Taorian'ny 30 taona niorenan'ny PMO - nitazona fananganana aho nandritra ny firaisana voalohany teo amin'ny fiainako

Ny 82 andro dia isa hafahafa handefasana azy, saingy nahatratra ny dingana lehibe aho androany. Afara haingana. Nisara-panambadiana aho ary nanambady ny sipako voalohany (sy olon-tiana voalohany). Naharitra folo taona mahery izany ary menatra ny miaiky fa ny PMO dia nahatonga ahy tsy hanana firaisana ara-nofo.

Ny fisaraham-panambadiana dia tsy noho ny PMO fotsiny fa afaka milaza aminao aho fa ny fifandraisana tsy misy firaisana ara-nofo dia fifandraisana ratsy, vanim-potoana.

Taorian'ny fisaraham-panambadiana dia nandalo fiovana maro aho, anisan'izany ny fahaverezan'ny lanjany BE, ny fanovana ny asako, ny fiarako, ny toe-tsaina, ny zavatra rehetra. Saingy tsy nanova ny PMO aho, na dia nilaza tamiko aza ny mpanolotsaina momba ny fanambadiana fa nandevozin'ny pôrnôgrafia aho (tsy hitako ny antony hialana - tsy nanana GF aho ary tena nampahery).

Mandroso haingana herintaona taorian'ny fisaraham-panambadiana ary nihaona tamina tovovavy tsara tarehy be fiahiana aho ary afaka maminavina ny tantara ianao - tsy azoko ilay izy. Ary toy ny tamin'ny fanambadiako dia nanomboka nieritreritra aho hoe, rava fotsiny aho ary ity tovovavy ity dia tsy maintsy miaina ny zava-misy fa olon-tiana lehibe aho afa-tsy ny firaisana ara-nofo.

Tena nanohana ahy izy ary nilaza fa 'hikarakara' ny olako izahay - ary nahatonga ahy hieritreritra hoe inona no olana misy ahy. Ary hatramin'ny nahazoako topimaso momba ny olana efa ho herintaona lasa izay, dia nanomboka namaky momba izany aho, nahita ity forum ity, YBOP, ary tranokala hafa. Ary indray andro rehefa nanao vakansy aho fa tsy nandeha tany ivelany dia nandeha nijery pôrnôgrafia tamin'ny solosaina findaiko ary nahafinaritra ahy, dia namely ahy izany - izany no olana. Nila nijanona aho.

82 andro lasa izay io andro io ary mirehareha aho milaza fa tonga lafatra aho tsy nisy masturbation na orgasme. Tsy mirehareha aho milaza fa miverina amin'ny pôrnôgrafia aho isaky ny andro vitsivitsy - matetika minitra vitsy monja amin'ny bikini / soft core fa fantatro fa mbola diso izany. Io no ady mbola iadiako.

Na izany aza, farafaharatsiny ho ahy, dia toa ny nofap no fototry ny vahaolana, satria ny olana nananako dia ny tsy fahatsiarovan-tena noho ny deathgrip - tsy nahatsapa na inona na inona avy amin'ny PIV na BJ aho na zavatra hafa ankoatra ny tanako. Amin'ny fanalana tanteraka ny tanako dia afaka mahatsapa tsikelikely aho (tena miadana, fa azo antoka).

Teo amin'ny 45 andro teo ho eo dia tsapako fa niala ny PIED, saingy mbola tsy tonga lafatra izany. Nolazaiko tamin'ny GF-ko ny olana mahazo ahy tamin'izay, izay zavatra hafa tokony hiadian-kevitra eto; fara faharatsiny tamin'ny toe-javatra nisy ahy dia tena nanampy ahy ny nilaza taminy mba ho azony ny zavatra tokony hataony mba hanampiana ahy hihatsara.

