubuntu babo bangaphambi kocansi kanye namazinga we-charisma.
Izidakamizwa zocansi kufanele zisebenze kanzima futhi zivame ukuboshwa engozini noma izifo zokwenza. Abasebenzisi be-Porn kuphela badonsa izikrini zabo ezisekhona ukuze bathole ukulungiswa. Akumangalisi ukuthi, bridge Amadoda angaphansi kweminyaka ethile asebenzisa i-Internet ye-porn, abaningi kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi i-childhood-profile trauma. Ubuchopho obunempilo obudala (nangaphezulu) bukhulile ukuheha ngokwemvelo Inhlanganisela yokuqhakambisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ze-Inthanethi, ubusha, ubulili, nokutholakala kwamahhala okungapheli.
Ngaphandle kokuthi umsebenzisi osebenzisa i-porn osindayo akahambisani nencazelo yomlutha wobulili obudala bukaCarnes, umlutha wezocansi uyaqhubeka nokufakwa ekuluthweni ngokocansi ngochwepheshe nezintatheli ezithembele kuzo. Ukucabanga ngokulutha kwezocansi kwe-Intanethi njenge "subset" yokulutha ngokocansi (okungajwayelekile) kunciphisa ukubonakala kwayo. Esinye isazi sasiqinisekisa ukuthi njengoba kungavamile ukuba umlutha wezocansi, izehlakalo zokuluthwa kwe-Internet okuyi-subset, “zincane ngokwedlulele.” Hhe?
Siphinde sizwe ochwepheshe bethi abasebenzisi be-porn be-Intanethi abangahambelani nephrofayili yokuthuthuka kwengane yezilutha zocansi ayikwazi yiba umlutha, ngisho noma abasebenzisi ngokwabo bakholelwa ukuthi bangobani. Lezi zincinci ziphikelela ukuthi ukubheja kocansi kungabuka kuphela njengomphumela wabanye nezinye i-pathology (njengokulutha ngokocansi, i-ADHD, ukudangala noma ukukhathazeka komphakathi). Kufana nokuzama ukuminyana nokulutha komdlalo wevidiyo ngaphansi kokulutha komdlalo webhodi, noma ukubhema ngaphansi kokulutha kwezidakamizwa. Lokhu kufihla iqiniso futhi kushiya abantu abayizilwanyane “ezilungile” abayimilutha yobulili ngaphandle emakhazeni.
"Izinkinga zokusondelana" zingachaza kanjani ukuthi umlutha wezocansi phakathi kwentsha enokuhlangenwe nakho okuncane kakhulu kobudlelwano? Abaningi balaba basebenzisi bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile baheha abathandekayo. Badidekile iqiniso lokuthi imithondo yabo iphendula kuphela i-porn hhayi kwabalingani bangempela. Ngamafuphi, azihambelani nemodeli 'yezinkinga zokulutha ngokocansi'.
Mhlawumbe njengomphumela womqondo onjalo ongaphelele, ucwaningo ngemiphumela yokusetshenziswa kocansi lwe-Intanethi lusilela emuva ngemuva kweqiniso eliqhumayo lomkhuba uqobo. Kodwa-ke vele, "ukuvusa umlutha" kuvamile ngokwanele ukuthi kufanele inkulumo ye-TED yi-Psychologist uPhilip Zimbardo: "I-Demise of Guys. "
Ngenhlanhla ngempilo yesikhathi esizayo yesintu, i I-American Society of Addiction Medicine muva nje ukuqinisekisile ukuthi ukubheja kungaba yikho okuyisisekelo izifo. Kungumsebenzi we izinguquko zobuchopho-kungakhathaliseki ukuthuthukiswa kwengane, nokuthi ngabe umlutha usebenza yini ekutheni umphakathi uthola wamukelekile / awamukeleki.
Ngezansi: I-etiology yokulutha ngokocansi ayihlobene ne-etiology yezinambuzane eziningi ze-inthanethi ze-Internet (nakuba ezinye izilonda zobulili zisebenzisa i-porn ngokweqile, futhi ezinye izilonda ezingcolile zinezinkinga zobuntwana). Izidakamizwa ezingcolile zingathuthuka ngenxa yezizathu ezifanayo zokulutha izidakamizwa zokudla: (1) ngaphezulu kokusetshenziswa kwezinkinga ezingavamile, (2) ezingokwemvelo ezibona ukuthi izinto ezingenakuphikiswa, kanye / noma (3) eziqala ukusetshenziswa ngesikhathi sobusha, lapho ubuchopho buyi-plastic ikakhulukazi futhi iningi lizimisele ukufuna ukuthakazelisa nokwaziswa.
