Cov nyhuv Coolidge tau ua rau peb qhov kev xav tau zoo tshaj plaws.
Ob peb xyoos dhau los Cov kws tshawb fawb German qhia tias thaum lub sijhawm ntev ntawm kev sib koom tes nce, qhov kev xav muaj kev sib deev feem ntau poob rau hauv cov poj niam-thaum muaj siab rau kev sib tw feem ntau ua rau txiv neej poob qis. Feem ntau cov khub ntxhov siab ntau dua (ntawm yog txivneej los pojniam) kuj xav tias nws yuav zoo siab yog tias nws tsuas muaj kev sib deev ntau npaum li nws xav. Dab tsi yuav tau nws hauv tus mus ob peb vas?
Qhov tseeb, qhov teeb meem no kuj nce mentsis me ntsis tshaj qhov ntawd. Mates yog ua tiv thaiv tsis tau ib qho kev pab cuam ntawm caj ces caj dab, uas feem ntau thawb lawv tawm ntawm kev sib deev-thiab txawm tias rov mus rau cov neeg koom tes tshiab.
Xav seb muaj dab tsi tshwm sim thaum txiv neej liab raug khub ua ke nrog cov poj niam tib yam (uas yog ib txwm nyob hauv txoj kev xav, ua tsaug zog txhua hnub). Liab ntuj ceeb tsheej, puas yog? Tsis yog. Cov txiv neej copulated tsawg thiab tsawg dua, thiab nrog txoj kev ua siab zoo, tshaj li ib lub sij hawm peb xyoos thiab ib nrab xyoo. Tsis tas li ntawd, thaum cov tub ntxhais hluas tshiab tuaj, cov slackers tau dov mus rau hauv kev txiav txim nrog lawv thawj zest.
Li ntawd, yuav ua li cas yog tias koj tus khub niam txiv ib txwm nyob hauv lub siab? Yuav muaj sijhawm zoo rau koj sai sai yuav tsis yuav… tsawg kawg nrog nws / nws. Qhov tseeb tu siab yog tias yog koj tus txij nkawm tsis nrog sib deev nrog koj ntau npaum li uas koj xav tau, nws tuaj yeem khaws cia koj pawg neeg los ntawm kev tiv thaiv koj los ntawm koj tus kheej kev sib deev ntau dhau. Qhov no tsis yog qhov teeb meem zoo tshaj plaws, txawm li cas los xij, vim tias tsis muaj kev sib tham tsis sib xws, kev mob siab ntawm cov khub niam txiv tsis muaj zog, thiab, hmoov tsis, ntau tus khub niam txiv tau ploj mus rau hauv kev paub txog kev hlub tsuas thaum nrhiav orgasm.
Lub luag haujlwm ntawm dopamine
Yuav ua li cas yuav deev satiation deev mates sib nrug? Thaum cov kws tshawb fawb tau saib mus rau lub hlwb ntawm cov nas mating, lawv tau tshawb pom tias cov neurochemical hu ua dopamine (qhov "Kuv gotta nws muaj" cov tshuaj) yog tom qab qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev ua niam txiv nkees. Raws li cov nas tsuag theej dua nrog tib tus khub, tsawg dua thiab tsawg dopamine tawm hauv qhov khoom plig ntawm nws lub paj hlwb.
Tsis tau thaum ib tug tshiab muaj peev xwm ua khub qhia, dopamine surges dua. Koj yog tam sim ntawd nyob rau hauv lub mus ob peb vas. Nws yog tib qho uas ua rau koj hais tias "tau" rau ib qho qab zib, cov khoom qab zib rog txawm tias koj muaj cov qaib ntxhw thiab qos yaj ywm zom. Dopamine kev txaus siab rau hauv koj qhov khoom plig tsim nyog tuaj yeem cuam tshuam koj txoj kev xav ntawm kev xav, tsis hais koj lub hlwb lub hlwb yuav xav txog kev ua txhaum lossis kev plees kev yi. Mus dopamine yog ib tug "yog!" thaum uas tsis muaj dopamine yog "tsis heev." Raws li peb yuav pom hauv lub neej tom ntej tom qab, dopamine tseem ib txwm poob qis tom qab orgasm, uas ua si ncaj ncees rau hauv qhov tshwm sim no. Peb cov noob yuav yog cov neeg tsis muaj lub siab tawv.
Cov kws tshawb fawb hu rau txoj kev sib tawb ntawm tus txij nkawm uas nrog ib tug neeg sib deev xav txog kev tuag, thaum lub caij ua haujlwm rau ib tus tshiab, Txim Coolidge. Lawv tau pom tias qhov no tshwm sim ntau ntawm cov tsiaj, nrog rau cov pojniam. Qee tus poj niam nas, piv txwv, tsho ntau ntau-arching hauv caw cov lus-nrog cov neeg sib txawv txawv dua li cov uas lawv twb tau yees. Hauv kev ua raws li qhov tshwm sim no, thaum cov khub niam txiv sib nrauj vim tias lawv lub neej kev sib deev tau ploj mus ua ke, tus txij nkawm yav dhau los tsis txaus siab feem ntau pib los ntawm raging libido thaum tus hlub tshiab nkag hauv daim duab. Tus poj niam no tab tom nrhiav nws nees nkaum peb tus txiv.
