Ni ne 29, Married, 1 yaro, IT pro. Na fara tare da taba al'aura lokacin da nake kusa da 13, na fara kallon batsa lokacin da yake kusan 16 kuma nake wasa wasanni na bidiyo tunda kusan game da 13 ma.
Na shiga cikin waɗannan ba tare da wata dabara ba cewa sun kasance kowane irin mummunan abu, akasin haka na yi tsammani sun fi kyau. Rashin budurcina lokacin da nake 16 kuma nayi aure da ƙaunataccena matattara bayan shekaru 2 lokacin da yake 21.
Yanzu don ambaci na kamu da wasannin bidiyo, al'aura kuma daga baya batsa ma. Mata gabaɗaya sun kasance tare da ni, amma saboda nayi aure da wuri ba zan iya faɗin gaske ba. Lallai matata ta sha wahala kuma alaƙarmu ta kusan ƙarewa sau kaɗan saboda haƙuri na wanda ya samo asali daga waɗannan mugayen halaye. Ba mu da kusan jima'i koina kuma ban san dalilin ba. Daga baya na gano gaskiyar cewa ta ji wannan mummunan tashin hankali daga gare ni kuma na fahimci cewa zuwanta daga wasanni da batsa ne kamar yadda duk lokacin da na tsayar da dangantakarmu ta sami kyau kuma idan na dawo gare ta, dangantakar tana da saurin lalacewa .
Ku albarkaci matar ta kasance tare da ni har abada! Kwanan nan, bayan kusan kashe aure muna da hira game da shi kuma duk ya zama bayyananne. Mataki na na farko shine barin wasanni na bidiyo, yanmata da gaske, wannan habbit zai dauke ku zuwa duk sauran shi, kawai yana inganta da kuma inganta al'adar batsa ta al'ada.
Bayan share kaina na cinye wasa na yanke shawarar fara ƙallar noFAP amma ban taɓa tunanin tafiya ba har zuwa kwanakin 90. Idan kun ce mani zan tafi zuwa duniyar wata zan fi yarda da hakan. Ainihin ra'ayin kwanakin 90 na PMO bai dace da ni ba. GAME DA GASKIYA. Koyaya na yi tunanin zan iya yanke wannan dabi'a kamar yadda nake al'aura yau da kullun. Batsa ba ta da kyau, amma don batsa don mamaye ku da rayuwarku, sau ɗaya a wata ko uku sun isa.
Farkon ɓata ta ita ce kwanaki 12 kuma yana da kyau. Ina son kwanakin 18, don haka 12 kashe bat ɗin ba dadi ba. Karo na biyu a kusa da na saita kaina burin kwanakin 21 kuma tsine wuya! Ina da buƙatu bayan kwanaki 3 kuma lokaci-lokaci na sami rauni a kwance kawai yayin da nake zufa, babu wargi! A wannan matakin na fara son kalubale, a dazu kawai naji labarin sa- mutane suna zagi cikin gaggawa. Da kyau na bi hakan.
Lokacin da hanzarin shiga rukunin gidaje daya bayan daya sai in sha ruwan sanyi kuma in taimaki kaina wajen ingantawa. Da zarar na samu rataye shi sai na sami damar “rufe” kaina daga sha'awar yayin da nake sarrafa fashewar sha'awa. Wannan ya tafi har zuwa kwanakin 18. Don sauƙaƙa wa kwakwalwata, Na yi wa kaina alkawarin zan saki kaina bayan kwanakin 21- komai zai tafi ... al'aura, batsa ... ga abun cikin zuciya. Koyaya bayan isa kwanaki 21 na lura sha'awar yin hakan ya ƙazantu da gaske… Wancan shine farkon babban nasara na.
Don haka na ce wa kaina zan ɗauka gaba ɗaya zuwa ranakun 30 kuma na yi wa kaina alƙawarin cewa zan saki kaina bayan hakan. Amma ranakun sun fara kirga daya bayan daya kuma lokacin da na kai kwanaki 30 sai yaji kamar babu wani kokarin. A wancan lokacin na yi nasara kamar yadda ba wani gwagwarmaya ba ne.
