Jonathan Porter, 48, tus accountant
Thaum kuv yog ib tug tub hluas nyob rau hauv lub Eighties, kuv tau saib duab liab qab hauv cov ntawv xov xwm xws li Rhoov thiab shindig uas tsis tig rau kuv txhua. Nws zoo li kev thaij duab thiab kev ntxub ntxaug.
Kuv tau xav tias kev saib duab liab qab tsis zoo thiab kev tsis ncaj ncees rau cov poj niam. Nws ua rau kuv tawm ntawm kev sib deev.
Tom qab ntawd hauv university kuv muaj kuv tus hluas nkauj thawj zaug. Kuv xav tsis thoob thaum nws hais rau kuv hais tias nws siv cov duab liab qab kom tau nws tus kheej rau qhov zoo. Nws yog thawj tus neeg qhia rau kuv tias yog tias koj hu nws erotica ces nws mam li nco dheev nruab nrab hauv chav kawm ntawv thiab OK. Nws hais yog lawm. Nws muaj yees duab ntawm cov yeeb yaj duab tau ntxim hlub los ntawm ntau cov yeeb yam thiab nws ua haujlwm tiag tiag.
Txawm li cas los xij, thaum kuv tau sib yuav lawm kuv tus poj niam tsis tau nkag rau txhua lub tswv yim. Los ntawm ces nws yog lub hnub nyoog ntawm internet. Kuv xav tias cov Asmeskas thiab cov Russians online tau muab nws lub npe phem heev. Muaj ntau ntau yam uas kuv hu ua stunt sex; txaus ntshai grunting thiab abusive zog dynamics.
Kuv pom nws ua haujlwm zoo dua. Tus phooj ywg zoo li kuv tau xa kuv qhov txuas mus rau ib qho video uas tus poj niam zoo nkauj heev, txoj kev sib deev yog kev sib tw thiab ob leeg tau txais kev lom zem. Kuv tus poj niam tau saib nws nrog kuv thiab txawm tias nws lees tias nws tsis yog ib qho txaus ntshai heev.
Yog tias tsis paub, nws tau pab peb txoj kev sib yuav. Kuv tabtom ua haujlwm nyob rau London peb hnub ib lub lim tiam. Kuv hlub kuv tus poj niam thiab kuv yuav tsis stray los yog siv ib tug niam ntiav. Yog tias kuv yog neeg twm zeej kuv yuav tig mus rau kuv qhov video lossis ib yam li nws - qhov twg yog qhov ua rau qhov ntawd? Nws yog ib qho kev txaj muag uas porn thiab erotica tseem muaj xws lub npe phem. Peb muaj ob tug hluas thiab kuv tsis twv kom lawv paub siv kuv li cas. Kev tawm thiab kev sexting tau coj lawv rov qab los rau cov hnub nyoog tsaus ntuj ntawd cov poj niam txiv neej.
Kuv hais rau kuv tus tub tawm thaum kuv nrhiav tau Thaib tus poj niam txiv neej qhib rau nws lub computer. Nws yog tag nrho ntawm cov dluab feem ntau appalling. Cov tub ntxhais hluas tau ua npau suav nrog kev sib ntaus sib tua porn uas muaj ntau yam tsis meej pem thiab ua kom puas tsuaj. Yeej, nws yog poj niam uas raug kho zoo li nqaij. Lawv yeej raug siv thiab siv, los yog lawv xav thov ua tsaug thiab xav tau.
Nws tau ua rau kuv xav paub: yog vim li cas cov neeg no tau rov qab ua rau lawv tus cwj pwm sib deev? Kuv pom nws zoo kawg tias tsis muaj leej twg tau tsim zoo erotica. Ib tug neeg yuav tsum tuaj nrog thiab saib nws.
Stuart Smith, 27, tus kws qhia kev xyaum ua haujlwm
Lub high-speed internet tuaj txog thaum kuv tau mus txog puberty, thiab kuv tau siv porn rau unlimited. Kuv yuav saib nws rau cov sij hawm, pub dawb; Kuv yuav muaj kaum yeeb yaj duab daus tib lub sijhawm. Koj tuaj yeem pom ib txhiab tus ntxhais liab qab nyob rau hauv ib feeb.
