Bayan ya wuce kwanaki 100 na abstinence, menene shawara zan iya ba a wannan lokaci?1. Kar ka tsaya kan wannan abun banza. Kada ku yi tunani game da shi. Kada ku ba shi wuri da yawa a hankali.
2. Idan ƙwaƙwalwar suna tayar da kai, canza tashar. Idan hotunan tunanin mutum suka bayyana a cikin kanku, kar kuyi hauka duk don kokarin yakarsa kai tsaye, kawai kuna hura wutar ne. Maimakon haka, sanya hankalinka akan wani abu. Yi raira waƙar dutsen da kuka fi so, yi tunanin yin jita-jita (ee!), Ko kuma tunanin kwikwiyo! Lol… komai kuma. Kawai kar ku ɗauke ta ta hanyar da ba daidai ba ta, “Oh ba, da kyau ban yi tunanin wannan ba, wannan ba daidai ba ne, na ƙi wannan, ban fi kyau in yi wannan ba- wannan, wannan, wannan!” Dubi yadda har yanzu kuke tunani game da shi, kodayake kuna zaton kuna yaƙi da shi?
3. Idan zuciyarka ta shiga jima'i, game da mace mai mahimmanci ko kuma tunaninta, sai ka shiga kasansa. Menene nake jin cewa ina bukatan kwatsam na canza yanayin ta haka? Shin wani ya raina ni? karyata ni? Shin ina jin rashin kulawa? Shin, ina tsammanin a cikin hanya mara kyau?
4. Idan mace kyakkyawa ce, to ka yarda da ita- dabi'a ce- ba laifi. Bayan haka, kawai kar a tsaya a kansa. Kai mutum ne mai ƙarfi yanzu, ba mai rauni ba ne wanda ke bin kowane siket, ko sha'awar kowace mace kamar 'yar jan nama ce. Kai ba kare bane, mai kokarin shakar duk wani karen-karen da yazo. Kuna cikin iko.
5. Yi hankali yadda zaka gane kanka. "Barka dai, nine Joe, kuma ni mashayi ne." Ashe? Yanzu shekara 5 kenan ba ka sha ba, yaya kake har yanzu mashayi? Sannan idan rayuwa tazo ta shugabance ka lokacin da kake kasa, kayi tunanin me zaka juya don jin dadi? A'a kai ba jarabar ka bane Kuma ba ni ba ne!
6. Duba kanka sosai. Ka yi tunani kan kanka, yadda rayuwa ta kasance tare da wannan damuwa a cikin madubi na gani na baya! Ka yi tunanin kanka yana cewa, A'a, a wasu yanayi. Duba kanka ainihin ƙiyayya da abin da kuke ƙauna.
7. Idan kai namiji ne (ko mace) mai imani, ka yi addu'a- amma ba mai banƙyama ba, "Allah ya taimake ni kada in yi haka!" addu'oi, amma dai ku yi addu'a, "Allah, na ce 'a'a' ga wannan wauta! Taimaka min in tsaya cikin ƙarfinku ”- ko wani abu makamancin haka. Addu'o'in da suke la'akari da wanda ya ci nasara kai ne, ba mutumin da ke kan gaba ba koyaushe…
Kasance mai godiya, bikin mafi karancin nasarori, murmushi, kar ka riƙe fushi, gafartawa mutanen da suka bata maka rai, kuma sama da komai- ka sani cewa ana ƙaunarka fiye da yadda kake tsammani.
LINK - Shawara Bayan 100 Days!
BY - Leon
GABATARWA - Ƙarshen Dukan Naman
Sannu, duk. Wannan shigarwar mujallar yana zama gabatarwa ga wannan dandalin.
Yayin da wannan tafiya zuwa ga 'yanci ta faro mini ne a ranar 17 ga Yuli, 2003, lokacin da aka bayyana ta (ga matata ta shekara 20 yanzu) cewa na kasance ina ziyartar shagunan littattafan batsa, lokaci-lokaci, yaƙin na ci gaba yayin da a matsayina na Kirista na shiga jima'i jaraba iri daban-daban a lokacin bazara na 1993. Kasancewa cikin ɓangaren ɗariƙar addinai kamar yadda ake lalata da ruhaniya ba ta taimaka wa kowane abu ba, kamar ɗabi'ar ɗabi'a ta jima'i, gauraye da tarbiyyar da ba ta da ƙauna, da kuma neman batsa a filin wasa kamar deran aji 4 ko 5, duk sun haɗu wuri ɗaya don kawo ni cikin wurin jaraba. Hakanan, lokacin da nake saurayi, akwai wani babban abin tashin hankali wanda bana jin daɗin raba sa koyaushe wanda ya taka rawar gani shima.
