Ingabe izombusazwe ezishiya izidakamizwa zisishiya emithonjeni ehambayo?
Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani kufundwe ubuchopho babadlali bokugembula be-pathological, abayimilutha yokudla kanye nemidlalo yevidiyo, kepha akekho noyedwa ofunde ubuchopho bemilutha yezocansi? Ngokuqinisekile sizibuze — ikakhulukazi njengoba umuntu evame ukuzwa isimangalo esithi ukungabi khona wezifundo "ubufakazi" bokuthi Ukulutha ukubheja ubulili / ubulili iyinkolelo (ngisho noma amaklayenti neziguli zilokhu zikhononda ngokuthi ziboshwe kokubili).
Muva nje, sifunde kungani Ucwaningo lwezobuchopho-zesayensi mayelana nokulutha kocansi nocansi cishe alukho. Lo mlando othakazelisayo uphinde waveza umsuka wesisho esijwayelekile sokuthi ucansi ne-porn akusoze kwaba umlutha-futhi kusikisela ukuthi silahlekile.
Ku-1992, ukukhwabanisa kwezombusazwe kwenzeka emkhakheni wezokwelapha, okwehlisa ukuqonda okujulile kobulili bomuntu. NgokukaDavid E. Smith MD, umongameli odlule we-American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM), odokotela bahlukumeza ukuqashelwa ngokocansi njengendlela yokukhubazeka ukuze kulungiswe ingozi esheshayo. USmith, endleleni, wasungula umtholampilo wezeMpilo waseHaight-Ashbury eSan Francisco ngesikhathi sehlobo lwe-Love (1967). Usebenze kanzima kusukela kokubili ukufundisa ochwepheshe wezokwelapha ngobuchopho epulasitiki bashintsha ngemuva kokulutha nokulondeka nokuphatha iziguli ezinomlutha. Ungumbhali wezincwadi eziningi nezincwadi zezincwadi.
Ngokusho kukaSmith, nakhu okwenzekile: UJess Browley futhi wayeyi-Delegate kanye ne-Alternate Delegate, ngokulandelana, kwi-American Medical Association's Indlu yabamalungu ekufuneni ukugunyazwa kokukhethekile okusha: umuthi wokulutha. Kwacaca ukuthi i-AMA ibingavumi ukwamukela okukhethekile okusha ngaphandle uma ucansi lungenisiwe kusuka ohlwini lwemilutha engenzeka. Ngakho-ke, baphonsa 'umlutha wezocansi' ngaphansi kwebhasi.
Lokhu kukhishwa kwakungasekelwe kwisayensi noma ekuhlangenwe nakho kukaSmith okwenziwe emtholampilo — zombili lezi ziphakamiso zathi ukuziphatha kwezocansi kunamandla okuba yizidakamizwa ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile. Lokhu akumangazi, njengoba ukuvuswa kocansi kungukucindezela kakhulu kuyo yonke imivuzo yemvelo futhi kuvela emjikelezweni womvuzo wobuchopho (isihlalo sakho konke ukulutha).
Isizathu sasinamasu. Odokotela babezimisele ekuqedeni i-spin yabakhiqizi bakagwayi. Ugwayi Omkhulu wawususa zonke izitobha ukuze kunwetshiswe umqondo wokuthi “ukubhema akuluthisi.” Ithi ubufakazi bochwepheshe bezidakamizwa kufanele bunganakwa ngoba, “ochwepheshe bathi konke kunakho umlutha. ”
Ukungafani nobulili kubonisa ukuthi odokotela kwakungekho ukusho ukuthi konke kuyalutha. Ngaphandle kwalokho, imilutha yezocansi yayingavamile, kuyilapho ababhemayo bekhona yonke indawo futhi behlupheka ngokungadingekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umlutha wokuziphatha wobuchopho besayensi wawungakafiki amazinga wanamuhla yokwethembeka nokwethembeka.
Imiphumela engalindelekile
Ukuveza ukuziphatha ngokobulili ngaphandle kwensimu yokulutha kuye kwaba nemiphumela emibi. Cishe amashumi amabili emva kochwepheshe kucima i-Smoke Spin, ngokuqala amaphepha agwayi ashicilelwe ku Journal of the American Medical Association (1994), siseseNkathini Yobumnyama yokuqonda ubulili.
