Shekaru na 23 - rahoton 90: HOCD, da yawa canje-canje masu kyau

LINK - Ranar 90! 

by lujallanci

Wow, ranar 90.

Ya kasance hawan gaske.

Na fara wannan ne saboda wani a cikin dandalin da nake kan batun OCD ya ce wannan na iya taimaka wa matsala ta ta yanzu (HOCD). Nemi shi idan ba ku san abin da yake ba. Amma, na kusan nuna shakku har ma da gwada shi, amma na kasance mai matukar damuwa da damuwa don ban damu da abin da na yi ba don canzawa.

Ban san "manyan iko" a farkon wannan ba, amma na gano daga ƙarshe kuma irin wannan ya bayyana a gare ni wanda yake son nutsuwa a ƙarshe ko ma kawai daina jin tsoro game da 'yan mata. Amma sai wani ya yi magana mai kyau cewa ya kamata in yi wa kaina wannan, kuma sun yi daidai. Don haka ni nake yi wa kaina.

To, a wannan lokacin na fara wannan, nima na so in bar shan sigari saboda yana ba ni cututtukan cututtukan sinus na yau da kullun. Ina karanta littafin Tony Robins a lokacin 'Farka da Babbar WIthin'. Na haɗu da wani ɓangare yana magana game da dalilin da ya sa mutane ba sa barin jaraba. Kuma saboda rashin jin daɗin cuɗanyarsu da nishaɗinsu Ga tambayoyin da ya ba ni shawarar na yi wa kaina:

”Dakatar da shan taba - Me yasa ban dauki mataki ba? A baya, wane ciwo na haɗata da ɗaukar wannan matakin?

- Pleasures from indulging in smoking - What is the cost of not quitting
and what are the outcomes over the next 5 years? - What is the pleasure
I will receive from quitting smoking? 

Na amsa tambayoyin, kuma na fara fahimtar abin da zai faru da gaske. Na ji tsoro. Ni kuma na fara jin zafin da yake jawowa a zahiri. Ya ji kamar na farka daga ƙaryatãwa. Yanzu, tambayoyin sihiri ne? A'a. Kawai sun faru ne don taimaka min lokacin da ban san abin da zan yi ba. Ina zaune a cikin gida cike da jaraba mara amfani, don haka na makance game da inda zan fara.

Yanzu, a wannan dare na ce kaina zan yi NoFap muddin zan iya. Ina nufin, wannan shine / r / NoFap ba / r / Dakatawa haha

Na fara NoFap 146 kwanakin da suka wuce tare da barin shan taba, bar shan bugu, bar shan taba. Abubuwan fa'idodin da nake da su nan da nan sun kasance ƙaruwa mai ƙarfi da kuma jin daɗin kusan kowane lokaci. Wannan na ƙarshe na kusan sati 2 Na buga layi daga ranar 15 zuwa rana ta 45. Lissafin layin ya ƙare ne akan mafarkin farko da na fara cikin shekaru 6 ko 7. Komai yana tafiya a hankali tun daga wannan lokacin kuma yana da kyau sosai!

Na yi, duk da haka har yanzu ina da kwanaki shitty. Na san na ga mutane da yawa suna tunanin wannan shine ƙarshen duk wata hanyar magance matsalolin rayuwarsu. Ina fatan zai kasance a farkon, a zahiri. Amma yakamata ku fahimci wannan shine farkon farawa don kame kai. Kuna iya samo wasu hanyoyi don yin wannan (daina shan sigari, dakatar da cin abinci mara ƙoshin lafiya, bugun jaraba mai haɗari), amma kun zaɓi wannan. Kusan ina so in ce wannan shi ne abu mafi sauki da na taba yi, saboda kawai sauki ne. Amma yana jin kamar abu mafi kalubale da nayi wa kaina.

Ko ta yaya.

A wannan lokaci:

  • Ban taba shan taba ko guda ba
  • Ban taba shan ciyawa ba
  • An sake sauke nauyin 6 (4 sau tsakanin 3-8 kwana a farkon)
  • Shin, kawai gotten bugu sau ɗaya (ƙarshen duniya jam'iyyar)
  • Gana kusa da yin jima'i / sumbatar yarinya / ratayewa tare da wanda ban taɓa yi ba a rayuwata kuma ina farin ciki da wannan
  • Fara fahimtar ainihin matsala
  • An fara fara sowa daga rayuwa
  • Tsare karatu kullum
  • Fara fara aiki da yawa
  • Ban yi tunanin 'Ina so in mutu ba'
  • Na fara yin zuzzurfan tunani kullum
  • Na zama mafi zamantakewa

Harin dukkanin waɗannan abubuwa ya haifar da sabon tunanin kai.

Shawarwarina don taimaka muku akan wannan? Ba ni da yawa da yawa. Ina jin kamar sauyi na a canjin ya faru ne cikin dare, yayin da a zahiri ya kusan kusan watanni 5.

Ina tsammani idan zan faɗi wani abu da zai iya taimaka wa wani da ke gwagwarmaya, shi ne tambayar ayyukanku na yanzu. Kamar, ayyukanku na NOW. Me yasa kake yin abin da baka so kayi ko me yasa kake yin wani abu wanda ka san cewa matsala ce? Idan kun fahimci abin da kuke yi, waɗannan tambayoyin galibi za su tashi kai tsaye.

Duk abin na ji al'ada yanzu. Sabuwar al'ada. Mafi kyau.

Idan kuna gwagwarmaya da OCD kuma kuna neman wanda zai gaya muku gwada nofap, ɗauki kalma ta. Aƙƙarfan tunanin tunani bazai iya tsayawa koyaushe ba, amma zaku kasance cikin aiki da jin mai girma har ma da kulawa.

tl; dr Ba a ɓoye a cikin kwanaki 90 ba, ba a sha taba ba a cikin kwanaki 147,