NICK THORPE tshuaj xyuas cov tim khawv ntawm qhov pauv cov duab hauv internet tau ua rau hauv peb lub hlwb, peb kev sib raug zoo - thiab peb cov menyuam.
Dab tsi yog qhov peb yuav tsum muaj porn - tsis yog cov neeg laus, tab sis yog niam txiv?
Nyob rau hauv lub wake ntawm Safer Internet Hnub 2015 nws zoo li ib nqe lus nug zoo, tsis tsawg kawg vim tias kev tshawb fawb qhia hais tias feem ntau cov tub ntxhais hluas nrhiav cov duab pom tseeb los ntawm lub hnub nyoog 10, thaum lawv tab tom xav yuam kev - thiab nws yeej tsis yooj yim dua los nrhiav lawv.
Sim typing "liab qab" rau hauv Google, thiab koj yuav tau txais ib qhov ntsej muag ntawm hom khoom uas tsuas yog siv tus nas-nias rau cov me nyuam uas nkag tau rau hauv lub xov tooj tsis muaj nuj nqis los yog cov ntsiav tshuaj. Nws puas tseem ceeb? Yog porn nyob hauv internet tiag tiag thiaj li txawv ntawm cov ntawv magazines uas dhau los dhau ntawm cov tsheb kauj vab ua ib tiam dhau los?
Zoo yog nws yog, yog tias koj ntseeg Gary Wilson. Nws phau ntawv tshiab Koj lub paj hlwb ntawm Porn - nthuav dav rau nws kis TEDx tham nyob rau hauv qhov kev kawm - qhia tau hais tias yuav ua li cas tus yees zoo ntawm niaj hnub high-speed internet porn rewires peb lub hlwb nyob rau hauv txoj kev uas yav dhau los tiam yuav tsis muaj xeeb tub.
LOS NTAWM KEV HAIV NEEG
Ib tus kws qhia ntawv ntev ntawm lub cev thiab lub cev nyob hauv Scotland, Wilson tsis yog sau los ntawm niam txiv kev pom, tab sis nws txoj kev tshawb fawb pib muaj qhov cuam tshuam loj heev rau peb tus kheej saib pom thiab ntawm peb cov menyuam.
Nws ua ntej glimpsed qhov ntsuas ntawm qhov teeb meem thaum nws tus poj niam lub rooj sib tham hauv online raug txiav txim siab los ntawm cov txiv neej uas lees hais tias nws mus quav yeeb-tshuaj porn - tab sis nws hais tias nws tsis muaj kev ntseeg los sis kev coj noj coj ua: kev sib deev. Yog koj tsis xav tias koj muaj teeb meem, Kuv tsis tas yuav nrog koj sib cav. ”
Tab sis nws txoj kev paub yog qhov nce cov txiv neej do Muaj ib qho teeb meem nrog rau kev ceev ceev thiab ntau yam kev porn puv pauv, ntau pua txhiab tus lawv tig mus rau ntau qhov chaw pab rau cov teeb meem xws li kev ntxhov siab, obsessive tus cwj pwm thiab erectile dysfunction txoj cai mus txog kev nyuab siab thiab kev xav phem.
NIAM TXIV NEEG LOS?
Nws yog ib daim duab sib txawv ntawm qhov uas hais hauv 2009 los ntawm ib tug Canadian tshawb fawb, uas nws cov ntawv xeem hais tias saib cov duab liab qab tsis tau hloov lawv cov poj niam lossis lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo: 'Tsis muaj ib yam dab tsi muaj kev sib daj sib deev, "said Simon Lajeunesse. "Qhov tseeb tiag, tag nrho lawv cov kev coj kev sib daj sib dee muaj kev pom zoo." Qhov kev pom tseeb yog qhov porn muaj qhov tsis zoo.
Tab sis Wilson tau hais tias cov tsos mob nws hnov txog yuav tsis tas yuav txuas rau cov kev kawm rau lawv cov cwj pwm phem - tshwj xeeb yog Lajeunesse famously tsis tau nrhiav tau txawm tias muaj ib tug txiv neeb-txiv neej uas tsis tau siv porn, yog li tsis lees paub txoj kev tshawb fawb los ntawm kev tswj cov kev sib piv.
Arguably qhov tsuas loj pawg ntawm cov txiv neej muaj peev xwm los sib piv lub neej zoo li ob qho tib si nrog THIAB tsis muaj porn ploj yog cov zauv loj tam sim no abstaining tag tom qab kev erectile kawg, desensitisation thiab hom obsessive tus cwj pwm txuas mus tiv. Wilson quotes muaj ntau tus los ua kom pom tias cov nyhuv dhau los hauv internet ntawm 2006, uas dheev ua rau nws nkag tsis tau hauv cov duab liab qab ntawm cov tawv nqaij - feem ntau ob peb zaug.