I-ASAM-AMA yenza ngokungaqondile ukuvikela umlutha wezocansi kusukela ekuhloliseni amehlo kwabacwaningi bezokwelapha kakhulu abaye bakwazi ukubhebhethekisa kakhulu ngokocansi: i-neurobiologists. Kungani kufanele ufunde okuthile okuthi, nge-medical fiat, akakho? Ngakho-ke, kuye kwaba cishe uphenyo oluqondile kwi-neurobiology yokudlula ngokwezocansi. (Ngokuphambene, izifundo eziningi ziqinisekisa ukuthi kukhona ukuguqulwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nokulutha kwezidakamizwa kwezinye izilingo zokuziphatha.)
Esikhundleni salokho, ucwaningo lwezokwelapha luye lwagxila ngokuphelele ekuziphatheni komzimba (ukungabi nokuphendula kwezocansi). Ngakho-ke, sinezidakamizwa ezithuthukisa ngokocansi kanye nezidakamizwa ezibekwe ngemithi kanye ne-eerotica. Odokotela bahlola ngisho izimila ezikhiqiza i-orgasm ngezinsipho zabesifazane.
Kodwa uma isiguli sigxeka ngokungakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha, I-porn iyakuthanda ukuhlukumeza ekuthumeni izindlela, noma isidingo sokwandisa ukugqugquzela ngokocansi—Abaningi abelaphi bazomqinisekisa ukuthi ubungqingili abukho. Lokhu kuyiqiniso noma ngabe yena uqobo-kukhomba njengomlutha. Esinye isazi sezocansi sifunde ngokuziqhenya ukuthi watshela umfana ukushaya indlwabu ku-intanethi amahora ayisithupha ngosuku ukuthi wayengenayo umlutha, kodwa kunenkinga yokuzindela. Kuyi-theory, kepha….
Abahlengikazi ababonisa ngesibindi ukuthi ukucwasana ngokobulili can ukuholela ekulutha umlutha, futhi ukuzama ukuphatha amaklayenti ngendlela efanele, kungase kukhishwe noma kuhlaziyeke yizintshisekelo zabo ezingaphezu kobuciko. Ngokuvumelana nalokhu okucabangayo, abalobi be-DSM-5 abazimisele ukuyokwenza ukuxosha isigaba sobulili obungcolile kusithasiselo. [Qaphela: Empeleni, i-DSM iphumelele ekuqedeni lo mqondo ngokuphelele futhi ikhawulele ikholi lokuthi kuqhutshekwe kufundwe ukulutha kokuziphatha "kumlutha we-videogaming" - ize yenqabe nokucela ukuqhubeka nokufundwa "komzali" wayo, ukulutha kwe-intanethi, (okungenzeka ngokwemvelo kuye kwaxoshwa ku-inthanethi yezokwelapha zocansi njenge-subtype ye-addiction internet).]
Umbono onjalo womhubhe ubangelwa, ngokwengxenye, kwisivumelwano esingokomlando esixoxwe ngenhla. Isizukulwane sezincwadi zezifundo sithi ukucindezelwa ngokocansi (1) kuyisisongelo esiyinhloko ekuziphatheni ngokobulili obuhle, futhi (2) ukuziphatha ngokobulili akunakwenzeka imbangela umlutha. Ukuqeqeshwa kwezemfundo okwamanje akukatholakali nezinguquko ezinkulu ze-Inthanethi ephezulu nokucwaninga kobuchopho kumilutha yokuziphatha.
Isibonelo, sibuze uprofesa we-psychology kanye nomcwaningi wezocansi ukuthi ucabangani ngezindaba zocwaningo lwase-Italy olu-odolwe odokotela be-urologists, okuqinisekisile lokho esikubonile kubikwa emakhulwini wezintambo zesithangami emazweni angama-25 — okungukuthi abasebenzisi abasebancane bezocansi ukuthuthukisa ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, okuziphendulela ngokwayo ezinyangeni zokuyeka ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn. Wahlekisa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kobulili obuningi ngokweqile kubangela ukungafuneki (ukuguqulwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha):
Kungani izindaba eziningi kangaka ezingasile ziveliswa ngalesi sihloko? Hmm, ingabe imele ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngento engekho, njengokukhathazeka ngokweqile ngama-unicorn?
