Umur 33 - DE, kahariwang sosial, rasa benci diri, mikanyaah kahirupan

Kuring parantos tamat dinten anu aya 90! Naha kuring diajar tentang kuring sorangan sareng janten saé lalaki hadé tina pangalaman ieu? Leres, tapi sanés alesan Teu sangka. Ngidinan katerangan kuring. Kami 33, sarta geus pecandu PMO pikeun leuwih dasawarsa.

Kawas seueur di dieu, kuring tumuwuh sareng internét, sareng janten "hacker type" kuring resep ku newsgroups, underground bbs boards, 4Chan (sateuacan saatos dibersihan), TOR sareng jasa anu sanés anu mana waé anu henteu dikubaran gampang kadieu. Kabiasaan kuring nempo janten saatos fetishized, kana titik awéwé anu teu langsung boga kuring dibedakeun - éta nyandak nilai shock ekstrim kéngingkeun kuring. Sanggeus sidang PMO Abdi parantos sumping ka itungan abdi sareng nyageuhkeun sareng sorangan. Abdi pikir "Kuring moal pernah hoyong gaduh jenis kelamin ieu dina kahirupan nyata, naha ieu naon ieu kuring paké pikeun nganggo? Naha kuring ruksak? "

Salila pangcanduan kuring, hirup abdi janten cangkang manusa. Kuring cicing ku kuring sorangan salila sababaraha taun, ku kituna PMO biasa pisan unggal wengi sateuacan ranjang. Ieu salaku "alam" salaku ngalakukeun sialna - kasalahan Kuring ngarasa lamun kuring ngora keur diganti ku kapuasan tangtu yén kuring éta lalaki virile anu bisa meunang teuas dina paréntah. Tapi anu sadaya ego, sareng sabenerna kuring ruksak mental ti taun kuring nempo gambar matak - hiji hal anu henteu daék ngaku ka kuring sorangan atawa batur - malah dina forum online anonim sapertos NoFap. Kuring leupas tina kulawarga sareng rerencangan, parasaan sapertos kuring di dunya ieu nyalira. Abdi hirup sareng déprési, sareng Fapping ngan ukur dopamin.

Kuring ngarasa henteu pantes pendamping bikang, cicingeun sieun yén henteu awéwé, euweuh urusan kumaha amis atawa hadé, tiasa minuhan kahayang mah. Kuring teu pantes "gadis anu saé" gantina abdi pasrah kana salawasna maén ka satria bodas anu "ngaheéat gadis anu kasulitan" - sareng gaduh hubungan singget (gagal) kanggo pondok pikeun usaha. Pikaresepeun nyeri méntal condong neangan kawas pausahaan. Kuring sabab socially kagok jeung kahariwang ieu hurting sababaraha hubungan sosial I dilaksanakeun onto. Thenta pituin supados mah dijieun pikiran kuring: Ieu sanés saha Kami.

Kuring diperlukeun pikeun manggihan cara anu sejen pikeun hirup hirup, sareng salaku pamaké avid of Reddit I sadar NoFap tapi panginten eta konyol anu henteu narajang PMO tangtu ngakibatkeun parobahan kahirupan nyata. Najan kitu, kuring ngidentipikasi pikiran négatif kuring ngeunaan kuring sorangan kuring kusabab pamakéan PMO kuring, ku kituna mutuskeun coba NoFap minangka bagéan tina prosés anu berpungsi pikeun kuring sorangan. Budak reuwas kuring kaget ...

Nalika kuring mutuskeun bener malire sababaraha dinten anu sanés nyaéta naraka. Bal kuring sacara harfiah dibeuleum sabab nyeri kana pelepasan. Kuring kedah bobo dina tonggong kuring salaku sanajan touch rada nyeri. Aya periratan konstanta sareng kuring ngaraos mudikna kanggo minggu kahiji - hiji hal anu ngayakinkeun kuring langkung seueur yén hal ieu disababkeun dopamin pikeun nampik awak. Kuring dilakukeun ka dinten 32 kalayan usaha munggaran kuring. Waktu éta kuring nyatet seueur "adidaya" anu disebatkeun ku batur dina sub ieu. Kuring jieun deui sababaraha kali sanggeus éta pangiruan ka minggu 1, tapi waktos ayeuna kuring reueus nampilkeun sorangan kanggo dinten upacara upacara 90. Saatos sababaraha minggu munggaran, anjeunna henteu langkung nganggo. Titik janten: pernah nyerah - ieu mah moal tangtangan gampang .... Tapi kitu kitu eta!