Kuv niam kuv txiv tau ua piv txwv txog kev noj qab nyob zoo, kev hlub. Kuv tsis tuaj yeem mob siab dua. Porn muaj kev lom zem, pleasurable, txias. Tag nrho kuv cov phooj ywg tau mus rau hauv nws. Nws yog ib feem ntawm peb cov kev coj noj coj ua. Tab sis thaum koj siv nws txhua hnub, nws yuav ua rau koj xav li cas koj saib leej twg koj nyiam.
Kuv tau ua kev sib deev ntawm 14. Kuv tau sim ua kom kuv tus hluas nkauj ua cov khoom kuv tau pom hauv kuv lub computer. Cov kev sib tham uas kuv cov phooj ywg thiab kuv xav tau, tom 12, 13, tsis yog leej twg yuav hnia qhov zoo tshaj plaws, nws yog leej twg muab qhov ncauj qhov ncauj zoo tshaj plaws.
Muaj tsis ntau npaum li kev sib thab thiab kev txuas nrog vim tias yuav tsum muaj. Kev sib deev yog kev ua haujlwm. Kuv tsis ua tej yam kuv xav tau, los yog yam lawv xav tau. Kuv tau ua zoo li kuv tau pom. Muaj misconception uas blokes uas siv porn yog losers. Tab sis kuv zoo siab, hauv siab, ntseeg siab thiab muaj kev vam meej.
Niam txiv yog cov tsis paub. Nws tsis yog lawv cov txhaum. Internet porn yog ib qho phenomenon tshiab thiab lawv tau blindsided - lawv tsis muaj xov xwm txog kev tiv thaiv lawv cov me nyuam, yuav ua li cas qhia rau lawv. Nws yuav tsum hloov. Nws tsis tshua muaj kev sib ntsib nrog tus niam txiv uas tau sib tham nrog nws tus menyuam txog porn.
Kuv xav hais tias liab qab yuav ua kuv paub zoo, ib tug vajtswv poj niam. Kuv ntseeg hais tias kom txog thaum kuv nyob 23 thiab kuv tau mus pw ua ke nrog ib tug ntxhais zoo nkauj uas kuv tau tawm ntawm ob peb lub hlis. Peb tau sim kev sib deev thiab kuv tsis tuaj yeem xav tias tsis muaj dab tsi, tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi peb sim. Yog li kuv tau ua dab tsi leej twg ua - Kuv tau mus rau Google.
Ib qho kev xeem hais tias ib tug tub ntxhais hluas, kev tiv thaiv tsis zoo yuav tsum muaj peev xwm ua kom muaj kev sib tw tsis muaj porn. Kuv xav tias: "OK, kuv tsis tau sim ntawd kaum xyoo." Kuv tsis tau txais ib qho erection. Kuv rov qab mus rau hauv kuv chav, muab qee qhov porn liab, thiab tau txais ib qho erection. Kuv zoo li Pavlov cov dev. Kuv xav rov qab ua kuv lub hlwb kom kuv xav pixels dua neeg.
Tias tias epiphany plaub xyoos dhau los. Kuv tsis tau saib porn txij. Nws yog cuaj ntev, txaus ntshai, depressing lub hlis ua ntej kuv yuav tau txais ib qho erection nrog kuv tus hluas nkauj.
Nws quaj thiab kuv xav kom nws hais tias nws tsis yog nws. Kuv tsis tau qhia nws txog qhov tseeb mus txog tom qab. Thaum ib tug ntxhais hnov nws porn, nws xav tias: "Kuv tsis sib tw nrog cov duab liab qab hnub qub." Tab sis cov txiv neej uas saib porn tsis saib nws vim hais tias ntawm cov ntxhais nyiam, lawv saib nws vim lawv xav tau kev hlub thiab kev poob siab .
Kuv tus hluas nkauj tau zoo nkauj tshaj cov ntxhais kuv tau saib. Tab sis thaum koj nyob nrog ib tus khub tiag tiag, theem ntawm kev ua kom koj lub hlwb siv los ntawm porn tsis muaj.