Txim Coolidge
Txawm hais tias cov neeg uas tsis muaj cov neeg koom siab los sib tw siv Coolidge Effect tom qab kev sib deev sib deev:
Kuv saib ib qho maum ua yeeb yaj kiab hais txog yawg nrog kim heev thiab muaj tiag "menyuam roj hmab nyiam heev." Ib tug txiv neej tau nyiam kaum ntawm lawv. Nws muaj ntau yam uas nws tau khiav tawm ntawm chav tsev hauv nws lub tsev. Txawm tias cov no yog roj hmab, nws twb tau pib pom lawv lawm raws li cov ntxhais nws tau siv sijhawm txaus nrog thiab tam sim no npaj txhij rau lub sijhawm tshiab (cuav) cov caj ces. Tej zaum yog vim li cas cov txiv neej sau ntau cov porn ntau ... peb xav tias peb tau pom qhov porn loj tshaj plaws ntawm txhua lub sijhawm tab sis tom qab pom nws ob peb zaug peb yeej tsis tau rov qab los. Kuv muaj tons ntawm jpeg cov duab uas kuv sau, xav tias kuv tau amassing qee qhov zoo ntawm kev ua kom zoo nkauj. Tab sis kuv tsis nco qab puas tau rov qab mus rau lawv dua. Qhov tsis txaus ntseeg yog daim duab tshiab, cov duab tshiab, lossis tej zaum, tus menyuam roj hmab nyiam tshiab.
Vim li cas thiaj yuav ua rau ib tus neeg ua haujlwm tsis sib luag kom pom ntau dua li lub cev nqaij pob txha thiab zaub tshiab zoo li cov nplua nuj chocolate mousse? Yog li ntau cov menyuam uas muaj ntau dua genetic muaj ntau ntau (nyob nruab nrab ntawm cov neeg coob). Koj cov noob nyiam mus caij nkoj mus rau yav tom ntej rau ntau lub nkoj ntau li lawv tau clamber aboard. Monogamy yog pheej hmoo ua txhua lub qe hauv ib pob tawb.
Khub tsevneeg
Xav tau pov thawj? Tsis yog Cov menyuam yaus yog cov monogamous (nyob rau hauv lub siab ntawm kev ua kev yuam deev tsuas yog), thiab tsuas yog peb feem pua txawm khwv tau ob leeg khub tsev neeg. Cov khub niam txiv no (nrog rau tib neeg) paub tias yog kev sib thooj. Lawv nkag siab ntev ntev thiab feem ntau tsa lawv cov xeeb ntxwv ua ke, txawm tias lawv tseem muaj kev yaum kom lawv sib tw ua ke nrog Tsoomfwv Coolidge Effect.
Peb cov noob xav kom peb tau ua raws li cov sijhawm cog lus cog txawm tias peb yuav tsis "muaj kev zoo siab tom qab." Txawm hais tias mates tswj hwm kom ruaj khov, qhov kev tsis txaus siab neurochemically ua rau lawv pom kev sib luag ib yam li lwm pab ntawm "Hamburger Helper." Nco ntsoov txaus, kev tshawb fawb qhia tau hais tias cov txij nkawm mus sib yuav ntau dua kev ua mob ntev dua lawv muaj txij nkawmCov. (Lub Cim Txias yuav dhau los ua qhov pom tseeb tom qab cov neeg nyiam txhaj thawj koob tshuaj txhaj koob tshuaj tiv thaiv honeymoon neurochemistry poob qis, yog li cov neeg nyiam tshiab zam lub cev tsis muaj zog - ib yam li cov neeg uas tsis tau txais kev hlub txaus.)
Dag ntxias
Some couples cope with this sneaky primitive mechanism by cranking up the dopamine using porn or acting out sexual fantasies with their partners to create the ‘right’ mood. In both cases, they attempt to fool the brain that a new mating opportunity has arrived. Others raise their dopamine by artificially generating intense feelings (as with bondage), or swapping mates. However, it can be exhausting to have to orchestrate a dopamine surge every time you want to make love. And what happens when one partner wants a “fix” of sexual excitement and the other is not ready to invest so much effort, or run the proposed risk, to get a thrill?
Puas yog peb ib leeg puas tso cai rau kev ua tsiaj txhu kom ua rau peb nyob tsis tswm? Hauv cov ntawv tshaj tawm yav tom ntej peb yuav saib ib qho kev xaiv uas muaj ntau yam kev coj noj coj ua thoob plaws keeb kwm kev ua haujlwm: ib txoj hauv kev ua kom muaj kev hlub uas pab cuam tawm los ntawm kev nyob tawm. Nws ua raws li lub tswv yim uas ua kom dhau peb qhov kev sib deev tsis xav tau nrawm nrawm dua Qhov Chaw Txias Cool los ntawm kev teeb tsa peb ntawm kev tshawb nrhiav qhov kev pheej hmoo rau dopamine tawm tsam dab lub sijhawm ntawm qis dopamine uas tshwm sim tom qab kev sib deev zaum. Qhov no txwv peb tau txais nyob rau hauv lub mus ob peb vas.
Thaum dopamine qib tsis bouncing nyob ib puag ncig nrog khaus highs thiab qis, ntau qhov kev lom zem zoo dua tuaj yeem sau npe ua qhov kev txaus siab tshaj plaws - thiab cov neeg koom tes nyiam khaws lawv cov txim taws. Yog li, yog tias Coolidge Effect nkag rau koj lub union, tsis txhob ntshai. Koj yuav muaj cov kev xaiv uas koj tsis tau xav txog.
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