Ary mba hahatongavana amin'ny hazavana any amin'ny faran'ny tonelina - izay antenaina fa ny hazavana VOALOHANY ihany - androany maraina dia afaka nitazona izany nandritra ny PIV aho ka sambany teo amin'ny fiainako (ary 30 taona mahery aho ) Nomeko orgasme ny ankizivavy iray avy amin'izany. Nahatsiaro bebe kokoa ihany koa aho (mazava ho azy fa afaka niditra aho ary nanohy ny diako) saingy mbola manana fomba handehanana aho alohan'ny hamerenako tanteraka.

Eny, somary mieboebo ihany ity lahatsoratra ity, saingy nahafinaritra ahy ny namaky ny lahatsoratry ny olon-kafa satria ny fahombiazany dia nanome ahy fanantenana ny amin'ny fahombiazana. Mbola manana fomba handehanana aho, fa raha azoko fintinina ireo teboka amin'ny diako:

  • Efa ela ny mpidoroka PMO izay mamela ny fanambadiana ho lo avy ao anatiny noho izany
  • Farany dia niatrika ny fiankinan-dohako teo amin'ny telo volana lasa izay ary 100% tsara tamin'ny nofap (tsy misy sisiny na masturbation) fa tsy dia lehibe loatra amin'ny pôrnôgrafia (mihena be, fa tsy pornfree)
  • Nozaraina tamin'ny sipa vaovao ny antsipiriany rehetra. Noho izany dia mandeha amin'ny fomba 'mora' aho amin'ny famerenam-bola miaraka amin'ny famerenana indray.
  • Nihena be ny PIED (nosoloina ny fanahiana amin'ny fampisehoana) manodidina ny 45 andro
  • Afaka namita ny PIV nandritra ny 82 andro
  • Efa mihoatra ny 90 andro tsy nisy orgasme manokana aho, ary tsy hipoaka aho - ka tsy ilaina ho an'ny lehilahy rehetra izany

tl;dr PMO mpidoroka izay tsy nahavita ny PIV dia afaka nanao izany taorian'ny 82 andro NOFAP. Reboot dia azo antoka fa tsy feno fa tena mandroso ary mendrika ny sorona natao

LINK - 82 andro post - misy hazavana eo amin'ny faran'ny tonelina!

by yetanotheranon1

 

Fanavaozana - Afaka efa ho efa-bolana aho dia manomboka tonga ara-dalàna

Ny tsingerintaonan'ny nofap efa-bolana dia roa andro lasa izay. Iray volana katroka taorian'ny nihaonako tamin'ny sipako amin'izao fotoana izao, izay ilay mololo nanimba ny rameva teo amiko tamin'ny farany dia nanapaka ny tsingerin'ny PMO. Tena mamy sy mazava tsara izy ary tena naniry mafy azy aho saingy tsy afaka nanao izany ary sambany teo amin'ny fiainako aho no nilaza fa te ho tsara kokoa, tsy ho azy ihany, fa ho an'ny tenako. Ary avy eo namaky, namaky, namaky aho ary nanapa-kevitra ny hanao ilay fandaharana.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=- Afaka miverina indray ianao (nisara-panambadiana noho ny pôrnôgrafia)

Noho izany, nanana olana lehibe tamin'ny pôrnôgrafia aho tamin'ny fiainako rehetra. Ny namako akaiky indrindra dia nampahafantatra ahy izany tany am-pianarana tany am-pianarana ary zazakely aho, zaza tadiavina ka tadidiko fa nandany ora maro nanandrana naka sary GIF avy tao amin'ny modem baud 1200 nataoko ary nanafina izany tamin'ny raiko (fanamarihana: nanatona ahy ny ray aman-dreniko mba hilaza amiko fotsiny ratsy io nefa tsy manazava ny antony TSY mandeha. Tsy maintsy mieritreritra ihany koa ianao fa manan-tsaina kokoa noho ny anao ny zanakao - raha te hanao zavatra tsy ankasitrahanao izy ireo dia hataony).