Kuv muaj hmoo kawg li uas kuv tus hluas nkauj tau txhawb. Nws tau pab txhawb thiab txhawb kom qhib siab. Peb tseem nyob ua ke.
Michael Hall, 52, tus thawj coj tsev so
Kuv tau siv porn thiab poob kuv cov nyiaj xNUMX-ib-xyoo rau vim nws. Kuv tau ntes ntsia nws tom haujlwm. Nws yog txhua yam hais txog lub sijhawm, kev nkag mus rau thiab kev muaj sijhawm. Hmo thaum tsaus ntuj, tus poj niam tau pw lawm, koj tseem tuaj. Muaj ib tug searching. Ua ntej koj paub nws, nws yog 50,000am.
Nws yog lub vam meej uas ua rau nws ntxim nyiam heev. Txawm nyob rau thaum xaus ntawm lub Nineties muaj xov tooj, thiab kuv tau khiav tawm cov nqi dag. Kuv hais rau kuv tus poj niam: "Kuv tau ruam tiag tiag." Peb muaj ib tug kab, kuv hais tias: "Kuv yuav tsis ua nws dua." Thiab peb tsis tau tham ob peb hnub.
Rau cov tib neeg hauv kev haus dej haus cawv, tshuaj los yog porn, qhov sib tham tsis yog tiag tiag txog kev haus dej thiab tshuaj, lawv nyob nraum qhov chaw uas koj yuav mus nrog koj lub neej, yam koj tau ua kom tiav, txog koj cov kev sib raug zoo. Lub qhov nyob hauv cov khoom uas tau haus tau los ntawm kev haus, tshuaj noj lossis pornaus vim tias koj tu siab, npau taws lossis kho siab. Kev saib duab liab qab ua ib yam dab tsi uas ua rau koj xav tau hauv koj lub neej.
Thaum kuv nkag siab porn raws li kev tiv thaiv, nws tau yooj yim los tswj. Ntawm kuv pab pawg neeg, txhua tus yuav xav txog lawv cov poj niam thiab cov neeg koom tes - nws tau coj kuv lub xov tooj tawm ntawm kuv, nws tsis ntseeg kuv. Kuv tus poj niam, uas tau txhawb nqa, tau hais tias: "Koj yog tus neeg laus hauv kev sib raug zoo no. Tej zaum koj yuav tsis coj zoo li ib tug, tab sis kuv tsis mus kho koj li ib tug tub, tshawb xyuas koj. "
Nws txoj kev txhais ntawm kuv tus cwj pwm yog: "Nws yog ib qho kev poob ntsej muag, nws tsis hlub kuv, thiab nws yog txhua yam ua rau kuv." Peb tau txais los ntawm nws.
Porn desensitises koj lub cev thiab kev xav. Nws tuaj yeem hloov qhov koj saib ntawm kev sib deev thiab koj xav tias kev sib deev yuav tsum yog. Kuv tus poj niam xav paub tias peb tab tom sib deev vim kuv hlub nws thiab pom nws txaus nyiam. Thaum peb muaj kev sib deev, nws yog amazing, tab sis nws yog lub ntiaj teb niaj hnub no, peb lub neej yog tibneeg hu tauj coob. Koj poob siab yog tias nws tsis ua haujlwm. Porn yeej tsis disappoints. Nws cia li muaj, tos koj.
Kev xyiv fab yog ib nrab ntawm cov kev tshawb nrhiav. Nws yog tag nrho txog kev nrhiav qhov ntawd zoo tshaj plaws, uas koj tsis tau ua. Yog li koj cia li nrhiav.
Kuv tam sim no xav ntau yam ntxiv rau kuv kev sib raug zoo. Peb siv ntau lub sijhawm ua ke, Kuv muab ntau tshaj. Qhov tseem ceeb yog sim ua ncaj ncees li peb muaj peev xwm. Tsis kam lees yuav tsis pom zoo, tab sis kev sib haum xeeb yog tias koj xav tau txoj kev sib raug zoo kom ciaj sia. Koj tuaj yeem tau txais nrog koj lub neej yam tsis muaj txhua yam exploding. Qhov ntawd yog qhov peb yog.
