Everyone, I want to share that I’ve now gone 64 days without pornography or masturbation. My situation was bad because I had PIED and went through a flatline phase where nothing aroused me. What I did during that time was maintain real interactions, even though I was completely apathetic about sex at first, I went for it. I confess that failing is always a bad thing, but I went for it anyway. I have two partners who know about my problem, so when I fail, despite the pain, I feel more at ease. It’s always good to have people around me in this regard. After about 35 days, I was able to get an erection. Taking tadalafil gives me more confidence. I feel like my brain is recalibrating to normal dopamine levels. I know the road is long, but I want to say it’s possible. Especially if you can find a partner with whom you can be part of it. Real encounters will keep you away from the porn world. I won’t say it’s easy. There are days when I really want to, then I think about all the road I’ve already traveled and it makes me think that it won’t be worth it…. Look for a partner! I know that for many it’s not easy, but believe that it is possible. Don’t give up!
From another Fapstronaut:
thank you for sharing your story- it is really inspiring. i actually have a partner, but i haven’t been able to open up about this yet. maybe it is fear. i don’t know. i can talk with my brother or my gf about other things, but when it comes to this problem, i still struggle to find someone i feel safe sharing it with.
Reply:
I completely understand your situation, and I went through this for a long time, but I realized the way out of it was to lose this fear, so I had to tell them. This was crucial for me, because my sexual energy was focused on disclosure, on real interactions, not pornography. I went through a period of flatline, so I needed to express this, because they really didn’t understand. They must have thought I no longer felt desire or something. Given this, I believe it was the best decision. Now I can have sex every week and all my sexual energy is focused on that. It’s great. I feel more confident now that my brain is recalibrating. Get over this fear and talk to your partner. After all, if you can’t count on them for this, maybe they’re not right for you. I hope this helps.