Impendulo yakhe iyaqondakala. Ngemuva kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi ubelokhu eshayela abafundi bakhe iminyaka eminingi ukucabanga okungaqondakali ukuthi ukuziphatha ngokocansi, kufaka phakathi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kwe-Intanethi, akunakubangela izinqubo zokulutha ubuchopho. Njengoba lesi sikhundla singasekelwa yisayensi yobuchopho yangempela, izincazelo eziyindilinga zivamile: “Izithombe zocansi ezikuyi-Internet zilusizo lokushaya indlwabu… futhi ayikho into efana nokushaya indlwabu ngokweqile (ngoba ucansi alusoze lwaba umlutha)… ngakho-ke ngeke kube khona njengokusebenzisa kabi i-porn. ”
Odokotela bezokwelapha baqala ukuvala igebe lwazi. Ngaphakathi Ubuchopho Obushintshayo, isazi sezifo zengqondo uNorman Doidge wachaza izimiso zobuciko bepulasitiki ngemuva kokunciphisa ukuphendula ngokobulili ezinqoleni zakhe ezinkulu-besebenzisa iziguli (nokubuyisela kwayo). Kodwa odokotela abaningi abangewona ochwepheshe be-neuroscience baqhubeka bebuyela emuva ezinsukwini zabo Penthouse sebenzisa futhi uqhubeke nokubuka ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi njengesandiso esingenabungozi. Babonakala bengazi ukuthi i-porn yanamuhla iletha kude ukuvuselela izidakamizwa ezingaphezu kwezidakamizwa ebuchosheni kunezingcingo ezingcolile zesikhathi esedlule, ukuthi ubuchopho bubukeka Ukulutha kwe-intanethi sezivele ziveza izinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha okujwayelekile, noma ukuthi izingane zanamuhla zisebenzisa i-Internet kakhulu ngenkathi yazo ubuchopho buyingqayizivele epulasitiki. Lokhu kuphazamisa ikakhulukazi kunikezwe ucwaningo lwamuva olusho ukuthi ubuchopho bentsha bubhekene nengozini yokulutha.
Okunye futhi okuyimbangela yesimo sokulahla sochwepheshe abaningi umcabango wokuthi, “Ucansi alunakuba umlutha ngoba abantu bayayeka lapho sebenenqwaba yemithambo eyanele.” Ochwepheshe bake bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso ngokudla okunambitheka kakhulu, futhi, kepha thina baseMelika sikufakazele ukuthi bafile okungalungile. Izindlela zokwenziwa kwe-neural satiation zabantu zibonakala zisethelwe izinhlobo zokudla nezisusa zocansi esivele nazo. Ezanamuhla ukuphakamisa ukudla okungenamsoco futhi i-cyber erotica yansuku zonke iyalenga ngokwanele ukuthi ingaphezu kokuhlelwa kwesimo satiety yemvelo kithi abaningi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi kwe-porn akudingi i-orgasm. I-Orgasm yinto yemizuzwana eyishumi; Ukubukwa kocansi kwe-inthanethi kaningi iyaqhubeka amahora… Emsebenzini, esikoleni, nakwezinye izindawo lapho ukushaya indlwabu kungeyona inketho. Umphumela? Njengakudla lokudla okungenamsoco, singadla size sikunqamule ukusabela kwethu ezinjabulweni ezivamile — uphawu lokulutheka.
I-dissonance yokuxilonga
Okwamanje, ucwaningo lwesayense nezinye izidakamizwa zokuziphatha ziye zahamba ngokungahambisani nalokho okwenzekile ekusizeni abantu abasebenzisa ugwayi. Ama-Brain scans of the obese, kanye nama-scans wokugembula nama-addicts amageyimu wevidiyo, adbula kwangempela ukuguqulwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha.
Izimpawu ezihambisana nokushintsha kobuchopho kulezi zinkinga ziyizo izimpawu ezinabasebenzisi abaningi be-porn banamuhla ngobuningi: ukuhluleka ukulawula ukusetshenziswa, izifiso ezimbi, ukubekezelelana (ukukhuphuka), ukunciphisa ukuphendula ngokocansi, izinkinga zokuhlushwa, ukucindezeleka, isifiso esingenampilo sokuhlukanisa, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka izimpawu zokuhoxiswa lapho eyeka, nokunye. Iningi labo libika nokuthi lezi izimpawu ziyaziphendulela zingakapheli izinyanga zokuyeka izithombe ze-intanethi.