George Harris, 35, nraaj artist
Muaj ib qho chaw rau porn li titillation nyob, tab sis koj lean rau nws thaum koj nyob nraum kho siab thiab tsis nyob hauv ib qhov chaw zoo.
Cov txiv neej yuav muaj kev luag txog kev zoo siab - tab sis saib porn yog pom tau tias tsis muaj zog, uas yog kev tu siab. Nws yog ntiag tug, tsis yog ib yam uas koj khav txog. Nws yog heev narcotic, tab sis, muab ib qho yooj yim thrill. Tab sis thaum kuv siv nws nrog kuv tus poj niam nws triggered visceral, tsis siab ntsws. Kev sib deev ntev nrog kev sib deev nrog koj tus khub tsis yog hais txog kev sib deev thiab loj boobs. Nws yog hais txog kev sib deev uas yog kev xav thiab tactile - txhua yam porn tsis yog.
Kuv pom tau hais tias kuv tau siv nws ib leeg kom tsis txhob soj ntsuam nrog qhov teeb meem ntawm qhov tsis raug. Koj tau txais rau hnub kawg, koj xav pw ua ke, koj tus khub tsis kam. Nws yooj yim heev los nrhiav ib tug yees duab tias ib nrab yog qhov ua kom yuam kev, tau txais nws dhau thiab ua tiav nrog.
Kuv tau tawm tsam kuv tus poj niam, heev aggressively, hais txog nws txiv neej tsis tshua tsav thiab qhia nws tias kuv tau txo qis rau. Nws npau taws heev.
Nws hais tias lub cev nqaij daim tawv yog ib feem loj ntawm nws, thiab thaum nws ua ib qho kev rau siab rau kuv, kuv tsis tau ua rau nws. Kuv npau taws thiab tu siab, thiab nws coj kuv lub hlis los lees tias nws yog qhov zoo. Kuv paub tias muaj teeb meem kuv tau hais nrog, tsis xav kom nws mus.
Tim Woods, 50, tug engineer
Nyob rau hauv lub Nineties kuv tuaj ze ntawm bankruptcy thiab twb nrhiav rau lub fantasy uas yuav coj kuv mus deb ntawm kuv cov teeb meem.
Kuv muaj kev nyuaj siab. Koj tsis tuaj yeem muab ib lub npe rau ntawm qhov kev xav hauv chav no. Muaj ib yam dab tsi ploj, thiab tsis muaj teeb meem ntau npaum li cas koj saib ntawm porn, lub void yeej tsis tau sau. Tom qab muaj kev txhaum, thiab koj xav khiav tawm ntawm nws. Koj tau txais ib qho txheej txheem rau kev khiav ntawm yam, yog li koj xaus rau hauv lub voj voog.
Niaj hnub siv tshuab tau kuv nkag mus rau cov duab uas kuv pom tau nthuav thiab zoo siab heev; nws tau cog lus zoo heev. Thiab nws los ua yooj yim dua thiab yooj yim dua.
Kuv tau sib nrauj lawm. Kuv muaj lub zeem muag ntawm ib leeg thiab kuv xav tias: "Ua li cas kuv tau txais ntawm no?" Kuv paub xyov. Porn yog kuv txoj kev xav ntawm kev ntshai, nrog kev xav. Kev khiav tawm ntawm qhov koj ntxub hauv koj lub neej.
Kuv tau ntsib lwm tus neeg thiab poob rau hauv kev hlub. Kuv yuav tsum tsis tau nyob qhov twg nyob ze nws. Kuv yuav tsum tau nrog kuv tsev neeg.
Qhov ntawd yog dab tsi tua kuv lub neej. Kuv taug kev deb ntawm nws hauv kuv lub taub hau. Tsis yog kuv tus poj niam los yog kuv tau ua zoo rau kev xav nrog kev xav. Peb qhov kev tsis txaus siab tsis tau daws. Muaj tej lub sij hawm thaum peb mus pw, muab peb nraub qaum ris rau sawv daws thiab mus pw. Kuv nco qab nws hais tias thaum nws yuav xav tias kev ntxub ntawm kev ntxub los ntawm kuv. Tsis yog qhov tseeb, tab sis peb muaj ob tug neeg nyob hauv tib lub tsev, tsis yog tib txoj kev sib raug zoo.