Ukulwa "ukushaya indlwabu" "nokusetshenziswa kocansi" kufihla ukulutha kwezocansi
Bobabili ochwepheshe kanye nabasebenzisi abancane be-porn be-Intanethi behluleka ukuhlukanisa "ukusetshenziswa kwe-Internet kwe-Internet" kanye "nokushaya indlwabu." Ochwepheshe (izizukulwane ezindala) bacabanga ngezocansi ze-Intanethi njengenye nje indlela yokusiza ukushaya indlwabu okuvamile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, izizukulwane ezisencane azazi ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwezocansi kungenzeka. Zithungelwe ezintweni ezintsha zeWebhu futhi ezibukwayo ezivame ukushaqisa. Abaningi abakaze bashaye indlwabu ngenye indlela. Cabanga ngalesi silingo esimangazayo sale nsizwa:
Emasontweni amabili ngemuva kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngazama okuthile okuhluke ngokuphelele — ukushaya indlwabu ku-orgasm ngaphandle kwe-porn-into engingakaze ngiyicabange (njalo ngisebenzisa i-porn ye-Intanethi). Ezinsukwini ezimbili kamuva, ngangeza i-porn ngesifiso futhi ngabuyela emuva.
Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okubili kwahluka kakhulu. Ukushaya indlwabu nje nge-orgasm kwakusondeza ekugcineni, ngoba ngangingenayo i-buzz, akukho ukushintsha kwembono. Kwaba umuzwa omuhle, okhuthazayo.
Kepha kungenzeka ukuthi kubangele iseshini ephelele yezocansi / ukushaya indlwabu, obekuzwakala sengathi ngiku-DRUG ngokuphelele. Sonke isithombe siguqule umzimba wami waba ukuqhuma okushisayo kwezingxabano, ngasinye esisha sinamandla kakhulu kunesokugcina. Ngizwe ukuthi lokho "ukujwayela" okujwayelekile kugijima ebuchosheni bami emzimbeni wami. Ngangizwa futhi ngizizwe KONKE ngokujulile. Ku-orgasm, bekungathi ifu le-idiocy langiqothula, futhi yonke into yafa. Lowo muzwa wokugcina ontengantengayo wahlala okungenani izinsuku ezimbili.
Ukudidiyela ukushaya indlwabu nokusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-inthanethi kubangela igebe lokuxhumana eliyingozi. Sizwa lesi simo esilandelayo kaninginingi esithangamini sethu: Insizwa ehlushwa ukwehluleka ukuthola ama-erections ajwayelekile ibonisana nodokotela we-urologist. Uma ecabanga nokubuza ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu (umbhalo ongezansi “amahora wokusetshenziswa kwezithombe zocansi kwi-inthanethi nsuku zonke”) kubangela inkinga, uphendula udokotela wezifo zomchamo, "Ukushaya indlwabu" Izimpawu ezinjenge), ngakho-ke kukhona okunye okubangela izinkinga zakho. Nawa amanye amaphilisi e-Cialis okuhlolwa nokuthunyelwa kumelaphi wezocansi. ” Umfana uyahamba, ancenge ukuthi ukugula kwakhe akunakhambi, futhi uyaqhubeka nokwenza inkinga yakhe ibe yimbi ngokwesaba ukuthi uma engayisebenzisi uzolahlekelwa yiyo.
Ochwepheshe baqinisile ngomqondo owodwa: Ukulutha indlwabu kungaba yinto engavamile ngaphandle kocansi lwe-Intanethi. Izithombe zocansi zanamuhla zingaphezu kosizo lokushaya indlwabu. Ingena esikhundleni somcabango ngamathebhu amaningi, ukusesha njalo, ukudlulisela phambili endaweni ekahle, umbono wevoyeur njalonjalo. Kuhlukile, futhi kukude kakhulu ukukhohlisa ngokweqile, ukuqinisa impela kunengqondo nje yocansi.
Ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwanamuhla kudlulela ngaphezu komvuzo we-orgasm. Abafana abenzi ukushaya indlwabu ukuze bavuthwe lapho bebuka emsebenzini, babelana ngeziqeshana ezingcingweni zabo, ehamba ngezindiza, noma phakathi namahora wokuhlela ngenkathi ushaya.
Ukudideka okuvamile mayelana nezocansi kubonakala sengathi kuvela kumqondo onamaphutha, obheka iqiniso elibalulekile. Kuqala ngokucabanga okulungile ukuthi i-orgasm ingokwemvelo futhi abantu abayitholi imilutha yayo. Kuqhubekela phambili ekucabangeni okuqhubekayo kokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kwe-Intanethi akukwazi ukukhiqiza noma yini nge-punch ngaphezulu ye-neurochemical kune-orgasm. Kuphetha ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi ngakho-ke akunakuba umlutha.
Nali iphutha: Umlutha empeleni hhayi kuhlanganiswe nobukhulu bethonya le-dopamine. Ugwayi, ngokwesibonelo, uhlanganisa cishe ama-80% alabo abazizamayo, kuyilapho i-heroin ibopha kuphela idlanzana labasebenzisi. Ngokusobala, umthelela we-dopamine kagwayi mncane ngokuqhathaniswa nomthelela we-dopamine we-heroin yokudubula. Ukukhohlisa kogwayi kulele emandleni abo okuqeqesha ubuchopho nge-puff ngayinye (hit of dopamine). Ngenxa yalokhu, amandla abo okubuyisela ubuchopho ekuluthweni akunakulinganiswa nomthelela wabo we-neurochemical. Leli phuzu lenziwa encwadini kaDavid Linden I-Compass ye-Pleasure.
Ukulutha ngokocansi kungenzeka kufane nokulutha kwe-heroin ngoba kunomkhawulo wokuthi umuntu angalungiswa kangaki, futhi umlutha ngokuvamile udinga ukwakheka okwenziwe ngokwamakhemikhali. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-porn ye-Intanethi ibonakala ifana kakhulu nokubhema. Isithombe ngasinye esitholakale kalula, sinikeza ukuqhuma okuncane, okuzuzisayo kwe-dopamine, okuqeqesha ubuchopho ukuthi buphinde buziphathe, hhayi ngokungafani nokukhipha ngakunye.
Ngamafuphi, akuyona ukuqhuma kwe-orgasm ye-neurochemical okuxhuma imilutha ye-porn ye-Intanethi, yize i-orgasm nayo iqinisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi. I-hook enamandla kakhulu yi- intsha ekhona yezocansi ze-Intanethi. Akumangalisi ukuthi lapho umfana ezama "ukuqala kabusha" ubuchopho bakhe, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuvamile:
Ngisho noma ngineziphakamiso ezinamandla zokuzijabulisa ezingcolile ngesikhathi sokuqala kabusha, angikaze ngibe nesifiso esinamandla sokushaya indlwabu. Mhlawumbe lokho yiyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi ubuchopho bami buphuthelwa yizicansi ezingaphezu kwalokho ezingaphuthelwa ukushaya indlwabu / i-orgasm.
Umlutha wanamuhla wezithombe zocansi ufana kakhulu nomlutha wevidiyo ye-Intanethi, ngoba yena (noma yena) uthembele kumahithi we-mini-dopamine ahlala njalo avela ezithombeni ezijabulisayo, ezihlala zikhona. Njengemidlalo yevidiyo, i-porn ye-Intanethi ukuzijabulisa okulula. Akunasidingo sokufuna umlingani wangempela. Ubuye afane nomlutha wokudla ngoba i-porn ye-Intanethi iduna isifiso sethu semvelo esiphoqayo (ukukhiqiza kabusha) sisebenzisa ukulethwa okumangalisa nakho okuthinta emikhakheni yethu ehlelelwe ubusha nokufuna.