LUB DOPAMINE VOJ
"Nws tau ua rau kuv tsis tu ncua saib ntau ntau thiab ntau dua qhov kev daws teeb meem," lees txais ib tus quav. "Nws qee zaum ua ib hnub tseem yeem nrhiav qhov kev zoo tag nrho kom tiav. Nws yeej tsis, puas tau txaus siab. 'Xav tau ntau' lub hlwb yeej ib txwm hais ... xws li dag. "
Qhov teeb meem, piav txog Wilson, yog tias peb lub hlwb raug wired los tso tawm qhov "go-get-it" neurochemical dopamine rau txhua tus phooj ywg tshiab uas peb ntsib, uas pab peb cov poj koob yawm txwv tau txuas ntxiv mus qhib lawv lub pas dej.
Tab sis ntsib nrog hnub no lub internet deluge ntawm kev sib deev novelty, peb lub ntsej muag-plhaw lub hlwb nriaj mus hloov, ua ib tug dopamine binge uas overrides peb tus nqi zog circuitry, thiab nws ua ib qho kev tsim ntawm DeltaFosB.
DeltaFosB yog lub hlwb tshuaj txuas mus rau qhov kev ua siab zoo siab teb pom nyob rau hauv yuav luag txhua tus neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj, thaum lub neej tiag tiag tsis txiav nws ntau dua. Rau cov porn addict, puas ntau heev dluab yuav tsum rau arousal, Wilson - tsim ib tus cwj pwm kev sib deev txuam nrog "nyob ib leeg, voyeurism, txhaj, searching, tabs ntau, ceev ceev-forwarding, tshiab novelty, poob siab thiab surprise."
KEV TIV THAIV
Piv xam hais tias cov ntsiab lus ntawm cev nqaij daim tawv thiab kev sib deev - sib tham, kov, ntxhiab, pheromones, muaj kev sib raug zoo, kev sib raug zoo ntawm tib neeg - thiab nws yooj yim los saib seb porn yees yuav ua ib hom kev dab ntxwg nyoog dab tsi. Tshwj xeeb yog tias, zoo li peb cov me nyuam tiam neeg, koj yuav raug hooked los ntawm ib tug me nyuam thaum ntxov.
Tab sis cov xov xwm zoo los ntawm Wilson tau hu ua "kev ceev tshaj plaws, kev sim ua tshaj plaws thoob ntiaj teb ua puas tau qeeb", yog tias qhov teebmeem ntawm kev kub ntxhov nyob hauv internet muaj kev thim rov qab.
Pua pua txhiab tus txiv neej (thiab qee tus poj niam) tau tuaj xyuas ntau qhov kev pabcuam tus kheej sib tham tau tsim los txhawb kev tsis lees paub (suav nrog Reboot teb chaws, Nofap.org thiab Wilson tus kheej qhov chaw nrov), uas cov neeg quav rov ua haujlwm tau tshaj tawm tias (tom qab qee lub sijhawm ua rau poob ntawm libido tag nrho) lub hlwb rov qab ua haujlwm lub cev thiab rov ua haujlwm kev sib deev li qub.
Wilson quotes ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv nws lig 20s uas yog tus hardcore porn addict vim muaj hnub nyoog 14: "Kuv nres nws kiag li 2 lub hlis dhau los. Nws tau nyuaj heev tab sis kom deb li deb incredibly nws. Kuv twb tau txiav tawm ntawm kuv cov tshuaj ntxiv lawm. Kuv ntxhov siab vim tsis muaj li. Kuv nco thiab ua kom pom tseeb zoo tshaj qhov lawv tau ua lawm. Kuv xav tias zoo li "loj me me" thiab kuv ED (erectile kawg) yog dhau lawm. Kuv yeej xav tias kuv muaj ib txoj kev rov qab los, muaj ob lub sij hawm hauv lub neej. "
HOPE NTAWM kev ywj pheej
Qhov no yog qhov qhia tias ob lub txiaj ntsim ntawm kev tiv thaiv kev sib daj sib deev yog qhov ua rau koj pib ua ntej. Peb cov tub hluas ntxhais hluas nyob ntawm lawv qhov chaw siab tshaj plaws ntawm dopamine thiab lub paj hlwb, uas ua rau lawv muaj peev xwm heev - tab sis thankfully cov pov thawj yog tias txawm tias nws siv sij hawm ntev dua, lawv lub hlwb kuj yuav rov qab mus rau qhov kev xav, saib ib ncig "rau qhov khoom plig evolved mus nrhiav li raws li tus phooj ywg kev sib raug zoo thiab, tau kawg, mates tiag tiag. "
Koj lub paj hlwb ntawm Porn, Thiab cov ntev-lub vas sab ntawm tib lub npe, ua rau lub plethora ntawm cov kev xav zoo li no nrog rau cov kev tshawb fawb txog kev tshawb nrhiav txog qhov teeb meem tshiab no, thiab kev cia siab rau kev rov zoo.
Nws yog qhov riveting, cuam tshuam, tab sis thaum kawg lus txhawb rau peb cov neeg uas tawm tsam nrog kev siv porn - thiab peb cov uas xav paub txog yuav pab peb cov me nyuam yaus txog cov hnub nyoog digital.
Koj lub hlwb ntawm Porn los ntawm Gary Wilson yog luam tawm hnub no los ntawm Tebchaws Tshaj Tawm ntawm Publishing, luv nqi £ 9.99, thiab raws li ib qho ebook nqi £ 3.48.
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