The "adidaya" kuring ngalaman keur kuring sorangan:

  • Hariwang sosial anu parantos kenca - Sateuacan NoFap mah aya dina raraga kéngingkeun Xanax atanapi nginum obat séjén pikeun mantuan kuring janten langkung sosial. Abdi "nyumput" betah nalika sabtu minggu kana PMO binges. Nalika kuring bakal kaluar kuring ngarasa kawas dulur terang rusiah sareng cicingeun ngan hayang nyalira. Ayeuna? Kami balik deui ka cara sosial anu saheulaanan - nyiptakeun guyonan sarta ngarambat babarengan perjalanan ka pantai / pilem / menari / jsb sareng babaturan - anu berurutan 180 tina sababaraha bulan kapengker.
  • Langkung percaya diri - Sateuacan kuring bakal nyingkahan masihan pendapat kuring upami éta nyinggung batur ku teu dihaja. Kuring henteu kabeneran dina hubungan kuring sareng jalma sabab kuring bakal satuju sareng aranjeunna pikeun aranjeunna resep ka kuring. Ayeuna? Kuring yakin jalan-jalan, kontak panon sareng lalaki sareng awéwé, soanten langkung jero sareng gampang dina kalakuan sapopoé kuring. Kuring ayeuna ngaraos saolah-olah pendapat sareng tindakan kuring sakumaha anu relevan / penting (atanapi langkung ti éta) tibatan saha waé anu kapayun - kapercayaan kuring ka diri kuring henteu sapertos anu parantos mangtaun-taun.
  • Hubungan Sehat - I am a bodo pilari alus sareng nyieun duit alus, acan kuring bakal salawasna mungkas nepi ka hubungan damang mana kuring éta béta sapertos a. Kuring malah dianggap PSK ngan pikeun meunangkeun gratification fisik kuring tanpa sakabéh mess tina hubungan (anu kuring ngarasa pantes boga atoh). Ayeuna? Sanggeus kira-kira sasih 3 ti NoFap (abdi ngareset sababaraha kali dina sababaraha bulan pangheulana) kuring patepung gadis dina saatos pihak. Waktu papanggih kuring badge mah dina poé 2 - tapi kuring mutuskeun yén manéhna mah pantes usaha pikeun megatkeun watek ieu kabebung. Waktu kuring normalna méakkeun néang porno lajeng PMO I sanés dipaké pikeun tanggal ieu. Kiwari dinten 90 manehna hirup sareng abdi sareng urang ngobrol ngeunaan perkawinan / budak.
  • Kakuatan seksual - Ti taun PMO Kuring teu ngahaja dipendak kana pangjurung seksual alami anu ngamungkinkeun orgasme normal nalika kelamin. Abdi kéngingkeun teuas tapi kedah DE (nyangsang éjakulasi) kana titik dimana abdi isin gaduh sex nalika Abdi teu tiasa ngurung kalayan hiji awewe. Ayeuna? Transitionta transisi anu saé pikeun gaduh kabogoh anu ajeg, tapi anjeunna asih tur sabar sareng abdi - hiji hal anu ngaku urang mah sareng abdi. DE kuring leuwih hadé, sareng teknik pikeun reureuh ayeuna dipake pikeun nyieun orgasme dirina sababaraha kali. Kahayang seksual abdi pent kiwari boga outlet anu leres sareng asa soooooo saé janten mahluk seksual anu kuring lahir janten tanpa perasaan kasalahan saenggeus.
  • Pikiran Sehat - Abdi hate sorangan. Abdi nganggap enteng sorangan dina pamikiran. Abdi dianggap maehan maneh. Abdi ngarep kuring bisa bobo salawasna. Ayeuna? Abdi bogoh hirup. Lifeta deui sami anu sami (damelan anu sami, mobil anu sami, masalah anu sanés) sanes-jalma anu dina kahirupan mah sareng set kaayaan anyar disababkeun ku abdi bungah hudang. Wancahan mangrupa hal anu dahsyat sareng pikiran anjeun leres nyiptakeun kanyataanana anjeun. Pikiran Sehat = hirup séhat. Pikiran teu damang = hirup teu damang.

*TL / DR: NoFap parantos dirobah cara kuring ningali sorangan. Geus masihan abdi hal t janten bangga. Geus ngajarkeun kuring disiplin diri. Madeta parantos ngajantenkeun abdi langkung saé tibatan waktos sateuacan abdi. *

Hatur nuhun sadayana pikeun kiriman anjeun dina sub-reddit ieu, raoseun pisan terang yén kuring henteu nyalira. Kahirupan leres-leres janten langkung saé tanpa PMO, sareng hiji dinten anjeun bakal ngartos / percanten kunaon kuring nyarios éta (sanaos anjeun henteu rumaos sapertos ayeuna). Kuring miharep kuring tiasa mere ilham sahenteuna hiji jalma pikeun tetep nantang tantangan sareng ngarobih kahirupan aranjeunna - cara anu sami kuring diideuan nalika kuring siap ngarobih.