Ny fifandraisako amin'ny pôrnôgrafia dia mialoha ny tena fifandraisako amin'ny vehivavy. Tsy nisy fiatraikany tamin'ny fomba nitondrako ny vehivavy izany, fa ny fomba nitondrako ny SEX. Ary ny fehiny dia aleoko manao firaisana nefa tsy misy fitsarana sy fangatahana toy izay ny fiakarana sy ny fidinan'ny tena firaisana.

Ka na dia tsy nanana famandrihana momba ny fanaovana 'firaisana' talohan'ny fanambadiana aza aho dia tadidiko fa mahantra izy io ary ahoana no niverenako haingana teo amin'ny pôrnôgrafia. Tsy nanao firaisana tamin'ny alin'ny fampakaram-bady, ary avy eo nandritry ny efatra ambin'ny folo taona dia natahotra ny alina ara-nofo nataoko isan-kerinandro tamin'ny vadiko (taloha aho), nanao fialantsiny hialana amin'izany, ary avy eo te-hiditra amin'ny efitrano hafa hitady pôrnôgrafia hankanesana any.

Na dia tsy io irery no olana teo amin'ny fifandraisako, raha jerena dia ampahany betsaka taminy - angamba 90%. Ary tsy ny tsy fahampian'ny firaisana ara-nofo, fa ny tsy fahampian'ny firaisana ara-nofo. Ary raha tamin'ny fotoana nandefasana ahy dia nangataka fisaraham-panambadiana ny vadiko (taloha), izao dia hieritreritra aho hoe maninona no niandry ela toy izany ny helo, nahoana no navelako izany?

Ka nandritra ny fizotry ny fisaraham-panambadiana dia nahita mpanolotsaina nanambady aho izay namantatra tsara ny olako tamin'ny pôrnôgrafia. Saingy mbola tsy noraharahiako ihany izany, indrindra satria vao sambany vao mpitovo aho tao anatin'ny roapolo taona, ary ny pôrnôgrafia no zavatra nahafinaritra fantatro tamin'ny fiainako manontolo.

Ary avy eo dia nihaona tamina tovovavy lavorary iray aho, ary nanao firaisana izahay. Ary nahasosotra tokoa izany. Nandeha ratsy indray. Saingy tamin'ity indray mitoraka ity dia tsy hieritreritra fotsiny aho hoe 'izany no izy'. Mila mamantatra izay tsy mety aho, satria efa nieritreritra tamin'ny vadiko taloha aho fa 'tsy ilaina ny firaisana raha manam-pitiavana ianao' na valisoa toa izany. Fantatro izao fa ny fiainana feno fifaliana sy fahafaham-po amin'ny fiainana ara-nofo dia takiana amin'ny fifandraisana maharitra.

Tamin'izany no nahitako ireo forum nofap sy pornfree ary namaky tantara vitsivitsy momba ny olona toa ahy. Ary lalana lava be io ary misy fiverenana eo anelanelany, saingy efa nanandrana nanary sary vetaveta sy fap nandritra ny herintaona aho. Ny sipa ankehitriny dia mahalala ny olako ary nanohana ahy.

Hatramin'ny niezahako hiala roa, dia nanao firaisana tsara kokoa aho (tsy lavorary tamin'ny fomba rehetra) ary afaka nifindra niaraka taminy (tsy nanao mihitsy tamin'ny vadiko taloha aho). Ary ny lava sy fohy azy io dia ny fianjerako indray, miaraka amin'ity fiainana ity dia fiainana tsy salama tsy misy pôrnôgrafia sy fap ao anatin'ny drafitra.

tl; dr Fifandraisana voalohany efa ho roapolo taona dia lo avy ao anatiny noho ny fiankinan-doha PMO ary nanjary nisara-panambadiana. Afaka nanodina azy io ary nanorina fifandraisana vaovao (** ENGAGED ** aho) rehefa avy nandao ny PMO.

Noho izany, ho an'ireo izay mahatsapa toa anao dia somary ambany ihany, maro amintsika no teo. Azonao atao ny mamadika izany, na aiza na aiza misy anao.