Da fatan za a lura cewa duk wannan lokacin, matata ta riga ta ƙaura kuma ni kaɗai ne don ban da jima'i ko kaɗan. A wannan lokacin na yanke shawara tare da tabbaci cewa zan yi cikakken sake yin jima'i na kwanakin 90. Kuma na sami majiyyata kamar yadda suke kiranta ... Asali, ta hanyar shawo kan wannan yanayin da alama ba zai yiwu ba, 'yan abubuwa kima ke faruwa…
- Yana canzawa cewa hazo ya rage tsinkaye ku
- Ranka yakai sararin sama
- Ikon da kake yi ya zama ɗan waina
- Ku ja hankalin mata ina nufin da mahimmanci, komai inda zanje, akai-akai na samu kaina ba zato ba tsammani wasu mata sun zagaye ni, ban ma nemi wani ba. Zai iya kasancewa a wurin aiki (mafi yawa), babban kanti, a cikin jigilar jama'a, akan titi, a zahiri.
Kun san abu mafi kyawu shine cewa bayan samun batsa, za ku tsinkaye mata a matsayin kyawawan mutane maimakon kayayyaki su zama “fu * ked” (Na sani, abun ban tsoro) Ba ku bincika kallon mata ba, butt da kafafu na farko, amma kawai kalli fuskarta, duba wancan murmushin cute mai kyau da take, hanyar da take motsawa… Kuma suna sonta! A'a, suna ƙaunar IT, kuma za su so ku don hakan. Suna kawai jin shi, sun fahimce shi. A kan kullun ina cin abincin rana tare da 'yan matan 3 a wurin aiki. Ofayansu ma ya ɗauke ni. Kuma duk matan kamfanin suna yin tsere don sanya ni kofi. Wannan ba alfahari bane, kawai ƙoƙarin bayyana abin da ke faruwa. A da, zan kasance wani salo kamar itace a cikin shinge.
Duk wannan duk bashi da wani amfani a gareni saboda mafi yawanci Ina kokarin dawo da zuciyar matata. Kuma in sha Allah ana tafiya lafiya. Har yanzu akwai sauran hanyar da zan bi, amma ina ganin muna kan hanya madaidaiciya. Na fadi kaina a 'yan makonnin da suka gabata, na nemi afuwa kuma na fada mata dukkan lamarin. Na ce mata zan fahimta idan tana son barin, ihu ko ma ta doke ni. Dukkanin zai yi kyau tare da ni. Amma maimakon haka, kawai ta rungume ni… Mun yarda cewa muna son farawa da dangantakarmu ta jima'i. A kan sharuddanmu, ba bugun batsa ba, ƙa'idodin al'umma ko wani abu. Kawai mu.
Ina ganin yakamata in ambaci cewa na canza rayuwata da yawa yayin wannan aikin. Ana kashe kimanin. 6 hrs na wasan rana dole ne wani abu ya sauya shi. Don haka na fara aiki, aiwatar da wasan tsere, kallon abincina, karanta littattafan motsa jiki da kallon bidiyo mai motsa hankali (maɓallin tsoro yana da ban mamaki!)
Wata babbar matsala itace game da batsa da kwarjininta, mutumin da nake sonta, nayi tsammanin abin da sukeyi a batsa shine mafi kyawu daga cikin best amma ba haka bane. Karya ne, mara kyau, mai raɗaɗi da amfani. Ina ba da shawarar kallon "Kwanan tauraron tauraro na". Wannan bidiyon ya sanya ni kyama a wurina kuma ya taimake ni in yanke wannan sha'awar gaba ɗaya. Yana nuna can menene ainihin batsa da yadda mutane a bangarorin biyu na allo suke wahala. Kalli shi idan ka yarda.
Kuma kada ku damu maza, ku ci gaba da tafiya, idan kuka sake komawa, ku sake gwadawa, ku ga abin da zai yi muku aiki, zai iya ɗaukar lokaci, amma abin da aka koya muku shi ne kada ku daina. Daga baya zai yi rauni kuma zai samu sauƙi. Na sami matsala a cikin kwanaki goma na ƙarshe, lokacin da na dawo don yin ɗan kaɗan, amma hakan yana da kyau muddin ba ku da PMO lafiya. Kun cika burin kuma hakan yana da mahimmanci.
Da fatan wannan zai taimaka, ni ba marubuci ba ne don Allah a nemi uzuri na yadda zan rubuta Hang a ciki akwai 'yan uwa, idan da zan iya yin sa, DUK NA YI KYAUTA !!! Allah ya albarkace!
LINK - 90 kwanakin ba a kammala kalubale ba! Sakamako…
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