Okwamanje, kwenzekani uma isiguli ayikwazi ukuyeka ukuziphatha okubi ngokobulili, futhi ufuna usizo lobuchwepheshe? Ezimweni eziningi, isiguli sithathwa njengesifo esithile nezinye kuka umlutha wezocansi. Kulungile. Udokotela okhetha a ezahlukene okuyisisekelo, noma ukugula, ukugula-futhi imbhekisela ekululekeleni, izidakamizwa ze-psychotropic, noma kokubili.
Umcabango wokuthi ukulutha kocansi nokuziphatha kabi kuwuphawu lokunye ukugula okuyisisekelo kuveza ukuxilongwa okukhohlisayo kulabo abalwa nezinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukukhathazeka kokusebenza, i-ADHD, i-OCD, ingcindezi, ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwezenhlalo, ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, ukukhathazeka kokusebenza (ngesandla sakho?), Njalonjalo. Okubi kakhulu, isiguli esingumlutha asaziswa ukuthi singakwazi ukubuyela emuva izimpawu zakhe ngokukhuthazela ukuhoxiswa nokuziphatha okuguqukayo. I-plasticity yobuchopho isebenza ngezindlela zombili.
Abacwaningi bayazi kusuka kwezinye izidakamizwa zokuziphatha ukuthi izimpawu zalokho nezinye ukuphumula ukuphumula kungase kube umsebenzi wokulutha ngokweqile (anhedonia, izinkinga zokuhlushwa, ukukhathazeka okukhulu, njll). Kuthatha phezu elinye ukuxilongwa esikhundleni sokufundisa iklayenti / isiguli ngokulutha umlutha kuyinto elingana nokutshela isiguli esinomlenze ophukile ukuthatha amaphilisi obuhlungu esikhundleni sokumisa imilenze nokusetshenziswa kwemigqa.
Yiqiniso, ezinye iziguli zinezifo nezinye izimo esikhundleni, noma ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuziphatha kocansi okulimazayo. Kodwa uma bengenalo, futhi ukulutha ngokobulili ngokwayo kuyimbangela enkulu yezinkinga zabo, udokotela ngokuvamile uyayinaki leyo nhlobo. S / uqeqeshiwe hhayi ukucabangela ukubheja ngokocansi-ukuziphatha njengokugula okungenzeka okuyinhloko.
Maye, ukucabanga ukuthi ezinye izidakamizwa zingaba yizinhloko, kepha ukulutha kobulili-ukuziphatha akukwazi, kungukuthi okungenakwenzeka. Ngaphandle kokufaka ucansi emkhakheni wokucwaninga izidakamizwa amashumi eminyaka singakwazi ukuzikhohlisa ukuze sikholelwe ngenye indlela.
Kunoma yikuphi, ukutholakala kwezinye izimo akuwenzi umlutha Ngaphansi yokulutha. Umlutha wotshwala onenkinga yezenhlalo kusamele abhekane nokuluthwa utshwala, futhi umuntu okhuluphele kakhulu kusamele abhekane nokudla okuphoqa… nokuthi amanye amakhilogremu angama-200. Bobabili badinga usizo ekushintsheni indlela yabo yokuziphatha ukuze baphinde basebenzise ubuchopho babo.
Isikhathi esisha sobulili bomuntu
Ngo-Agasti walo nyaka (2011) kwaqala ushintsho olukhulu olwandle. Ukushiywa kokuziphatha ngokocansi njengokulutha okungenzeka kwalungiswa-hhayi yi-AMA, kepha yi-ASAM. Kuma-FAQ aphathelene nokumenyezelwa kwawo esidlangalaleni, i-ASAM ichaza ukuthi,
Sonke sinomvuzo we-brainry umjikelezo okwenza ukudla nokucansi kube nomvuzo. Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyindlela yokusinda. Ebuchopho obuphephile, le mivuzo inezinqubo zempendulo zokusondeza noma 'okwanele.' Kumuntu onomlutha, izakhi ziba nzima kakhulu kangangokuthi umlayezo kumuntu uba 'ngaphezulu', okuholela ekuphishekeleni ukuhlaziywa ngokwemvelo kwemiklomelo kanye / noma ukusiza ngokusebenzisa izinto nezinto zokuziphatha.