Iqinekile ezweni elibonakalayo
Imilutha yezocansi ayiluthwa ngocansi; babambeke ezithombeni ezingcolile ze-Intanethi. Abazange baqeqeshelwe ubulili, kepha ukugqugquzela okubonakalayo. Nayi imibono yabathathu:
Ngangazi ukuthi ngisezinkingeni lapho empilweni yangempela amantombazane emi phambi kwami engangize angivulekile, kodwa ngokushesha ngangihamba ngekhompyutheni futhi ngibheka phezulu izithombe ezingcolile ngangijabule futhi ngigubha kanzima.
[Amaviki ngemuva kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile] Ngizizwe ngikhangwa ngokomzimba ngabesifazane bangempela okokuqala ngqa esikhathini eside. Kuyamangaza, kepha empeleni ngangiziphethe kabi ngenkathi ngikwizithombe zocansi.
Ngithemba ukuphula iminyaka engu-30 yokusebenzisa i-porn, ngokwengxenye, okungenze ngaba yintombi eneminyaka engu-40. Ngaqala ukusebenzisa i-porn ngineminyaka eyi-12-13, ngifakwe ezithombeni zabesifazane abangamaphupho kuphela (abesifazane abafanele / abanemisipha kanye / noma ama-boobs amakhulu), angikaze ngikhishwe ngaphandle kwe-porn, futhi ngiyisebenzise kaningi. Ngithole amathuba nabesifazane abaningana, kepha ngangiyi-dud ephelele. Ngasekuqaleni konyaka, ngaba nokunye ukwehluleka ukwenza nowesifazane engangimthanda kakhulu, kwathi ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 ngathatha isinqumo sokwenza okuthile ngakho. Inkinga, ngicabanga ukuthi angikaze ngithuthukise izindlela zobuchopho "ezifanele" zokwenza ucansi langempela nomlingani wangempela. Akukho ngisho nendlela endala, ekhule ngokweqile yokubuyela kuyo; ayikaze ibe khona. Nginezinsuku ezingama-33 zobulili ezingcolile / ukushaya indlwabu mahhala. Kepha ukuvala umgwaqo wami wamanje, ngizwa sengathi ngizungezwe ihlathi elicinene lapho unyawo lungakaze lubekwe ngaphambili. Nami ngingenawo ngisho ucelemba, lapho ngizwa sengathi ngidinga ngempela i-chainsaw nogandaganda.
Uma nje umlutha wezocansi uhlala ungabonakali, abasebenzisi abahlakulela izimpawu basesimweni esiyingozi. Kufanele bazibonele ngokwabo izinto, futhi akulula ukuxhumanisa amachashazi phakathi kokwenza i-porn izinkinga zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi (noma ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nocansi, ukucindezeleka noma izinkinga zokuhlushwa) nokubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Phela, i-intanethi ye-Internet iyinhlangano enamandla e-aphrodisiac. Yenza futhi umsebenzisi azizwe kangcono ngenkathi ubuka. Akumangalisi-ke ukuthi abasebenzisi balangazelela ukunikela izimpawu zabo kunoma yisiphi esinye isizathu esiphakanyisiwe, noma bamane baphethe ngokuthi, "Yilokhu engiyikho."
Njengamanje, izivumelwano zabachwepheshe nezintatheli ezihlose okuhle zenza uhambo lwabaningi abasengozini yokulutha kabi nge-inthanethi isikhathi eside ngokungadingekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abadinga usizo oluthe xaxa, ngoba bayazelapha ngenxa yezinkinga zobuntwana nabo babanjiswa enetheni elithi "i-porn ayinabungozi". Ngaphezu kwalokho, abasebenzisi bezithombe ezingcolile zobusha bathwebula izimpendulo zabo zocansi kuma-pixels, hhayi kubantu-futhi abanye bathola ukuvuswa okungenangqondo lapho bengakwazi ukwenza, noma ukujabulela, ucansi lwangempela. Ngabe laba basebenzisi kufanele balinde baze babe imilutha ephelele ukuze baqale ukuphinda bavuselele ubuchopho babo?
