Wannan labarin (mai fassarar Google) ya faɗi wasu masana guda uku waɗanda suka ce batsa na haifar da matsalolin jima’i: Socionomen Inger Björklund, masanin ilimin psychotherapist a RFSU Clinic; Babban likitan Stefan Arver kuma shugaban cibiyar nazarin cututtukan mahaifa da ilimin jima’i a asibitin jami’ar Karolinska da ke Hudding; Goran Sedvallson mai ilimin hauka.
Youngarin samari suna shan wahala daga “rashin ƙarfi na batsa.” A yanar gizo, suna neman mutanen da suke da matsala iri ɗaya. “Ina kusa da lokacin da nake kallon batsa - ba tare da yarinyata ba,” in ji daya daga cikin wadanda abin ya shafa.
Shafin yanar gizon Brain On Porn na Amurka yana ba da izini ga maza waɗanda ke yawan kallon batsa kuma ba za su iya samun matsayi ba yayin da suke ƙoƙarin yin jima'i. Abinda aka fi mayar da hankali akai shine yadda yawan amfani da hotunan batsa ke shafar tsarin lada na kwakwalwa kuma yana haifar da damuwa da “tsarin haske”, ma'ana mutum baya iya jin daɗin abokin zama na gaske
Yanzu ga alama waɗannan ci gaban sun kai Sweden. A kan yanar gizo akwai wasu tattaunawa da dama inda dubban maza, yawancin matasa, suka tattauna matsalar matsalar samun matsayi a lokacin ganawa. Yawanci ga mutane da yawa shine cewa sau da yawa sukan taba al'ada yayin kallon batsa.
Bincike na tambayoyin da ya hada da Mataimakin Matasa ya nuna cewa tara daga cikin samari goma da ke kallo fiye da ƙasa a kai a kai, adadi na mata ga mata uku ne na goma. 'Yan mata sukan amsa cewa suna amfani da batsa don samun farin ciki, mutane, duk da haka don su gamsu da kansu.
Wani matashi dan shekaru 19 ya rubuta a nätsajt cewa ya lura cewa wani abu bai "dace ba" kuma ya nemi bayani kan dalilin da yasa ya kasa samun matsayi lokacin da yake tare da budurwarsa. Ya kasance kawai mai farin ciki idan ya kalli batsa da kuma al'ada yayin. Lokacin da wata mata tsirara ke kwance a gabansa a gado, babu abin da ya faru, ita da duk yanayin ba isasshen farin ciki ba.
Socionomen Inger Björklund, psychotherapist a RFSU Clinic a Stockholm na shekaru biyar, ya ce da yawa matasa da mazan maza suna neman su da erection matsaloli bayan kallon mai yawa batsa. Ta da abokan aiki ba suyi la'akari da matsalolin batsa ba tare da kokarin ganin matsalar a cikin mahallin ba.
- Amma da alama gaskiyar lamari bai isa ba don ƙirƙirar farin ciki mai ƙarfi. Mutum "hakora" ba abokin tarayya bane na ainihi. Wannan ba sabon abu bane, amma ana samun batsa ta yau a kowane lokaci. I-phones, I-pads, computoci, talabijin - kowane lokaci kuma a ko ina zaka iya ganin finafinai masu tasowa, in ji Inger Björklund.
Ta ce abin da ke faruwa wani lokaci wani lokaci yana iya zama game da shi saboda dalilai daban-daban na iya zama abin tsoro don samun kusanci da wani mutum. Sa'annan ya fi sauƙi don rayuwa ta hanyar jima'i a cikin duniyar yau da kullun.
- A cikin rayuwar “gaske”, kun fi rauni. Duk wanda ya kalli batsa baya kulla wata dangantaka da wasu. Sabili da haka, yawan amfani da batsa yana sanya wahalar samun rayuwar jima'i ta yau da kullun.
