By Leila Brillson
Kali, kali, kali: Ma mua o kou hoʻomālamalama ʻana i kāu Pūnaewele ma ke ahi, ʻaʻole mākou i manaʻo he anti mākou maoli hoʻoipoipo. ʻAʻohe mea e aloha iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe iho, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā manaʻo mākou aia kahi kiko hoihoi e nānā ʻia ai i ka "neʻe anti-masturbation," e kūkākūkā ʻia nei e nā pūnaewele e like me Reddit a Andrew Sullivan. ʻAe, eia kahi hohonu (a ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha no kekahi) ʻāpana o ka Pūnaewele - ma Reddit, aia kahi neʻe hou i kapa ʻia ʻo "NoFap" forum. (No ka poʻe o mākou e hōʻike ʻole i nā mea kupaianaha o nā kihi ʻeleʻele o ka Pūnaewele, ʻo "fap" kahi huaʻōlelo no ka masturbation.) ʻAʻole pili iki ka manaʻo o ka hōʻole ʻana i ka pono a me ka maʻemaʻe, akā kuhikuhi pehea, me ka superhighway ʻike, kekahi ʻano o ka moekolohe, ka hana ʻana, ka kink, a me ka ʻono e hiki ke maʻalahi a lawelawe ʻia, me ka hoʻokaʻulua ʻole ʻana o kekahi manawa. Ka mea, e like me ka ʻepekema, he pilikia paha ke hiki mai i kahi kanaka hauʻoli.
Wahi a ka kamaʻilio TED i hāʻawi ʻia e ʻO Gary Wilson, ʻo ka hōʻeha loa ʻana o ka porn pūnaewele ʻo ia hoʻi ka hana hou ʻana o ka lolo kumu. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Me ka porn Pūnaewele hiki i ke kāne ke ʻike i nā pēpē wela hou aʻe ma 10 mau minuke ma mua o ka ʻike o kona mau kūpuna i nā ola he nui. ʻO ka pilikia, loaʻa iā ia ka lolo hahai holoholona. Hoʻopili ka lolo o kahi mea hoʻohana nui iā ia iho i kēia genetona bonanza, no laila pili pono ia me kēia 'porn harem.' ”ʻAʻole maikaʻi loa ia no ka lolo.
Ua kuhikuhi ʻo Wilson ʻo ka porn pūnaewele a me ka moekolohe maoli ka nui, ʻokoʻa loa. ʻO ka mea kikoʻī, i ka porn, hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā ʻāpana o ke kino a wehe ʻia, a ʻo ke ʻano wikiwiki, wikiwiki i mua o ka nānā ʻana i ka porn Net ʻaʻole hoʻomākaukau i hoʻokahi no, mea, ka pilina a i ʻole ke noʻonoʻo ʻana i kahi kanaka ma ʻō aku o kā lākou mau ʻāpana kolohe. ʻO ka mea hope loa, a ʻo ka mea nui paha, e like me ka noiʻi Hōlani i kapa ʻia “Ke wānana nei i ka Pūnaewele Pono: E pili ana i ka moekolohe, ”O nā hana āpau ma ka Pūnaewele, ʻo ka porn ka mea hoʻomake loa. ʻO kēia no ka mea ua ulu ko mākou lolo e mālama i ka moekolohe, ka launa ʻana, a me ka meaʻai e like me nā makana - ʻo ia hoʻi "wela, nā pēpē novel" e like me ka mea maoli. ʻO kēlā "mālama," i ke ʻano o ka dopamine, hiki ke hāpai maoli i ka "binging and craving," like, well, like a addict. (He aha nā mea i loaʻa i kahi moemoeā maikaʻi kahiko?)
E like me kā ka mea heluhelu i kākau ai iā Andrew Sullivan i ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomau i ke kūkulu ʻana i ke condom, a i ka manawa o ka moekolohe e noʻonoʻo pinepine ai e pili ana i ka hanana porn aʻu i nānā ai i ka lā i hala (a i ʻole ia lā). ʻO ia ke kumu o ka, erm, "NoFap" i hoʻoholo ai e hāʻawi manawaleʻa i ka nānā ʻana i ka porn Pūnaewele. Pau ka mea heluhelu like, "Ke kāpae nei i ka porn, ka holoi ʻana i kā mākou hōʻiliʻili i hōʻiliʻili ʻia, kahi hoʻāʻo e hoʻihoʻi i kahi kaohi i ko mākou ola." No laila, mai ko mākou hoʻomaopopo ʻana, ʻaʻole ia e pili ana i ka "anti-masturbation" ka palena ʻana i nā mea hoʻonāukiuki a me ka ikaika o ka ʻike a mākou e hoʻopau ai ke hoʻoholo lākou e komo i kahi aloha ponoʻī. A ʻo kēia ʻike - a me ka manaʻo o ka nui o ka porn e paipai i nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole e pili ana i ka moekolohe - kahi hoʻāʻo e kūpono iki ai. Nui loa ka mea maikaʻi, maikaʻi, ʻaʻole maikaʻi iki. (ʻO Andrew Sullivan)
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