Peb yuav tsis tham txog kev sib deev; peb tuaj yeem tshawb tsis tau thiab sim ua. Nws tsis nyiam. Yog li ntawd, kuv tau txhawj txog kev txhawj xeeb thiab kev txhaum. Peb yeej tsis tswj kev sib tham ntawm, zoo, qhov no yog qhov kuv xav, qhov no yog qhov koj xav hais tias, peb yuav ua li cas rau ob txoj kev haum? Nws yuav mus "tsis muaj" lossis kuv xav hais tias "Kuv xav tau".
Kuv tau npaj txhij-ua tawm kev nrog lwm tus poj niam. Kuv tau txais lo lus nug nyuaj npaum li cas kuv sim rov qab ces. Peb tag nrho tsim nyog yuav tsum tau hlub, thiab kev hlub yog qhia nyob rau hauv txoj kev uas tus neeg kho koj, nyob rau hauv lub hwm lawv them koj. Yog hais tias koj hnov zoo, thiab koj nyob hauv txoj kev sib raug zoo, kuv tsis xav tias nws yuav tshwm sim rau koj tias porn yog ntau tshaj me ntsis nthuav tam sim no thiab ces.
Yog vim li cas cov txiv neej siv porn - thiab thaum nws ua ib qho teeb meem
Suzi Godson, tus lub sij hawm Tus kws tshawb fawb txog kev ua plees ua yi, ntseeg hais tias kev saib duab liab qab yog qhov teeb meem yog tias tus cwj pwm tsis zoo rau lub neej thiab kev sib raug zoo. "Rau ntau tus neeg, porn yog ib qho txhais tau tias yuav kawg," Godson hais. "Nws yog ib lub cuab tam rau kev zoo siab. Nws yeej ib txwm muaj; nws tsuas yog tias tam sim no nws yog nyob rau hauv ib daim ntawv yooj yim heev.
"Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej nyob sab hauv txoj kev tshawb no txog 3am thiab tsis quav ntsej tus poj niam cev nqaij daim tawv-thiab-ntshav hauv nws lub txaj, txoj kev sib raug zoo no yog teeb meem. Txawm li cas los xij, muaj ntau yam tsis zoo ntawm hysteria. . . ntau cov khub niam txiv siv porn ua ke. "
Godson hais tias qhov kev txhawj xeeb ntawm nws yog tias "tsis muaj leej twg hais lus rau cov neeg hluas txog qhov tseeb uas tsis muaj tus sawv cev ntawm kev sib deev. Vim hais tias cov tub ntxhais hluas muaj kev sib deev, tab sis tsis muaj kev sib deev lossis kev ntseeg siab, lawv tsis tuaj yeem cais kev xav thiab kev muaj tiag. "
Cynthia Fogoe, tus kws pab tswv yim thiab tus kws paub txog kev sib daj sib deev, nws hais tias kev sib raug zoo yuav tsum muaj kev ntseeg siab, kev cog lus sib tw thiab kev muaj peev xwm los qhia txog kev xav. Nws hais txog kev lav phib xaub rau koj cov kev ua. "Yog tias nws muaj kev nyuaj siab, nws hais tias, nws muaj kev cia siab rau kev tso siab rau porn. "Kev kho siab yuav ua tau vim tias ib txhia txiv neej siv qhov ntawd."
Yog hais tias nws ua ib qho compulsion, nws muaj peev xwm muaj yog ib qho teeb meem ntawm lub hlwb. "Kev tiv thaiv yog hais txog kev tshem tawm," nws hais. "Cov txiv neej no siv nws kom tsis txhob muaj kev xav. Tej zaum nws yuav poob siab, tab sis nws yuav yog kev npau taws, kev kho siab los sis kev nyuab siab. Kev saib duab liab qab yuav tuaj yeem ua tau yus tus kheej. "Cov txiv neej no tsis paub daws teeb meem li cas.
cynthiafogoe.co.uk; rebootnation.org
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