Ngenxa yokuthuthuka ocwaningweni lokulutha kokuziphatha, ochwepheshe bezidakamizwa kanye nezazi ze-neurobiologists manje sebenesiqiniseko sokuthi ukulutha kwezenzo zocansi kwabelana ngesisekelo esifanayo sokushintsha kobuchopho obuphambili njengezinye izidakamizwa. Isikhathi sokunika amandla ochwepheshe bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo ukuthi bahambisane neqiniso lokuthi abayimilutha ye-inthanethi ye-porn / yezocansi bangase babhekane nezinguquko zobuchopho ezibonwe kweminye imilutha. Ngokuletha izincwadi zokufunda kanye nezivumelwano kusesikhathini, sikhulula abahlinzeki bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo ukusiqondisa ngqo kwezocansi okunempilo, nokugwema amacala alethelwa abantu abayimilutha yezocansi.
Isitatimende se-ASAM sihamba phambili phambili, kepha kuningi okufanele kwenziwe. Ngenxa yamashumi eminyaka yokungaboni, abacwaningi basenalo ulwazi oluncane ngokuthi yini ubuchopho be-chemistry yezocansi ibhalansi kubukeka sengathi, noma kungani kusikhuthaza impilo. I-meme ukuthi ngokweqile kokubili kujwayelekile futhi kungabikho ingozi, naphezu kwezibonakaliso zokuxwayisa amadoda, abesifazane futhi intsha esikhulakhulile.
Izimpawu zokuthi ubuchopho buthuthukisa izinguquko ezihlobene nokulutha umlutha kungaba ulwazi olujwayelekile, kepha njengoba ososayensi befunda ngemiphumela yocansi ebuchosheni ngezingqondo ezivulekile, eminye imininingwane ethokozisayo ngobulili babantu ingavela. Isibonelo, ingabe izinguquko zihlotshaniswa nokwedlulele, noma ngabe kumafomu amancane, okhubaza ikhono lethu lokujabulela ubudlelwano obuseduze besikhathi eside ngokusheshisa ukujwayela phakathi kwabalingani? Uyini umphumela wokunamathela okunamathiselwe njalo ebuchosheni babalingani?
Ngabe siphuthelwa okunye okubalulekile mayelana ne-orgasm uqobo? Isibonelo, kunobufakazi bokuthi ama-hormone nama-neurochemical ripples alandela i-orgasm, okungakuhle ukuthi uphenye ngokuqhubekayo. Ingabe Okwamadoda, Ezabesifazane futhi intsha esikhulakhulile'ubuchopho obuhlukile kulokhu? Ingabe ukwenza ucansi nokushaya indlwabu kuveza imiphumela ehlukile ebuchosheni?
Ucwaningo lwe-neuroscience lungaveza ukukhanya okuningi emibutfweni enjengalezi-manje ukuthi ukutadisha kwezinto eziphathelene nokuziphatha ngokweqile kubuyele ekudlaleni.
Umbusi akagqokile umchilo wakhe
Isivumelwano somlando se-ASAM-AMA singahlosile sakhuthaza isimemezelo esingenampilo: “Uma kukhulunywa ngokuziphatha kocansi, kufaka phakathi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi, ayikho into eningi kakhulu noma engajwayelekile ngoba ukuluthwa ngokocansi akunakwenzeka.” Isikhathi sokusiphula lokhu kucabanga okuyisifiso-ngaphandle kokuvumela ingxoxo ukuthi ihlukaniswe ngezindlela ezingenasisekelo: "ucansi oluhambisana nobulili," "inkulumo ekhululekile kuqhathaniswa nomyalo" noma "ukwehluka ngokocansi kuqhathaniswa nokushintshashintsha." Akusikho "ukuvuma ocansini" ukudikibala isayensi elukhuni kwezocansi, futhi iqiniso lokuthi isayensi ikhuthazekile kubonakala ngathi kunemiphumela "emibi yezocansi" emadodeni: Ucwaningo luqinisekisa ukukhula okukhulu ku-ED osemusha.