90 dinten ka hirup hadé! Carita kuring perjuangan sareng triumph leuwih dékade of PMO timer nyiksa 

by kaligrafi poé 90

Update 180 poe

Héi sasama pelancong, kuring hoyong masihan pembaruan ngeunaan "normal anyar" kuring ogé sababaraha kecap pangjurung pikeun jalma-jalma dina perjalanan pamutahiran diri ieu. Dinten ieu dinten ka-180 kuring ngajauhan PMO. Abdi yuswa 33 taun sareng nalika ningali deui kabiasaan porno kuring kapungkur kuring éra ku sabaraha waktos kuring parantos nyéépkeun.<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“></p><p>PMO was a habit for me, one where I would spend 2 to 4 hours a night searching for “just the right video” that was bizarre or degrading enough for my mind to feel satisfied. Like any habit the amount and intensity of the required material escalated to unhealthy levels. I was a slave to my mind. I rationalized away my self-destructive behavior, excusing myself again and again, all while feeling weak to my own urges. I viewed women as sexual beings only, and secretly hated myself and felt unworthy of love. If this is also your story fellow Fapstronaught… take heed: there is hope.</p><p>After finding out about NoFap (from 4chan of all places) I read up and watched the Your Brain On Porn videos. I then understood that part of my problem was willpower… the other part was addiction. When I understood my behavior as an addiction like any other (to cigarettes, drugs, etc) I resolved to take control of my life and wrestle my mind free from its addicted state.</p><p>It was not easy at first. I had physical pains and withdrawal symptoms in the fist week. There was a literal burning sensation in my groin that wanted release. I stuck with it. I relapsed a few times but now, after relapsing I understood that it was like a smoker wanting for “one more cigarette” – and I forgave myself. I saw my body as acting separate from my true desire and made peace with myself that although the flesh is week, my spirit was willing. I did not give up, and neither should you.</p><p>I started on “hard mode” (no gf) but after a few weeks I met this new and amazing girl who will become my wife in a few months (we are engaged!). It was difficult to transition into a relationship as years of self abuse using porn had desensitized me sexually with DE as well as mentally. There was a period of resetting to my “new normal” which is what I now live everyday. Here are some things I now enjoy that I did not before:</p><ul><li>Improved mental clarity – there is a mental fog that used to follow me around blurring and dulling my sight and other senses. I feel more alert and sensitive to the world now.</li><li>More productive time – I used to have a routine of coming home from work, eating food then spending the rest of the night torrenting porn or searching for the “right video” to get me off. Now, I have my fiancee with me in the evenings to talk to, to cook together, to play with the dog, to enjoy our time instead of waste it.</li><li>Self esteem – I used to avoid social situations and even going out with friends as my anxiety worsened. This social anxiety was rooted in feelings of unworthiness. I did not feel I had anything useful to contribute to conversations and my presence was a burden to others. Not anymore. I speak from my heart and am bold in my actions – I have re-discovered the man I was years ago.</li><li>More in control of emotions and life – Before I would feel like I had little control of my daily life and that my insular routine was keeping me “safe” – in fact my sheltered existence was wasting my life away in a daily grind that only served to fulfill my base animal desires (eat, sex, sleep). I have broken that cycle and you can too. Through meditation I now have more control over how I think and feel and use that control to choose positive things to dwell on. You are your own worst critic… learn to forgive yourself. Learn to love yourself… weaknesses and all.</li></ul><p>I hope others in this sub reddit stay on course and benefit themselves the way I did. I used NoFap as a starting point to bettering myself and my life. I have leaned that no one is a lost cause and we are all able to be better people. NoFap gives you a sense of self-pride which will carry over into other aspects of your daily life. Other people will notice a difference in your posture, attitude, mood and energy level.</p><p>My “success story” is just one of many. This 90 day challenge is a beneficial teaching tool – it teaches you about yourself. Learn your body. Learn your mind. When you do, you will figure out how to “hack your brain” and divert your negative energy into something more useful. Do it for yourself. Do it for others that are important in your life. You are worth it.</p><p>Peace.</p><p><strong>LINK – <a href=90 dinten dua kali = 180 dinten hirup anu énggal (self.NoFap)

by kaligrafi