Abubuwan da aka ƙayyade na wannan jaraba na iya bayyana yayin da nake jin daɗin yin hakan, amma don kaucewa kulawa mara mahimmanci ko warware 'abubuwan da ke haifar da' - Zan kasance cikin cikakkun bayanai.
Na yi ta fama da abin da ya kasance [mafi yawa] jaraba ce ta batsa mai laushi (duk da cewa a wasu lokutan), gami da 'm' da 'edging', tun 1993, tare da bayyana wannan gwagwarmayar tun 2003. Na yi ƙoƙari na ba da lissafi , da kuma wasu nau'ikan "farfadowa" na kungiyoyi (a karkashin hidimar Kirista), tun.
Abin da ke taimaka min a yanzu shi ne fahimtar alherin Allah, kamar yadda waɗannan batutuwa na jima'i suke da ɗabi'a sosai a ƙarƙashin 'doka' ("(ba za ku yi ba") - amma a maimakon haka, wannan alherin da aka yi mini ya ce, "An ƙaunace ni kuma an gafarta mini duk zunubaina, komai irin zunubina waɗanda suka kasance lokacin da Kristi ya mutu akan giciye domina, duk suna nan gaba. ” Wannan yana nufin cewa game da Allah, an gafarta mini sarai kuma gaba ɗaya, kuma ba wai kawai ba- amma ni mai adalci ne (a tsaye tare da Allah), tsarkakakke kuma tsarkakakke (keɓaɓɓe).
Ba tare da ƙoƙari ya zama 'addini' da ma'ana ba, abin da ke sama yana da mahimmanci kamar kunya mai guba da ƙarancin ra'ayi game da doka shine abin da ke haifar da waɗannan lamuran da abubuwan maye.
Abinda na fi dacewa (ya zuwa yanzu, kuma batun canzawa!) Ya sake faruwa a cikin watannin Agusta zuwa Satumba 2013, wanda ya kasance kwanaki 52 ba tare da 'yin wasan kwaikwayo' ba (amma duk da haka akwai 'edging'). —-> Yanzu ya wuce wannan mafi kyawun mutum, 80 + kwana!
A halin yanzu, na wuce na manufa na uku ba tare da yin wasa ba! Kuma ina kan hanyata (sama da 50%!) Don isa ga burina na huɗu (kuma gabaɗaya) na kasancewa kwanaki 120 ba tare! Wannan kame-kame ne, ba tare da ankwala shi ba. Ba koyaushe nake ƙoƙarin “riƙe kaina” daga tsallewa zuwa cikin rami mara matuƙa ba. Lokacin da na cire shi daga cikin hankalina, zan yi iya ƙoƙarina. Idan aka jarabce ni, sai na canza hankalina zuwa wasu abubuwa- ina faɗar nassosi idan akwai buƙata, ko juyawa zuwa addua, da dai sauransu… Amma, yana da mahimmanci a gare ni kada in yi gwagwarmaya kai tsaye da shi- kamar dai mutum zai iya kama bishiyar daji ta wurin kunnuwa. Zai fi kyau kawai muyi “gudu” (ko mu gudu) kamar yadda littafi mai tsarki ya bamu labari.
Nuna kan duk shirin shine kwanaki 120 ba tare da yin aiki ba, kuma daga can, don kawai rayuwa mai laushi:
2 jerin kwanakin 20, da kuma 2 jerin kwanakin 40:
1. 20 kwanakin w / fita aiki a waje -> kammala! 2. 20 kwanakin w / fita aiki a waje -> kammala! 3. 40 kwanakin w / fita aiki a waje -> kammala! (amma tare da kalubale ga ƙarshen)
4. 40 kwanakin w / fita aiki a = 120 kwanakin w / fita aiki a.
Me yasa 120?
Wannan lambar tana wakiltar 'ƙarshen kowane irin jiki' da kuma farkon rayuwa a cikin Ruhu (duba Farawa 6: 3, 13; Ayukan Manzanni 1:15; 2: 1-4).
Kodayake ni sabo ne a cikin wannan dandalin, na sami waraka da yawa a rayuwata ya zuwa yanzu, kuma ina fatan in kasance mai ƙarfafawa ga wasu a tafiya ɗaya, ko sun yi imani ko a'a, dukkanmu mutane ne kuma dukkanmu muna buƙatar warkarwa daga karyewarmu a cikin wannan yanki, saboda waɗannan ra'ayoyin jima'i suna da alamun alamun al'amura masu zurfi.
Aminci da ƙauna ga kowa.
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