Esikhundleni sokulahla noma ukuvikela ubulili ukuziphatha (ukuziphatha okuxekethile, okuqukethwe okuyi-porn, ukuthanda ezocansi, njll.), ake sigxile ebuchosheni bomzimba: ama-neurochemicals, ama-receptors, ukushintshwa kwe-cortex engaphambili, ivolumu yempunga ebelethwayo, kanye nezinguquko ezindabeni ezimhlophe ze-limbic, njengoba kwenziwe ngokulutha kwe-Intanethi, ukugembula nokudla ucwaningo lokulutha.
Amanye amazwe asevele asebenza kanzima ekuphenyweni kokulutha kwe-intanethi (okubandakanya ukusetshenziswa kwama-porn kwamanye amazwe). Iqembu elilodwa abacwaningi abatholile ukuthi amaphesenti angu-18 wabafundi baseyunivesithi aphethwe yingozi. Ngokusobala, ingozi yokulutha kwe-intanethi emadodeni yayingaphezu kwesithathu kwabafazi. Baphetha ngokuthi:
Iphesenti elikhulu lentsha ebantwini libhekene nemiphumela emibi yokulutha kwe-intanethi. Kudingekile ukuthi izifo zengqondo nezengqondo ziqaphele izinkinga zengqondo ezibangelwa ukulutha kwe-Inthanethi [njenge-OCD, ukukhathazeka, nokucindezeleka].
Ukukhuluma ngokwemvelo, okungavamile ayihlanganise lutho nokufisa noma ukungathandeki kokuziphatha okunikeziwe. Kuwumsebenzi wokungalingani kobuchopho / komzimba. Abanye abantu bangazibandakanya ekuvuseleleni okuningi kocansi (noma okunye) ngaphandle kwezinguquko zobuchopho eziyingozi. Abanye abakwazi, futhi ukuziphatha okunjalo kubangela izimpawu abazithola zingakhathazeki noma zingabekezeleleki. Kulula impela lokho.
Akunjalo ini senza ekamelweni lokulala, phambi kwamakhompyutha ethu, noma endlini yokugezela ebalulekile. Yindlela ezithinta ngayo ubuchopho bethu beplastiki. Uma ubuchopho bomunye umuntu buzijwayela ngokushesha ukuze bukhuthaze kakhulu, ukuze adinge ukukhuthazeka ngokwengeziwe, noma akhombise okunye izimpawu ezihlobene nomlutha, khona-ke ukuziphatha kwezinkinga kukhulu kakhulu okwakhe. Ukhetha ukwenza. Lokhu akuhlukile kumuntu ongasebenzisi i-carbohydrate kahle. Kumele afunde imiphumela yokudla okuhlukahlukene kwezempilo.
Uma kuziwa ekuziphatheni kocansi, khona is into enjengokuthi kakhulu, futhi kukhona into enjengokuthi okungavamile. Asikwazi ukukuthola kusuka noma iyiphi ikhodi yokuziphatha, kodwa ochwepheshe bethu bezempilo bangasisiza ukuba sibone ngokusebenzisa ama-C amane aveza izinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha:
- Ukulahlekelwa Control
- Ukuphoqwa
- Iqhutshwa sebenzisa naphezu kokubi Imiphumela
- Ukukhanga - kokubili ngokwengqondo / ngokomzimba
Akukaze kube khona isintu esilungele kangcono ukuqonda amandla aso wokulinganisela kwezocansi nokudlulela. I-genie yenkululeko yezocansi ibalekele ibhodlela ngokuphelele. Singayibheka kanzima imiphumela yobungqingili ebuchosheni ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuphindiselwa. Masisuse imicabango yethu yangaphambili, ipolitiki yezocansi neziqubulo ocwaningweni lwezocansi, bese sisebenzisa wonke amathuluzi amasha esinawo ukuveza ukuqonda okuphelele ngobulili babantu — ubukhazikhazi babo namaphuzu abuthaka.
Ulwazi olukhulu luzosinika amandla kithi abathanda ubulili ukuba baqondise imiphumela esiyikhethayo ngenkathi sihlonipha ukulinganiselwa kwethu ngabanye. Okunye okuqhubekayo ukucindezela ingozi yokulutha ngokobulili-ukuziphatha okusemthethweni kusibeka engozini yokugwinywa elwandle lwezimithi ezichazwe izimpawu eziseceleni-kuyilapho imbangela eyinhloko yezinkinga ezimbi, ezingakafiki.