Ngibhekane nezinkinga zokukhathazeka nokuzethemba iminyaka. Ngangisola ukuthi ingxenye yayo ingenxa ye-PMO kepha ngaso sonke isikhathi nganginomuzwa wokuthi kunzima ukuyiyeka. Eminyakeni eminingana edlule ngayeka cishe izinyanga ezintathu futhi ngangijabule kakhulu kunangaphambili. Ngazihlanganisa nabantu, ngaya ezinsukwini nabesifazane, futhi ngangizethemba kakhulu kunakuqala. Kodwa-ke… nganoma yisiphi isizathu sokukhipha isithukuthezi… noma umkhuba… ngibuyele emuva. Ngacindezeleka kakhulu ngaze ngacabanga nokuzibulala. Kusukela lapho bekungumzabalazo… kuze kube manje! Nginosuku 3 ngingu-PMO mahhala futhi angibheki emuva!
Ngemuva kokudlula isigaba samaviki e-2 ngaqala ukubona ukwehla kokukhathazeka, ukuzethemba okukhulu, kanye nokuqina kwezwi okungcono. Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngiba ngumuntu ovamile futhi — njengomuntu obekufanele ngibe yilo. Abesifazane bayangibona futhi futhi ngingaba nengxoxo yangempela nabo. Ngizizwa sengathi ngixhumana nabantu ngokubanzi kangcono. Ngenza kangcono ezemidlalo. Ngizizwa nginamandla, ngiyashesha futhi ngibukhali. Kunjengokungathi inkungu iphakanyisiwe! Ngineminyaka engu-29 ubudala futhi manje ngizizwa sengathi nginamandla ebenginawo ebusheni bami. Umgomo wami ukuthi ngibe yi-PMO mahhala impilo yami yonke. Umfutho engizizwa unamandla ukwedlula injabulo eshibhile elethwa yi-PMO. Ngibheke phambili ekuphileni futhi ngingasafihli. Ukubuyisela emuva into ekhulula kakhulu engizizwe esikhathini eside.
Ingxube: noma ubani lapha umlutha wezocansi?
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I-GUY 2)
Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, njengomuntu obewumlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile iningi lempilo yami yobusha kuze kube manje futhi ngenxa yalokho, angikaze ngilale - angikwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi abantu bakhuluma ngani uma kukhulunywa ngokulutha ngokocansi . Ngicabanga ukuthi angikwazi ukukucabanga ngalesi sikhathi. Akunangqondo kimi.
I-GUY 3)
Lol nami futhi !!!
Njengamanje ngicabanga ukuthi ukulutha kocansi kungaba kuhle kepha kungenxa yokuthi kungasho ukuthi ngokusobala anginazo i-porn ezenze i-ED. Ngingacabanga kodwa ukuthi iqiniso lingafana nokulutha kwezocansi - ucansi luzolawula imicabango yakho namahora ozowasebenzisela ukwenza ucansi. Ngicabanga ukuthi uma ubenobudlelwano besikhathi eside nomuntu ojabulela inani elifanayo locansi lapho-ke kungahle kube kulungile. Uma kungenjalo ngicabanga ukuthi kungaba njengesihogo.
Ukuqagela nje - kunzima ngentombi ukuthi iphawule.
I-GUY 4)
kuyacaca ukuthi umlutha wanamuhla wezocansi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, umlutha we-Intanethi:
Uma nina bantu nifuna ukwazi imfihlo yami, bekungelula kangako. I-laptop yami yaphuka. Ngokuzimisela, yilokho kuphela okwathatha. Ngaphezulu kwehlobo ngangikwenza kube yisonto elilodwa noma amabili kuze kube yilapho kubuyela emuva, kepha ngemuva kokuthi leyo laptop ihambile, ngangikhululekile ekhaya. Ngaphandle kokuthi ngizwa izifiso ezindala zibuya. Ukungasho ukuthi ngithola i-pc entsha emasontweni amabili ezayo. Ngiphinde ngithole ukugwetshwa.
UPDATES
- Ukulutha kobulili / ucansi? Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-40 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikeza ukusekela okuqinile ngesimodeli sokulutha kwezidakamizwa njengoba iziphumo zabo zibuyisa ukutholakala kwezinzwa ezibikiwe ezifundweni zokulutha izidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-20 zakamuva nezincazelo ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokubika okutholakele okuhambisana nokwanda kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezelelana), ukujwayela i-porn, kanye nezimpawu zokuhoxa (zonke izimpawu nezimpawu ezihlobene nokulutha).
- Ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni? Umbhalo wezokwelapha wezokwelapha osetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni, I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), iqukethe ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "
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