Shin akwai wani bayani ga wannan matsala? Haka ne, amsoshin Inger Björklund. Abu mafi mahimmanci shi ne fahimtar cewa kullun ya kasance cikin mummunar hali. Mataki na farko shi ne ya bayyana halin su a matsayin matsala ko wani abu da kake so ka canza.
- Idan kuna son taimako don karya tsarin kuma kuyi kokarin fahimtar yadda yake dacewa da juna don yin magana a matsayin hanyar dawo da rayuwar jima'i.
A shafin yanar gizon intanet ya rubuta wani saurayi yana budurwa kuma ba tare da yin jima'i ba har zuwa 18.
Lokacin da zai yi jima'i a karo na farko, bai kasance “Willie” da “bl andv “grade” yadda suka gwada ba. Saurayin ya fara neman bayanai ta yanar gizo. A can ya sami irin waɗannan matsalolin da yawa. Ya ci gaba:
“Sai ya zama batsa da kuma al'aura kamar yadda yake laifi. Idan ku na ɗan lokaci - a gare ni ya kasance tsawon shekaru shida - al'ada da batsa yawanci don haka kuyi amfani da ƙwaƙwalwa game da masu karɓar kwayar dopamine don haske akan motsawar gani. A wasu kalmomin, jiki na iya zama mai jin daɗi da damuwa game da shi na iya kallon batsa da yin masturbate a lokaci guda. Shin yarinya tsirara tana kwance a gaban gadona don haka ba abin da ya faru, jiki ba ya tsammanin yana da farin ciki sosai. ”
Babban likitan Stefan Arver kuma shugaban cibiyar maganin cututtukan mahaifa da ilimin jima’i a asibitin jami’ar Karolinska da ke Huddinge. Ya ji labarin abin da ke faruwa na “rashin ƙarfi na batsa” wanda wani ya fallasa abubuwa da yawa game da jima'i ta hanyar batsa wanda daga ƙarshe ya daina sha'awar.
- Ina iya tunanin cewa musamman samari waɗanda ba su da masaniyar jima'i na iya samun rikicewar jima'i idan sun kalli batsa da yawa. Don rayuwa a cikin duniyar wauta ba tare da mutane masu rai ba, kamar yadda batsa ke bayarwa, na iya ƙirƙirar tsammanin marasa ma'ana game da yadda rayuwar jima'i ke kamata ta kasance. Hakanan zai iya haifar da matsaloli don samun kusanci da tsaro tare da abokin tarayya, wanda hakan na iya haifar da matsaloli kamar samun matsayi.
A asibiti a Karlskrona, wani karbar liyafar jima'i tun 1984. Manajan Goran Sedvallson, tare da kwarewa mai zurfi a matsayin likitan ilimin likita da ilimin likita, ya ce wadanda ke kallon batsa da yawa suna da yawa a lokuta marasa kyau.
- Yana iya yiwuwa maza ba za su iya ko jin daɗi lokacin da suke yin jima'i da gaske ba. An liƙe su sosai a cikin almara na fim ɗin batsa ta yadda ba za su iya ɗaukar ma'amala ta al'ada a rayuwa ta ainihi ba. Babu shakka wannan na iya haifar da matsala ga mutum da cikin dangantaka.
Matsalar rashin ƙarfin batsa zai haɓaka, saboda ƙimar da aka samu, yi imani Goran Sedvallson. Shi da abokan aikinsa a Karlskrona sun ɗauki bara a kan wasu baƙi hamsin. Marasa lafiya sun kasance tsakanin shekaru 17 da 80 - kuma dukansu sun ji cewa suna da matsaloli masu tsanani game da jima'i.
- Har yanzu ba mu karɓi samari da maza waɗanda suka sami “ƙarancin batsa ba.” Abinda na kiyasta shine tun farko neman asibitocin matasa da makamantansu - yanzu suna neman taimako kwata-kwata. Ga saurayi, ba abu ne mai sauƙi ba a yarda cewa, alal misali, ƙila ba za ku iya ba yayin da kuke tare da yarinya.
Thomas Lerner
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