Emashumini eminyaka adlule besingayiqondi isayensi yokulutha, kepha asikho isizathu sokungazi ngokulutha manje. — UDavid E. Smith, MD
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AMAKHAYA:
- Ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni? Umbhalo wezokwelapha wezokwelapha osetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni, I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), iqukethe ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "
- Ukulutha kobulili / ucansi? Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-52 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-fMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Bonke bahlinzeka ngokusekelwa okuqinile kwemodeli yokulutha njengoba abakutholayo bebonisa okutholwe yi-neurological ocwaningweni olubhekiswe kwizidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-27 zakamuva ze-neuroscience & imibono ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-50 ezibika okutholakele zihambisana nokukhula kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezela), ukujwayela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngisho nezimpawu zokuhoxiswa (zonke izimpawu nezimpawu ezihambisana nokulutha). Ikhasi elengeziwe nge Izifundo eziyi-10 ezibika izimpawu zokuhoxiswa kwabasebenzisi be-porn.
- Ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni? Umbhalo wezokwelapha wezokwelapha osetshenziswa kakhulu emhlabeni, I-International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), iqukethe ukuxilongwa okusha efanelekile ukulutha izidakamizwa: "Ukucindezeleka Ngokuziphatha Ngokwemvelo. "
- Ukubheka iphuzu lokukhuluma elingasekelwa ukuthi "isifiso sobulili esiphakeme" sichaza ukulahla ucansi noma ukulutha ngokobulili: Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-25 zikhohlisa isimangalo sokuthi ubulili nemilutha yezocansi "banesifiso sobulili esiphakeme kuphela"
- Izinkinga zobulili nezinkinga zobulili? Lolu hlu luqukethe izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-40 ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn / ukubheja kocansi ezinkingeni zobulili nokuvusa okuncane ezenzweni zobulili. The Ucwaningo lokuqala lwe-7 ohlwini lubonisa ibangela, njengoba abahlanganyeli beqede ukusetshenziswa kwezingcolile kanye nokuphulukisa okungavamile kocansi.
- Imiphumela yocansi ebuhlotsheni? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-75 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kuya ukwaneliseka okuncane kwezocansi nokwabelana ngokobudlelwano. Njengoba sisazi konke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zabika ukusetshenziswa okuningi kocansi okuxhunyiwe abampofu ukwaneliseka ngokobulili noma ngokobudlelwano.
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta impilo engokomzwelo nengqondo? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-85 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi nezimpofu ezingokwengqondo-ezingokomzwelo nemiphumela empofu yokuqonda.
- Ukusebenzisa i-Porn kuthinta izinkolelo, isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha? Hlola izifundo ngabanye - ngaphezu kokuqukethwe kwe-40 ukuxilongwa kwe-porn ukuze "isimo sengqondo esingafani" kubesifazane kanye nokubukwa kobulili - - Imidiya nezocansi: Umbuso woPhando lwezobuciko, i-1995-2015.
- Kuthiwani ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili nokusetshenziswa kocansi? Okunye ukuhlaziywa kwemeta: Ukuhlaziywa Kwemifanekiso Yezingcolile zobulili kanye Nemisebenzi Yezenzo Zokuhlukunyezwa Ngokobulili Ezingxoxweni Ezivamile Zabantu (2015).
- "Kodwa isenzo sokudlwengula asizange sisebenzise izinga lokudlwengula?" Cha, izinga lokudlwengula liye landa eminyakeni yamuva: "Izinga lokudlwengula liyakhula, ngakho-ke ungayinaki inkulumo ye-porn-pro. ”Uyabo leli khasi lezifundo ezingaphezu kwe-100 ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kocansi ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi, ukuphoqelelwa nodlame, kanye nokugxekwa okwedlulele kwesisho esiphindaphindwayo sokuthi ukutholakala kwe-porn kubangele ukwehla kwezinga lokudlwengulwa.
- Kuthiwani ngokusetshenziswa kocansi kanye nentsha? Hlola lolu hlu ngaphezulu kwezinguquko ze-270 kwentsha, noma lezi zibuyekezo zezincwadi: ukubuyekeza # 1, buyekeza2, ukubuyekeza # 3, ukubuyekeza # 4, ukubuyekeza # 5, ukubuyekeza # 6, ukubuyekeza # 7, ukubuyekeza # 8, ukubuyekeza # 9, ukubuyekeza # 10, ukubuyekeza # 11, ukubuyekeza # 12, ukubuyekeza # 13, ukubuyekeza # 14, ukubuyekeza # 15.
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Ngicabanga ukuthi kungumphumela we-pendulum swinging kude kakhulu kolunye uhlangothi. Isikhathi eside kulelizwe, ubulili ngaphambi komshado, kanye nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lobulili obungeyona inzalo, lwaluthathwa njengesono nobubi. Bese kulandela “inguquko yezocansi”, futhi inkululeko yezocansi iba yindlela yokuvukela okuvamile.
I-Flash foward iminyaka engamashumi amathathu kanti lawo mahippin bangin 'odakeni eWoodstock ngabazali, abanikazi bebhizinisi, osopolitiki, njll. Inkululeko yezocansi iba yinto evamile, futhi akukho lutho oluthathwa njengolungafanele. Ekugcineni izingane zabo, uJohnny noLisa abancane baqala ukuya ocansini beneminyaka eyi-12, futhi kuyasha lapho uJohnny pees noLisa benezinsolo ezifundeni zakhe ezisezansi. (straight / ”normal”) Abantu baqala ukuxaka nge-AIDS. Ukushaya indlwabu kuqala ukukhuthazwa njengenye indlela ephephile yocansi. "Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile" ngalesi sikhathi zingaphezu nje kwe-Playboy, mhlawumbe ezinye izinto ezithambile ekufinyeleleni kwekhebula, kepha iningi labafana okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuthola leyo njabulo ukumisa i-VCR yakho NGESIKHATHI ESIFANELE (khumbula ukuthi shit Holy !! Cabanga nje ngenkathi uthayipha lokhu).
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - ngemuva kwesinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu seNkantolo Ephakeme - zivikelwe ngokuphelele yiSichibiyelo Sokuqala, ngaphandle kwalapho zidlwengulwa noma zidlala amanyala noma okuthile. Manje usunabantu abazonda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa thatha umqondo wokuthi "Angikuthandi kodwa ngizokuvikela ekufeni ilungelo lakho lokukusho", ngibona noma yimuphi umzamo wokwephula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengo- "Un-American" / regression / ukucindezela / ukuphendula. Isihogo, ngisho nabesifazane besifazane sebeqalile ukusho ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingabanika amandla abesifazane (ngisho nama-pornstars).
Kodwa-ke, akekho umuntu ocabanga phambili kuze kube maphakathi no-2000, lapho uJohnny noLisa bekwazi ukufinyelela kuzo zonke izidlo ezinyanyekayo ne -philia nge-High Definition ku-nanosecond enokufinyelela kwe-inthanethi okusheshayo (Oh man… khumbula ukulinda imizuzu emihlanu ukuthola ISITHOMBE esisodwa ozosilanda ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-5's ??? Damn, ukubhala lokhu kungibuyisela EMUVA!). Isihogo, namuhla iningi LABAFUNDI BESIKHATHI bangakwazi ukufinyelela kuwo wonke amantombazane agulayo agulayo abekhona ngemizuzwana ngedivayisi ukuthi zingangena ephaketheni labo.
Izinhloso eziningi "ezinhle" zihambe kabi. Izimiso ezikhona endaweni engenalutho azihlali zinengqondo emhlabeni wangempela, futhi ubuchwepheshe buyashintsha izinto. Abantu baqala ukukholelwa izinto emhlambini, futhi noma ngubani obuza ukuhlakanipha okuvamile uyenziwa kabi. Odokotela bayakuzonda ukuvuma ukuthi banephutha futhi bamelana nobufakazi obuphikisanayo kuze kube yilapho behudulwa bekhahlela futhi bekhalela iqiniso. Ukungasho lutho ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungenye yezinto ezithunyelwa kakhulu eMelika futhi iyimboni eyizigidigidi eziningi ngonyaka (ifaka ingqondo yami ekutheni noma ngubani ukhokhela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa ngamunye azitholele eyakhe).
Futhi lapho unayo. Uxolo ukuthi kuphelile isikhathi eside kodwa ukuthunyelwe kwakho kwangenza ngicabanga!
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